I’m Sad.

 

I don’t want to write this but here I am, writing.  Now Page 6 and US Weekly can get those quotes they want and you guys can get the truth.

I found out the same way you guys did: in the tabloids.  I never left a voicemail for the other woman.  I called Jimmy and he confessed to me that he had exchanged lewd photos with this woman over the course of several months and a physical relationship never existed.  He paid her off to protect me so I’d never find out.

Yet here I am writing about it.

Do I believe him?  I don’t know.  Because I don’t trust him anymore.  Physical or not, he still had an affair and he admits this to me.

I’m a simple girl.  I wanted a solid marriage.  I’m as loyal as they come and I wanted the vows we made when we exchanged our rings to be acted upon.  Now my wedding ring symbolizes fraud.

I refuse to be humiliated by this.

Marriage is hard, we’ve been through our ups and downs, I’ve talked about it openly.  A relationship takes two but it doesn’t take two to cheat.

I did nothing wrong, I don’t deserve this.  I did nothing except be pregnant with our twins and try to have a healthy pregnancy.  So what is so broken in him to propel him to do this to me? To us? It wasn’t one mistake, one lapse in judgement.  I saw the texts – each one represents his decision to throw our marriage in the trash.  Why did he self-sabotage?  And who sends nudies?  Doesn’t everyone know better than this in 2019?  What drives someone to self-destruct in such a way?

I don’t care about my stupid massive house, I don’t care about my new car, I don’t care about my diamonds.  What does any of that mean when I can’t have the most basic needs met?  It means nothing.  Smoke and mirrors.

I love him.  How can I turn my feelings around so quickly?  How can one person decide to utterly ruin me?  It’s not fair.  I sob so much my face stings from the salt from my tears.  I am exhausted.  My poor kids aren’t getting their devoted mother.  And it’s only been 36 hours.

And all of this could not have come at a worse time.  Again, something I wasn’t ready to share but here I am sharing it: we are worried our son, Hart, might have a neurological disorder.  It’s been the most trying last couple months of my entire life and we still don’t have answers.  Sometimes I leave the house after the kids go to bed so I can drive around and ugly cry in the dark with no one around.  Now I have this to deal with: my one true love betraying me in the most disgusting and public way possible.

I feel sad.  Oh, do I feel so sad!  I feel abandoned.  Lonely.  My best friend, my number one person has lied to me.  Who is he?  Do I even know?

In the days of digital media what are we if we don’t have our reputation?  Every job is dependent upon an unsoiled reputation.  What was he thinking?

I am a victim, but I am not defined by this. I need space to heal.

Ultimately, I have hope our marriage can recover.

I do not fault any other person except my husband.  There are so many people out there with bad intentions and it’s our responsibility to ignore and rise above.  One slimy person doesn’t make another person cheat.  And there are a million more slimy people to take “slimy person #1’s” place.

Marriage is a choice, every. damn. day.  On the days I hate him, on the days I want to run from him, on the days I get approached by some hot dude on instagram luring me with trips or money or whatever the hell else the slimy people do.  So yes, marriage is a choice on the bad days.  And on the good days marriage is easy and beautiful.

No one said it would be easy, I just didn’t think it would be this hard.

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  1. My heart feels for you! Your beautiful family will prevail, whatever the outcome. Thank you for your openness. You are one of my role models! Much love Meghan

    1. Wish I could just give you the biggest hug and we can cry together while binge eating your favorite stuff to eat then go to a place and release all your anger and just break a ton of stuff or light it on fire. Your choice and I’ll totally go along with it ha ha ha.

      But.. on a more serious note. Thanks for opening up. It must be hard to have your private life all out in the open. Thanks for being so real and raw about your feelings and the situation. Sending you lots of positive energy for your son! As a mother, when something is wrong with your child and you can’t just snap your fingers and fix it can be a horrible feeling. So hang in there and eventually you will get your answers. As to everything else…. you know you are a great wife, you don’t need no scrub messing it all up.

      Sending you so much love!

      1. My heart breaks for you and your fam. All I can say is.. I am praying for you all as family, praying for healing, hope and forgiveness. Take it day by day, trust that their is ALWAYS light at the end!

      2. I wish I could just give you a great big hug and tell you it’s gonna be ok. It’a going to suck for a while. Make sure to take care of yourself. Go stay with babies at a friend or relatives house for a while to get away from the crazy. Do things that make you happy. Hang in their my friend. Prayers and love headed your way

        1. This same thing happened to me last week. I was rocked to my core. I thought we were so solid and never dreamed it would happen. I know your sadness. I’m so sorry. I hope you can find the strength to heal your heart. Much love

        2. Hmm…you presented yourself as very narcissistic and pushed him into having kids he did not seem to really want!
          Sorry but it does take TWO to cheat, one to push the other person away causing them to look elsewhere for the needs to be met that are not being met at home!!
          I despise women that cannot see what they did to contribute to the situation. Jim should have just dumped your ass before he let you bully him into having more children that he did not really want! You put him in an unattainable situation. He had a mental affair NOT a physical one!! You cannot really be that stupid as to ask “who sends undies, its 2019”, that’s right its 2019, ALOT of people do it!
          Instead of just blaming Jim for everything, why not look in the mirror long and hard and look past your narcissism, and see how your behaviours and attitude and treatment left something unfulfilled in jim that he looked elsewhere. Yes he is responsible for his mental (NOT PHYSICAL) affair, he should have just dumped you long before you bullied him into having more kids!

          1. Wow, just wow! Judgmental much? I hope those closest to you don’t see this side of your personality. Imagine if you’d trash someone you’ve never met, someone who openly shared a personal struggle with you, and then let you trash their life, imagine what you say to those you are comfortable around.
            I hope you never have to experience her pain. I hope you never let a strangers words cut you deep. I also hope she never sees the hate you have in your heart!
            I’m sure your world is a lonely place. I hope you find the joy your are obviously missing. Maybe one day you can find some joy and compassion for others.

          2. Spoken like a true infidel, someone who’s cheated and can’t be trusted and must blame others for their shortcomings. When one partner cheats, it is THAT person who is to blame. Period.

      3. Hang in there girl and concern yourself with you and your beautiful family, dont let your personal life be on display for all to judge, especially the press and all the he said she said BS, just say, no comment, or the press will tear you and Jim apart and that’s exactly what this tramp wants and is getting. Mums the word.

        1. Ha! This is how a sham marriage plays out. You were in it for the attention and the money.
          Now in your desperation, you’ve brought three kids into your scam. Sad indeed.

      4. You’re beautiful and strong. Stronger than all of this. This is hard….you have to do the next thing. Every day. One day this will all be behind you it will mean you survived. Beautifully.

      5. How brave, real and vulnerable of you to be so candid. You have expressed yourself so eloquently and collected. I am so very sorry this has happened to you, but you seem to be approaching it healthily and honestly (openly too, even when you do not have to be and owe NOTHING to the public). Hang in there, pray a lot and keep being you – a good and loyal person. Everything will unfold and heal in time as it should – you and your family WILL be OK one way or another. I am praying for you and your family and your son, Hart. One day at a time…

        1. I am so sorry you’re going through this. Ignore the mean, snotty comments from haters.
          It hurts, but you know what you have to do. Be strong for your babies. You have it in you. Dig deep.
          Remember to take careful of yourself. I recommend therapy. For you. Find a good therapist and that will help you stay strong I’ve been through this and it’s not easy. My opinion about Jim is that he not self-sabotaging. He’s so used to being fawned over and fame, regular life isn’t enough for him. It’s not about you. Don’t take it on.
          Take care of yourself, stay strong. Prayers for you.

    2. Feeling your pain and betrayal. You said it. I know it. Been there. So very very sad and disgusted that another one of us has to go through this crap. Don’t try to make sense of a non sensual situation. You will go through all the phases but know you did nothing wrong.

      1. This. Exactly this. The worst part is trying to “make sense” of it. There is none to be found. Also, as you already said this reflects not on you, but sadly on him. He chose this for himself and in turn you were merely in the path of his self loathing and self destruction – from that I wish all betrayed hearts could be spared, but life’s not fair. Head up sweet girl. You will get through this. Sending you all of the love.

    3. Philippians4:6-7
      Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

      Praying for you. Be wise in those you listen to and surround yourself with. God’s got this! And you will be stronger and wiser.

      1. You are such example of love. The big picture is Jesus will return one day and that’s the only time everything will be perfect. Humans suck and we are in desperate need of our savior. He will give you strength, it’s nothing you did and you can’t fix it but the way you love and forgive (daily) heals you.

        1. Meghan my heart aches for you and the children…tears are flowing as I write this. I truly believe you are an amazing & strong woman,great mother. You certainly dont need the upset & betrayal at a time when your baby has a problem! I’ll be praying for Hart and praying for God to give you peace,wisdom & strength through this emotional upheaval. I hope you’ll keep sharing the Joy’s of your life, your children, with us! We all live you & pray for the best for you. 😍😍 much love from St.Louis

    4. 💗Take a deep breath. One step, one minute, one hour and one day at a time, this all will pass and the reasons for the bumps will become clear. Hang in there, you are not alone.

    5. I’m sorry Meghan. I agree with everything you said, except one thing. He didn’t pay her off to “protect you”. He paid her off to protect himself. Don’t let him write that narrative. Under the circumstances nothing he did was for or about you. You deserve better but only you know what is best for your family. Best of luck.

    6. Meghan, my heart is breaking and the tears won’t stop. I have been with my husband for 28 years, 5kids and 12 grandbabies. It has been 6months since I found out about my husband’s indiscretions. I still don’t have all the answers and you can only do what you want to do. My prayers are with you sweetie and may God give you the strength to move on and feel whole again.

    7. I’m so sorry, Meghan. I found out my husband was having an affair just days before we celebrated our 20 year anniversary. The other woman messaged me and when she didn’t get a response, she FB messaged most of my friends. She blasted him and insulted me on social media…the kiss of death. I never had a chance to deal with this privately. I chose to forgive him and we have been in counseling. I’m four months in and I’m hopeful but it is hard. It was our oldest child’s senior year of high school and like you, I feel like I haven’t been the best mom I would’ve been. Prayers for you and your sweet family. I’m inspired by your confidence that you did nothing wrong because I have blamed myself so many times. You’re so on point that it was our basic right to have a faithful marriage. We did not deserve this! Thank you for sharing your story. It will help so many. Best wishes to you…you deserve a happy life with a faithful husband.

  2. My heart is with you, I am so sorry that you have been forced to address such a personal situation in the public. You are brave for writing this.

    1. Meghan,
      You my dear are an amazing wife and mother. You will get passed this, get counseling for yourself and your marriage. As for Hart, God gave you this child for a reason, and he doesn’t make mistakes. You will also get through this also.

      God has a purpose for all things, you may not understand now, but trust in him.

      I pray you and your husband can get through this. What you decide to do is your business, do not let anyone judge you or your husband.

      Hugs, love, and prayers

      1. I feel so bad for you and your children. He is the one that is broken and I don’t think he can be fixed. Just try to protect yourself and your kids, please. He broke the vows not you, and nothing you could have done would have changed the outcome. You deserve loyalty and most of all respect. Do not settle for less than you deserve. All the best

        1. Meghan, this is the most disrespectful thing a person can do in a relationship & I’m sorry you have to deal with it publicly. I hope you start seeing him for what he is & has been, before you met. You are a smart, beautiful woman & a wonderful mom…focus on yourself & your children. Healing will take time, take care of yourself 💖 you deserve much better

          1. I agree. He’s cheated on every wife. It’s a shame they both put the wrong things to the front …fame, money, arm candy….

    2. Praying for you girl! This is so hard.. I’m crying with you and I don’t even know you. The only thing I know is that the pain doesn’t last forever. You can do this!

    3. Meghan, I’m so so sorry that you’re going through this. Please consider going to a marriage counselor to help you work through this. You can’t do it on your own. You Are under so much stress now with the uncertainty of your precious son’s health and just dealing with day to day parenting. Now, add this abhorrent behavior of your husband, can put you in so much despair that you need help to work through this. You’re a tough woman and will survive. Rely on your family and friends to help you as well. It takes a village to be supported by loving people who want the best for you. You WILL get through this. Now that your fans are praying for your continued strength and guidance during this very upsetting and dark time. Sending love and hugs to you and your precious babies.

      1. Agree 100% – therapy therapy therapy – if you BOTH have the same end goal of staying together – & you BOTH give it your everything – you will get thru it and possibly come out even stronger as a couple!

    4. I am so very sorry that you have to take this on because you deserve better. You are strong but when you are not find someone to take over and be weak. Care for yourself until your strength comes back. Facing this head on is incredibly brave and one day your children will know what an amazing, strong, committed, brace mother they have.

      1. Meghan- sorry for what has happened it’s just awful. I am reaching out because I heard your son may have neurological issues. I want to help you and get him back on track as soon as possible. You may think I am crazy but my own son was vaccine injured and presented with neurological issues and motor issues as well. We are seeing a functional medicine doctor/naturopath doctor. Healing his gut with advanced TRS spray (one spray daily) genetic testing.. he has MTHFR genetic SNP which severely slows down his detox pathways, and we do supplements and probiotics. Obviously had to stop vaccinating him. In addition, we did cranial sacral fascial Therapy, PT/OT and tons of speech therapy. The more you can do before three the better! My son was allergic to all foods and now we have “outgrew” all but one, also severe eczema occurred which we are still working on. But please seek alternative advice! I know California is impossible with vaccine laws but your kids health is your number one!!

        1. I’m sorry for your sons illness but please don’t blame this on vaccines. Antivaxers have gotten us in the trouble we are in today, they put everyone at risk.

        2. Wonderful advice Breanne! So glad to hear others speaking out. We can deny and bury our heads but it doesn’t change anything. I know many that have taken this advice with amazing outcomes. Keep speaking up all the facts are out there if people will research and not let the cognitive dissonance get the best of them. It’s hard as hell to have to deal with a possible sick little one in the midst of personal heartache, but there are steps to help as you’ve said. Prayers for everyone!

        3. Yes you are crazy. Only on the anti-vaccine BS! Diseases that were once eradicated are coming back but EVERYONE in jeopardy because they were led to believe vaccines caused problems that are simply not true. SOME may be allergic to a vaccine, just like some are allergic to milk. To believe everyone should stop vaccinations is criminal and very reckless! I’m sorry your child may have been allergic, but he would be in the less than 3% of vaccinated children. Do not spread reckless information that will kill other people’s children. Deal with your own “beliefs” individually and don’t enroll your children in any public education. It’s not fair to expose the rest.
          Your information an therapies is so good and so helpful! I pray every single helpful therapy available will help Hart as well as your child. To have a sick child is heartbreaking. For that, I am so very sorry. It sounds like Hart’s cane at some point during gestation. He will have awesome care I’m sure because Meghan and Jim are awesome parents and love their three children SO much. Oh, he’s in trouble, but I have no doubt that he loves his children and Meghan very much. Satin is a horrible factor in every corner and Jimmy made some terrible mistakes. I do think if he would have wanted to have a full blown affair with total sexual activity he would have. He could have. He could have flown this woman all over the world to meet up with him, but he didn’t take it to that next level. It’s more like a pornography addiction, unfortunately the pornography had a dialogue between the slime and Jimmy. Thank heavens he had even a tiny bit of discretion to not let it go any further.

    5. Be weak, be sad, be angry, be lost. In the end this will make you stronger. Let your emotions come and live them & feel them truly. When the time is right and you truly feel like a partial human again find forgiveness! Not for him, definitely not for him but for you. Then make your decisions. Be true to yourself and be strong once you’ve grieved this moment & take the time you need to feel it.

  3. I am So sorry for what you are going thru. I’ve been thru a cheating spouse. You are incredibly strong to share this publicly and I hope Those awful magazines and social media trolls let you grieve and try to heal and repair your marriage in peace. I have Followed you from the RHOC days and you are always so honest and real and strong. This is God giving you some obstacles but I’m praying for you and hoping that your sweet baby will be okay and that you and Jimmy can repair your relationship. Keep moving forward and know that many of your fans are cheering for you from afar!

  4. I’m so sorry Megan. From the bottom of my heart. You’re so strong for being transparent. You did nothing nothing wrong. I hope you can remember these things when things are tough. There’s no answer on how to go forward. But you are in my prayers tonight and your son. And your family. Sending all my love.

    1. Megan I feel so bad for what you are going through. You are a very strong woman. I’ve seen in on The Real Housewives and I’ve seen it in your post. I love the way you present yourself. Your the real deal. I agree you have been taken advantage of and you deserve better. Take time and don’t pay attention to the hater’s. Only you know what you need to do and no one else. Your a beautiful woman and I hope your able to get pass this. Take care and know you do have people out here who love and support you 😘

      1. Take a break..spend some time with your children and pray. Is love enough? Being betrayed by your spouse is almost impossible to forgive. Give yourself time to heal. Your family, friends and fans are behind you all the way. He needs a good smack upside his head.
        Praying for Hart ❤☹…such a precious child.
        Stay strong…

    2. May God lead you on your road to forgiveness. Meghan love yourself and move on with or without Jim. YOU matter most. Your self worth is not defined by a man… Your babies need a strong loving mommy YOU CAN DO THIS. You will survive. So cry your eyes out and let go of the anger at your pace NOBODY walks in your shoes. One day at a time. Baby steps is all it takes. You are a strong woman BE BRAVE

  5. There are no words. I am just sorry that you are hurt and going through this. You are 100% correct in everything you said. Marriage is work , hard work. I have been married for 23 years and have 2 beautiful boys. Look into your faith and allow your friends and family to be there for you. You will get through it. Maybe not today, tomorrow or next week. But you will find a way. God does not throw at you anything you cannot handle. You got this.

    1. Meghan: Jim has always treated you like absolute dirt, and you know it. It was a shock to the system for all of us to see how callous he is towards you, how uninterested. You were simply too young to understand that people are NOT supposed to act this way, that there is ZERO ‘normal’ about it. Now, you know better. Even in the throes of this hideous betrayal, look how mild his phony ‘apology’ is. This is unbelievable.

      I think you understand now that you need to BELIEVE what people show you.

      Please leave him and never look back.

      1. Where is your empathy for someone in such pain? The only one treating anyone “like dirt” is you. Be supportive or be quiet.

        1. Who the hell are you to me, and how is it you get to tell anyone how to react? Back off. I stand by my comments.

          1. @Lola, I commented something similar, too. As a viewer of RHOC, I felt he was checked out IMO. Maybe, he’ll finally wake up upon getting all the scrutiny. It doesn’t feel good to be JUDGED, POKED AT, “investigated”…but here it is..all out for the world to see. I hope she does was best for her and her 3 children. You know? My opinion don’t matter to her but its mine.

        2. You’re such a strong mom + a kind, genuine person. I don’t have advice or anything to add really other than I wish you and your children all the best and you definitely didn’t deserve this. One time I misunderstood a comment you made about formula and your explanation was so kind. I totally had misunderstood. You field so much criticism from strangers you have been so kind to share your life with sometimes I can’t even imagine how hard that pressure is. You’ve always remained graceful and acted with class and dignity and really I’m just so sad reading this know that lots of people care and are there for you

      2. You’re right Lola we were all shocked at how standoffish and snarky Jim was to her. We expected a loving person because of who Megan is.

      3. Who Meghan is? She’s a gold digger who wanted a famous rich hot older guy——you got what you wanted with all the consequences

        1. Anna Lynne-Must speak up on this one- you are 100% incorrect, Meghan is NOT a gold digger by any stretch of the imagination. Please bring your FACTS to the table and I hope everyone disregards this comment. Meghan was already a very accomplished woman before she met Jim. She is from an exceptionally old money family who got their money the old fashioned way by earning it. Meghan had a very high paying job in the medical sales field earning into the hight 6 figures. Her brother and sister are very accomplished – not to mention she has relatives here in St. Louis who are prominent and respected attorneys. She is a smart cookie and she did not marry “UP” she had already had it. The St. Louis Post-Dispatch covered her in a full page article if you wish to actually educate yourself before you try to destroy someone you don’t even know.

      4. I completely agree with you. It was uncomfortable to watch him disrespect and simply humor her conversations, all the while eagerly waiting to get out of town and back to his job in St. Louis. He never appeared to be “engaged” in their marriage. I felt sorry for her because his dismissive manner to her was blatant.

  6. You got this girl,! Rise above you are strong and God will never leave you he will guide your thoughts and help you always. Now, take care of yourself so you can be there for your kids, sending you blessings!

  7. Your testimony touches me to the core. I believe there are so many reasons a person may cheat. Not all of them mean they dont love you. But does that even matter. You are strong, Im not sure I am capable of that level of forgiveness. My heart is with you💜

  8. You are strong, you are brave, you are honest. It’s not going to be easy but do what you need to do how you need to do it. Love and hugs to a beautiful lady xx

    1. Meghan, my heart breaks for you. You are a wonderful woman, with a heart of gold. I pray that you take time to heal and do what is right for your family. I hope that you have a tremendous support system to comfort you and love you. I cannot even imagine your pain. Your bravery and honesty at this time is a true testament to your character. Many prayers for you, Hart and the rest of your family.

  9. You’re beyond strong and I’m praying for you and your family! You got this. With every struggle comes a blessing.

  10. I know how you are feeling, been there before. You will need time to heal and trust again and he needs to be patient with that and also fight for you. So if you two truly love each other, you can overcome this in time and come out stronger in the end. Praying for you and your family!

  11. You are brave and super woman/mom. Don’t let this take you down. Focus on your healing and kids !!!

    1. When I was 36 weeks pregnant with my daughter, I found out my husband had been doing the same thing. Of all of the traumas that I have been through including losing my mom at six years old and skin cancer in my early 20s, this one has been the hardest to heal from. Although it has been over two years, I still have my moments. Thank you for describing the feelings that are so difficult to explain and I hope you find the healing you need.

  12. Thank you for this post. As someone who has gone through the same thing this is touching and beautifully written. I was holding back tears at work. You are brave and strong. Let yourself ugly cry and listen to all the angry music. I hope your heart heals over time.

    I choose to stay and admire your attitude as well. Love is sacred. And you deserve the strongest of loves. Take care of those wonderful babies and yourself.

    1. You will survive and come out on the other end of this even stronger! I will pray for you and your family every chance I get. Hugs. 💛

    2. Why did his other 2 marriages fail? I heard the voicemail and it sounds like you. Sorry for you and your children, but unfortunately this probably isn’t his first indiscretion while married to any of his wives.

    3. This triggered PTSD. My husband of 19 years had an affair with my best friend.
      I wanted to fix it but I knew I couldn’t live life looking over my shoulder. I left.
      It was the worst and the best thing that ever happened to me. You are free now. You know, you know. Spread those wings and soar above this. Freedom is intoxicating. You did nothing wrong. Don’t be a victim. Be a survivor. Sending love and strength. Go live your truth.

  13. I read this on my 17th wedding anniversary as my husband who has struggled with addiction abuse for years is now living with someone else as I keep our family going. I have filed for divorce because now is the time to put ME and my girls first. I get your pain and am deeply sorry 😞

  14. You need to decide what is best for you and your family and if is giving him another chance. My advice marriage counseling. This is not an easy situation. Their is no solution or a way to make the trust, security and even the love not be in question. Doll is one thing you never do is blame yourself . Do not be sad be strong.

  15. So sorry for you Meghan. Loved watching you on Tv and have been following you on Instagram. I sure it hit you like a ton of bricks but you are STRONG!!! You definitely need to give yourself the time to cry and think and feel. You have every right to feel the way you are feeling right now. My heart breaks for you, but you have the loving hearts of your children, family and friends with you. Take deep breaths and know you will survive this. And as cliche as it sounds, what doesn’t kill you does make you stronger. Just know you have a lot of people praying for you and sending you lots of love and support.

  16. So sorry you’re going through this Meghan. My heart truly goes out to you and your children. You’re so brave for addressing such a personal issue publicly. Best wishes always. Xx

  17. Meghan, You are strong! You got this. My baby has a neurological disorder. It is stressful and worrisome at times. My little boy is 20 months now and is nothing but the light of our lives. He is doing great. You will smile again!! You will get through this. God does not give you more than you can handle.

  18. I’m so very sorry for your pain. I love your Instagram post And your family. Your a strong woman and you will come out of this stronger. I have an adult child with Asperger syndrome and a genetics disorder so I I’ll be in prayer for Hart.

  19. I’m so so sorry. What I see is a loving plugged in Mom and a devoted wife. Keep your head held high and pour your love onto your children. It will work out the way it’s supposed to. Praying for Hart and all of you.

  20. My heart breaks for you. Thank you for being so open and telling your truth! I learned through the Grief Recovery Method that telling your truth will help to rid yourself of your hurt, pain and grirf(anything you want different better or more). I don’t have the magic words other than speak your truth and feelings, don’t let them pile up!! Thinking of you!!! Cheryll

    1. My comment will probably catch some heat.
      …Jim Edmonds is a slimeball for doing what he did. Not Only was text messages involved nude pictures was involved and to make it worse a masterbating video. Meghan you are one beautiful person. At no time should anyone EVER have to go through this…and in the public eye nothing can be worse. I have watched you on tv and followed your Instagram and find you to be such a devoted mom and I hate to see such a beautiful person have to hurt this bad. On another note…once they cheat the odds of them doing it again is pretty high (proven fact) Now you have to make the decision on what your next step will be and I can guarantee what ever it is we will all be here for you!!!! 😩💖💩💔👣🐍

        1. @Angela, “uneducated”?? Look who is judging. Not everyone will give a hug, cry with you, and play victims advocate when you have hardships and that’s okay too! Some people will give straight up honesty as difficult as that may be. What Jim did was slimy and scummy and low-down!! He DOES have a history of cheating on his other ex-wives!! Meghan shouldn’t call herself a victim. She should become strengthened by adversity not victimized by it. I pity him for throwing away a good woman. There is no harm in calling things out no matter how ugly. What he did was foul!

  21. I admire you and all you stand for!!! You are a amazing mother and wife and I feel for you, but ultimately you will do what you need for yourself and your family. I think it’s disgusting how these tabloids exploit innocent people…. you deserve better!!! Hang in there Girl, you got this😊😊😊

  22. I had this happen to me. My girls where older. I wanted to keep my marriage together, so I forgave. Then it happened a 2 nd time. My oldest daughter discovered it on his old phone he gave her.
    Again I / we worked through it. With help this time. I thought we where headed for recovery this time. And 2 years later he left me for another woman. We are divorced. I feel your pain all over again. I am so sorry you are going through this. Stay strong. You’ll know what’s right for you and your family. I was exactly like you. Wanted the same things in my life and marriage you wanted.
    Reading this really hit home. I’m so sorry.

  23. Meghan,
    I am so sorry this happened to you. It did me as well. I moved to Scottsdale and thought he was my world, so it was worth the move. It sucks in the worst way, but you dig deep and remind yourself IT WAS NOT YOU! You nailed it , something is wrong with HIM. No matter how GORGEOUS you are or amazing a person you are, it is Jim that is missing something down deep in his DNA that would do this. I know he loves you, mine loved me. But he could not stop himself from hiring high
    end call girls, drinking Crystal off of them…as the pics I found showed. Or spending extravagant amounts of money at 5 star hotels for a night of God knows what. But HE did this…not me and I survived. You will. Too. No, mine was not in the media, but it was hard nonetheless. He made the mistake, you do not feel ashamed. Your beautiful children will be better in the long run as you will now be an even better mom to them. He hurt you to your core, but you have 3 amazing gifts now that will be there for you foever… whether he is or not. You might not think you will make it through this today, but I promise with prayer and family YOU WILL! AND you will be thankful it happened as you will be an even more amazing person and Mom because if it. Us midwest girls are tough. I am from Tulsa, OK. YOU GOT THIS, XOXO!

  24. Im so sorry Meghan. I agree. I have been through that with my first marriage and realized so quickly how one person throws it away for themselves. He chose to disrespect you and continued to make that choice. I always told people marriage is you in an underwater cage with your spouse going shark sighting. The sharks will always be there, slimy and ready to devour your life. Do you stick with your partner and enjoy your safe life protecting each other? Did your partner let a shark in to devour you? Did you both leave the door open and let people in for a feeding frenzy? Your husband is your protector.. images or physical… never matters to me. He didnt protect you from the sharks when you always did for him. I hope you can get through it but in my experience I always resented the other person even when I thought I was over it. Im sad for you. God bless you and the beautiful babies you have made through all of this.

  25. You are such a strong woman, not only with words but with actions. You hit this thing head on and did not try to sugar coat it, make excuses etc. You will heal, this will be put behind you one way or another. Keep it together, you are doing awesome. I’ll remember you in my prayers these next few weeks 🙂

  26. I know you don’t know me, but I’m praying for you and your family. I’m so sorry for what you are going through. I can tell from your post, you’re a VERY strong woman. You can and will get through this.

  27. Meghan you have 3 beautiful children Aspen, Hart and Hayes!!!❤ You don’t need this man to make you happy, move on and make the best life with your kids. Men can be so gross, they never have enough!! Jimmy had a beautiful wife who loved him and gave him three beautiful children but that wasn’t enough for him. You don’t need that huge house or the other material things. Be good to yourself and the kids and move on! #cheaterswillcheatagain We all love you so don’t be sad❤

  28. Megan
    Your marriage and your family are worth fighting for. Do yourself a big favor and reach out to the trained and skilled professionals that can help you and Jimmy through this…one day this will be so far behind you and you will be proud, happy and thankful you sought guidance from the right resources. We are human and not infallible. You’re hurting and I will take a leap here and say so is Jimmy. 😘

    1. Oh Meghan you are no victim, this is simply karma returning the favor to you for cheating with Jimmy while he was married to his second wife. You knew his character and chose to marry him anyway. I guess your ego was so big you thought it wouldn’t happen to you. By the way you do too care about your new car, building your new mansion and all the diamonds you have because you brag about each one of these things on Instagram! You need to snap out of the pity party your in and get real. Of course he had a physical relationship with this woman plus many others. Of course you knew about this back in October because it was YOUR voice on the voicemail and the words you said were totally YOU! Once trust is broken you can never get it back. You will be miserable always wondering what he’s doing and he’ll get pissed trying to prove he’s not. If you really want self respect and trust find a new man. Once a cheater always a cheater.

  29. I commend you wholeheartedly for writing this for all of your fans out there worrying about you. This is no ones else’s business, yet, it is because here we are in 2019, where everything is public, and even more so for you two being in the public eye day in and day out. This blog proves you’re human, and you are going through the emotions. No one can tell you what to do, as you will figure this out. I listen to Jana Kramer’s podcast, and have followed her for a long time. They discuss this all the time considering what she went through. You will get through this, and whatever you decide, you have support from fans and your amazing family. Cry, be mad, whatever, but thank you for sharing this. I can only speak for myself, but I assure you there are tons of us out there worried about you, and beyond thankful you wrote this to check in.

  30. Meghan you are a very strong lady I’m sorry you are going thru this…sending love prayers and positive energy to you and those beautiful children

  31. I’m sad for your situation too. I hope you can find peace. You are a braver woman than I to hope the marriage survives as I would never be able to trust my husband again. My mind would go crazy over every late night he was working etc.. especially since he was caught and did not tell you about it due to his true regret. But I’m not you. I hope things go well for YOU and YOUR kids. However this story ends, I hope you count your many blessings to help lessen the sting of this betrayal.

  32. Oh Meghan. I hope no matter what you choose to do there is resolution at the end of the journey. I’m so sorry you have to go through something so hard so publicly. Sending love from Canada 🇨🇦 xoxox

  33. Love you for sharing your true, raw feelings. Sending love hugs and positive vibes. Hart and your hear abs family t are in my prayers. Noelle ❤️

  34. My heart goes out to you and your beautiful children. You’ll get through this with your head held high.

  35. Meghan, I have been following you for years. I have cried reading this as I have watched you go through your ivf journey and your struggles. My heart breaks for you! I will be praying for your sweet baby/babies and you!! You are beyond gorgeous and a wonderful mom!! Anyone who cheats on their pregnant wife is a monster and you most certainly don’t deserve it.

  36. So sorry! It’s so hard to go through. Opening up about this to so many people must not be easy, but hopefully you’ll find comfort and support from doing so. You’ll know what best for you and your family. Sending you lots of love

  37. Oh Meghan. I’m so sorry this happened to you. I’m sorry you are hurting right now; you don’t deserve this – no one does. Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable. Hopefully this will help others in similar situations. You’re an amazing woman, mother and wife. Never ever doubt your worth. Thinking of you xxx

  38. i’m so sorry sweetie, I hope you take the time to heal. forgive if it’s what you want to do. marriage is hard, and sometimes it sucks. a lot of the time it sucks. keeping you in my thoughts- stay strong for those sweet babies and hug them close. at least you have the benefit of leaving if you want to- if my husband cheated I don’t think i could leave because we rely on him financially so much. I put up with more than I should because of it. you are in the position that if you don’t want to put up with this- you don’t have to! remember that. you. are. worth. more!
    xoxo

  39. I am so sorry to have read this and you are so brave to have written this. I can’t begin to imagine how you feel or offer any advice. I don’t know you or your life. All I know is I’ve followed you from the first I saw you on the real housewives of OC all the way from the UK. I love your Instagram and think you are amazing. You are a fabulous mother and wife and don’t deserve this sadness in your life. You will get through this. All my love from the UK 🇬🇧

  40. Meghan,
    My heart goes out to you. You are a wonderful woman. And I am just heartbroken for the circumstance. For you to come out to be so real and spew your heart to anybody who would read this is amazing. And unfortunately because of your celebrity status, you have to. And it Shows a woman of tremendous strength. I really hope that you guys can heal your marriage. I hope that Jimmy has a repentant heart and truly feels horrible for his actions. And not because he was caught! Incredibly embarrassing and something that could be thrown in the face of your children for lifetime due to social media. Whatever you Choose to do. Is your choice. If he’s repentant, you’re not wrong to stay with him. God bless you, I feel like I’m your friend just from watching you on the show. And living in orange county just brings it even closer for some reason. Weird, I know. I wish you nothing but the best. And I really hope you guys sort this out for the best

  41. My heart breaks for you. I am so sorry. Life is hard. But love is forgiving if you want it to be.

  42. I am so sad for you. I really thought he was smarter. So stupid and unnecessary. The fallout is so hurtful.

  43. I’m so sorry Meghan.. I know the pain and sadness you are experiencing .. my husband did it to me.. yet here we are 35 years strong.. it takes time to heal , time to trust and mostly time to grieve what you had. You will not have that again.. because the trust was broken.. but we made it through with counseling and time.. God bless you and those babies .. its had trying to be everything for them at this time .. give yourself some time to yourself.. turn off the noise of social media.. I love your story.. don’t let this one moment in life redefine who you are!!! You have this!!

  44. Oh Meghan! Stay strong 🙌🏼 You will get passed this. Prayers to your family and your Son. Hope you get answers soon.

  45. I went thru the same thing Megan. It’s been two years and I still have it in the back of my mind. The same with my husband. It was texts and phone conversations after I’d leave for work… or while I was taking our children to school. I felt INSANE when I found it. Sick and shaken. I understand temporary insanity now, totally get it! Keep your head up, it does get easier. I chose to stay by my husbands side but I’m still afraid. I trusted him with everything in me!!! And he totally betrayed me! I don’t know if my anger will really fully go away… or I’ll be able to trust him like before. It really did break us. And I kept blaming myself! Bullshit! I didn’t do anything but maintain our home and work full time. I’ll keep you in my prayers Megan!

  46. Meghan, I have been in this exact situation. Truth is you cannot heal your marriage unless he takes responsibility that this IS cheating. He keeps saying he didn’t cheat, but whether it’s a physical, emotional, or lustful relationship it is cheating. You also have to allow yourself time to go through all of the emotions you will be angry, vengeful, sad, lonely, feel like you love him, hate him, and angry again. I always tell people give yourself time before making your decisions bc right now you arent in the right frame of mind. He has to allow you to do and feel whatever you need to in order to heal. If he can’t let you be angry or curse him out then he isn’t ready to be a man and take the blame. He also needs to give you full transparency, every detail and the 100% truth. If not, then something else comes out even if it’s a minor detail you will go through all of those emotions again. Take your time and if he can’t respect it and love you through it then it won’t work bc you will always hold those feelings and never be able to trust again. He is NOT the victim he is portraying and that’s unfair to you. You are also not to blame and shouldn’t feel like you haven’t done your part in this marriage. Praying for you as you heal.

  47. Oh honey. I am so sorry. You are a very strong woman and the answer is yes it can recover from this but that is up to you. Know your value and your worth. I am so sorry

  48. Dear Meghan
    This is your call. Honestly you have to take time to think. It is nobody’s decision but yours.
    Take care xx

  49. You CAN get past this. There’s no doubt he loves you- somehow men are able to compartmentalize things like this and think it’s not going to hurt you. He didn’t DO THIS to hurt you, he did it out of selfish, thoughtless, disrespectful irresponsibility.
    Well, he DID hurt you. And now he has to suffer the consequences, grovel at your feet for forgiveness, and expect that you will question his every move until you don’t. And that “until” isnup to you. It takes time. It takes patience. It takes letting go of fear. And most of all, it takes love.

  50. You are an amazing woman.
    You are a strong woman.
    You will get through this and your family will be better for it, whatever that looks like. I will be praying for you and your sweet children. God bless.

    Libby
    Fellow St. Louisan

  51. Meghan, don’t give up on your family. Call Linda at the Relationship Center. She’s Gottmann trained and will help you no matter what you decide.

  52. Oh I feel for you! I think we all ugly cry at some point in our life – I cannot imagine going thru this when you are famous. I truly believe our heartaches/ breaks make us stronger if we let it. Trust God and He will guide you thru this – and then you will have peace with your decisions. ❤️ From Mississippi

  53. My husband cheated on me with my best friend, while we were building our dream house. I had 3 little kids under the age of 3. It was the most heartbreaking, devasting, time in my life! I was betrayed not only by my husband but my very best friend. I chose to forgive him and move on with my life! What I mean by that is, I chose to forgive him and not punish him for the rest of his life for making a mistake that I know he punishes himself about! Everyone makes mistakes! we just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary! You will get through this. I know exactly how you feel! I’m sorry, I’m sorry, that other women don’t respect other women and that men are who they are! Much love to you!

  54. You are a strong woman and you will overcome this horrible pain that has descended into your life. Take one day at a time and hopefully time will heal.

  55. Sweet Meghan,
    I have been through similar to what your going through. Of course, being in the public eye I can only imagine the additional humiliation that you are suffering. It feels like death! It has been over 9 years since it happened to me and my family. There are days when it feels like yesterday that what I thought was my life was utterly destroyed. I chose to stay in my marriage and my husband sought help for his demons. He was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. In NO way is this an excuse for his slimy behavior or the slimy person who was well aware that he was a married man. However, it was an answer. Acting out inappropriately is an action of an underlying issue. You are right and it is not your fault! DO NOT let anyone tell you any different!!! Please take care of yourself and your beautiful family.

    Jennifer

  56. Fuck fuck fuck!!!!!! I’m so sorry Megan!!! Same thing happened to me when I was pregnant with our second child…I miscarried. We divorced. He was in a “non physical emotional” relationship but I didn’t believe that rubbish. You are lovely and a wonderful and fun person and Mamma. You deserve THE BEST. He fucked up! He’s old as FUCK! What’s his problem!!???? Chin up. Only stay if he makes you feel like he can’t live without you girl. Do not compromise. ❤️

  57. Meghan, I have watched you on the show. I have seen your heart, and I am so very sorry this happened. I know that feeling and it sucks. The hurt, betrayal. I hope you can work through this! God Bless your family

  58. sadly megan I dont think anything is forever but our children. it doesnt superise me because married women think/ feel their hubby’s would never, guess what ? They f… do.
    Next step: A pattern of lies turned into a fake insecure life, my 2 cents. I’d rather u never make a fool of me again ✔

  59. You are so brave to have written this. I can see pain but also pure honesty and I respect you so much for that. You are an inspiration. Stay strong. Rooting for you and your family. Marriage is so hard. I hope you and Jim can overcome this for your beautiful family and come out even stronger. Hugs!

  60. My heart just breaks for you and your family. It’s so sad when our trust is shattered for the one person who is supposed to be our hero; our protector. I’m sure he doesn’t have the answers you so desperately want right now. Mine never did, but I forgave him (for myself) and sent him on his way to find whatever he thought was missing in our marriage.

  61. Meghan,
    I recently went through something very similar except my husband did cheat. We had a 3 year old and a 6 month old at home. We had been married almost 7 years and together almost 15 years. We had many ups and Downs but I could never imagine him doing this to me and the children we planned together. Everything we planned together was gone. I remember the stinging feeling of the tears. I remember driving around just so I could cry not in front of the kids. Everything I hoped and dreamed for our future was gone.
    I urge you to dig deep inside and figure out what is BEST for you and your kids. Take your time. Pray on it. Talk to family, friends or anyone who can give you insight.
    My thoughts are with you.

  62. This too has happened to me, we survived but it takes time My heart breaks for you Stay strong. I’m sure he loves you. I will say a prayer for you. ❤️ We have been married 26 years and have been thru it all. I know what you mean. The nice car. The nice house does not mean a thing Love can not be bought but I do like those things. Hehe. This can only make you stronger. Sending love

  63. You are a strong woman. You need time to heal. Jimmy needs time to prove himself. Time heals all. I pray you both find your way back as a family. You are really very atrong.

  64. Be strong for your children. I love your honesty and no bullshit attitude! I’m sorry this happened to you but I also say leave, go now, leave because he won’t change. He is s narcissist, they don’t change . He may cry, apologize over and over but he is on s fourth marriage for a reason.
    I pray you find peace in whatever you decide! 😘
    Lisa

  65. You don’t deserve this. I’m so sorry. It is hard enough to deal with this in private. I can’t imagine dealing with this publicly. You are beautiful, kind, and strong. My prayers are with you.

  66. I’m so sorry Meghan! When I saw this I thought it was just a joke! You guys have looked so happy! You’re such a wonderful person! Keep doing you!! And your kids! You’re a good mom! 💙💙💙

  67. I’ve always liked you. I think you’re a good, loving person. I saw that in the way you cared for your stepdaughter and his ex wife. I’m actually sorry this happened. You don’t deserve it.

  68. My heart is broken for you. I’m sorry you were forced to share when you weren’t ready but thank you for being honest about the realities of marriage. It is a choice each and every second of every day. It’s hard. It’s hard to not be a total bitch for no reason or to be annoyed by the slightest of things- underwear on the floor, the smacking, these simples things really put me on edge. But, the easiest thing should be being true to your spouse. For nothing else other than you just care that damn much about them and your family. I will pray for you that you will find peace and happiness- whatever that is for you. With no judgement from others.

  69. Amazing you can share so openly and honestly, give yourself time and space, be kind and gentle with your heart and your emotions

  70. Been there, and we recovered! Its hard work, my husband confessed…dropped to his knees and met with my preacher and we built back up from there…that was 10 years ago this October!
    Not always easy, he had to prove himself and I can honestly say…I love him more today than I ever have. We are all saved by Grace, true repentance and love!
    I pray the same for you, your husband and your family!
    Ps…I’m a fellow missourian..down by Branson!

  71. Hi Megan.

    I hear your hurting heart & im so sorry. I’m sorry that this happened to you. I’m sorry you feel like you have to explain it because you’re in the public eye. I’m sorry for whatever lies ahead. I’ll be praying for you and your family and babies for some peace and joy in the days to come!

  72. No one truly understands the devastation of being cheated on in a marriage unless it happens to them. It destroys your world, your truth, your trust in not just your spouse but your life. I applaud your honesty and openness because believe it or not, you are helping many many women who are in your same position thinking they are alone. My advice is concentrate on your children because as a wise person once told me, they are all that matters and that is the greatest love you will ever feel. I tried to stay in my marriage but for me I just became sadder and sadder till I realized if I didn’t get out it would impact my children and that I couldn’t tolerate. Fast forward, I found the love of my life-a man of kindness, honor and integrity who makes me laugh every day. He showed me that “real” love exists and I thank God I didn’t spend my life wishing for something that would never be. I hope you trust your instincts no matter what path you choose. Best of luck to you and your children.

  73. What a jerk!!! I always wondered why he had so many kids…… (and so many different wives).

    Again, what a jerk!!

  74. Hi Meghan, everyone is quick to bash him and call you weak/dumb if you stay. Don’t listen to any negative comments. You are naturally a person full of love and light. Don’t let this BS ruin your heart and your ability to shine bright. Your heart ache will heal in time and you will become strong from this. Focus on 10 good things about your life and constantly remind yourself how amazing you are, because you are. Your kids are a blessing, and on days where you want to give up..look at them and they will fill your heart with love. I have 2 sets of twins and I thank God and the Universe for them.

  75. Men have such huge egos and probably because you were making his babies, he felt neglected since he wasn’t the center of your attention.
    None of this is your fault. It’s a problem with men in general.
    Good luck to you and your precious family!

  76. I am very sorry for your heart. I too have been betrayed by my husband (who I planned on being with forever) in the worst possible ways.
    After 20 years, Our marriage could not be saved and here I am almost 8 years later alone…my kids are now grown,happy, and successful which is all I wanted.
    Remember these words..This Too Shall Pass
    Best wishes for you and your family.

  77. I love how open and vulnerable you are. You didn’t have to share this with your fans, but I’m glad you have. Thank you for being so honest. I hope you find peace in your heart and you heal from this. I hope your marriage can move forward from this. You take your time and focus on yours and your babies being. I support you and your family ❤️ Much love

  78. I am so sorry this happened to you and whatever you decide to do don’t make that decision in haste or hurt! Get counseling it does wonders for sorting things out and getting to the root of things! I have been married for 28 years and it’s one of the hardest jobs besides being a mom I have ever had! Love is a choice not a feeling many people confuse that today! I choose my husband every day and I expect the same from him! You deserve to be chosen every day by Jimmy! Hugs and prayers for your son also.

  79. This is the most honest and heartfelt post I have ever read! Please know that whatever happens, you WILL come out the other side a stronger version of yourself.

    However, there will always be two versions of your life, before and after. Just know that your most important job is to take care of you so you can take care of those babies!

    Let yourself be sad, grieve the loss of the man you thought you married, then, put your big girl panties on and figure out if it’s a marriage worth saving and only YOU can decide that, no one else gets a vote.

    Wishing you Peace and Wisdom.

  80. This is brave and transparent and I respect the shot out it. Keep your head up mama and take care of you!

  81. Thank you for being so brave and sharing this- I have recently been through something similar, except it was physical. It’s been hard because I had no one to relate to and the emotions are so hard to work through, ups-downs-ups-downs. Judgement from friends for staying, judging myself for staying. It’s a hard and such a sad path to endure…. flash backs of the messages between them, wondering how your partner could lie to you. I feel for you and I really appreciate you sharing this. This is the first time I have been able to relate to a woman and I hope you know you are not alone here. I’m so sorry for you and I hate that anyone has to ever endure the pain of this situation. But I really appreciate you being so open, it is so brave of you.

  82. I’m so sorry Meghan! Don’t let people influence you in anyway on how to deal with this. Take it day by day. If you work together you can get through this together. It will be hard and you’ll have great days and bad but fight for it and you’ll be ok. I promise.

  83. You are an amazing Mum. You need to be strong and looks after yourself and your boys. Sending you a hug.

  84. My heart is breaking for you and I do t even know you. You have articulated your feelings so honestly and I just want to hug you, scream with you, be angry with you. My Mama heart is so angry for you! But I know you love him, it was so clear. So cry, be mad, accept the hurt and eventually accept his apology and hopefully, for you and the kids, you will recover and the trust will return. You are amazing and your kids love you. And you are going to be better than ever. But take your time. I’m praying for you. XO

  85. You hang in there with your head held high.
    Unfortunately, men do sometimes think with their small brain. No matter what you decide it is your decision. Trust is earned and lost, but it can be reearned
    ( if that is even a word).
    Not sure what is happening with your son. Keeping him in my prayers. I work at then#1 children’s hospital, Boston
    Children’s. If you ever need a referral free to reach out.
    Maureen

  86. I am so mad! I don’t know you- but No one deserves this! Walk the fuck away and take everything! You have friends that will need to fill the space. You will move on better. Don’t stay and say its ok rationalizing it. Remember this feeling, u will need it when u feel weak. F him and f that!

  87. This was brutally honest and it will be appreciated. Bad things seem to happen all at once and I’m sure you feel broken into a million pieces. Triage your pain, get some good therapy, and take care of yourself. We are rooting for you!

  88. This exact same thing happened to me ……3 times! I kept forgiving and forgetting and then it was the last straw, i told him to get out and it finally hit him. He goes to therapy now once a week since January. He’s a completely different person. We’ve watched tony Robbins videos together and read books (love language is one of our favorites) worse thing I’ve ever been through in my life. If you need an ear, message me back @amyhope47 on Instagram. It’s always nice to have someone to relate too & im truly sorry you’re going through this. You seem like a strong woman and you have a beautiful family! Sending positive vibes your way 💞

  89. Megan , take time to heal so what’s best for you ! Done listen to what anyone else says. I’m praying for your son. Please take time to heal and take care of yourself.

  90. Oh Meghan, I am in tears having just finished reading your blog. Your words, though gut wrenching, are so moving. You are a beautiful person, a wonderful wife and an amazing mother. I follow you on Instagram and have continually been blown away by how fantastic of a mother you are. Hold on to your babies. Hold on to your family and remember you’re not alone. You don’t know those of us who only know you through your celebrity, but we are praying for you and your family. And where two or more gather..

    .Hang in there Meghan. You are worthy. You are beautiful and you are loved. 💞

  91. You are amazing. If your public truth is any testament of who you are, amazing doesn’t even come close to describe you. My heartaches for you, remember this: god gives you only what you can handle. You will get through this, learn from it, and be an even better person on the other side. The people who have your heart are lucky to have someone like you- Don’t forget it, and don’t ever question it. ❤️

  92. I have so much respect for you for being so honest. You could have ignored the gossip but you rose above it to show what marriage is really like.

  93. This too shall pass. You will be stronger and find gratitude in yours and your children’s health. In the grand scheme of life, a mans’s purpose is sometimes only for procreation. Xo

  94. Aww sweetie I’m so sorry. I always How you were and still are a real person. I know strangers opinions are just that but I honestly felt he never fully appreciated you when I saw the two of you on the show. Your beautiful! You deserve to be happy and not to deal with this. It saddens me he did this to you ESPECIALLY with social media and how EVERYTHING gets out these days. You have beautiful children you love u no matter what ugly cry face you have. I’m sorry your dealing with this. Hugs

  95. I hope you don’t mind me writing to you on your blog page.
    I am so sorry to hear and read this. I don’t know you personally but feel I do from seeing you on TV and following you on Instagram. Your right. You don’t deserve to be going through this. You seem an amazing and a good person.
    You do need time to digest what is and has happened.
    I hope your husband is truly remorseful for his actions and deep hurt and pain he has caused you and understands what he has done to you and his beautiful children.
    Only YOU can make the desicion to stay with him.
    Marriages are worth fighting for if this is his first mistake. Only YOU can know the answer.
    You need time to heal and space to think. I hope you get it.
    My only advice to you both is to talk. Talk. And more talk. Be truthful about EVERYTHING…. Lay it all out on the table. And start from the truth and rebuild your marriage.
    I hope in time you heart starts to heal and you get your sparkle back.
    YOU WILL ….
    much love Jan Daly. Xxx

  96. That was the most honest blog I ever read, thank you for sharing your truth, especially when you don’t have to it’s not our business, and you did it so beautifully. Life can be so curl and hard some times but have faith this to shall past and i pray you and your family
    Come out the other side stronger and better then before. Everything you said was 100
    Percent right. Lots of luck

  97. Meghan!
    I’m so sorry this is happening to you – you do not deserve it. I hope that you can take solace in the fact that if truly there was nothing physical, just very bad decisions. I pray that your marriage survives and that you both can support & love those beautiful children you’ve brought into this world.

  98. I just read you blog and felt compelled to let you know that I’m so sorry you are going through all of this!

    They say that the Lord doesn’t give us anything we can’t handle, but during times like this you want to scream “uncle”; “I give” ~ Hold on tight to your faith and this too shall pass

    xoxoxo

  99. I’m praying about it for you… Many people overcome even the worst such as this. It will take plenty of time, you take all the time you need. If you choose not to stay with this man that is up to you he will always be the father of your children and that you can make happen. It is between the two of you And only the two of you. You did the right thing by sharing this because you both are public figures. Better that you tell it then for all the people to make up their own stories. God bless 🙏❣️

  100. Sending you good thoughts, love and peace at a difficult time. You are so strong and brave to share your story and only deserve love and support during this time. I know I’m just a stranger, but I believe good thoughts from anyone can go a long way. More than anything, I hope you find answers for your sons health. I can’t imagine the pain and anguish that is causing you and to have to worry about this during that time is unimaginable. You do not deserve this and you will rise above. You are strong. You are supported. You are a beautiful mother and role model to your children.

  101. I’m praying for you Meghan that God can give you wisdom and grace to be the mom your kids need and to protect your heart from growing bitter. One thing that helped me in a really dark place in my 32 year marriage was listening to a pod cast called “Grace to You” every morning while I got myself ready for work. It bolstered me up and got my head thinking about God and my relationship with him. Make God #1, kids and yourself #2 and #3 is Jim. He needs to cherish you and he isn’t doing that.

  102. I’m so very sorry. Focus on your kids. YOU ARE A FABULOUS MOTHER!! Prayers and strength to you.

  103. You and your children did not deserve to be treated so horribly. He has internal problems that he needs to get help for so that, if anything, he can at least have a relationship with his children one day and be able to look them in the eye. He made the mistake of believing that he and his name make him above everyone and everything. Get some help Jim.

  104. Please do not let this mishap define who you truly are. Often times, more than none, men put their needs, sexual or not, above everyone else’s. It’s NOT OK. You have every right to cry, and to be sad. Your babies need their mama, but you need time for you. I wish you all well and hope for nothing but the best for you and your family.

  105. My heart is breaking for you. Take care of your babies. Heal your heart in your time. Sending love.

  106. You don’t deserve this, I’m so happy you can see it isn’t your fault. Don’t let the grief consume you. Your beautiful children need their mamma. I hope he takes full responsibility for his actions and works hard to regain your trust, if he doesn’t it’s his loss. You’re a beautiful person inside and out xxx

  107. All of our hearts go out to you, Meghan. Know that their are positive thoughts out there for you!

  108. This too shall pass. You will feel whole again, with or without him. You need time to heal and figure out if you can ever trust him again. If you cannot, that is ok. You are a strong lady with a good head on your shoulders. You will be ok. Lean on friends and family. I promise you will be ok. There may be some sort of hidden blessing in disguise that you cannot see now but will become clear later.

  109. I am so sorry! I had no idea about any of this, until I saw your Instagram. How devastating. My heart is with you.

  110. So sorry that you are going through such a difficult time. Sending you positive energy and hope that everything works out.

  111. I am so sorry for your pain. Fight for your family. Jim needs to fight for his family even harder. I’ll be praying for your son. And I’ll be praying for your broken heart. You are strong. You deserved to be cherished, adored, and perused. Don’t settle for less.

    🙏

  112. Oh my sweet sweet Meghan! I am crying as I am reading this! You’re are one of my absolute fav housewives and you’re such a good person. You deserve none of this and my heart is hurting knowing you’re so hurt. This is not your fault, this is his and hers. She’s a slime cunt! I hope it’s revealed who she is so we can all cuss her out for you! Nothing more nothing less. Just know that we love you and wish the best for you. All those morons who are saying horrible things right now should be ashamed of themselves! I am going to bat for you and calling all of these atrocious human beings out! You deserve the world. Wish I could actually be there for you 💜

  113. Just know that you are not alone. That helped me. Knowing that so many other women have gone through the same thing and came out alive (and thriving), gave me hope that I too could get through it. I hope the best for you and my only advice is to remember that you have no deadline on making decisions for your family. Take your time to heal, however long it takes.

  114. I’m just so sorry, Meghan. That’s all I can say. You are a beautiful soul and you’re right. You DON’T deserve this. I’m sending love and hugs❤️😘

  115. this man always gave me cold dead fish energy on the show but you always showed yourself to be exactly what you wrote above. you were committed to this relationship, loving, and kind. any man would be so lucky to have a wife like you but a broken person like that will NEVER recognize that.
    i wish you would leave him, you dont need this. but i respect your choices and wish you the best <3

  116. Wow, you took the words out of my mouth. This is my story. My heart goes out to you. I went through a similar situation a few years ago. It’s utterly devastating. I’ve never been the same. It definitely changed me. It changed us. I was so confused and didn’t know what to do. There’s no right or wrong. You dont have to decide anything right now. Take it day by day. Went to therapy. It helped. He was the sad, damaged one, in desperate need of another woman’s validation. He ended up needing and getting more individual therapy. You can get through it but it will be hard and take time. There’s hope. Cry, scream be angry- let it all out as often as you need to. There’s no time frame for healing and getting through something like this. Everyone is different, every couple is different. Just know you’re not alone. I’m rooting for you and so are many other people. You’re beautiful, strong, smart, driven and an amazing mother. Don’t let this break or define you. Sending you love and prayers.

  117. I’m so sorry this has happened to you and your family. Take some time to heal and love those babies they need their Mom and you need them. This makes me very sad and I only know you thru watching RHW and following your insta. Please know you are loved ❤️ And yes I don’t know Jimmy but the woman in me wants to slap
    Some sense into him how could he!??? he had it all a beautiful devoted wife and children 😢

  118. I have been where you are. It takes time. If he is really sorry he will prove it to you and over time it gets easier but you are never the same. You have to start over from here or end it. Its not your fault, you didn’t nothing wrong but he did. To blow up a family over this the hardest thing ever. Either way its hard. Thank you for sharing and I am really hopeful you will work on things.

  119. I am so sorry Meghan. People screw up…My husband kissed someone he had been talking to at the gym for months when our kids were 3 and 1. Humiliating. It took a solid 2 months to stop waking up thinking about it. When you say “sad” I couldn’t agree with you more. I kept repeating that in therapy, “but I’m just so sad”. But then we moved on and got stronger than ever as partners and parents. It has nothing to do with you, it’s his issue and you were the one affected by it. I’m so sorry you have to go through this. Take time to yourself and reflect. And ask him every crazy question until you’ve found everything out you needed to. Hang in there <3

  120. This is a act that happens more than we know. Men and Cell Phones! They sneak and get fulfilled until they are caught!
    No it may not be Physical but in the the moment of self gratification they feel it is.
    Men get bored very bored. Now they can be in a car, hotel room, bedroom etc anywhere while not with the Spouse and they seek this trill.
    I have to tell Meaghan it will always continue, I promise😩

  121. As a fellow twin mom and St. Louis mom I enjoy following you on social media. Sadly we also have cheating spouse in common as I have been where you are and know the terrible emotions you are dealing with. My husband began his cheating both emotional and physical when I was pregnant with my own twins. I did not learn about it until several years (and women) later. Mine was also revealed very publicly but in no way at the level you are dealing with. My heart truly aches for you. I will tell you that my children, my friends and my family have helped me work through it but even though my husband has since taken his own life, you better believe it still makes me cry or fills me with anger on any given day. Hats off to you for hitting it head on. Prayers of strength for you and your sweet babies.

  122. I feel for you. Stay strong and hold your head high. Remember, no one lives your life but you.

  123. Hugs!!! I’m so sorry, I feel you as a mother who has a kiddo who had issues too. Is stressful and worrisome. Stay strong, you’re an amazing person

  124. I am so so sorry!!! My heart aches for you but you are strong… You do what’s best for you and your kids… I am sending prayers for Hart that answers are found and im sending healing prayers to you!!

    You deserve happiness

  125. Meghan,
    I have been where you are, the only difference is my life wasn’t on page 6 but in a one square mile of a small town. This happened when I was pregnant with my triplets which I lost 2 of from the stress. My husband and I went through years together me vomiting after having sex with him. I will tell you my one triplet that survived is 21 today and I am more in love with my husband today then when the other women knocked on my door. Have faith in you, your love of Jim and God will get you through. I promise.

  126. You are beautiful in every way and a wonderful mother and wife… He does not deserve the purity of your love and your devotion. Although you have everything you are so humble and grounded .To be very honest if he loses you he will lose the best thing he ever had… Marriage is sacred and a covenant between a husband and wife and he has broken that.. Stay as strong and true to yourself as you are. God Bless!!

  127. This makes me so angry! Remember you deserve better! Once a cheater always a cheater! If he was truly in love with you he would/could never do this to you and his beautiful family! He has no self respect! Kick him to the curb you and your babies deserve a completely devoted man/father! He is pathetic

  128. I am so sorry for all your heartache. I experienced this throughout my marriage and my marriage was not as strong as yours. My prayers are for recovery and growth. I am sorry for your son’s tribulations. There is an AMAZING child neurologist at Cardinal Glennon that I would risk my children’s lives with. His name is Dr. Waseem Baig. Please feel free to tell him I sent you. He will give you hope and answers, and honesty.

  129. His actions demonstrated a complete lack of respect for you and your marriage. On the other hand, I think he wanted to get caught. He’s not stupid. He knew the consequences. There’s a possibility the life he has isn’t the one he truly wants. A man who is happy would never betray or sabotage what he has……just something for you to think about. You deserve better. You deserve respect. Stay strong, beautiful 🙏 ❤ ❤

  130. My heart is broken for you !
    My Question is……where is his heart now…Is it with you? Can you ever forgive and how does one trust again? Idiots do make mistakes. I hope he will spend his life making this up to you.

  131. I’m so sad for you. You deserve more! I’ve been through something similar with inappropriate texts but thank God no photos or lewd comments. You are such a super and loving mom. Do you and take care of your babies. He needs to fix himself before you can trust him again. Much love from TN.

  132. I am so sorry for all of this. You and your family do not deserve any of this. Take it day by day, hour by hour. It is about you and your beautiful children.

  133. To be this vulnerable, transparent and honest in such a public way takes an immense amount of strength and courage. I have mad respect for you for doing this. Use that strength and courage to hold yourself together for the sake of your children.. That’s what has gotten me through some deep grief myself. You can get through this, I’m absolutely sure of it! All my best to you, sweet lady.

  134. You have every right to feel betrayed! Let it out so that you can begin to heal. Your husband made those choices out of selfishness and lust. I don’t believe for a second that months of media exchanges didn’t’t lead to physical but that’s for you to decide. Like Dr Phil says, where there’s one lie, there’s 10 more behind it. You are not to blame. A cheater is always a cheater. It’s in their DNA so to speak. I truly hope you have enough love for yourself and the children to get through this and learn something positive out of all of it. Much love to you. Very sorry for your anguish.

  135. I admire your honesty and bravery Meghan- I can’t imagine how hard these words are hard to say out loud. I hope that you can find comfort in knowing you are an amazing woman, devoted mother, and a beautiful person. All the best for Hart- he is lucky to have a mamma who will make sure he receives the best possible care! Wishing you all the strength and love you deserve in these coming days.

  136. I’m sorry you’re going through this. I think your honesty with what you need will help your marriage not only survive but be better than before. One day at a time.

  137. When I saw the article in US Weekly my heart broke for you. Marriage is a choice every day you are correct. My only advice for you is to get your power back – the thing that makes you you – the thing that helps you regain your control and power in your life. The thing that will give you The ability to tell him to hit the road if you chose, or to help you find your way back together. You are being hit from a lot of different directions but you have to know you are strong and powerful to deal with them. For me it was going to the gym and getting stronger. I promise you once you get your power back you will be so excited for whatever awaits you. Praying for you that you find peace and see hope in the future.

  138. My heart hurts for you and your babies. I so enjoy watching your stories and your children growing up. I am so sorry to hear about Hart. You are a beautiful strong woman who will do what’s best for you and your children. Make sure you take care of yourself too. Lean on your parents and siblings. It seems like you have a wonderful support system around you.

  139. Prayers for you and your family. Stay strong and hold her head high. You.did.nothing.wrong.

  140. I support you dear. You don’t know me, but there are a lot of people out here ho love and support you. I hope it helps

  141. ❤ to you Meghan…just you…as a mother and grandmother here in Norway is it impossible to understand what you are going through now…just wanted to tell you that you and your kids make me smile every day due to Instagram…
    You are a fantastic mom and wonderful in your self😘🤗 So sorry about Hart😪
    Take care about you self a couple of days Meghan😘 The kids are well taking care of I think…
    Love from me😘❤

  142. I’m so sorry your the sweetest loving mother and person and I was hoping your marriage would be as beautiful as it started for the rest of your life and to think your Husband best friend would do this my heart hurts for you and your babies and I pray that you will heal be positive that everything will be ok with Hart it’s all we can all pray for hugs and Prayers ❤️

  143. My heart goes out to you. You both can rise above this, even with this your marriage is strong. Don’t let the devil tell you anything else. I’ll be pray for you and your son! I can imagine because I too have a sick kid. He’s been on Chemotherapy since Feb 2016. Look at Jana Kramer, they went to counseling and have a beautiful strong marriage today. You are talking about it and that’s the first step to healing. Hugs Mama!

  144. Meghan you need to remember one thing this is in no way your fault, there is nothing that you did or didn’t do this is something within himself and himself alone. I am so sorry for your pain and hurt.

  145. I’m sad for you and those babies…I know the feeling all to well when you aren’t the only one that it feels he’s betrayed. As a mom and wife I know you feels he’s let the family down as a whole. God says this too shall pass and I pray you find a way, whatever way that is to find trust and be happy!!! If your do believe in God give it to him and pray through it!!!

  146. I am so sorry for you and children . I’ve been married for 50 years and it is not easy but what u are going through I have never experienced .Good decent men do not do this please make sure this is only time or is it only time he got caught.the old saying he’s thinking w his dick. He will try to make u the bad guy so he doesn’t have to feel like a jerk. I don’t know u other than the beautiful pics of u and children on Instagram . Everything happens for a reason and it may be that someone else is out there that will show u how u are to be loved.I wish u the best.

  147. Oh man…..I’m so sorry to read all of this.
    I can say and I truly believe, God doesn’t give people more than they can handle.
    You have three beautiful children and two great step kids.
    I am the mother of a daughter with special needs. I blamed myself for the longest time, did I do something wrong? I didn’t take care of my pregnant self well enough…it’s all mental games. I have a child with special needs because I am strong, I advocate for her, I teach her to advocate for herself, I search out the best special ed intervention for her.
    I just received her report card in the mail, she is on the honor roll again. She will be a freshmen in high school and is a counselor at summer camp this year.
    Megan, there’s a reason you are the amazing mother to those babies. You’re strong and are a beautiful mom.
    Peace and love to you.
    You will get through this for you and for your kids.
    ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  148. Prayers for you and your sweet babies! I know couples that have over come infidelity and are stronger today! Stay strong Momma!

  149. Girl you are strong. I think your a fantastic person, wife and Mother. I appreciate you standing up for yourself. I am so sorry this has happened to you and your children. Shame on him for putting you through this. I truly hope you can work this out but if you can’t its okay. When trust is broken in a marriage it’s the hardest thing to get back. With work, love and patience I truly hope. I will be especially praying for your Sweet baby Hayes. He is beautiful boy. I also will pray for Hart & Aspen as well. You have such cute kids I truly enjoy you sharing them with us when you don’t have to.

  150. I just prayed for you! Like earnestly! I pray for your broken heart. I love marriage and just like you everything it stands for. I lost my husband (age 49)of 30 years last year to colon cancer, he loved life, he loved me and he fought so hard for our marriage. I, again like you, don’t understand why one cheats but I do serve a God that knows our needs and hears our cries and wants to comfort us!
    Again just know I’m praying, sometimes it’s the only thing to do!
    From one Missouri girl to another! 💙

  151. *hugs* I am sorry all of this happening to you – it seems that you still want to fight for your marriage and that is something that is your decision and should not be criticized or speculated upon by anyone – only you know whether or not the fight will be worth it – if so, then please, get the counseling you both need – and yes, marriage is HARD work – do what is best for YOU – you have beautiful children and their needs must always – always – come first – I am so sorry your son is having troubles as well – my prayers go with you, in both these battles – please know you are not alone in this – be strong and remember to be good to you – just hold on, dear one, whatever may come be strong through it, do not place blame at your feet and do not allow anyone to tell you how you feel or should feel about it all – deep breath – have faith – much love and prayer – shamrock

  152. You are so brave to share this with the world. You WILL rise above this troubling time. Stay strong and graceful….don’t worry about the hideous individuals spreading ugliness….karma will take care of them. Your three beautiful babies need you….focus on that!
    -Rachel Hart Howard

  153. I just happened upon this blog and I am so very sorry to hear this. Nothing he did was because of you.
    An escape perhaps, a selfish time, mid life crisis, whatever.. it does make you question everything. Maybe he doesn’t even know why he did it.
    You will move on with grace and dignity because it’s his mistake not yours.
    Hold your head high.
    Take your time.
    Breathe.
    Get away by yourself
    You don’t need to rush to solve a problem that wasn’t yours to begin with.
    Good luck to you..
    Lisa

  154. Keep your head up and protect your family, you can recover and have a stronger marriage but he needs to do the work and decide once and for all that he is a man of honor and integrity something he has not been yet…you spent his 1st wife. These aren’t his act kids…there us a reason for that he is NOT A MAN, yet he’s a boy who likes to hunt not a dad and a husband yet…he is weak and selfish and self centered he needs constant attention, like a child …to stay with you he needs to become worthy…HIS WORK HAS JUST BEGUN…you owe I to your kids to make it work, they all deserve an intact family ..God bless you with strength and a forgiving heart but he needs to earn your love going forward…I am so sorry, no one deserves to be betrayed in this manner…you’re an amazing momma…and your courage is admirable chin up gorgeous hold thought to your family

  155. Oh, Darling Girl,
    The betrayer of your heart is always the one you need the most in these times. Which makes it suck more. Take your time, drive, ugly cry, yell, whatever you need to do. Will be praying for you, the kids, Jimmy. Saying extra prayers for Hart to. From one MoM to another. You’re so right about the cheating and the person and marriage being a choice. We’ll be here holding space for you while you take the time you and your family need. Hugs and love.

  156. Dear Meghan,
    I’ve been where you are…it’s crazy when you turn on the TV or look outside & see that the world hasn’t stopped amidst your tragedy! It IS tragic…it’s worse than awful. The only thing that changed was when he found Jesus & I let Jesus heal my heart. It was a life changing event! Nothing you could ever have done in your marriaage would drive Jimmy to cheat, except him CHOOSING to cheat. Don’t beat yourself up. Get your babies & force yourself to go to church. Get plugged in w/your children. God will take care of the rest! You be strong!

  157. You are beautiful inside and out. I love that you realize that it he that you are hurt by, not the other woman. I am sorry you are hurting. Hang in there, time is what you need💗

  158. Praying for you and your family. God can restore everything to you that the enemy has worked so hard to destroy. Find your strength in Jesus. “God is close to the broken-hearted and rescues those who are crushed in spirit.” psalm 34:18

  159. Meagan, hold your heads up high and do what is best for you and your kids long term. This happened to me many years ago and I felt like I didn’t know who I was married to. After the divorce I found out. I was glad I got out and it hurt like crazy. Ten years later I married s man with morals, ethics and intelligence. It’s been twenty years and it gets better every year. A person is who they are and if it’s not who you can trust, get out and do your best. You have family to help with the kids and you are young with lots of time to have the life you desire. Best thoughts are here for you no matter which way you go and when you do.

  160. Meghan, I’m so so sorry you are going through this & especially your children. I wish I had magic words for you to feel better but I don’t. All I can say is in time things will get better. Just continue to love on your beautiful babies & don’t forget to take time for yourself. I will pray for God to give you strength & for healing.

  161. I am so sad too. I feel your pain and your anguish. I have been in your shoes, keeping together a family, and a child that needed me to be her advocate in health. I understand your heart is shattered, magnified by the dagger of public viewing. You deserve to take care of yourself. Happy people don’t judge. Honey, one day at a time. You don’t have to figure it out now. Take a moment to breath. Take a moment to know you are loved and supported. Hold on Meghan .. each day will hold something new… new awareness, new pains and new blessings. Trust me- it will be alright.

  162. Meghan,
    You are a mother to these beautiful children who need you. This does NOT define you or who you are. I am praying for you to heal your heart, stand up tall, take control of where things will go… to be there for your kids. Each issue will be resolved with you as the guide in your heart, you know what you need to do and when to do it no matter what it is.

    You did not do this. He did and is fully responsible. You will go through ups and downs. Be true to yourself now that is more important than ever. You will be finding out who he is. What he has done and where things will go. You have people in your life who will protect you and make sure you are safe in this journey.

    Peace and love to you. Your children will be fine. You will find the answers with your child who needs some answers.

    Keep the faith and stay strong. Lots of Love and light to guide you.

    Stefany G

  163. So so sorry… it is the ultimate betrayal. Cry, scream, whatever.. just feel the feelings. In the end YOU did nothing wrong. Repair and healing will take time. Lean on your family, sweet babies and friends.
    From one Nerinx Marker to the other.. hugs to you.

  164. So sorry of course I don’t know you but the few times I have seen you on TV I liked you ! You see real and down to earth and a great stepmom and mom . Hang in there !! Maria in NC

  165. My heart goes out to you. You’re a wonderful mother, and i believe that your marriage can heal from this. I dont know if youre religious, but God never gives you more than you can handle. Were all rooting for you.

  166. I’m sorry Meghan. I’m so so very sorry. I truly admire you and all you do. I love watching your interactions with your children. I love you. I wish I had magic words that would make this all go away but I don’t. What I will say though is if you love him then fight for him but make him fight for you. Then fight together for your marriage. Because it’ll be worth it in the end. Sending you much love and the biggest of hugs. Xoxoxoxo

  167. Keep your head up Mama you’re doing great. Trust yourself and don’t let anyone else tell you how you and your family choose to heal and deal from this.
    Every family, marriage and relationship has their shit and ups and downs. You can and will come out of this. Take it one day or even moment at a time and be gentle and kind to yourself. ❤️❤️❤️

  168. So sorry you are having to deal with this. No one deserves it. You can survive this. Will you ever trust him again? No, but your marriage can survive it. You are in my heart and prayers.

  169. Meghan, I’m sorry for the pain you’re going through now. It is not your fault. There is nothing you done on your end. It is much easier to give up on your marriage but it’s your desision. To be in the public eye is 100% worst & feeling judged.
    I’ve been a fan of RHOOC & I’ve always enjoyed your story. Just hold your head high & Do what you feel is Best for you & your family.
    Just know that everyone will not judge you or give you “their” opinion on what you should do. That’s your choice. Love & Hugs❤💜

  170. you can save this marriage; it can be done! you both of course will need counseling as it is near impossible to do on your own. he will need to go to therapy to work on himself to be able to be the man you deserve. and I’m sure he loves you enough to try. it isn’t easy, it’s damn hard, and it takes patience and time. lots of time. but can be so worth it. you love him and he loves you….you can do this!

  171. I hope you see what the world may have seen years before. The time you were on the housewives may have only shown 5% of your reality but it showed him being 100% uncaring for you and your feelings. People don’t change. And sometimes it’s a hard lesson to learn when there may have been neon signs before.

  172. You are brave to open up to everyone about these painful experiences. You show a lot of character. I hope everything works out for your family.
    Your kids need you more than ever. Stay healthy! Stay strong! Make him help you and make this up to you.
    Sometimes pressure and stress can make people act out in ways that can even end up surprising themselves.
    An escape , a break from reality. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you. Don’t let anyone redirect or influence you about what you know is best for you!!
    Good luck! And God bless your family and special prayers your son.

  173. Nooooo..im saddened with you! I’ve loved you from a far and think you are so awesome. You will do great and just give yourself time to hurt,be sad,mad ,etc. I will keep you and your family in my continued thoughts n prayers,
    With love ,
    A loyal fan

  174. I’m truly so sorry your dealing with this, even sadder than the idiot news people feel they have to shRe your pain with everyone in the world. Sending prayers for you your son and everyone involved in the hurt this is causing your family. 🙏

  175. Wow, just wow. I never comment on blogs, but this post has stopped me in my tracks. I SO appreciate your truth, rawness. I can utterly feel your pain. I’ve been through infidelity. It’s a scary cycle. Sometimes time does heal. Sometimes the cheater feels so powerful they believe they will never be caught. However, public shame, humiliation, and true fear of losing a family can cause some people to change their tunes. All I can say is you have many people behind you, applauding your grace. You have your beautiful children there to remind you that you are stronger than you think. And you have your integrity intact through this mess. Big hugs…

  176. I’m am so sorry you are dealing with this. My heart hurts for you. Marriage is hard and takes a lot of work. I strongly believe you two can get through this. I seen marriages succeed after such things. Stay strong. Stay beautiful. Don’t let the world make you hard. Your Children need their mommy. Trust in God and all things are possible.

  177. so sad for her when a woamn gets pregnet she is going tru enough and needs her husbands support . she didnt get pregnet alone they are his kids too .also women dont feel very attractiev during this time and to fidn out out he was cheating is a blow .i watched the show when she was on the hosuewifes and she ahd so much love for this man and i noticed he wasnt always very nice to her. all she wanted was a good man and a good marriage .i hope they can either work tru this or seperate some nice man out there will appreciate her she is a sweet person. judi

  178. My heart breaks for you. I hope you are able to take the time you need to make the best decision for you and your children. I chose to stay in my marriage after finding out about my husband’s infidelity. It’s a very long, hard, and exhausting road. And five years later, some days we struggle, some days we thrive.
    As for your sweet baby, only positive thoughts, vibes and prayers your way! Being a Momma with no answers and no way to “fix” your baby is a nightmare. I only hope you are able to walk out the darkness soon.❤

  179. You are such a strong person Megan. I did not know what an awesome person you were until I read this….You were as candid as possible. I respect you for stating your truth for everyone to understand and see and for speaking about Hart. It says a lot about your character. It’s says a lot. It says you are honest. It says you are strong & powerful and u wont hide from the truth. God bless you. Crying is the best therapy. So go and do it. You are not the first and u will not be the last to go through this. You can do this💪💜

  180. I’m not the type of person that would normally leave a comment, but I’ll just want to tell you how poignant and well written this is – and brutally honest. This is happened to me and it’s taken many many years to get over and frankly there’s a part of me that will never get over it. My only advice is to stay strong and take care of yourself and your kids. Getting some time and space away from him might be a good idea. Sending some extra strength your way and know that this too shall pass.

  181. Truly one of the most open and honest posts I have ever read. It’s probably what I would’ve wrote myself. I hope your son is ok. I’m sorry you’re hurting and I’m so sorry it’s playing out in public.

  182. So sorry your going through this. Keep strong, pray and stay true to you and keep your head up. You’ve done nothing wrong. Keep being that great mother you are to those beautiful kids. Wish you the best and sending healing energy your way.

  183. Meghan,

    This is difficult, but you are strong. What this entails is pushing through the anguish, hurt, embarrassment and standing tall. I always hear, “be like a Palm Tree, they bend but never break.” So bend on your friends and family, but don’t break.

    You have 3 littles who may not understand, but know that there is some confusion. Be strong as you can for them. Cuddle a bit longer, give a bit more kisses. Kids are way more intuitive than we know.

    I pray for positive results for Hart. I pray for you all.

  184. It is too soon Meghan. I don’t know what made me read your blog, only because I usually don’t read blogs. But, I do follow you on Instagram. I am 57 years old, and my husband is a high profile business man in our area. We have certainly had ours ups and downs. No decision has to be made anytime soon. You owe it to yourself to feel whatever you need to feel. Our issues were public as well ( not on your level of course). My advice, that you certainly didn’t ask for, is take time. Rely on family and girlfriends. Cry cry cry. You will know when it is time time to wipe those tears and straighten that crown! This is between you and your husband. No one else. Answers will come when the time is right. Good luck😘

  185. You got this. Take it one day at a time. My husband cheated on me 4 yrs ago and to this day we are still together. I chose to forgive him.

  186. I’m so sorry to read this. My ex had an affair – an all out affair. We divorced. And one thing that made me strong was remembering he was WEAK – it wasn’t my fault. He had been my only person ever through high school and college and I feel your pain. I had two children when we divorced. He never came around to see them. 21 years later, he doesn’t know his two grandchildren! He is living in the same awful house with his new family that he started in 21 years ago. He had to declare bankruptcy this year. Meanwhile we all moved to a warm southern state where it’s sunny year around living a wonderful life. So while it is devastating to begin with, you will survive. You got this girl!

  187. My heart breaks for you. The worse feeling ever feel in the pit of your stomach. Take some time to process and then take time to figure out the next phase of your marriage. It won’t happen overnight but it is a process and one day the trust will come back because the live is still there.

  188. Your husband is the one broken…not you!! HE needs counseling to find out WHY his ego needs to be stroked by women. You, my dear, need counseling to figure out how you are reacting to this heartwrenching betrayal…..not just privately but publicly as well. YOU cannot fix him! Set boundaries for you and your children and let him fix himself. You are not his mother or caregiver! He needs a whole lot of soul searching and IF he truly loves you…..you will know. Like you said…the big house and diamonds do not provide happiness unless you’re sharing your life with that special someone. God Bless you and your family 💖

  189. Cry every tear you need to cry, scream into a pillow, go in the shower and hyperventilate if necessary. I hate that you or anyone should endure the result of adultry. IT SUCKS!!!!! No other way to say it…and you just need to walk it one day at a time. Even without your husband, you seem to have a good support system in your friends, family and even your social media family! Lean on them…use them to heal! I promise some day it will not hurt as bad. You can forgive, but you will never forget. But for today, tomorrow, and maybe even a month from now..don’t worry about forgiveness. Just focus on Meghan and those precious kids. I have continued tofollow you after RHOC because i love your REALNESS! And don’t stray from that..you can overcome this whatever the result is. But for TODAY..just one step and one day at a time.

  190. Meghan
    Hate that your going through it. Honestly did you not feel it??
    Seriously, yes marriage is A Choice. And So is Cheating.
    I stayed with my husband, first time for the children sake cause I too wanted & believed in the family & raising children in a Christian environment family.

    Reality bites. I even was going to adopt my husbands baby that she was having.

    After 10 years of marriage the affairs didn’t stop the cheating continued.
    Our marriage didn’t.
    I stayed divorced almost 10 yrs. Married again after 7 yrs here it comes again.

    You know when. You ask the question what’s wrong?
    When you already know the answer.

    Filed right away divorce #2
    Devastated at being a failure in my family that’s the way they looked at it.

    We ended up getting back together but as soon as you trust again you’ll feel something tug at you.

    Be aware of your surroundings sweetie
    Don’t trust anyone when it comes to your husband.
    Jim does have a bad rep for a reason.

    After 4 marriages & when s woman is pregnant 🤰 that’s the time we feel the most amazing things but not the man
    He is selfish I’m not here to bash Jim.
    I’m strictly committed on what I’ve experienced.
    What I see
    We have women’s intuition for that reason your radar was up. You chose to not go there.

    Your a warrior woman for what you’ve done to be a family & have children.

    Best of luck with your beautiful babies
    Prayers for Hart 🙏

    Much Love on your path ❤️
    Sincerely

  191. Meghan you’re one brave woman. What you are dealing with is so unbelievably cruel. Please stay strong for yourself and your beautiful children. This is your husbands issue and he dragged you and your precious family into this unbearable situation. Please reach out for support just for yourself. I’m pulling for you sweetheart, sending lots of love and prayers. 💕

  192. Thinking about you Megan stay strong keep positive you can pull thru this. Your such a good mommy focus on that only for the days ahead until you figure this shit out. 💗💗💗💗💗💗

  193. I had no idea this happened. Maybe I live under a rock. You have a great head on your shoulders. I’m glad you are not blaming yourself. It has nothing to do with you. He really messed up. I’m so sorry this happened to you and your sweet little ones. They may not know, but they know mommy isn’t happy. That’s the worst part. Stay strong and keep being you. Your strength is your real beauty.

  194. Thanks for sharing your story and I want to encourage you that is a moment in what will be a beautiful life. Your family has been through very much in a short amount of time and we all deal with these challenges in different ways. It is often easier to disassociate, hide, hate, escape, but we grow the most when we face these situations. I believe your husband to be a good man, I don’t know him of course, but instead of judging, offer compassion and support. Try to be open to what he may be struggling with that has prompted this unfortunate behavior. Anyway sending my support and prayers to your lovely boy and strength to get you through this time .

  195. Thank you for being so honest and raw about this. I too have been there. You are 100% right, this does not define you. Marriage is hard and you have to work at it every day. People give up easily or are easily tempted. Stay strong! You are beautiful inside and out. Prayers for you and your beautiful baby boy!

  196. Omg. WTF. You have been agn amazing mother. I truly didn’t think he wanted more children from your days on rhoc. You cared for his ex wife during jet battle with cancer. He seems very self absorbed from just seeing him on your IG et al.

    I thought I recognized something with your little guy from the beginning. Prayers for nothing but the best for him.

    I pray your days become easier. Time to take care of yourself first always. If you don’t have your health, you have nothing.

    Let people help you.

    Big hugs and prayers and peace in your life.

  197. My heart breaks for you, for your family! Through all your posts, we can all see your strength and the love you have for your family – Jim and your children! Thank you for always being honest and transparent! You will all be in my thoughts and prayers!

  198. You are so strong and can get through this. I’m not sure I could trust my spouse if he had sent nude pics to another person but it is your decision if you decide to stay. Prayers for strength and healing. You are an amazing mom and will figure out whats right for you.

  199. Prayers to you and our family. I pray you both can get through this and become stronger. Believe in yourself and what is in your heart. XO

  200. Take all the time you need to heal for yourself and your kids thank you for being so authentic and powerful with your words … hopes and fears you didn’t have too you could have put out a PR statement and his but this took strength because you are right you did nothing wrong you are not and never will be a victim your a hero remember that .

  201. Aww Meghan this breaks my heart. I only know you following you in Instagram and watching you when you were on RHOC. My daughter is almost the same age as Aspen so it’s fun watching your IG videos they crack me up. This has to be so hard and it made me tear up reading about this. My husband and I are having issues in our marriage too ever since I had our daughter. It’s seriously a struggle everyday to make it work and it’s not easy that’s for damn sure. It’s hard work! But try and stay strong and keep your head up. You look like you have a great family and this is the time to lean on them for support. It’s not going to be an easy road but you will some hoe over come this it’s going to take time to heal from it. Stay strong and know your fans have your back.

  202. I have never read any blog, or posted any comments on any of the “real house wives”, but this, this is as real as it gets. Love you Meghan King Edmonds. Sending you love and strength in this difficult time.

  203. I know how your feeling , I’ve been where you are now , shock , hurt , numb , angry , sadness , its like a loss a terrible loss like someone has died because in a way the person you married , love , adored has died in a way , because this isn’t him its a stranger , where for God sake has my husband gone the one that stands before me I do not know ! ,,, marriage is hard hard work , I’m not in your shoes I don’t have the big big house or the money , I have been married for twenty years we have very little money we struggle and struggle , life is hard , my health has been bad , I was a alcoholic, I was a bad person , but I turned a corner gave up , 3 yrs dry , my marriage has suffered greatly and he turned to another woman , I was broken so broken , but as I believe in marriage and vowels , we worked and worked at it , I forgave him , if you both love one another you must not give up , you must both work and work at it , and Megan you will in time forgive , time is a great healer , you must both talk , be open and honest , but he must also know what he has done is WRONG ever so wrong , may God bless you and your family I hope your heart heals it will take time but you will get there ,,, Beverly fincham

  204. Praying for you Meghan! I agree – your marriage can recover and be better than before. Hang in there! Cheating isn’t a deal breaker. It isn’t fair and it hurts but you can heal together. Jim has a lot of work to do (individually and as a couple) but he can do it! I’m puking for you guys.

  205. You got this! You’re a strong woman! I miss watching you on RHWOC. You’ll get through. Praying for son and your healing.

  206. I felt compelled to reply to your blog post today. Thank you for your honesty. It is very brave of you to lay it all out there and be so vulnerable. Marriage is so hard. I always tell people I have had many peaks and valleys in my marriage. Some real lows and some real highs. You have to decide what is best for you in the long run. Whatever you decide you and your babies will be fine. The hurt and pain is the hard part. Wishing you all the best and prayers for your sweet little boy.

  207. I cannot imagine what this feels like, but you are strong and you will do what is best for you and your family. Hang tough, God only gives us what he feels we can handle… as hard as that might be to understand.

  208. He fucked up. Take time to breathe. You did nothing wrong. He is lacking something in his ego he needed fed, don’t blame yourself. Take time to breathe, if you choose to , you can get past this. It will take time, don’t listen to the haters , you do what your heart tells you , go to counseling if you want , he really should be going , it’s him that is lacking and self loathing that made him do this. Sad… take time to breathe . We got you . Love you Megan .
    Ps. I so love following your adorable children on Instagram, you rock this mommy thing! I’m 55 mom of 2 adults now , hats off momma!👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

  209. I’m so sorry to have to read this. I love you guys both so much and I hope you can make it through. I feel for you sweet girl. I hope and pray that everything works out. On the upside he came clean didn’t try to deny it or push it off. You are a strong woman and you will overcome this. ❤️

  210. I’m so sorry you have to go through all of this and so publicly at that. Screw the tabloids trying to make stories out of things like this and bug you for comments on something so hurtful and sensitive. I wish you all the best and your strength will carry you through.

  211. I am really sorry for you…it is humiliating and no one should have to go through this much less publicaly…Lay low, be away with your children , it will blow over…you really deserve better…

  212. Oh sweetie, my heart hurts so badly for you. Your plate is most definitely full. You need some space. Time to think. I lost my beautiful 24 year old son 2 1/2 years ago. Losing him, put everything in perspective for me. The death of a child is something no one could ever imagine. Some days it just doesn’t seem possible that he is gone and then the reality sets in, that he will never walk through my front door ever again. That I will never hear him say, hi mom. Life is too short not to forgive. If you want your marriage, than fight for it. Your life and the ones you love, is so valuable.

  213. I am so sorry Meghan. You nor your beautiful kids deserve this. My heart goes out to you. I am praying for you. Hang. In there. God Bless

  214. Hi Megan,

    I’m so very sorry that this has happened. You do not deserve it.

    If you decide to stay with him, you must move forward somehow and not dwell on the past. That is really difficult to do, some may say impossible. But you are strong. You have your 3 beautiful babies to give you strength.
    Hopefully Jim has realized how lucky he is to have you.

    Take Care,

    Linda

  215. I am so deeply sorry that he did this to you and those babies. I’m praying for you to heal and move on , however you chose to move forward. 💚🙏

  216. Meghan,

    I’m so sorry that you are going through this. You’re going to be ok no matter what. Keep your chin up. You’re not alone.❤️

    Anastasia

  217. I’m so so sorry you are dealing with this. It was good to get it out. You make a good point. He needs to see a counselor, to find out why why why he would risk everything for something so stupid. It’s some kind of guy thing but damn it you dont deserve it. Please make him see a counselor then you guys go together. I am sorry. But you can recover you can move on . Maybe you’ll never trust the same again, but thats not your doing….its his.

  218. This broke my heart. I’m so sorry you have been put into this horrible situation. If I remember from the show, you have a big and tight knit family- lean on them.
    You have a lot of people you don’t even know who are rooting for you and are hoping for your happiness- in whatever form that comes.

    Good luck and take very gentle care of y our extremely bruised heart.
    Xo
    Meg

  219. My heart goes out to you ♥️Be strong and my true saying is when one door closes another opens so make sure you never lock that door.

  220. Awe my prayers go out to you Meghan. I can feel your pain- my ex was messaging women on the internet so I understand the betrayal. I don’t know what your religious beliefs are but look to a higher power for peace and hope. For me- I read, read, read different books, I would google whatever I was feeling to read articles on betrayal and avoidance and cheating etc. just to try and get some understanding on a situation that made no sense. Peace may not come for a long time but focus on you and taking care of you. Keep crying it out! None of this is your fault rather it’s his shit that he needs to work on and figure out. You keep staying faithful to yourself and those babies and everything will work out in your best interest. Sometimes terrible things happen so something more beautiful can come from it. During the most painful times is when growth can happen. I hope that you can find peace and hope admidst the pain your walking through. You don’t deserve this but time will heal. From one mama to another… XO

  221. I’m sorry.
    You have a huge decision to make.
    Can you live with and have a happy life be a happy person for your kids with him around?
    Go to the ocean Atlantic or Pacific to a house on the beach for the entire summer then decide.
    I’d go to the Atlantic coast. It’s simpler there. And good doctors for kids in Boston.

  222. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. No one but you can decide what choice you make. People will say leave but again it’s your choice! I hope you two can work it out. You have 3 beautiful babies who need both of you. People make mistakes and sometimes they are ugly hurtful mistakes. I know a couple people close to me chose to stay and they are making it work through lots of counseling but they did it and have stronger marriages by doing so. I will keep you in my thoughts! ❤️

  223. Oh Meghan…so wise at a young age. You are so right in directing your feelings to the one YOU know and have put trust in. Forget about the scum out there in the world for it is only scum. You are surrounded by wonderful family and friends, lean on them during this time of need. Hold on to your words and write them down (maybe not share) but if you feel better sharing….share away. Pray, pray for your peace and strength. I unfortunately speak from experience. The pain is disgustingly deep…puke level pain. It feels like he emotionally raped you, took everything you had and dumped in the trash, like it meant nothing. I get it! BUT, I believe you can rebuild if both of you want to rebuild your relationship. It takes FAITH, counseling, and precious time. I will pray for you. PEACE! (Went to St. Gabe’s ’75, my mom was good friends with your grandma-bridge group)

  224. I love how YOU told YOUR story so the tabloids can be shut down with all the untruths. You are a good person who does not deserve this in life but don’t let it define YOU. I have faith that you and Jim will work this out and both become a stronger couple on the other side. It won’t be easy and will take time but let God help lead you. Many prayers to all your family.

  225. You have a beautiful head on your shoulders. You are entitled to your sadness. I’ll pray for you and your family.

  226. I’m so sorry to hear this, and hate that you have to endure this publicly. But you will get through this, and will come out the other end a better, stronger person–whatever the outcome. You are such an amazing mom, focus on that! Money, houses, cars all come and go, good/solid/valid relationships don’t. Focus on who is there for you during your most difficult time, and take as much time as you need to get through this.

  227. Beautifully written. I feel your pain and feel terrible for you. God bless you and your family

  228. Praying for you and your babies. And for him to find out why he did this and not to repeat. My heart hurts for you.

  229. Meghan hang in there things will get better….concentrate on your children they need you more….Have been there so I know what you are going through….It takes time but you will get stronger….You and your children are in my prayers….

  230. Oh marriage is hard as hell. Forty yrs later it does get easier. Hang in there you can forgive and the bad memories do fade-away a little at a time.

  231. Oh Meghan! My heart breaks for you and your family! I hope with time you and Jimmy get back to your happy place and that your son Hart gets well and doesn’t have this disorder. Even though I have never met you, I have seen you in the public eye, watched you in TV, are you are so open, uplifting and an inspiration for all women. Stay strong beautiful!

  232. Hang in there. I hope you can work things out if that’s what you want. Congratulations on the babies.

  233. Megan,

    My husband and I went through the almost exact situation in 2016. It took a lot of work and 14 months of counseling to get to the bottom of the real issue in our Marriage. We did it though and are marriage is better for it l. It still is work every day but we know we love each other and we start there. I can feel your anger as mine was 3 years ago. I applaud you for wanting to try and recover from the this. I know all to well the strength you’re going to have to find to do it. The sun will shine again. I watched RHOC and follow you on social media. I think you’re a great mom and wife from the outside looking in. Hang in there!

    Lindsey Lobenstein, Wisconsin
    sweetrn32 on insta

  234. Hopefully he can figure his shit out and you can heal. Prayers for your son… and your neck! That’s a lot all at once.

  235. She made broken look beautiful
    and strong look invincible.
    She walked with the Universe
    on her shoulders and made it
    look like a pair of wings.
    Ariana Dancu

    I’ve been there. You aren’t alone. We will overcome.

  236. Meghan, I am so sorry you’re going through this. Please know you are not alone. Right now may seem like the darkest time of your life. I’m here to tell you it can get better. But it will take some work from both of you. I’ve been in your shoes, in this situation. It was 14 years ago, but today our marriage has never been stronger. I think, for me, although terribly sad and hurtful, my husband’s transgressions brought forth an understanding…a lesson…a teachable moment. Our communication opened up through the pain. We became closer. It took a while to trust again. It’s not immediate. Lots of tears and anger, but if you both love each other, you can get through this. I know I’m a complete stranger, but I am a woman and a mom who has felt your hurt and cried your tears. Peace to you. Hug your babies. Be with friends and family and let other women raise you up. My heart goes out to you. ❤

  237. Meghan i feel ur pain, i was in ur shoes 8 yrs ago! Its not something that u can shrug it off, it takes time!!!! U might get passed it but i found til this day when hubby is off, i get that sinking feeling again. I dont think men know , like really know what we do in our day, kids, schools, groceries, pay bills, laundry, our regular jobs and if we get a few spare minutes, we still dont do enuff!!

  238. I feel your pain, anger, confusion etc. Ive been right where you are. At 6 months pregnant with a 2nd daughter that we tried for my ex husband cheated…with a then 18 year old coworker. My husband was the manager of one of the stores his family owned. We were in the middle of remodeling our 1st house together. So I did what I thought I was supposed to do to keep my family together. I stayed. I fought. I fought for him to stay to keep a father in the home for my girls. For 5 more years I fought. Then after more cheating was uncovered I left. I fought. He didnt. He caved to self entitlement. $52,000 owed now in back support. Im in debt $50,000 with debt and student loans so I could fight for a better life. I fight. Every day. My kids now have abandonment issues, ptsd, anxiety. I fight still. My kids are now 19 and 16. Parents who cheat will never change. The ones who do are rare. Cheating in any format destroys not the cheater but those closest to them. I drown. Ive contemplated suicide from feeling the very low of lows. But then he wins. Everyone says get over it. Move on. Hes not going to change. But how can people tell you that? They arent you. They dont feel as I do. They dont get it. Ive done counseling. It helps but I havent healed and i dont know if i ever will. Im still 11 years later fighting. Internally. I wish you nothing but internal peace. Be blessed you have those 3 precious beings who will always make you smile. The money and fame mean 0. Your children mean everything. Its the one thing you can thank him for…….God bless 💜

    1. I hope you can empower yourself to move forward for you and your children’s sakes. Life can be beautiful even during struggles. Don’t let his weakness take that beauty away. There are so many people that would give anything for one more day with their loved ones or so many women that would love to be able to have a child to raise. Look at all of your blessings and work through your struggles.

  239. My ❤️ hurts for you. I wish the best for your family. And your boy is in my prayers! So sorry Megan

  240. I’m sorry to hear about this Meghan (if you see these comments). Also sorry to hear about the potential health issues of one of your precious boys. I’ll keep you & your family in my prayers.

  241. I am so very sorry for your pain. I am sending you a big hug because it sounds like you really need one. You have every right to feel sad because what you are going thru is very sad. I am sorry your husband made the stupid choices that he did. They were incredibly STUPID! You alone can decide what you want to do. But right now, your precious son needs your attention and I am so sorry that you and he have to go thru this awful time. I will pray that he comes out of this happy and healthy. Best of luck to you. You will be in my prayers.

  242. I’m sorry to hear this. I wish you the best. You seem like an amazing mother and wife. Whatever you do, it will be right for you and your kids.

  243. Meghan, I was you 28 yrs ago. I had small baby and I found out my husband cheated me. Before pregnancy, during pregnancy and after pregnsncy.
    When I was trying recover my labour he was fucking someone else.
    After yrs of marriage.
    I have always admire you in the show. Your loyalty, your strickness, your truth, the way you think motherhood.
    via show I m sorry, I did not like your husband at all.
    He did not treat you well. Not nice. Not lovingly.
    But I saw your efforts how much you tried. All the time.

    I dont know how is your life now, but pls believe me, If you have any doubts from him, any wonders inside you, listen that voice.
    I know you want to keep family together, sometimes its not worth it. Not, if you suffer, if you always be abandon, left alone with your needs and dreams. Treated as now.
    Pls listen that voice. Many times we woman want to believe in love. We want to cure man with our love. But it never ever succeed if man is like Jim.

    I dont see any real love his behavior. He treats you nasty. Belueve all these women who say same.
    We see it outside.

    Some marriages are not ment to be lifetime. Im sure you will find that man who look you with love in his eyes. Dont waste you life.
    And kids… they will always see the truth. Do you want your sons grow up seeing how men treat women? Or you daughter seeing how women malest by men?
    Despite my words its you who deside. We women feel the truth inside but we dont listen it bc kid and hopes.
    Listen yours now.
    Love angelina

  244. Girl yes! Coming from a woman whos husband has cheated, but used the “ it wasn’t physical” excuse it doesn’t change the pain. My husband has been married 4 times and I had hoped I would be the last. Unfortunately it seems these men tend to always run when things get hard or their ego isn’t stroked hard enough. They turn to the filth willing to jump in and be the new toy. I hope you are able to work through it and if you aren’t I hope you are able to move on. I pray that Hart is healthy and you are strong. You are amazing and powerful!

  245. I too suffered betrayal! Our marriage survived, but it took time! A LOT of time! But now, we are stronger than ever!! I’ll be praying for you!

  246. Praying for you. Praying for your family. It’s not going to be easy at all, but I trust in you to do what’s right for you first, then for your family. Sending love your way ♥️

  247. I know exactly what you are going through. My husband had an affair 3 years ago and I haven’t been the same since. I wish I could be a stronger person. I wish I. Did not rely on alcohol to get me through the bad days. Thank you for sharing your story

  248. So well written! You are so beautiful inside and out, you will get through this and grow from it. You deserve the world, and those kids do too! Praying for you.

  249. It takes one day at a time to heal. Whether that is with him or without isn’t a decision you have to make alone. Counseling helps. Depending on your religious beliefs will tell you if you need a pastor or a licensed professional. Take your time. Don’t rush it. Writing helps. Whether it’s blogging or Journaling, it helps. Prayers for clarity.

  250. Been there honey! Take the space and time that you need to heal. Cry if you need too! Yell if you need too! Take care of you!

    My husband and I sought counseling after an infidelity and it took time, but God is helping to repair what’s been broken. I will be lifting your family up in prayer!

  251. Hi Megan I’ve been through this as well. It nearly broke me but I’ve watched you on the Real Houswives your strong, fiesta you will find a way.
    Just take some advice look after yourself
    Jenny UK

  252. I watched you since OC Housewives. I’m so sorry that you’re going through this hurt and sadness. You have been greatly betrayed. You’re a good person, wonderful mother, wife, step-mother and friend. You’re a strong woman. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. You will heal from this trauma with time. I went through a trauma too twelve years ago. I recovered, and God has blessed me. I put Humpty Dumpty together again. It’s up to you how you want to go forward. I would seek professional help to decide. Pray, cry and know that God is with you.
    Your baby boy will be ok. You’ve got this. 🙏🏻

  253. I am sorry you are going through this. You stated your feelings perfectly in this blog post. The big house, new car, and money does not mean a thing if your life is based on a lie. I hope Jim makes the choice to 100% commit to the marriage, you, and the children. The beautiful life you two created together is too good to give up on.

  254. I went through the same thing! And someone to me ” it’s your life whatever decision you make for your family it’s tour decision, nobody else will live your life only you. ” Hope the best for you and your family. Also hope everything getts better for your son.

  255. My heart breaks for you Meghan. I will pray, I am praying for you now. You are strong, beautiful and deserving! This is not on you but in him. God has you in the palm of his hand. Focus on your children and on our creator. He has a perfect plan for your life. Hold on…you got this! 🙏🏼

    First time I have ever sent a message to someone I don’t know but I felt God led. God bless.

  256. Omg gut wrenching – you don’t deserve any of this and I pray you will get the strength – the strength to forgive if even possible; the strength to leave if need be and the strength to get through the difficulties with your son. Your friends and family and all your bloggers will be here for you – one day at time – one step at a time – with love

  257. I understand your pain. Betrayal on any level is hard to understand. No one can tell you how to feel or what to do next. You are a strong woman, even though you don’t feel strong right now. Trust in your marriage has been broken and only the two of you can figure the way forward. Please know that you will be in my prayers. I apologize for intruding into this situation.

  258. Hi Meghan,
    Reading this entry literally ripped my heart out for you. I am SO SORRY.
    I want you to know, I HEAR YOU, I SEE YOU, I FEEL YOUR PAIN.
    I was married to a man for 23 years, I have been divorced for 7. I recently became aware that he has been stealing from me for all 7 of those years, deducting amounts from my Alimony for ‘bills I owed’ & trying to sell our marital home out from under me. I feel as though I have NEVER KNOWN this man at this point, so I GET IT.
    I admire your honesty, strength & resilience.
    You WILL get through this. You will come out a SURVIVOR & you will THRIVE.
    Take good care of yourself & remember, Self love is the most IMPORTANT love in your life.
    Blessings to you & your beautiful children always-
    Nicole Buckner

  259. Sweet Meghan- That was raw and hard to read. And I’m just a “fan” not directly impacted whatsoever. So I can’t even pretend to know how you deep the wound is. I do think you will come out of this stronger, better..just different. Tackling this head on and not sticking your head in the sand will get you to the solution.

    Hang in there! I’m sending positive energy your way and a prayer or two or three.

    Hugs,
    Dixie Van Landingham

  260. I just want to hug you. I’m so sorry. I hope everything will be okay with Hart. Marriage is tough but that is unacceptable. I hope you’ll be able to find your happiness again, however you choose. I’m praying for you.

  261. Meghan, we are with you beautiful, sweet lady. This does not define you in anyway but reflects your courage and strength. We love you. Your family are in our prayers. I hope Jim realizes how very lucky he is to have you and spends the rest of his life trying to deserve you.

  262. I feel so bad for you right now. My heart is just breaking for you because I have been through the same thing and it is so hurtful. Being cheating on is something you never really get over. You are very brave for sharing this and for dealing with the tabloids head on. You are so right that you have done nothing wrong!! Always remember that. He made the choice to make a bad decision. Stay strong and do what your heart allows you to do.

  263. So sorry Meghan- you’re strong enough to handle all of this. One day at a time as they say, keep your head up.

  264. Dear Meghan,
    I am so very sorry that this happened to you. You did not deserve it.
    When my husband and I watched RHOC a few years back, before you were pregnant, upon seeing how your husband interacted with you, his constant dismissal of you, his annoyance of you, my husband mentioned that there would be zero doubt in his mind that he was already cheating on you or would be soon. You can’t tell me you did not see this behavior as well. Again, YOU did nothing to deserve it, but there are definitely tell-tale observations. Please be aware and protect yourself in the future.

  265. Sometimes people just suck. They suck out of weakness. Be sad, be mad. Just be what you need to be for this moment. Shitty way to test your strength but you will be stronger in the end. Take care of you.

  266. My heart aches for you… people say I can’t imagine what you are going through… and they can’t. Only those of us that have had to live through it. My husband cheated…. while we were going through a very stressful legal trial of his doing, with a toddler at home and I was pregnant for our second babe. Our son was born needing immediate surgery and 5 more to follow, he stayed “for me” until the surgeries were complete then continued on his way with the slimy one. I made it, one day, one minute, sometimes one breath at a time. There is no advice to give, just keep breathing because I’m telling you some days that’s all you will be able to accomplish. Just breathe❤️

  267. Meghan I am so sorry to hear about this! You do not deserve any of this. Coming from someone who has been cheated on before, it is the worst feeling in the world. But you have been a role model of mine since your days on RHOC. You are strong and reliant! I know you can get through this! There is always light at the end of the tunnel.. keep your head up!

  268. My heart hurts for you. I have been broken like this before and can only say that you will come out of this – changed – but you will see the other side. I pray for you.

  269. You said it yourself. It’s only been 36 hours. Give yourself some space and time to heal and reflect on how YOU want to move forward. I am sorry you are dealing with this. Hugs and good vibes to you.

  270. My heart aches for you! Thank you for being so vulnerable and always using your platform to help others. No one can tell you what do or how to feel. The right thing is what is best for you and your beautiful family as none of us walk in your shoes. We can be hear to listen, learn and support you in a positive non-judgmental way. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

  271. How dare he embarrass you like this. Thank you for your honestly. Will pray for you and your lovely children. You have matured into a wonderful mother, too bad the same can’t be said for their father. Shame on him!!

  272. I’m so sorry. You don’t deserve this. Trust is a very precious thing. I hope you can find it again in your husband.

  273. Ive been here sister. You arent alone. Your words are beautiful and so true. There is hope, I am living proof. Hugs, kisses, tears and prayers to you, beautiful daughter of God!

  274. It’s ok to be feeling all those feelings . Your doing a great job and are a great mom and wife . Whatever you decide to do it will be ok I do know this !
    Thanks for being so transparent through your difficult situation . It’s nice to see transparency for once! Keep praying and moving forward don’t stay in that same spot and if you decide to stay together and forgive don’t hold him in that same spot day to day because that will do nothing but destroy your chance of true happiness! All the best to you and your family . Sincerely , Tara

  275. I’m sorry bout your Heartbreak! U really don’t have to heal u can forgive and b at peace with it, but reality is things r never the Same!!! How could one do that with such a Beautiful caring Wife, what is it he was After? Such a hateful thing to Do! We love U ♥️ Dont take No Shit!!

  276. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! YOUR ARE AMAZING!! YOUR ARE DESERVING OF ONLY THE BEST!!! YOU Meghan Edmonds LOOK IN THAT MIRRIOR AND SAY I AM WORTH SO MUCH MORE!!! Your babies know your hurting as well as those who love you the most. It isn’t fair that you and your kiddos have to deal with all the pain. Jimmy needs help in someway, BUT you need to realize truly that it is ALL him….. NOT YOU!
    Please now that I will be praying for you, the situation at hand and for your adorable son. May GOD bring you peace of mind and you feel his comfort and warmth at all times.
    Xoxo – mom of 5

  277. I’m sorry you are having to go through this!
    You are right, it isn’t fair!
    If you don’t have a psychologist that you can meet with weekly all to yourself, find one!
    Seriously I know they will help you figure out why someone would chest in this manner.
    From my own experience of severe abuse in my childhood and up to age 28 (I’m 58 now),
    I know that before I started with the best psychologist ever (my opinion), I had no idea why I would self sabotage. I’m not giving him a “ get of guilt free” card. However, I did things not knowing why or even how to stop.
    Thankfully, now married 28 years, I’ve managed not to cheat and am learning why I wanted to in my last marriage.
    You are a wonderful woman and mom!
    Please start with helping yourself and find a psychologist you can trust and connect with.
    It’s not always the first one you meet, but there are great ones out there!
    Also, look on Youtube and check out Kati Morton.
    I watch her station in between visits to my therapist.
    Hang in there!

  278. I’m so sorry ‘ life can be very hard ‘ but you didn’t make the bad choices ‘ he did ‘ We are all here to learn ‘ we grow the most in Pain ‘ if your husband has pain ‘ over his bad choices pain of what he’s done to you ‘ his entire family ‘ he may eventually grow from it
    My advice is once the sting of it all isn’t burning as much ‘ like it is today ‘
    Get into therapy together ‘ and get to the bottom of yours and his feelings ‘ unfortunately so many men feel the need to behave in crazy ways ‘ without even thinking of the harm it can do ‘ yes they are both guilty ‘
    But you need not be his mommy asking him why ‘ let him find that reason on his own ‘ we cannot fix others they must fix themselves
    just focus on your beautiful kids .. and take one day at a time 💜 prayers for you and your little one ‘

  279. Marriage is work every.damn.day. As someone who’s marriage has been to hell and back and survived I know if you put the work in yours can too.
    Just put one foot in front of the other!
    Sending love and prayers!
    Xo

  280. Stay strong for your beautiful children. I’ve been through it pregnant after struggling for so long to conceive. I will tell you there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Let yourself cry and feel all the feels and you’ll get through it. Your a mother, we always come out on top <3

  281. Meghan I’ve never respected you more. Yours is the first honest and honorable disclosure I’ve ever seen. And you place responsibility right where it belongs. Hold your head high for yourself and every other woman who has been in your shoes but was too afraid to stand up against wrong.. you are a hero!!!!!

  282. So sorry Meghan. I understand very well how you feel. Wishing you the best … healing, clarity and wisdom to make the right decisions for yourself and your family, at the right time.

  283. I’m so sorry you’re going through this heart wrenching pain, especially when you ha e little children to care for. God bless you and may he give you strength and perseverance, during these trying times. I really hope things work out for you, in the best personal way. And when I say you I mean just that! It is you and your life and your children that deserve the most utmost care. Take this time to concentrate on your life and your future ahead. Make time for your children, even though you are silently suffering. God will guide you in the right directions, just ask him for his help and he will give you the answers you need to move on, whether it is with or without Jim. No one deserves this kind of treatment. Think through this carefully and try not to put blame on yourself. You have done nothing wrong! You are a beautiful and intelligent woman, who has been mistreated and deceived. You need to know in your heart that you will be ok, with your children, family and friends. Eventually, you will see the light at the end of the tunnel and you will have the confidence to walk through that tunnel. You will find yourself again. God bless your son and may things go well for him too. You are all in my prayers.

    Tammy McCarron Elsner

  284. I’m so sorry this happened to you, my heart utterly hurts for you. Yes, healing will take time , and whatever you decide people will always judge but you must be strong and have faith & trust in the Lord. I will be praying for you and you’re family.
    God Bless you during this time ❤️🙏🏻

  285. I am so sorry Meghan, I don’t know what it is that makes people think the grass is always greener and to do such things. My god if you have a stable home and a spouse and children that love you, listen up, it’s not going to get better than that. I don’t know why people always need to search for more when it’s been proven time over and again that it never really makes them happy. I will not tell you to leave or stay, that is none of my business nor anybody else’s, the decision you come to will be the one that’s best for you and your children . And as a mother of twin boys myself, one of whom has autism, I do understand that roller coaster of emotions too. I will pray for you, I will pray that you remain strong and get where you need to for you and your children.

  286. Strong words Meghan. I’m really proud of you for sharing this and being so vulnerable. I think a lot of women will take this to heart.

    Much love from Nebraska

  287. Oh Meghan, I’m so heartbroken for you. I don’t have the words to comfort you or let you know how much I care, & so many other people too. It’s so hard at any stage of life but with three sweet babies & health issues for your little guy, it’s just too much. Bits of advice to help you get through this: Accept help and care from friends & your family. Take care of yourself & try to keep food down, it may be hard. You may want to stay home & hide (cry) but if need be, see your doctor for help when you feel emotionally overwhelmed. I hope you can get back to the love you shared & get back on track but either way, you are strong & smart & will land on your feet. Hugs, prayers and positive thoughts ❤️ & Baby hugs really do help. Susie

  288. You will come out of this stronger than you evee thought you could possibly be, I can promise you!!!!!! My husband cheated on me while I was in the hospital with my premature son in the neo natal unit!! We survive for our children…that’s what makes us mothers

  289. Megan,

    You are an amazing woman and mother. You did nothing to deserve this and that is the most heartfelt, open and honest response a person could share. And it’s a feat to even be able to share it. You will be sad for a time, but your wounds will heal. I hope you can forgive him but that should be the last thing on your mind right now. Focus on those beautiful babies, and we will all pray for you all and that Hart is healthy and will be alright. God has a plan. You are a strong woman. I hope you can find some peace in this mess.

    Good luck!

  290. You are strong. You can over come this. Your an amazing mother. Whatever is going on with Hart you will overcome. No matter what we all support you.

  291. Hi Meghan, I’ve been through this and with much hard work and Godly intervention were able to reconcile. If you need to talk please reach out ❤️ Praying for you, I feel your pain.

  292. Praying for you! You do what is right for you and your kids and DO NOT let others tell you your decision is wrong. No one has walked in your shoes no one knows your heart no one knows jimmys heart. Humans fail but there is hope and there is forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you give up on your marriage it also doesn’t have to mean you stay. Don’t make any fast decisions about the future and except nothing less then you deserve. You are a strong smart person who will do what is right for you and your kids whatever that is. Healing takes time it can be done. Give yourself that time

  293. Big hugs to you. Xxx
    What do I know about marriage, I’m divorced?!!…
    Time does heal tho, if you love one another fight for it xxxx

  294. Meghan I loved reading this. Your response was perfect. I am much older than you and more his age and I have been with a lot of narcissist acting men. Just remember your worth and what you deserve. I saw how he spoke to you on camera and felt bad for you. However I have been with similar men and make excuses for them. I am not saying leave him, but at the end of the day always know your worth and what you deserve!

  295. I commend your bravery to share your feelings at this time. I pray for your son and your family to heal from all of this and I hope your husband try’s every damn day to win your trust back. Either way you will survive and continue to be strong . Tomorrow is a new day and each will get better after that . Do what makes YOU HAPPY in the end .

  296. Wow. I’m just absolutely speechless. You’re a beautiful person both inside and out!! We don’t know each other but I’m currently going thru the same thing!! Say whatever you need to say, don’t hold back. He needs to take it and accept responsibility. Stay strong sissy!! 💗

  297. Hugs!!! I was put in a similar position a few years ago when my husband decided to confess to me inappropriate behavior he had On a business trip. Do I really believe nothing happened? I can’t say that 100%. I feel like our relationship is a great example of a piece of paper that you tear the corner off and then tape it back on , it might look OK but there still that rip in it. I love him with all my heart we’re still together but it makes me sad when I think about it also. I was sad for a good year or more. I still get sad thinking about it. Just wanted to say that I understand and I’m sending hugs your way.

  298. I am so sorry that at a time in your life where you should be enjoying every single second, you have to deal with this situation that you did not create. As hard as it may be try to keep your time and thoughts occupied with your three gifts. Do not give away this precious time. These years with your babies fly by and can never be turned back. Everything else will work itself out and if not at least you made the very best of every second with your kids and you will have no regrets. Stay positive and focused it will pass. Keeping you in my prayers.

  299. I lived your sad reality. It happened to me when I was pregnant with our first child. I stayed – hoping, praying, believing it COULD change. At 45, 26 years and two more kids later, and many, many, many affairs later, I finally left. My adult children tell me they wish I had left early on. They were hurt and embarrassed over and over, and still. I wish I had left after the first time. These men don’t change. They cannot change. It is not in their dna. Leave. You have family and friends who love and value you. There is a man in your future who will love and value you. Leave. He’s one of the slimy ones. They don’t change. I’m sorry you’re sad and I ache for you. Leave. The next time will be worse. There will be a next time. You’re 100% right, you don’t deserve this. Your children don’t deserve it. Leave.

  300. Wow! You’ve expressed yourself in the most eloquent way, and you deserve all the respect in the world. Your words…man oh man – they resonate in such a profound way. You are truly a class act. It will get better, and whatever the result ends up being, you/the relationship/both will be stronger for it. ps – of course you won’t be humiliated by this – there is nothing whatsoever for YOU to be humiliated by. Your soul is entirely in tact – you are a beautiful human (inside and out).

  301. I am so sorry Megan. I watched you and adore you. You are a truth seeker. You are strong, beautiful, and very smart. So happy to hear you knownthis really is aboutnhim and not you! Keep crying if you have to. Do whatever it takes to make it to the other side. Take your time, you will figure out the relationship. Love those babies ❤️ Ps I have been there

  302. Meghan, I am so truly sorry about what your husband has done to you. Just remember you are a beautiful human inside and out and loved by so many! You’re an amazing mama and your kids will forever love you and Look up to you in more ways than one. You are not defined by his actions. Although, it is 100% ok to be sad and be hurt- you’re allowed to grieve and take all the time the need you need to be able to heal at your own speed. There’s going to be a light at the end of this tunnel. I’m too going through a difficult time, but I promise it gets better! Keep your head up girlfriend!

  303. I’m so sorry for you. I went throug a very similar situation and know how difficult it is for you. My heart breaks for you and all the other women in this situation. It’s been 12 years for me, yet when I read your blog it feels like it was yesterday. Hold your children close and allow yourself to grieve. Sending you my love.

  304. Meghan my heart is with you! Your words are also what I needed to hear. “Not defined by this”. My husband cheated after I gave birth in the same way. Via text with a ex. Almost 3 years later I still don’t trust him, I got very depressed but we are still together. You are right marriage is work every damn day and now you will have new work. To try and repair and forgive. You are so strong and I am always inspired by your wonderful heart, words and gratitude. You are a fantastic loving mother. You are enough and wonderful just as you are. You are brave for sharing and posting this just know your true fans will help hold up your heart during this time.

  305. Whatever it is that you ultimately decide for your marriage and family, I hope you do it knowing your full worth as a woman, mother and wife. You are so brave to be sharing this all publicly and stronger than you realize now. Take all the time you need now to heal and lean on your supporters, that is what they are there for. Time away from your kids now to focus on the issues will lead to a stronger Mommy that will once again be able to fully focus on them. You deserve peace and happiness too.

  306. Hi Meaghan! When I saw something about this on Facebook I didn’t finish reading it because I thought it was fake. I’m sorry this has happened to you. I went through the same thing your going through. I found out when I was cleaning house and went to move my husbands computer. He had forgot to log out of his email with his girlfriend.

    It’s hard but if you both want to fix what happened it can work. Don’t let him or anyone tell you what to do or how to feel. This is up to you.
    I’ll be praying that you somehow find peace with what happened.
    Take care,
    Rhonda W
    Clearwater florida

  307. Stay strong as you are, but allow yourself to feel sad, too. You deserve whatever you want to feel. Your babies still have their wonderful mother, even if you don’t feel as yourself for now. Don’t beat yourself up about that. They are young and they’ll feel your love no matter what. Lots of love your way. Thank you for sharing to mothers who can relate.

  308. Thank you for sharing. I too am going through similar and it is not easy one bit. Betrayal is wrong. I am as loyal as they come! And my one request to my husband is that if he ever felt the need to betray and cheat..leave! Don’t do my heart wrong like that. The worse part of our story is she was my friend, our sons were best friends. That all ended and I can’t explain to my 10 year old why he can’t see his best friend. It’s a living nightmare. This is no reflection of you and who you are. Stay strong, those babies need you. I’m praying for your healing heart. I’m not one to comment on “famous” peoples stuff, but this touched me in a way I can’t explain. Just today I found more stuff my husband has done. It’s so hard. But we are woman, we are born strong. And their wrongs will only diminish their self worth, while ours will grow over time. ♥️ I hope this comment is private and for your eyes only. Lol!!! Hang in there!

  309. You are very brave for posting this and you are absolutely correct. You did nothing wrong and do not deserve this. Stay strong and focus on you and you
    r adorable kids! Dont be concerned with anyone else’s negativity!!

  310. I’ve been there and the pain doesn’t go away. It only makes you stronger. Your words were beautiful and you will make it through this. Prayers for peace and strength.

  311. Meghan, I cannot begin to Imagine what you’re going through. I’m sorry.

    I obviously, do not know anything about your little guy. My son is Autistic, diagnosed at 4YO. It was beyond hard for us to admit he was delayed, and on the spectrum. However, I’ve devoted every day to making sure he gets services, and anything he needs to grow in every aspect.

    Therapy helps immensely! Throw all of your remaining strength and energy into your children. especially your little guy that needs whatever service or therapy to help him grow in every way!

    Hugs to you!

  312. Once a cheater, always……………………….If he cheated during your PREGNANCY, NOTHING will stop him in the future. Shame on him. It’s really disgusting that he would do that to you. You need to leave him. He’ll never earn your trust again and without that, you two have nothing. So sorry but it’s true. He doesn’t deserve you or his kids.

  313. Meaghan I feel for you and know that it will get better. Hope the best for you and most importantly your babies. I got to like you when you were on the RHWOC. Wis you the best

  314. Oh, I am so very sorry for you Meghan! Trust is very easy to lose and very hard to regain. I will pray for your beautiful little boy, I will pray for your marriage and I will pray for your family! It is completely unfair. You are absolutely right that marriage is a choice and you did absolutely nothing wrong and you don’t deserve this! Stay strong for your three beautiful children and for yourself! You are an amazing woman and I sincerely hope this turns out the way you want. More importantly, I hope your precious baby is ok!

  315. Wow. Meghan. That was written so well and from the heart. I’m so sorry that this happened…..my therapist told me a long time ago when I was dealing with something similar: u may not feel like eating, but just make sure u keep drinking water… Hahahah. Silly but true. Good luck.

  316. Meghan-

    I am so sorry this is happening to you!
    Bless you & your babies!
    You got this!
    Whatever your path- you got this!
    Don’t let his actions crush you!
    I have 6 Children- 3 Adopted with special needs, it can be hard but at the end of the day we get through it and I wouldn’t have it any other way!

    Hugs,

    Keri

  317. Stay strong mama. Allow yourself to heal in your own time x Nothing hurts more than being deceived by the one you love but you can both repair the damage over time.

  318. My heart is so heavy for you. I feel the pit in my stomach for you. I am so sorry. I don’t know what to say to make it better ( total stranger or dear friend) except that I am so sorry.
    Try not to drown in the emotions. For your own sake and the sake of your kids. When the going gets tough I am terrible at this – my emotions get the best of me. Just try to be aware of it. You and Hart and your family are in my prayers.

  319. Meghan:
    My heart breaks for you, as i share your pain in both my Ex cheating on me after 25yrs of marriage and also had been through medical crisis with two of my daughter’s. My eldest almost died on the OR table.
    This destroyed me. I am a simple person too, taking care of my girl’s, working & just living life. Yet on Christmas eve at my sister in law house i found out through my Mother in law with my husband sitting right there that he wanted a divorce. Out of the blue, literally blew me and my kid’s away!
    Next day he confessed that he had met someone and as time went by more info just kept coming out.
    In a split second your life is ripped apart. Nothing means anything anymore.
    I couldn’t feel anything i was numb.
    My Thoughts and Prayers are with you now and always❤🙏
    Just know that only you can make that final decision on your marriage.
    Don’t get caught up in the haters or the one’s that say stay for the children.
    Do what your heart tells you feels safe and right!
    I don’t know why men feel they need to do these sort of thing’s, if they only knew how it destroys our trust..faith..our very being in other’s. God Bless you and your children! My Prayers are also with your son & the doctor’s that they figure all of this out🙏🙏

  320. I know exactly how you feel.
    My husband did something so unimaginable I never thought he could do.
    My good old boy, my prince…
    A lady of previously divorced, domestic abuse in the first marriage, porn, drinking abuse, whored me out to his friends & family. I have triggers- now over 52 going thru menopause, lack low drive over the last few years, I caught my husband watching porn for close to three years. He words, I thought it would bring us closer, it would help us in the bedroom? I found three yrs worth of history on his computer 💻. How is that gonna help me or us. Especially times when I’m not home, or working in the yard, or out running errands, or in bed by myself? Men are selfish pigs. That want self gratification, bottom line it’s sex sex sex.

    1. And don’t forget !!! You are a wonderful wife, mom and stepmom. You are a terrific example to many women !!!!

  321. You deserve so much more. It isn’t that simple though and none of us have a right to judge. You have so much more to consider than yourself, you have your children and whatever is best for them and yourself is what you should do. Stay strong mama ❤️

  322. Meghan, I am praying for you. Praying for clarity, peace, and renewed confidence—whether in your stance, yourself, or your marriage. The rawness of your writing is vivid and I hope time brings you comfort.

  323. Wow, that got me in the feels. Stay strong. You deserve nothing but the best and you will rise above this. 💪🏽

  324. You are a strong woman and mother. That was beautifully written and I hope your heart heals and you get to a place that you are happy again, whatever that may mean.

  325. I have been in your shoes, except my husbands was a physical affair. It was the worst thing to go through. My 23 year marriage did not survive. But I will say this if he is willing to give you everything YOU need to work through this, give him that chance. You will most likely never trust him again but time does help that. Men are weak, it’s not an excuse but I know that they are. My heart is broken for you, I know this pain and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

    You are in my prayers.
    Kim

  326. Meghan,
    I wish I didn’t know exactly what you are feeling, but I do. I never understood what the word SORROW meant until my husband betrayed me not once, but twice, and for two years at least. We have five children so I swallowed my pride and lost myself in trying to make it work. It was mortifying and exhausting. Long story.
    My heart breaks for you. He chose to let some stranger disrupt your bond and penetrate into your safe family bubble. This was the hardest part for me. You may be able to forgive with time, but you will never forget and will never fully trust him like you did before. If I can offer any advice it would be that this is YOUR life and YOUR journey. Follow your instincts. I kept everything a secret and went it alone. It wasn’t healthy. If you have good people in your life who support you that’s great but use your therapist. There are things you will need their guidance on as you try to process and work through all of this. Especially with the added concern for your son.
    You seem so wonderful and I am sending positive vibes and will pray for you, your son and wish you peace! You will find your way.
    PS Find a silly comedy show or something that will make you laugh a little. It really is the best medicine! (May I recommend Schitt’s Creek?)
    Xoxo

  327. Meghan, so sorry to hear this.
    The LORD is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit –
    Psalms 34:18

    Matthew 11:28-30 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

  328. Meghan you are truly in my thoughts and prayers. This is so much for you right now. Hoping your family is helping you if nothing else, to clean the kitchen or just give you time to rest. You are strong, you are smart, and you are human. There is no need for you to keep up any social media stuff for a long time- we all have you and your heart in our positive thinking, and positive prayers. ❤️

  329. My husband cheated on me while I was pregnant. We had a 1 year old daughter and I was carrying our second child when I caught him. It destroyed me. It literally changed my dna. I cried for years as a broken person. I think because I had no idea that something like this was possible. This was 22 years ago and although I’ve moved on, I never really recovered.

  330. I am so sad to hear your pain, you truly don’t desythis at all. He should look at you and pinch himself in disbelief. You are an amazing wife and mother. The fact that he has someone next to him that is so loyal and beautiful makes me so mad! I know you have children and you want to make it work but it’s very hard to build the trust back. I wish you peace and strength in this hard time. Please keep us posted, sending you lots of love and blessings 💗💗💗

  331. Praying for Hart most of all! I have a child with an neurological disorder and believe me I know the all alone ugly cries. Deep breaths and focus on helping your baby get all the early intervention he can!

  332. Unfortunately Beautiful soul, its called arrogance (the Bill Clinton kind) . I pray for you, your children,,your entire family going forward. I’m a prayer warrior,I’m on this ✝️🙏…….Kathlyn Poncino

  333. Hang in there mama ♥️ Thoughts and prayers. Also for your little one, that alone is way to much to bear.

  334. Omg Meghan. My heart literally aches for you. I went through something similar (just emails no pictures ) but we are older and have grown kids . First I have to say your article is wonderful. What you wrote is just so clear and spot on. You have such a great head on your shoulders. Long story short, I moved out for two years but we kept seeing each other and I moved back in. Whatever you decide to do is your decision and yours only. Don’t listen to or read any garbage out there ! Take one day at a time I always think of Kathie Lee Gifford and what she went through and how she handled it. With grace and class. Showing exactly what you said : it’s not your fault , you did nothing wrong and you deserve the best . I’m praying for you and your children. Go to a good therapist if you’re not already. Just to have a 3rd party to talk to. Hang in there ! You have wonderful parents and siblings that are so supportive too. Wish you all the best xo.

  335. Pray for strength and take it day by day right now. My husband did same thing. The pain is unimaginable.
    Focus on those beautiful babies and don’t make any major life decisions for a while. Wait until the pain subsides, however long that takes.
    Look after yourself, talk to a therapist, councillor or some one who can guide you through this life struggle when you are ready.
    You will be happy again, it will take time and healing. And pick your own road, once you are ready to go forward down your new life path
    This world is wonderful, and you will see that again, I’m sure as you are a strong person. Sending you strength and healing prayers

  336. Prayers and positive thoughts. My ex husband did the same but more when I was pregnant with twins. One twin passed away. All I can say is stay strong for those beautiful babies and time will heal. I gave up the house etc everyone is different. I pray that God will guide you.

  337. You dont know me. I follow you cos you are YOU. I am thinking about you. Wrapping my heart around yours.

    Hart has a strong mummy. What ever comes his way he will be able to deal with his what hand life dealt, cos of you.

    Its okay to be hurt, sad, dazed and fuming mad. Each feeling brings us closer to the next step of accepting what has happened. Dark days will come and dark days will go but you have your rainbows to bring back the sunshine.

    Much love xx

  338. Healing is definitely a process and I’ve followed you though your journey with IVF (both times) and noticed Jimmy’s absence physically & emotionally.
    I didn’t put much merit into his disconnect from the situation as you have said many times “that’s his personality”, I trusted and believed that to be true…it was believable as everyone is different.
    My heart breaks for you, as I read your blog, my eyes filled with tears for you. I believed in you as a couple, and still do.
    You’re absolutely still raw over this and a lot of damage has been done.
    You can either choose to save your marriage or move on, on your own and grow from this.
    Either way: YOU’VE GOT THIS!!!!
    There is still a lot more crap that you will have to go through to get on the other side of this issue, but: YOU’VE GOT THIS!
    When all is said and done: YOU’VE GOT THIS!
    So be Sad, Mad, Grieve it to your final core!!!
    Only you know what to do, and damn anyone who judges you for it.
    YOU’VE GOT THIS MEGHAN KING EDMONDS 💕
    I pray for you and your family as you go through this difficult time.
    XO

  339. I am so sorry you are going through this.. just terrible.. my prayers for you to find some sort of peace and guidence.. look to God and just keep your beautiful children in your arms…❤

  340. I feel for you so much. As a woman who has experienced her husband having an affair, it is like no other. The betrayal is like no other. After 7 years post affair, I still think about it. I still hate him some days. We work at it every single day. I hate that you have to deal with this publicly. I didn’t want to tell my friends and family, let alone half the world! NOONE understands your position more than you. You are strong and brave, but don’t hesitate to lean on those close to you. You can take as much time as you need to decide what is best for you, whether you decide to stay married, or feel it’s too much and you have to part ways, that is your choice and no one else gets an opinion on that. You have 3 beautiful babies who need you and that is your focus. I wish you all the peace you can handle. It’s going to be a roller coaster, but just take it one minute at a time.

  341. Just wanted to say you do YOU, for you & then your children. They need a healthy mom, among many other things. Jim has to fix himself should he choose to do so. You cannot make that decision for him. It’s all about YOU. Sending you lots of positive juju from NorCal. 🙏🏻💗💗💗 You got this.

    XOXO
    – Cara

  342. Meghan, I don’t know you. But I’ve always liked you. I live in STL too. We’re all rooting for you and your kids. Hopefully you’re rough road ahead will lighten soon. Keep your head high.

  343. Meghan. Push for your marriage ! If you have proof there was no physical relationship. If you are not sure or he won’t tell you the truth. Take time to heal. With or without him. I am so sorry I will be praying for you

  344. Men are stupid creatures. How is it they have so much power in the world when they are such idiots!
    Focus on your kids and you. Grow them into respectful humans who don’t behave like that.
    He has to work his arse off to earn your trust again…but it will take time.
    You’re a great mum though…believe it.
    All the best from New Zealand!
    : )

  345. For whatever it’s worth you are right it doesn’t take two to cheat – he needs to figure out why he would do this. You remain strong and do what feels right for you and your family absolutely nobody has a right to comment. Love and hugs in this hard time. 🙏🏼

  346. I’m so sorry Meghan. At least you know. I was married to a high school athlete, entertainer , musician. He confessed to being like all men. He cheated the entire 43 year marriage. At least you know now. Fly free!

    Joellen

  347. I am so sorry. I too went thru something similar. My son was in children’s hospital for a solid 2 years off and on and his father was cheating on me with someone who was known as “the whore “ of our town. I found out I made him leave as I couldn’t look at his face . It took 2 1/2 months before I let him come back to the house and that was because my kids wanted their dad. It took baby steps but we survived it. Do I trust him now, yes 5 years later I can 100%. The fact he did this when I needed him most and our son needed him most I can’t get over. He knows my punishment was and still is he will never receive a blow job from me again or anyone else. I needed a lifetime punishment for that pain and he has it! We are as strong as ever too.

  348. I’m so upset for you. All I can say is maybe you need some time away to heal and work out what happens next.

    Me and my husband split for 10 years but I’m happy to say we’ve been back together now for 8 years and are planning to get re-married. The first marriage last 21 years and we have two children. Don’t give up, just take some time out and figure out how to overcome this awful situation. It’s not the end of the world, yet it feels very much like that right now.

    My heart goes out to you Megan. Stay strong, but if you feel weak, then let yourself be weak for a while, then strength will return. Weakness isn’t all bad, it can make you stronger, sometimes bad things happen and you must let your feelings happen. We are allowed to have all sorts of emotions, after all we are human beings. Don’t beat yourself up – be sad today, but pick yourself up tomorrow and work it out.

    I don’t know you and you don’t know me, but if you need a shoulder……..

  349. You have many frienda and fans who are fully supportive of you. I can’t imagine going through this, not to mention being in the public eye. Thank you for being open and honest. I think that is the best way to crush any rumors. We all feel for you and hope the best for you and your family!

  350. Surely this didn’t come as a surprise to you. My goodness are you dumb? I’ve been saying for years that he is cheating on you, especially when he goes on his business trips. He will be moving on to wife number 4 any time now. Hahaha you idiot!

  351. I am so sorry Megan. I can’t tell you how to feel but your blog is amazing. So true so right. I am shocked I can’t believe in this day and age he could be so dumb to think you would not find out. I wish I could give you a hug. I can’t imagine how hard it is to go threw this. You are an amazing person and you loved your family as you should but didn’t deserve this. I don’t know why a man is not smarter than even think it was ok for a moment or months. Why don’t they have more to lose than they think to not cheat. . Why do men get weak. Women don’t deserve it. You are an amazing mama to three beautiful babies and I know how hard it would be to even function While your heart is broken. The trust is something that it will take years to get threw it. . Take your time try to heal and figure it out. But now put yourself first. Lies and abandonment and dishonesty is all your feeling. Hope you have some help with your babies to have moments to yourself. I will pray for you everyday. Till your heart heals. Take care Debra Taber

  352. I am so sorry you are going through this. I don’t know you but you are determined and strong, or so it seems. Listen to yourself. Take the time you need to recover. And figure out what’s best for you/kids. Reach out to your friends and family. Forgive. Be happy. I am in St. Louis and am sending positive vibes to you. Wish I could give you a hug. 💝

  353. I’m so sorry you’re going through this right now. I can’t imagine the thoughts, feelings and anger that you are feeling. I hope and pray for you, your kids, and Jimmy. I admire your openness about your relationship and your courage to put it out there! Much love to you!!

  354. Girl,
    When I saw the article, I just felt sick for you. Every statement you wrote above was so truthful and open. You’re far more kinder than me. I know you’re hurting and the initial reaction is to crawl in a hole, but you are correct, you did nothing wrong. I pray for your hurting heart and your fragile marriage. I pray you can forgive and make an honest decision regarding your life. I wish I had magic words, but I do not, I will just pray and wish good will for you. I’m sorry 😔

  355. I wish I could remove this life shattering pain you are having to endure. You never really know anyone until they prove themselves under fire. I’m almost 70 and betrayal will always bring down the “ perfect” relationship. Please love yourself and your gorgeous children. Demand the truth. Take Care!

  356. Words cannot express how sorry I am for what you are enduring, but your courage, grace and dignity are evident and truly an inspiration to those of us who have endured the same thing.

    Sending you so much love and strength as you are faced with such a challenge, especially as you are dealing with Hart’s health issue. I will keep you in my prayers and have faith that all will be well, and you will rise and be an even better version of the lovely person you already are!

    Barbara

  357. I’m so sorry for your pain, especially when it’s made public! I will keep you in my prayers sweet girl! I do care and know there are many people out here that love and respect you! Love and hugs to you and your precious family!❤️

  358. Sending you love, strength, courage, and anything else you need to pull through. There is a place beyond this hurt, on the other side of the pain and anguish, that you will reach with time. Stay strong, and know that so many are rooting for you, and are there in spirit to lift you up.

  359. I am
    So sorry for what you feel. Life is not always as we think it will be- your heart and your words are the truth. Marriage IS a choice- and as time goes on whether you choose to stay or go with Jim- it’s a choice and he must make it as well. I am overwhelmed and amazed at your honesty and strength- just know you are a hero to so many who are so afraid to be honest about what lies behind the “smoke and mirrors”. You are wonderful. Chin up. You inspire me. Thank you.

  360. You are brave, you are strong. You did not deserve this. You are 100% correct about choices in life and we must rise above. In a marriage you choose not to have an affair. Temptation is part of life, it’s what you do with it that shows your true devotion. Thinking of you during this time and wishing you the best. You are a great wife and an awesome mother.

  361. I’m so truly sorry you’re going thru this…I’ve been cheated on too and it was awful and it took me time to forgive but I certainly did not forget. He’s apologized a thousand times but it did not make my heart feel better. All I kept thinking is why, why would he do that to me and to us. Two years later I feel it made us stronger and it made him realize how the grass is never greener on the other side. Hang in there, it’s so hard to get over it and you will be sad for a while. But it helps to talk it out with him and your closest ones. Sending you lots of prayers xo

  362. Take your time to do what you think is best. Turn off the comments section. No one walks in ur shoes. Been there, stayed and though he didn’t change so grateful I took my time so I would not have any regrets. Had to look at my babies and truthfully tell them I did every single thing I could to keep their fam together self care as much as u can- face cream, lots of love on urself ♥️

  363. There was something about him that was unsettling the first time he was on air with you. He showed a lack of support or attention to you. I am not shocked or surprised by his actions. I am sorry you have been hurt so badly by his selfish inclinations and that everything is exposed for all to see.

  364. Meghan , I have been there. I am not a “celebrity”. We were living in a small town. Everyone in my church knew my friends , family. I went into a deep depression .
    Hold on to your babies. Pray for strength . If Jim is willing to work on your marriage . Try to keep your marriage intact.
    Trust is so hard. But leaning on God will pull you through anything. God Blesss.

  365. I am I awe of you. And although I can’t relate, I can feel what you’re feeling because you are so great at putting it into words. So many are rooting for you although you are feeling so alone. I am sending you strength and comfort. No one deserves this. You will get through it. I believe you know this. Hugs.

  366. Big hug Megan please take care of yourself too. Mom’s forget to do that. I pray you son is healthy and they find out what is going on with him Tracy – XOXO

  367. In shocked. I am praying right now for you, your family,and your marriage. I hope Jim can make this right. I wish someone with the right words can comfort you. In the end , I can only depend on God. He is our Savior. I personally pray for my marriage to God and let Him transform him. We can’t control our husband. He is the father. Give it to Him. Have faith. It may sound foolish,but prayers work!! Huggies!!

  368. You are brave and strong and beautiful. I give you so much credit for putting this out there…not easy to do by any means. Do why is best for you and your kids. Much love.

  369. I am so sorry this is happened! It’s so sad . You have a beautiful family, amazing parents and siblings. Please rest find a good Christian church and heal. GOD loves all of us . He can heal your hurt , and HE can heal Jim who doesn’t love himself and they that live maybe Jim can charity you the way you need ! Take one day at a time for you , heal and don’t let anger get the best of you that you become bitter like Vicky your much to amazing to let that over come you. Your a wonderful person . This is about Jim and his ego that needs to be checked once he removed the self hate he has for himself he will treat others better. Unfortunately the Baseball life sets these people to be untouchable however they often kill things along the way and they need a reality check..
    heal sweet Meghan

  370. Your strength and perseverance are remarkable and empowering! I cannot imagine the pain you feel and how you hurt to the soul from this betrayal. All I can say is I am sorry. I know it does nothing for you but I truly hate this for you and your babies. Take time for you to clear your head and heart so you can get back to the best version of yourself for those beautiful babies! They love you as mommy UNCONDITIONALLY!!! Feel your feelings, masking them of hiding them will just prolong your pain! Those babies love YOU!!!

  371. I am in the same position at this moment, though my husbands affair was mostly emotional. I have been going through it. The crying eventually stops. You begin to heal, but you aren’t the same. I pray you have peace.

  372. Meghan, I’m so sad you are going through this. I’ve been there and made the “hardest” choice, I stayed and decided to make my marriage succeed. Some days I question everything and some days are wonderful. Wishing you peace and happiness. Prayers for your family.

  373. Sadly I’ve always thought Jim was your “slime-ball #1”. Take your kids and go to a healing place with love and support. Your kids just need you. Forget him. Call an attorney. Move forward. You are raising a young woman, show her how she should be treated and show your sons what they should never do to a woman. Be the example your husband is not.

  374. My husband did the same to me.. it’s been two years since I found out about the slimy one in his life. She was a “friend” of ours a bartender it’s unreal the defeat and betrayal you feel. You do you! Keep your head held high.. thank you for sharing your story. I know it’s not easy it’s almost a shameful feeling you get when you have to admit this and it wasn’t even your mistake.. Prayers for you and your sweet children..

  375. Your message breaks me because I know what it is to feel abandoned. It’s so lonely and I am hoping you can find some solace in all this. Maybe it’s just with your words but you are letting other people out there know they are not alone and sadly we all might go through something like this. It’s awful, it’s underserved, it doesn’t feel good but time will help you cope with this pain. Stay strong, ugly cry when you need to and be a great mother to your children. Rooting for you and hopefully you can heal from this trying time in your life. Thank you.

  376. I am so sorry you’re having to go through this…I truly feel for you. No one deserves to be lied to, humiliated or made to feel like they aren’t enough. What happens will happen, but just remember that better days will eventually come and you WILL make it through no matter how it turns out. You have family (luckily now, nearby) that will have your back no matter what decisions are made. Hold close to them. They will never let you down.

  377. Meghan
    I am praying for you. You will be ok. You are strong. You are bright. You are a survivor. I am a teacher and the grandmother of 2 special needs boys. You will be ok. Hart will be fine….I promise. He may not be the Hart you envisioned but he will be the Hart he was created to be. He will bring joy. He has a purpose. Look for it every single day. It’s up to your husband to make this right….if he can’t….then you need to do what’s right for you and those precious kids. Keep your chin up.

  378. I’m sad now too. I am married too. Last summer my husband of 17 yrs had a flirty thing with a woman who picked up his card at a party. It was all via text. We have two beautiful girls. How could he do this? How could your husband do this? The betrayal is real. But my eyes are opened to these crazy woman who have ZERO regard for marriage. Men are weak but these bitches are ruthless.
    I don’t trust most women and that is sad.
    Hugs to you Meghan…. love from Canada
    -Chris

  379. Every. Damn. Word. I have felt it for the last 5 years. I was a true and faithful wife for 10 years. A dozen deployments. A special needs child. And I’m still told it was my fault. If I was a better wife or better mother. It’s a lost blessing marriage. And I am forever ruined by the ideal of forever. My only advice, do whatever it takes to be the mother your children need. Unfortunately I work ridiculous hours and over time to take care of mine.

  380. Stay strong! Make sure your sons are not raised that way. I think even if it is 2019, a lot of men still do what they want to do. They need therapy but they don not want to do that. It is sad! I wish they were raised kinder

  381. My heart goes out to you. My sons father cheated on me as well when I was pregnant. The pain and humiliation and depression are only understood if you go through it. I would sit and cry on my floor when the baby was sleeping in the crib and pray to God that I will be strong enough to overcome some day. That day came when my son was three. I packed up and left. Never look back I would sit and cry on my floor when the baby was sleeping in the crib and pray to God that I will be strong enough to overcome some day. That day came when my son was three. I packed up and left. His cheating on me broke me in a way that just cannot be healed. I pray for you and hope that things work out for you the way you want them to be. God bless you and your children

  382. All I can say is, hugs. I hope you have a strong support network to help you through this. This doesn’t reflect on YOU at all. I’m also dealing with some unknowns with a child’s health and it’s…gut wrenching. I can’t imagine what you are going through.

  383. Thank you for being so transparent. I went through the exact same thing and I still struggle 3 years later. You have put my exact thoughts into perfect words. I hate this for you and I’m so sorry. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you find peace in this.

  384. What a difficult time for you . I am so sorry. I have a therapist friend whose husband was unfaithful. She said, for her it took five years to move past the pain. They have enjoyed nearly twenty years of marriage since. It was hard work. It is not for everyone. You are beautiful and thoughtful and regardless of your decision, life will bring you happiness again someday…I will pray someday means soon for you.

  385. Be sad, Meghan. We can’t heal until we first feel. God bless you and your family, and best wishes to Hart. Stay strong.

  386. I, too, have twin sons and there may be something wrong with my 17-year old Anthony. I’ll pray for your Hart if you’ll pray for my Anthony. Stay strong.

  387. Girl, THIS. My husband met a “slimy” woman on deployment who he began an illicit email relationship with. I couldn’t figure out why he was being so mean, so hateful towards me upon his return. I didn’t know if it was because if his experience while overseas—I’d never been through a deployment before—so I doubled up on my acts of love, grace, and compassion hoping he would experience healing. It didn’t take me long to find the messages and Lord did it sting. I’m still working through it with a stellar therapist almost 3 years later. We’re still together, he’s growing, but it doesn’t mean I’ll stay forever. When do I get to experience grace? Sure, “hurt people hurt people” and I know he was acting out of pain and self loathing when he chose to betray me, but at some point… man up. Be a decent human. It’s not that hard.
    I just want you to know… you are not alone. His actions reflect on him alone. And don’t let people shame you for your decision, whether it’s to stay or go. You have people rooting for you and your marriage if that’s what you choose. God bless.

  388. Meghan,

    You write about your pain so eloquently. I applaud you for your willingness to be vulnerable and not “put on a brave face” for the press. My heart breaks for you. I pray that in the coming days, you will still be able to feel some joy and smile with your children. Stay brave. Hugs from NY

  389. We all support you. Sending you love and healing during this difficult time. You are a strong woman and will rise to the top. ❤️

  390. I understand all to well! Exact same thing, we are still married but a level of trust is still broken. In the end it is still your choice to stay or not. He may need counseling as to why HE chooses to act this way. You have my all postive energy to help. Main thing is to understand YOU did not cause him to act the way he did!

  391. I am so sorry you are going through something g so hurtful so publicly. I have followed you through your ivf Instagram because I have gone through it right after you & you helped me so much. Wishing you & your family the time & space to process & heal.

  392. No. Marriage should not be difficult. I’m so sorry that you feel this way. It should not be an uphill battle. Don’t settle for this as your reality. Cheating is not an accident. It’s a deliberate choice.

  393. Beautiful stated. I commend you for speaking out and speaking so freely from your heart. Let your heart and instincts guide and with time, you shall heal and have more answers.

  394. Get off of social media and focus on what you want and what you believe. Don’t give a shit about what anyone says or believes. Do not be embarrassed because this has everything to do with him and not you. He needs to work on his character. He MIGHT turn out much better after this.

  395. I’m so very, very sorry & sad for your situation. I hope there are people around you who will hold you, comfort you and just “listen” if you need to vent. Lastly, I’ll pray for your heart, that will not become hardened or cold.

  396. Wow, I am in tears and goosebumps reading this. Reading about your basic need – to be loved by the one you have devoted your love to in return. The basic need of authentic, real, honest love. Something you have given to someone else. It is not fair that took that and shamed it.
    Reading this I want to tell you that you are strong, amazing and will get through it. And you will get through it, it won’t be wasted. You deserve to ugly cry, us gals need that and for whatever reason we never feel that it is just okay to cry. So cry and be sad. You are not alone in those feelings.
    Trust is a earned – reading you do not trust him was so powerful. You have been beyond disrespected, if you are in the public or not.
    Thank you for so eloquently sharing what you are going through- even though it was forced. There is such strength in this. Please continue to respect yourself, your kids and your belief in what marriage is to you.

  397. I’m so sorry, Meghan <3 I hope whatever you need to have happen does and that you can move on in whatever way works for you and your children.

  398. You are beautiful and I believe every word you wrote wholeheartedly. You are loyal. You are devoted. You want your family. Thanks for being so raw.

  399. Beautifully written. No matter what choice you make. Weather it is to stay in your marriage or divorce it is yours and it is the right one. It is ok to still love him. It is ok to hate him. Whatever you feel it is ok. Do not let judgement of othes push you to make a decision. No one knows your marriage but you and your husband. No one knows what is best for you but you. It appears you have a strong support system. If this is correct allow them to hold you up when don’t have the strength. I so wish you were not in the public eye. That you could have the privacy you deserve to find your way through this. I am sending positive thoughts.

  400. I’m pulling for you Meghan. I’m praying for your babies and for you, whatever choice you make going forward. You don’t owe us anything, do what’s best for you and yours. ❤️

  401. Meghan, Every single thing you said is RIGHT! Bravo for addressing this as you did! You are intelligent, beautiful inside and out, real, a great mother, a great wife and can unquestionably have a great life with your children without Jim. If he wants to fix his marriage he has to fix himself. Don’t feel ashamed or embarrassed. This is his fail not yours. Hold your head up, be strong for you and your children and move forward purposefully as you always do. I will pray for you. I will pray for Hart. No matter what the problem is you will deal with it well as you deal with other problems. Worrying accomplishes nothing. Don’t give it your time. Be very kind to yourself right now. Be your own best friend. Trust me. I’ve been in your shoes also with three babies. Tomorrow is a new day! ♥️

  402. I love you! You’re amazing & I’m so thankful to have worked with you! My heart hurts for you in this time ❤️ If you need anything let me know!

  403. My heart breaks for you. I hope you and Jimmy can find a way to save your marriage. You have a beautiful family and he’s an idiot. I pray that Hart is okay and there is nothing wrong.

  404. I’m from Australia and barely know your public figure, but read your article because it’s a situation I found myself in, My slim had a 10 year affair with his ex… devastated, sad, lost, sick.
    Not sure if you are into pod casts but I found them quite healing when I wanted to escape, but the silence killed me. There is one particular that could help, it’s called “healing broken trust” helped me understand, not quite except for me, the thoughts of my slime.
    I’m not part of a promotion campaign for them, just gave me insight

  405. I M so sorry this happened to you and your children, I know it’s not easy it happened to me also when my kids were young and I was busy being a Mom. I tried not to let my kids feel my pain but I know they did. It can get better with a lot of time. He has to be willing to work on his marriage and your trust! Trust is what takes the longest. It is so hard to gain it back once you lost it. I hope things work out for you and your marriage ! You are not alone! Good Luck and continue being the best Mommy that we all see!

  406. Hang in there!! Marriage is tough even on the good days. Hugs and prayers and please know there’s an army of women/moms sending you support!

  407. I never comment on IG or people I follow that I do not know and who knows if you read these. I follow you and watch your stories about clothes and your beautiful babies. I have twins too but they are ten now so I love to see yours so little. I just wanted to write that I am sending you good vibes and I am so sorry for what you are going thru. Praying for your baby and praying for your strength. You are stronger than you know. Remember that. Namaste

  408. Very sad but men are stupid, you deserve better. That Prince Charming is out there for you…I don’t and never did think your husband was that man for you. God bless and don’t be sad, your alive heathy with beautiful healthy children. Xoxo

  409. So sorry, I’m sure your Hirt and broken hearted . For the sake of those babies I hope you can recover and he realizes what he has done and changes. I have never been through this but I’m hoping and praying you will find a way out of the dark.

  410. Meghan I know exactly what you are going through unfortunately. Marriage does take two to make it work every day all day 24/7 365. I had been married to my husband for 20 years with 2 grown kids and grand babies on the way and had no clue that things were not golden. We are still together and on 30 years now. We struggled, mostly me, but we finally got a new start. I know you want and deserve the best for you and your kids and maybe with separation and time and some hard work you can save your marriage but remember maybe not. Prioritize in the moment day to day because when you have kids it is hard to balance life in general but with the unknown for your son it makes it harder. Only you know what is right for you and your kids. Take time for yourself and don’t feel guilty for it because you have to be the best you for your kids also. You seem like a strong and very intelligent woman. You got this and no matter what just be true to you and your heart.

  411. Im so sorry you have to go thru with this & at the same time Hart is going thru a bad time. I truly hope he gets better and live a healthy life.
    On the other thing we always wonder why cheat if you are with someone. Leave them if you’re not happy but don’t cheat. You need to be sad & angry right now but in time everything will be better with or without Jimmy. If you decide to give your marriage another chance go to counseling and do everything you need to do to make it work but if it doesn’t work don’t let it take you down bc it wasn’t you who did something wrong. Wish you a lot of strength and a big hug.
    Xoxo Carol friend from Puerto Rico

  412. I’m so sorry for your broken trust, It is the worst kind of betrayal. I have Friends and family who have forgiven and been able to move on- but I know it can’t be easy. Prayers for you and your family.

  413. I’m so sorry sweetie you didn’t deserve this I’ve been going through the same situation for eight years but you know what I put myself here I allowed myself to be walked on and cheated on no more and that’s what you have to say❤️💔💋

  414. Shut up. You’re insane if you think this is the first time this has happened. You’re kind of annoying. He just needed a break. No need to air your dirty laundry and humiliate yourself further.

  415. Hi Meghan,

    I’m not a crazy super-fan, but I’ve enjoyed watching/reading about your journey over the last few years.
    Native St. Louisan, Cards fan, 48-year-old mom of triplets. (Had them when I was 36, they are now 12!)

    Married 2 times- once for 7 years from age 24-30 (no kids). Ended because of infidelity on his part…but in the final analysis, we both played a roll in where things went wrong. He won the prize for the most radically stupid.

    2nd marriage from age 34 to 48. He’s a keeper. (triplets)

    My reply would be more of a series of questions that you probably already know the answer to…but from the little peek we get to see into your life, this is my observation/question(s).

    1. When you all first started dating, was Jim “love bombing” ? Did he do that to all of his dates/wives?

    2. Is Jim a narcissist? He comes off that way. (His actions)

    3. You are the work-horse in this family. I’m sure he can be an amazing dad (and husband!)when he has the time. But it’s obvious that his schedule is demanding and he travels a lot. Leaving you to take care of 90% of the everyday stuff, issues, appointments, appearances etc.

    4. Have similar cheating situations happened in his previous marriages? Once a cheater in any capacity, always a cheater.

    5. I feel like male-celebs (local and national) are so prone to this behavior. Power, money, attractive. You know this better than I do!

    6. I don’t think you are too young or too dumb to have known the potential here. I believe you are super smart, super brave, and an amazing spouse and mother.

    7. If he has the whole package, in you (I know – no one is perfect), what’s the drive to mess around, especially with someone (slimy #1) who is known for this kind of thing? THAT is STUPID and DESPERATE on his part. So, why?

    It will probably take years for you to leave him, because it’s soooo hard to leave when kids are involved. It’s sooooo disappointing, embarassing and heartbreaking when a spouse does this. When “forever” turns into… meh, it sucks.

    Just know, that you girl, are squeeky clean, and did NOTHING to deserve this behavior. Don’t waste a minute of your life on “pretending” it’s going to work, while secretly he is dismissive, pouty, and unwilling to make a change. In the immediacy, oh yes, save the marriage, he’ll do anything, right? Therapy together, therapy alone…whatever it takes. 6 months from now….1 year from now….does it look like the same effort?

    You’ve seen that meme/quote: “Your apology should be as loud and meaningful as your disrespect was….”

    Also, Jim went a LONG way to cover this up. To protect you? Come on sister, it was to protect him and MAYBE the heartbreak of the older kids who can read tabloids.

    Those are my thoughts. Don’t stay too long. I understand the need to try to work things out, believe me, any woman who has been through this has to make hard choices. Some of those choices are impossible for outsiders to understand. Do what you need to do. But in the back of your brain, start formulating the exit strategy. Don’t waste your life on a man/relationship that doesn’t value YOU or your children.

    Here’s how a real professional defines some of the things I mentioned. Gotta love Quora.

    Love Bombing is external and observable

    Narcissistic “Love Bombing” is a description of a series of actions that are aimed at getting someone else infatuated with the Narcissist. One can think of it as an externalization of an internal intention. “Love Bombing” is a choice with a goal in mind. It involves showering the other person with over-the-top compliments and attention.

    Note: I am using the term “Narcissist” here as shorthand for someone who had made a childhood adaptation to a home situation that resulted in the set of issues that is more formally called “Narcissistic Personality Disorder.”

    Infatuation is internal
    Infatuation is an internal feeling, not a set of actions. One can be secretly infatuated with someone, without ever letting that person know.

    Infatuation + Love Bombing
    It is also possible for someone to be both infatuated with someone else and then “Love Bomb” the person in an attempt to get them to feel similarly. In this situation, the Narcissist has real feelings towards the person that they are “Love Bombing” and is hoping for a fulfilling relationship to result from their pursuit. They are not intentionally lying to mislead the object of their affection.

    Love Bombing without Infatuation
    Some Narcissists coldly use “Love Bombing” as a way of getting sex, affection, and a sense of winning. In this case, they are not infatuated with the person that they are “Love Bombing.” They are simply using it as a seduction tactic to get Narcissistic supplies and sex. In essence, they are lying about their feelings.

    Punchline: Narcissistic “Love Bombing” can be done as a result of infatuation, but it may also be used in a coldly, manipulative manner that is intended to mislead the other person.

    There is a very interesting and relatively easy to spot difference between people with Borderline Personality Disorder and those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder that very few people seem to notice. But…it is my go to question, especially when I am seeing a new client who is looking for a romantic partner.

    Are they hierarchal or egalitarian?

    Early on in my practice, I was young and my clients were young. I began to notice that very often I could easily differentiate my more Borderline clients from my Narcissistic clients by looking at who they dated and why.

    Borderline Personality Disorder
    My clients with BPD were usually extremely needy and wanted to be in a love relationship all the time.

    Feelings of Emptiness: In between relationships, they reported feeling a profound, very uncomfortable sense of emptiness when they were alone.

    Negative feelings from the past would start to break through their psychological defenses. They felt desperate for connection and reassurance that they were lovable.

    Low Standards: This sense of desperation made them much less picky than the average person about whom they dated. They would impulsively form intense relationships with people they barely knew. They ignored very obvious signs that their new lover was inappropriate or unable to form a normal, stable, loving relationship.

    These are another version of the women who date guys in jail because they are available and cannot very easily dump them for anyone else.

    Mother/Lover—Many men with BPD tend end up with women who combine the qualities of a mother and a lover. Often the woman is more stable than they are and provides a home structure in which they can remain a Man-Child.

    Father/Lover—There is a subtype of women with BPD who desperately want the nurturing that they missed as a child. They tend to get involved with men (sometimes older men with NPD) who want to make decisions for both of them and treat them like a little girl.

    Always in a Relationship: Most of my Borderline clients tend to always need to be in a romantic relationship with someone. They rarely leave a relationship (no matter how bad it is) unless they have a new person who is there to welcome them with open arms.

    Egalitarian: Most of my Borderline clients are quite egalitarian in their choices of mates. They basically are relatively indifferent to their new lover’s status, money, or fame. They also are not very practical in their choices. If they feel loved and nurtured and the sex is good, they do not care what the person does for a living or what he or she has done in the past.

    I think the Backstreet boys sing “As Long As You Love Me” expresses this type of Borderline attitude perfectly. A line in the chorus says:

    I don’t care who you are.

    Where you’re from.

    What you’ve done.

    As long as you love me.

    Narcissistic Personality Disorder
    My clients with NPD are not at all egalitarian in their choice of whom to date. They are very influenced by the person’s perceived status in some hierarchy that they value. They also tend to be quite aware of and interested in how this person’s status might affect their own.

    Dating Up—The women all wanted to date “up.” As one unmarried woman with NPD bluntly told me: “I would rather live my life alone, then be with someone I couldn’t look up to.”

    The men tended to define “up” somewhat differently. “Up” to them was usually about perceived attractiveness. As one of my male clients with NPD said: “I want someone on my arm that will cause all the other men in the room to envy me. If I could, I would only date Victoria’s Secret models—or porn stars. It would be really cool to date a porn star.”

    People Are Interchangeable—My clients with NPD tend to go for “types.” Within the group that meets their criteria for enough status and personal attractiveness, they often happily shift their affections and attentions to a new person when they get bored, angry, or disenchanted with whomever they are with.

    One of my narcissistic male clients admitted the following:

    I know I am shallow and get bored easily. I tend to drop whomever I am with for someone new when I get angry or bored, or if a newer and better version of them comes along. When I am being honest with myself, I admit that I see people as interchangeable—like hamburgers or tissues.

    Punchline: If we look at how the person chooses their romantic partners and friends, it is fairly easy to distinguish people with BPD from those with NPD. People with BPD tend to be more egalitarian in their choice of partners. People with NPD are more status driven.

    A2A

    Elinor Greenberg, PhD, CGP

    In private practice in NYC and the author of the book: Borderline, Narcissistic, and Schizoid Adaptations.

    http://www.elinorgreenberg.com

  416. I’m so sorry this happened to you and you’re right this is t your fault in any way . It’s one of the most hardest things to go through in a marriage, believe me I know I had it done to me too , but we made it work we’re still together 25 years and I couldn’t be more happier.,So please don’t think this is the end of your marriage because it isn’t, yes it’s going to take time to heal just like any heartache, but if you both want it badly enough you can pull through and be stronger and happier than ever! My prayers are with you … and I’ll be praying for your precious baby boy ♥️

  417. Meghan,

    You are strong, you are classy, you are a MOM!! You will get through this…so so sorry this happened.

  418. I would give you 3 things to right now if I could…
    1. A hug
    2. My shoulder
    3. My ear
    ❤️ I’m so sorry you are going through this❤️

  419. Something like this happened to me. We went to counseling. I forgave him. We have 4 beautiful daughters and a healthy marriage today. It has taken 7 years of hard work. But worth every bit.
    There is work you both have to do on yourself. We are broken and need to learn how to get our needs met in a healthy way. All the best my friend.

  420. This is marriage #3 for him. Shouldn’t that have said something to you???? Hope love didn’t blind you. On one of the RHWOOC episodes where you two first appeared as a couple the ladies were saying it was just a matter of time. You fell for him and the baggage he came with. He’s a stupid loser to do that to you with three little kids. But still…

  421. Very honest post. It’s terrible that you are going through this. I’m glad you realize you don’t deserve it and he in fact made a choice. Hopefully, you will be able to heal.

  422. Marriage is hard you’re right. Raising children is a challenge also. Add having a hold that has special needs, physical disability, chronic illness, or new disease and that adds another level of stress you never imagined.

    My son was diagnosed 5 months ago with a neurological spinal cord injury that left him paralyzed. It has tested each of us and our marriage. Be strong!! You are the mom!! You can rise up!!

  423. This is 💔 yet so eloquently stated. I am sorry that this has happened to you. You are a strong and amazing woman worthy of love and respect. Never forget that! May God give you strength and help you through these difficult times. Y

  424. I know it’s really sucks right now Meghan & my heart breaks for you and your beautiful family. I went through the same after 25 years of marriage I found out my husband had a few but only did it during the day & came home & sat down with our family like it was a normal thing 🤯🤯🤯🤯 only to find out he was he was diagnosed with severe bi polar. So my advice to you is to stay classy & take one thing on at a time also take breaks for yourself. Sending lots of love and prayers

  425. This kind of betrayal hurts the most. You will come through this I promise. I’m so sorry this happened to you. Get the help you need for you! Make your own survival (with your children) your top priority. I encourage you to lean on God, get into a close relationship with Him & He will see you through to even better days than before. Lot’s of Love to you! 🙏🙏🙏🙏

  426. Been there. Respect you immensely for opening up in this way. Cry it out. Pray. Meditate. You will have 1,001 opinions. Listen to your inner voice. Virtual hugs to you.

  427. I feel bad for you- I do but what is the voicemail? How do you explain that? It is clearly your voice.
    Im not sure you will ever be able to trust him again! I wish you all the best and the strength to see and do whats best for you and your family.

  428. I am sorry to hear that this has happened. Please be strong for you and your beautiful children. It will take time to heal, It will take time to forgive and it will take time to trust again. He made a horrible mistake and I hope he does everything he can to make up to you and the kids. You are strong and you can do this. Take small steps have a good cry yell and scream if you have to. Sending you lots of hugs and love all the way from Australia. Kathryn

  429. I’m so sorry! Men are pigs! It’s not just him! But what you have to ask yourself is, when he’s not with you can you trust him? Take care of yourself and take care of the kids. ♥️ This isn’t the first time he’s cheated on a woman. So I think you know the answer.

  430. Oh my goodness, I am so sorry. I have no words of wisdom other than I believe you can recover as a family, but it will take time and work and lots of patience and love. Easy to say; most difficult to do. But I know you are strong and if willing, you will get through this… You have a lovely family…he was wrong. But love does conquer all (sounds cliché’) but it’s true. I pray that God will give you the right choices to prevail…with Him, you can DO this. My prayers are for you, your children (especially Hart) and for your husband. This.Too.Shall.Pass. Lots of love…

  431. Honey Bunny,
    It pains me to see such suffering in you,
    but your openness shows YOUR BEAUTY AND STRENGTH.
    YOU WILL PREVAIL AND YOU WILL BE HAPPIER AND STRONGER THAN EVER.
    Have No Doubt.
    For your own good :
    Recognize that ANGER IS A SELF INDUCED POISON
    and find an outlet to heal your pain.
    Surround yourself with those who lift you up and heal your soul with family, nature, yoga…
    I am here for you…Please reach out.. Alla P.

  432. You’re a strong beautiful wonderful mother & wife & have done absolutely nothing wrong in all of this! Sadly these women tempt guys emotionally physically it doesn’t matter into cheating on amazing women like you but he obviously played the biggest role as your husband and made the worst choices possible! You’re going through something so deep and tragic right now but there could be hope to recover from if he agrees to counseling and absolutely changing his ways! It’s your choice now though whether you feel you can trust him again and if you want to go down that path given the history with this woman involved! It’s a difficult choice but given children are involved it’s one very personal and made even harder with your little ones medical challenges!
    Stay strong and be true to you and hang in there as you’ve got the 3 most beautiful children to be so proud of and you’re such a wonderful woman yourself too so always remember you ARE enough too if you choose to go alone on this journey with your kids! Take care and I’m sure you’ll make the best choices xx

  433. Thanks for putting that out there. Marriage is hard and sometimes, no matter how faithful and committed you are, the other person is just never satisfied. When children are involved, it makes decisions that much harder…..but it also makes you stronger. Thinking of you and prayers for Hart.

  434. Wow… what you have written is just…. wow!! Stay strong, and remember that you ARE strong! You are a phenomenal mother and an amazing woman, I just wanted you to hear that from someone today! Hopefully you do read these?!?

  435. You are so loved. Don’t lose hope. We are all behind you and love and care for you. You will be in my thoughts and prayers

  436. You are a strong women. This is hard. I could not imagine what you are going through, but you are right. Marriage is a choice. You choose the path you want to go at this time, whatever makes you happy. Know that you have support and love from people in your life that know you and those who haven’t met you. Stay strong and loved ❤️

  437. Sad for you. But you were very correct in that you did nothing wrong so hold your head up! What is sad also is you are your children’s #1 person who they rely on so you have to appear strong for them and act like nothings wrong. I will pray for your son.

  438. Oh Meghan. You are a very good person and a great mom. Whatever you decide, whatever choices you make, make them with what is right for you. You owe everyone else nothing. Be proud, be strong and be the amazing woman we all see in you.

  439. My heart aches for you. I have never been the one to say “I know how you feel”; but because I have been you… I do know. Lingering 33 years ago still broke my 8 month pregnant newly married selfs heart. I wish I could simply hold your hand or wipe your tears or rock one of your beautiful children to sleep while you go through this agony. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Always here if you need a shoulder to lean on. From Texas Grandmother ; Yalanda Reeves

  440. Hugs, Meghan 🙁 There are no words. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing. Sending a virtual hug to you as you navigate this very challenging time.

  441. Sooo sorry you are going through this. I’m sorry for your son and all your children. Put your faith in God and have Jimmy do the same! God heals all in time. Good bless you.

  442. I am so sorry that you have had your heart broken like this. I don’t know you personally, of course, but I know this pain, and no one deserves this. I will never understand why men thrown away the best thing they ever had for quick, nasty, temporary pleasure. They have no idea how it changes everything. Praying for your shattered heart.

  443. I am so sorry Meghan. You don’t deserve this. You are a detonated wife and mother. I will keep you in my prayers. I will also pray for your baby. Just know that God never leaves you in the valley. Praying for peace for your broken heart!

  444. Hi, Meghan. My heart hurts for you. I don’t know you. I’m a 66 yr old woman living in Raleigh, N.C. I would love to share some things privately that you may benefit from. I don’t want to talk publicly about my thoughts/help. If you want to reach out, please feel free to do so. Remember some words that Kathi Lee Gifford (upon hearing of her dear husband cheating on her)….”He’s a good man that did a bad thing.” That seems to minimize his total guilt in this, but the words are powerful. I hope you and Jim can heal and save your precious family. I’d love to share some things with you that I experienced many years ago. We have now been married ( happily 😍) for over 47 years. Totally shattered hearts can be healed. You intimately, though, have choices. I’m very sorry for the sadness and hurt…..thinking of you. Julia

  445. So terribly sorry for you. I personally couldn’t forgive. Once betrayed it’s never the same. Sending you and your children love and hope

  446. My gosh my heart absolutely breaks for you and your kiddos . May god guide you through this difficult time and hopefully heal your heart and somehow find forgiveness . You are a beautiful soul ❤️

  447. You’re a strong and determined woman! Whatever you decide to do about your marriage….we are behind you! Men are for the most part, egotists, spoiled, not terribly faithful, and child-like.. It’s up to us women to do the right thing and to hold the course!

  448. My heart hurts for the hurt you are going through. I’ve been there sadly and well… it’s hard and the trust never really ever returns. A piece of your heart will always be gone and put into a compartment with the hurt you have gone through. Thank you for sharing your life thenups the downs the down down downs. As Moms we have to put on the happy face and keep morning… while the other gets to… whatever it is they do.

  449. I feel you. I’ve been there. I am there. I found out my husband did this while I too was pregnant with our second child. Found out when she was 3 weeks old. I have been there and thank you for speaking out. I feel/felt so much shame for trying to work through it. It’s been the hardest 6 months of my life and I still struggle. You are not alone. And you did nothing wrong. Hugs during this terrible time.

  450. Trust me when I say I know exactly how betrayed you feel. It takes such bravery to speak out loudly about this betrayal because usually women are too ashamed. After a year of therapy and five years later it still creeps up on me. We worked through it and you’re right marriage is so damn hard but if it there isn’t two of you in it and fighting for it it won’t work. He has a lot of humble grovelling to do. You recognised way before I did that it isn’t your fault and it’s on him. I hope for your family he corrects his behaviour and you guys work through it. If he doesn’t you are an amazing woman who has a lot to offer the world. Good luck my thoughts are with you.

  451. I am so sorry you are going through this heartbreak. As a marriage counselor, I can tell you that I have seen couples come back stronger after an affair. Will you ever trust him 100 percent again? Maybe not sweetheart. At the end of the day, the person you need to trust the most…is yourself. Trust that no matter what happens, you will be alright. And you will. You will be alright. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 For your son and hugs to you.

  452. I am so sad for you. I can only imagine your heartbreak. But this too shall pass oh my and I pray you come out stronger for it. What you really need to figure out is the exact question you asked, who does this? Sends nude pictures to someone on social media in 2019. SMH not a very caring thoughtful or smart person that’s for sure. You obviously don’t know that side of Jim and he has gone out of his way so desperately to hide from you. That in and of itself is the worst type of betrayal. You deserve more. And you are valid in all the ways you are feeling right now. Allow yourself the time to be in shock, sad angry , pissed off and disgusted by his vile Behavior. Take care of you, be there for your kids and I hope all the health issues are solved soon. Woman to Woman we all love you. Stand strong, and don’t let him turn this around on you. Men like that tend to be able to deflect or make it less than it truly was. Stand for nothing but the truth and his willingness to go get help or his abnormal behavior of a married man and father. He needs it

  453. You are so sweet…. but don’t forget how strong you are too. My heart hurts for you! Sending love and healing your way 😘

  454. Meghan, you are enough! You have married a former professional athlete. Sadly our society glorifies these people and when they step to the side or start to age they feel the need to get that adoration from “fans”. In no way did he want to hurt you , but because he didn’t tell you he knew he was doing something wrong. Jimmy has had several marriages as well which I am sure you had some concerns over when you were dating him. Forgiveness is the most difficult thing to do. Trusting him may never come again, but that is part of living. His behaviour is just that!!! His behaviour, which does not affect your reputation! Hold your head up high and continue to love him as you have before if this is what you want to do. Hoping that your baby will be ok as well. You are an awesome mother! One day at a time!!!!❤️🇨🇦

  455. I’m so sorry Meghan. You don’t deserve this and my heart aches for you and your beautiful, sweet kids. You don’t know me, but I really wish I could give you a big hug. I have no profound words of wisdom and I don’t think there’s any magic elixir of language that can soothe you right now anyway. One way or another, you will heal from this betrayal. It will leave scar tissue, but this horrible, painful wound will heal. You will also find the answers, therapies, and coping mechanisms for Hart, because that is what good, loving moms do and you’re a good, loving mom. In our darkest hours, sometimes what sustains us is living for the day when it just stops hurting. That day will come. Hold on, Sister, just hold on.

  456. You’re an amazing woman. Shame on him. You do not deserve such a betrayal. He doesn’t deserve you, and you need to realize that. Nobody can tel you what to do, but a life with a man without trust is no life to live. I wish you peace and solitude.

  457. You don’t know me and I don’t know you..but I am a woman, a mother and a wife who just celebrated her 40th wedding anniversary. Was it easy..hell no, if you asked me at year 10 if I would do it all over again I would’ve said no. We had separated twice and although I could never prove it, I’m sure there was some cheating going on. Thank goodness this was before cell phone, internet and social media. But we were both two people that refused to give up on each other, mostly out of stubbornness. We once filed for divorce and showed up to court with our attorneys, sat next to each other and realized we loved each other – do people that in love really divorce each other?
    Now 40 years later, would I do it all again…absolutely! It was worth every tear, every time I thought my heart was broken, every moment I thought about facing life as a single parent. We moved forward and made a pact that we would never look..only forward and to never bring up the past.
    Go with your heart…it will lead to the right decision for you and your family.

  458. men like jimmy are serial baby makers but loss interest the minute you get pregnant…he’s a whore and loves whorie girls

  459. I’m so sorry this is happening to you, stay strong you will get through this but it will be hard. It’s going to take time to learn how to start trusting him, only if your still committed to the marriage. Some men can’t seem to stop straying outside of the marriage even just flirting and that says more about them than the spouses. I have been there and it was hard, but we came out the other side and it’s been thirty five years. I always wonder if it’s happened again or even now, but I focus on me and not fret over it. It will get better and easier but it’s going to take time and everyone will be there for you. Your children are your saving grace!!

  460. I am so Sad for you. Sending positive vibes , prayers & strength your way. 💗
    Don’t stop being who you are , because you are beautiful & amazing.

  461. I am so sad for you. I am So sorry for your sadness and what’s happened to you. This happened to me as well. I pray For healing for you beautiful Meghan, and hope you find some peace in the coming days. Xoxoxo

  462. Ugh. I’ve been there and it sucks. I’m sorry. Feeling so sad for you and what you’re going through ❤️

  463. You are such an amazing woman, Meghan. Do not allow this slimy person or your husband bring you to the brink of such deep sadness. I’ve not been in your shoes, but, I do know that you did NOT deserve this, and it sounds like you know this already. God bless you & your precious little ones, as you swim through this pool of sadness.

  464. Oh Sweet Meghan, my heart absolutely just breaks for you. I could tell just by watching HOUSEWIVES OF OC, he didn’t deserve you. You are so much better than he could ever be. Please take care of yourself and those precious children. We love you Meghan.

  465. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. My exhusband cheated on me when I was eight months pregnant with our baby we tried for, for many years. I like your perspective about nothing being wrong with you, about this being his decision, and not blaming the slimy person who was on the other end, because he cheated. You are amazing. You will survive this. Keep being strong, extend grace but demand what is needed to be able to get past this. ❤️

  466. Stay strong
    You are extraordinary and a fabulous mom. I see that and don’t even know you.
    Everything happens for a reason , it may suck sometimes but you will prevail in the end!

    I did:)

  467. How awful! You’re such a strong woman, you will get through this! I’ve admired you since RHOC and I’m a Missouri girl too! I hate that you’re in this position but if there’s anyone that can handle it,
    It’s you!

    That’s crazy he did this! Do not feel embarrassed for this, he clearly needs to! The whole world right now has your back. How can he do that to his wife and mother of his children? You’re right, marriage is hard. But just because it’s hard, it doesn’t give someone an excuse to do this.

    I pray your little boy is ok. I will be thinking of you and your family. Xoxo

  468. This is so honest and real and done with CLASS and DIGNITY❤️. Those are things that no one can take from you, ever. Hold your head high and take it Day by day. When that does not work, hour by hour. You are in control of your destiny and how you proceed forward with your beautiful family. And all else fails…I say “pray and rose’!”

    Be well!

  469. Meghan,
    I am so sorry you are going through this – as a fan all I can do and promise to do is pray for your sweet family! I loved watching your family on the show. But know that we are behind you and support and love you. I will be praying for renewed energy, love and for you to have grace as you continue to be the best mom you can be for you kids.
    Lots of Love,
    Fan from Kansas
    ❌⭕️❌⭕️

  470. Lovely to read and not lovely to read… you know what I mean.. hang in there you are strong and your babies need you.xo

  471. Please take care of yourself and those beautiful babies. You have a wonderful support network with your Mom. Happiness is the best revenge dear …

  472. Stay strong Meghan. You can get through this. All of it. I love what you wrote. So honest and real. And you’re right, marriage is hard work. Your husband is weak and selfish. I hope he’s told you everything so you can move forward in whichever direction you chose. Keep your head up and ugly cry whenever you need to. Then get back in the trenches and do the mom thing. You seem like you’re made for it. I wish you well. JD

  473. I feel so bad for you and don’t even know you.
    I pray that you guys can grow from this and find peace.
    I will never say stay or leave .
    Just find peace and laugh and from there you will learn to love again
    I pray that God give you the strength to do what’s right for you and your family.
    This too shall pass.

  474. You nailed it perfectly and heartbrokenly for everyone of us who’s person, has betrayed us. I’m so sorry for your pain. I know that pain well and nothing compares to it. I pray you stay strong for your children’s sake. You deserve better.

  475. As a mother who also had a spouse cheat in an embarrassing way, I am so thrilled to see you say all that many of us want to say but can’t articulate. I feel your pain and felt the same during my ordeal. Luckily, my ex was not publicly popular outside of an area so I didn’t have the world watching our marriage deconstruct. I pray for your children and for you.

  476. Prayers for you! I’ve said this a million and one times At the end of the day what’s Most important to us is our Children!!!!! You will over come this and come out even stronger!! Your children need a strong moma not one that just is barely hanging in there!!! Let God guide your ways!! ❤

  477. Megan, you are very brave to publically share the details. Very smart of you because it takes the head off the snake and the Media can’t makeup what happened, what you are doing or feeling. No person can walk in you and Jims shoes. You will find the answer(s) that work for you. I would pray and I would immediately get into counseling. For you alone and also as a couple. You are right, commitment is a choice. It needs to be continually made. Again, no one can make any decisions for you. The right decision will come from you alone.
    I agree that God does not make mistakes and Hart has you so he will be able to conquer whatever the path forward is. You are a wonderful Mother and Step Mother.
    I hope you are able to look away from negative comments. Again, no one walks in your shoes but you! Sending you hugs and keeping you in my prayers.

  478. Oh Meghan, I am so sorry to hear your pain through this horrible experience! Stay gracious sweet girl ✨❤️

  479. Meghan I’m so sorry you are going thru this . You are brave to put it out there and tell the true side of the story . Anne k

  480. Hang in there! Marriage is hard, but worth fighting for! Don’t let this awful woman win! You are stronger than she is!! God Bless!!

  481. Meaghan, I am not one to normally comment, especially on someone’s public blog. I am so sorry you have to live this out publicly. You are doing it with such real grit, grace and emotion, as you should. You are an amazing loving and giving mother and I have always admired you as a person. Balancing your emotions the next few days regarding this situation, Hart’s possible condition and your marriage will take great strength, which you have in you. Please remember to take care of YOU too! As mothers, we tend to care for others and our children so much, we forget about ourselves. Know you are worthy of love and you have every right to feel the emotions you are feeling. Sending positive thoughts and prayers as you go through this.

  482. I am so sad to hear about what has happened to you. Nobody deserves to go through such a heartbreaking ordeal. I went through something very similar with my husband and I have worked very hard to save our marriage. There are times I ask myself “ are you stupid to stay”? Or “ would I be better off leaving”? It is a situation unique to each of us. I do wish you the best in getting through this no matter which direction you choose. Just know you are not at fault, he is. It’s his issue and you are just the victim. Lots of love to you and your babies.

  483. I’m so sorry what you are going through and in the public eye. I love how you wrote this, so raw and real… real emotions….
    I hope you heal and get through this with your head held up high regardless of what you decide.
    Sending big hugs and positivity your way
    Alexandra

  484. You will make it and be so much stronger thru it. I know, I have been there. You inspire me and I’m sure all these words mean nothing right now. Thank you for sharing. It’s no ones business but maybe I can encourage you a bit. BTW, you are an awesome mom.

  485. Meghan, my heart hurts for you. It is such a betrayal of ones love. Now here is the deal, make sure he has done nothing else. This is so disgusting that he is that proud of his manlihood that he feels compel to share it in such a public way. Get into counseling. Air it all out. He made a huge mistake but I hope by him telling you everything there is room for healing. If you both love one another, heal together. This impacts the whole family and there is children. I am going to pray for you Meghan. You did nothing wrong but take your time and figure out what you want. If you want your marriage and you love him, work together. If you can’t get past this and you feel your heart will not mend, don’t stay in the marriage. Trust is so important and if you feel you can’t trust him when he leaves the house, what is there left. Go to counseling if you two love one another and start the healing process. There is going to be talk and the shame of this, I am sure, is just overwhelming. Focus on you!! You will read where people say the worst things, don’t read!! Heal. My heart is hurting for you. Teresa

  486. Hello Meghan,

    I wanted to share something with you. I went through an affair, my ex husband cheated on me for 7 years with one of my best friends. The pain I endured is like no other. I feel for you and know your pain. I am truly sorry for what you are going through. I raised my 4 kids on my own after I finally got the courage to leave him. Put myself through college while working full time. It was very hard to do but I had no choice. Trust is a huge factor in a marriage, without it, you cannot make it. I know the feeling of lost of trust, it’s so so painful!!! I would have rather he passed away than cheating on me. I want you to know you will get through this, with the love and support of your dear friends and family. One step at a time. I pray that all will work out for you. Thank you for sharing something so personal. I know that he to have been very difficult to do, yet your strength allowed you to. Remember…. You never know how strong you are, until strong is all you have. Hang in there!
    Love Kathi

  487. So sorry fo you. I have been through infidelity in a marriage and a child sick with cancer and remember those days of fear and hurt and anger and unhappiness. Surround yourself with you close friends and family…you know the ones…and take all the time you need to heal. Focusing on my children helped me, if even in a small way, because they needed me so very much.
    Praying for your family.

  488. Hi Meghan,

    You are a darling! You have been the most normal, decent and grounded woman of all of the housewives, within the entire franchise. And you are beautiful and sweet along with it. This is a rarity. You are a special girl.

    You are not going to want to hear this, but you picked the wrong guy for a husband. He is not of your caliber, his character is weak and I have always found him to be completely selfish, spoiled and shallow.

    There are good men out there and God has someone very special waiting for you. (Everything happens for a reason.) But you will not find him if you remain with Jim. And you will remain unhappy and publicly humiliated if you do!

    Heal, pray for strength to do what you need to do, embrace your three angels and give ALL of your love to them, for the time being. Make your decision and hire a brilliant lawyer to do the rest.

    I’m rooting for you! Stay strong and know that you are not the only one going through this. Love yourself enough to choose someone else who is better suited for you and is a more honorable man. You deserve the very best!

    Irene
    Irenerabbot@gmail.com

  489. So sorry this is happening. Sending hugs and love your way. I hope your son is okay and hopefully you will be able to come out of this stronger. Take the time you need and take care of you. Jimmy was wrong, not you. Good luck. ❤️

  490. I’m so sorry your going thru this. My husband had an affair with my best friend. I divorced him cause I knew I could never trust him. You have to follow your heart sweetie. Keeping you in my prayers

  491. You have such strength even while in the think of this heartache, destruction. I am sorry for all the hurt you have and the sadness. I really do admire you for stating how you are filled with lots of emotions, but still know rebuilding is a possibility. Postpartum was difficult for me and my husband wasn’t a healthy support and added so much stress and heartache too. Stay strong, take your time. Prayers for your whole family

    Xoxo

  492. Meghan you will get stronger every day. Your children need you and not him. He is sick. You can do much better in the future. Stay strong and God will help you heal. All men are not like that. You will survive this. You are in my Prayers and so are your children. Have faith. Talk with a Professional who can help guide you to a good place in life. Trust a good friend but be careful with what you say at first. I believe in you. Many Blessings dear Meghan.! 🙏🙏🌷🌷🌷💕

  493. my heart hurts for you. You do not deserve this, no one does, and it’s awful. But you are truly brave to write about it and be so transparent. Godspeed

  494. Oh, Meghan….I am so sorry that you are going thru this pain. I hate that because you are a public person that you cannot have your privacy. Relationships and marriages can go through betrayals of many kinds….addictions, heart, finances…you are not alone. I do believe self sabotage is another type of addiction. I don’t know Jim….but the way he looks at you…I only see love for you. I want him to wake up before he loses you. You are one special girl!

  495. You are a strong woman. If you want to fight for your marriage, then fight for it. Don’t let others tell what you do in your marriage. All things are possible with Jesus! He can heal a marriage. It’s going to take time. A LOT of time. See a good counselor . I’ve been though this in my marriage. I could feel your pain. Feels like someone died . Hurts to breath. Things will get better as time goes by. Remember tomorrow a new day . I’ll will pray for you and your family. ❤️

  496. I can’t imagine what you are going through. Please know that there are many who are praying for you in this difficult time. Thank you for being so honest and bold. I am sure having to speak on something so painful makes it that much worse. Also sending prayers for answers for Hart!

  497. You are incredibly brave to come out and face it head on. The public isn’t owed a response by you but by doing this you are taking the power away from tabloids or any social media. Take your time and make decisions that are right for your family.
    God bless

  498. Hi I am praying for you I don’t know why ppl behave this way I really don’t all I know is you have a beautiful family and there are women out there who love this who live by this to make money off this and it’s so sad that families do break apart bc of this -please stay strong for you and those beautiful kids!

    Just a fan from Boston 💝
    Deborah

  499. Meghan
    You are one strong woman- and you do not deserve this – None of it.
    Just pray and always remember who you are and never waver from it,
    Take it one day at a time and take those drives and cry as much as you need to.
    I admire you and your strength- and please know this: you have an army of women behind you sending love and support.
    This does not define you – you are amazing!

  500. Meghan – you are an amazing wife, mother and all around good person. You’re completely right- this will NOT define you. He has no idea what he’s lost, and will forever spend the rest of his life regretting his actions. This will sting for you now, but will be an everlasting burn for him. If you stay with him, I hope he recognizes the colossal mistake(s) he’s made. If you don’t, he never deserved you to begin with. Sending you love and positive thoughts.

  501. I only know of you through the Real Housewives I have followed Aspen grow up through Instagram I’ve watched the new house be built and I said here in tears for you no you did nothing to deserve this and just to read you say that you drive around and cry just truly broke my heart if I’ve been there whichever way it goes you are one tough cookie but just one piece of advice listen to your gut not your heart

  502. Hang in there. I know that kind of advice is almost annoying but don’t make decisions with an emotional heart. Make decisions for you and the family with a clear head but also making your health, self worth, and confidence a priority. You are smart and savvy. I have been a fan of yours for a while. Not a fan because you are on TV but a kick ass mom, step mom, and person.

    Diane Cinalli

  503. Meghan, you are a beautiful soul. You have obvious external beauty but, you are so kind even in bad times. I don’t think cheaters set out to hurt their partner. I don’t even think they consider what the repercussions will be. I think he does love you. But he has this massive ego that he needs to feed. As women when we are such involved mothers and have medical issues we are to tired to feed that ego. I hope you listen to Esther Perle a relationship expert. Don’t blame yourself. It is his insecurities he has fed. Wishing you all the best. Take care of yourself because if you can’t be your best your children will want the happy, wonderful mom. Also, I have been to the best spinal surgeon in OC Dr. Jeffrey Deckey. Take care of yourself. Prayers for your baby.

  504. “There are so many people out there with bad intentions and it’s our responsibility to ignore and rise above. One slimy person doesn’t make another person cheat.” That’s exactly it…I’m sorry you’re going through this. No one deserves to be treated like this, and if someone chooses to treat you like this, they don’t deserve you. There’s someone out there who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated! Don’t settle!!

  505. I am so sorry for what has happened to you. Forgive me for a comment I posted on Twitter, I believe that was about you threatening the “mistress”. I should’ve known better no to trust those “reports”. I want to say “thank you” for speaking so poignantly & with such raw honesty. You did not deserve this. But, it is your choice to save your marriage regardless of what anyone else thinks. I pray that you will find peace in all this.

  506. This makes my stomach hurt, I’m so sorry. You’re obviously a very strong woman and an amazing mother and wife. Keep your head up, stay strong! You got this. 🧡

  507. Sad is obviously very understandable but hope your marriage can survive? Wake Up!!!! You have been with a narcissistic dirt bag lying cheat! All the words in the world don’t matter … his actions said it ALL. He doesn’t have one ounce of respect for you, that’s proven in writing in the texts.. it’s like you don’t exist.. sure, he’ll grovel now but that’s every narcissists way of maintaining their supply.. I.e you today. There is ZERO excuse in this world for sending dick pics and videos or meeting up women on the road. And if you believe they didn’t have sex… I am sorry to tell you those texts prove they did. I write this because I’ve been there and learned the hard way by wanting to believe differently for fear of losing what I thought I had… but really didn’t, it was all for show. You know what they say… fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. I was fooled twice. Don’t let that be you. Sorry you’re going through this in such a public way. Best of luck.

  508. God bless you Meghan ! What thoughtful and poised words… sadly, I have been through this as well. I was you just a few years ago… a devoted mother with young children, doing her best to be everything to everyone. I was blindsided by my husbands betrayal. People asked me how I didn’t see it, how I couldn’t know… It broke me into a million pieces, but Im not broken. I clawed my way out of that deep, dark place I know you Know all too well and with the help of God, found peace. People asked me how I could forgive him. They saw me as weak… I am far from weak. It took the greatest amount of strength and pure grace to forgive someone who unquestionably did not deserve it. But it wasn’t about what he deserved… it was about what I did… what my kids did. And what we deserved was what we were promised — a loving and happy family. If he was willing to right his wrongs every single day by honoring our original commitment…then I was willing to let him try. You will come out on the other side of this, I know it. What that side looks like is entirely up to you and I believe you will do what is right for both you are and your babies. Sweet girl, you are far stronger and braver than you even know. Your unconditional love for your children will carry you through this … just know there is another mama out there, praying for you….Cheering for you…. and hoping you find your peace. Sending big hugs and tons of prayers for Hart ❤️ xxx

  509. Sending love Meghan. I am sorry for the pain you are going through. I really respect you writing this, because I know it’s such a hard time and you’re trying to be open and vulnerable bc the press writes so many bad things. Thank you for being raw, and I will say a special prayer for you tonight. I hope time will heal your heart and things work out in your best interest whatever that may be.

  510. I really hope for the sake of your family & YOUR heart’s sake, you and your husband can mend this pain. If not, you will be okay. Women were born to overcome ANYTHING this life throws at us. Your babies need a happy mommy. Be there for them. Love them, squeeze and nurture them. THEY deserve the best version of YOU! My mom said this to me a very long time ago..when people show you who THEY are, LISTEN to them.
    I really wish you all the best love.

  511. I’m so sorry you are going through this, and in the public’s eye no less. I cannot fathom what that must be like. Infidelity can destroy a relationship, but sometimes they can still be salvaged, so depending on what path you want to take, I think the strength you’ve shown will take you there. Perhaps this happening at the same time you battle health issues with your baby boy will be an unseen silver lining, because your mind will need to be focused there. I wish there were straight firm answers when these happenstances occur. Keep your head up to the best of your ability and thank you for sharing such a personal moment.

  512. Meghan, I wish you all the best and ultimately the strength to do what is best for you and your children.

  513. Wow Meghan you are incredible STRONG! My heart hurts for you and I cannot imagine what you are going through. But I know you will make it through the darkness because you are one tough woman. Keep fighting for what you believe in. Sending lots of Love.

  514. I simple do not think he can be trusted again. It’s not about love now . He new what he was doing and it is very selfish. You would have never known if he would not have gotten caught . He not only did this to you but he did it to y’all s children. It seems like this would be the time when y’all are the closest after everything you have been through. You deserve better and no I don’t know you, but you seem like a really nice, genuine lady. I’m sorry you are going through this. Just know you can rise above it, but he does not deserve a second chance at this point.

  515. I feel for you. I have been betrayed too, while pregnant. I know you will find a way to be strong for your kids. To forgive for your kids. To heal for your kids. My husband and I worked it out. It took time and so much work. But it’s possible. Also, fuck everyone’s opinions. You stay. You leave. Who knows? But do what feels right for you and your kids.

  516. Sending you peace and prayers for you both!! Trust in your faith and your family. God will be there for you. Keep your kids and family around you for support and you will get through this a stronger woman! I will keep you in my prayers!

  517. Megan, sending you all the love that a stranger is allowed to send . I am sorry that you are going through such a hard time. I hope your heart heals and either you guys become a stronger couple or you just become stronger than you ever thought you could be.

  518. I am so sorry. You are such a good person with a beautiful ❤️ heart. Be strong. Thoughts and prayers are with you. God does not give us more then we can handle. I know that doesn’t seem true at this moment😢 But you are strong and can do this🙏 Prayers for you Meghan.

  519. Hokd your head high, and focus on your children and let Jimmy focus on the marriage! Bitterness will not fix what needs fixing, and that is YOU first, so that you can be the mother your babies need. Where your marriage was first before babies, now first is your children. Infidelity is not the end of the world, or a relationship, but it is the end of trust for many years to come, I know this from experience over 25 years ago…we celebrate 45 years next month and he has never strayed since the first time and I am his whole world…it was when I told him that it was up to him to prove he wanted me and our marriage because I would survive alone, that the light bulb went off and he knew I was serious. Money doesn’t buy healing, only time does.

    Best of luck Megan and prayers for Hart, you and your babies.

  520. I’m so sorry this has happened to you too! I know what it feels like. Don’t make any rash decisions with it being so fresh.

    You wrote how crippling this feels to have happen to you by your person. I applaud your honesty. And yes, no material possessions could ever take place of the most vulnerable necessity – love.

    I am sorry your son, Hart, is having medical issues. I am sending you all love, light and healing vibes.

    Be kind to yourself Meghan!

  521. I have been where you are and my marriage ended. Peace comes through strength and healing comes through forgiveness. I wish you both. Prayers and blessings your way.

  522. Your feelings are justified and validated. You have every right to be upset and demand that he seek help. He needs to understand this extra attention he craved. Why??? He is obviously broken in some way in is no reflection on you as a human, a wife, a lover, a mother etc. Heal at your own pace and take all the time you need. No one needs an explanation but of it helps to share than you go girl. Hugs xoxo

  523. You were “the other woman” when you met him. And the way he treated you on the show….. Why would this behavior surprise you? He is disgusting and a liar. Of course he had relations with this woman, why else would she be called a “mistress”?? Sorry this happened to you, but really, open your eyes. Kick him to the curb and worry about your babies.

  524. My prayers are with you and your family, darlin. I find it so courageous that you have spoken your feelings and done it in such an eloquent manner, despite the hurt. Despite the anger. I claim healing in your heart, in the name.of Jesus. ♡x

  525. Ugh. That sucks!! You are beautiful, strong, a mama raising beautiful children. Keep your head up! Cheating has nothing to do with you-it’s an issue with him. One you could never change. I’ve been there. You will only grow to be stronger. Xoxoxo.

  526. Wow! What a good woman you are! I had the same situation happen to me. While I was busy bei g a good Mom my husband decided to have a emotional affair with a co worker. Nothing physical but hurts just as bad. After 15 yrs of marriage and being my best friend. I know exactly what your feeling. You are a good wife and mother. Do what you think is best for you and your babies. You can go wrong doing it that way. Your husband’s poor choice doesn’t define your family. He chose poorly and now you will choose correctly! Stay strong it will be alright!

  527. I am reading this, feeling that utter pit of betrayal that was my life just 4 years & 45 days ago. I’m so so sorry for your pain……my husband & I celebrated 23yrs 3/30/19, 28yrs total together.
    God was/is greater than any sin or brokenness in our marriage. Prayers for you & your beautiful family🙏🏼♥️
    Much love Xx

  528. Wow.. you’re painfully honest. I always liked you on the RHOC. You always had a good head on your shoulders, and it’s clear you still do.
    You’re right. You didn’t cheat. He’s a repeat cheater so he has a lot of work to do to figure that all out. You have to figure out how to navigate through to forgiveness for your family.
    I hope you get there. Best wishes for your son.

  529. Girl this is not about you! This guy needs a lot of work. He needs to be told what a big deal he is way too often. That is not your job! Manly as you think he is, he is NOT. And you are correct, it’s cheating plain and simple. He cheated on you, your kids, your marriage. 100%. If you can commit to telling him he has a big dick every day it might work out, if that’s what you want. God bless!

  530. Oh honey, life is hard. I am so sorry this had happened. It will take time, and a lot of effort between both of you. Focus more on yourself and your child. You will be in my thoughts.

  531. Meghan, I can totally relate to your circumstances, 4 years ago I to found inappropriate messages and pictures between my husband and his female co worker. I had just had our third baby girl and was already dealing with postpartum and of course the weight gain. I couldn’t believe that the man I married could do this to me and our children it broke me. I never thought I could get over it but we stayed together and everyday he has done everything to make me feel comfortable and secure in our marriage. I still have triggers though like stories like yours is a reminder that humans fail us and that’s why it’s important to love ourselves our children and especially have God in our lives to give us the strength and unconditional love we need and deserve. I’ll be praying for you that God heals your broken heart and mends your marriage.

  532. I am so sorry you have to deal with this and in such a public way. I’ve been in the same position and my marriage survived! I chose forgiveness and love. It took time but as the days got further away from finding out the truth the trust came back. I hope nothing but love for you.

  533. I’m sorry, he doesn’t deserve you…I’ve been following you for quite some time…and Jimmy has just confirmed all my skepticism…he’s a 🐷 He May love you, but he simply pacifiers you. Jimmy is sooooo all about Jimmy. I’m so sorry for this betrayal, and if he just blows this off, with whatever he says to pacify you , well then you are the fool. He’s going to need to commit to some serious marriage counseling, therapy for himself as well. Good luck honey, I know you love him, but this needs to be nipped in the bud, if this is truly the first incident! KZ

  534. My heart breaks for you. I think you need to give it some time and then really truly think about whether or not you truly want to stay in this marriage. With as much as he was traveling while you were on the housewives and if he is still traveling like that, would you be able to trust him again? I hope that everything works out however you want it to work out.

  535. I am sorry you are going through this, my first marriage ended because of his cheating.
    . it hurts!! That said, you chose to marry a man who had multiple children with multiple women, Obviously, I do not know you nor your heart, but I watched you on TV and from there can garner the finer things in life are important to you. Marriage is a choice every single day whether there are men hitting on you, or it is a beautiful day. Marriage is a choice every single day be they good days or bad. You and your children have a better life than most and you have the choice and the means to leave a bad situation, where so many women cannot. Please keep that in mind.

  536. Oh Meghan, im so sorry you have to go thru this. The only thing i can say if you love him forgive him and move on leave the past in the past. It will be hard but we’re all human we make mistakes if he did it more than once it’s pathological? You have to go thru the dark to get to the light. Only you will know what to do, do what’s right for you? I will say this some women don’t care if your husband is married or not their only thinking about the money and status. Some women are evil calculated disingenuous cunning malicious conniving and crazy. I’m not making excuses for Jim but like i said we’re human we all make mistakes.

  537. I’ve been where you are. My husband cheated and I had four children ages 8, 7, 5 and 3 at the time. It’s humiliating, shocking, embarrassing and shameful. It’s not about you. It’s him. Took me a long time to realize that. You’re right. You did nothing wrong. Focus all your energy and love on your beautiful babies because that is what will help you through. (I wish I could give you the wisdom I’ve learned the last seventeen years) This is the hardest part. I pray your faith carries you through. 💕🙏

  538. Been there.. in my opinion, they might as well had sex. Emotional cheating is worse than physical cheating. It’s premeditated. Some people don’t know what it takes to be married and what the meaning of marriage is. Taking the kids out of it, how do you trust him again? When he goes to the golf course, business trip or a night out without you? It’s such betrayal. Someone who truly loves you won’t do that. I hope you find strength in this and know your self worth. Once you find that, the perfect man for you will come in your life.

  539. Thank you for your raw honesty and willingness to open up to us all. While I personally have not been through this feeling, I have consoled and held the hands of many near and dear to me. They suffered silently. You were not given that option/luxury. And while I’m sure you would rather crawl under a rock, your openness has empowered countless. I truly hope your marriage can recover. And when it does, I want to ensure you it does not make you weak or a push over. It makes you willing to put love before anger and resentment.

  540. Meghan, I’m only 28 and cannot even begin to understand marriage or the hardships that come along with it. But what I do know is watching you over the years, you are an incredibly strong willed and intelligent role model who has come this far. Life will try to tear you down but someone like you won’t allow that to happen. My prayers go to your son and time will heal all else.

  541. MKE so many of us have been in the same spot just not as public. I’m sorry you’re sad and going through everything. I still don’t FULLY trust but have to work on that every stupid day!

  542. Hi Meghan, I know you call her slimy …. But ultimately it was Jim who didn’t have to act … it is not her responsibility to stay away it was his to say NO. They cheat once they will always cheat always. He is not worthy of you. You are so above this … for Jim to dishonour you is unforgivable. I wish for nothing more than you to be happy again. Time and for you to realize none of this is you none it is all him … do not lay blame on slimy …. It’s Jim.

  543. Thank you for your openness and candor. I’m impressed by you. You have a good head on you and you will get through all of this. You give me hope in my own life.

  544. You are beautiful soul and deserve nothing but happiness. Everything happens for a reason and this will only make you stronger. As much as you didn’t deserve this, you’ll learn things about yourself that you’ve never learned before. Things that will make you more confident, happy, and at peace. I have both been cheated on and cheated myself. Cheating stems from underlying fear, unhappiness, and insecurities. The road to recovery is hard, but doable. Take time to heal, focus on your happiness, and to pamper yourself. Everything will be okay, healing takes time.

  545. Being a mom is the hardest job we will ever have in our life. Being a wife at the same time as raising little ones is even harder. YOU did NOTHING wrong!!!!!!! I for one can sympathize and understand that not being a complete mom for your kids is the worst feeling and a ton of guilt that comes with that. The fact that your putting one foot in front of the other through your pain everyday makes you the best mom!! Take time to really heal your heart and don’t put yourself down again YOU did nothing wrong!! Thanks for being so open and honest.

  546. Your an amazing mommy and WIFE!!!! Your so right, this will not define who you are. You will get through this and prevail like no other. Meghan please reach out to Jana Kramer. She went through something so public and similar and her marriage is better than ever. Communication is key in any relationship. Keep your head up and your babies close to heal your broken heart. You will recover.

  547. I am in awe of your strength and encouraged by your ability to (perhaps) forgive…in time. We had babies around the same time and I have been following your happiness…the ups and the downs. You ARE what the definition of strength is….ugly cries and all.

  548. I was never a big fan of yours. But this? This rawness, this transparency – will save someone’s life. Not your intention, but your bravery to write this, will compel another woman, not as strong as you, to read it. Maybe feel less alone. Maybe feel that it couldn’t be that she wasn’t good enough since she can see you’re beyond stunning and it happened to you. She won’t feel so alone – and she may not hurt herself. Know this as you grow past this. Which you will. And be stronger on the other end. ~ some woman you will never know.

  549. Meghan, time to say goodbye to him, is he sorry? Or just sorry he got caught! Believe me once the trust has gone you never really get it back and I speak from personal experience, life it too short to be wondering what he’s getting up to when you are apart! You have your beautiful family….. be happy ❤

  550. Oh my goodness. My heart is broken for you. Pray like you e never prayed before and hopefully you can find some sort of peace. Your children are beautiful just like you. You are blessed and you always have your family and friends. 💕

  551. so glad to see you understand the problem is HIM not HER He owed you fidelity and honesty and truth She owed you nothing and SHE can be replaced by any one of the millions of other women who are not YOU but YOU can never be replaced by anyone. You WILL learn to trust again but it will never be the same. But it might be worth it in the end and only time will tell

    a woman who has been there

  552. If he was your one true love, he wouldn’t have done this at all. He isn’t your one true love. I feel so bad for you and the kids, but this is perhaps not the right man to raise his kids with you. I wouldn’t share custody with him because he can’t be trusted and your kids will be around other raunchy women. It is a hard decision. I hope your little boy will be okay.

  553. I’m sorry you are feeling this pain. I always thought you were to good for him! You have a lot on your plate and he takes his time to disrespect you in the worst way. He new what he was doing! You will , in time , rise above this! He doesn’t deserve you!

  554. My heart goes out to you. You didn’t deserve this. My thoughts and prayers are with you while you heal from this betrayal.

  555. My dearest Megan.
    I have been flowing you since RHOC and honestly you have been the most humble, honest and beautiful wives of them all.
    You dont deserve this my dear.
    My heart cries reading your words and feeling your pain.
    Be strong for your children, keep your head up high with pride, dont let it destroy you as you have 3 wonderful children to look after especially Hart.
    You are young and beautiful and I pray that God will look after you at this time and whatever falls into place is meant to be.
    His a loving God and he will be there for you..💗
    God bless you my dear

  556. Meghan, my heart truly breaks for you. I don’t have answers to many of your questions especially why some men self-sabotage their marriages. Makes no sense. You’re right, who are these people? I guess you have to try to put yourself in his mind to figure out why he did this to you, but because women are unique creatures and we think differently than men, it’ll be so hard to find out that answer. Maybe speak with your father or your brother? They might have some insight .Just know one thing Meghan and i don’t mean to hurt you more, but this man will undoubtedly do this to you again and again. You can be certain of it. You can try to heal your marriage, but I think it’s going to be nearly impossible especially when you say yourself that you don’t trust him anymore. If there is no trust in a marriage, then there is no marriage. Full stop. Anytime he will be out of town or out with the boys, you will stress and wonder if he’s cheating. Do you really want to live your life that way, always worrying what he’s doing? Look what happened to Shannon Bedor. In the end, all her hard work in mending and healing their marriage was just another betrayal. Don’t put yourself in that situation Meghan. You are a young and beautiful woman. You will find your soulmate. You will, but right now just think and work at healing yourself, not your marriage. I think that’s done. He’s an aging man, much older than you and he knows he’s aging and he’ll regret doing what he did to you. So please just watch over yourself and your beautiful children. Put all your energy in them and stay strong. Fan from Canada.💖💖

  557. You are stronger than you realize. Just take each day as it comes. You are the only one who can ultimately decide where this takes you in terms of your marriage. Whether you decide to stay or leave, your relationship doesn’t define you. You are enough. Never forget that. If you have a faith, times like these are when it will be your source of strength and peace. I’m praying for you and your precious family. God bless you.

  558. Oh Meghan my heart aches for you! I’ve been there, you really can salvage your marriage if you both want the work. He would have to be completely transparent to regain trust. Also if he uses porn that should be an issue to address. I absolutely feel porn is destructive to relationships. If the work is put in your marriage can be stronger than ever! Men are very visual and that’s why they are so easily trapped by images. You are an amazing women and do not doubt your worth. I don’t know if you are a woman of faith but I am and you will be in my prayers!!!

  559. I’m so sorry as a woman a mother and a wife that you are having to deal with and address this. No woman wants to EVER feel second best. I hope you can find healing somehow, please remember your worth. You a such a beautiful soul and only wants to be loved as you love others. I hope your heart heals Meghan xxx Love Kelly J xx

  560. You’re not only sad but raw, it takes a lot to put this out, and to do so genuinely. It is going to take time, but there’s beauty on the other end. Whatever your next chapter brings, it WILL be better… hang in, and focus on yourself, that’s all you can do.

    Chin up Meghan.

    Hugs from a fan,
    Susan

  561. You are lovely and genuine. You dont deserve it. Love your babies and yourself. In time you will learn to trust yourself again.

  562. So sorry Meghan. I’ve been through 3 affairs with my former husband. Each during times of difficulty. Pregnancies and breast cancer. I hope you don’t have to go through what I’ve been through, but you have to take time before you decide. Read about narcissism and sociopathy. They can’t change. They don’t feel empathy. They don’t feel what they did is wrong. I stayed for my kids too and unfortunately, when they are a narcissist it can’t get better. Hang in there.

    Love from KC

  563. So so sorry Meghan. Take care of YOU and everything else will fall into place as it is meant to be.
    Be strong for your babies and continue with those “ugly cry drives”. They are necessary and they hurt no one. Prayers for baby Hart 🙏🏻

  564. I don’t really do this, comment on a public figure’s blog. But I feel for you, and I am impressed and proud of your honesty. 30 years ago, I went through a betrayal, tried to make it work, ultimately divorced and recovered my self esteem and faith in my judgement. Today is my 22nd anniversary of being married to a wonderful, patient and trustworthy man! There ARE good men out there. While I hope you can work things out, my experience and intuition tell me it’s a lost cause because you will never trust him again. You deserve better. You will recover, you will be stronger, and you will live well. ❤️

  565. I love your quote: Marriage is a choice on bad days and is easy and beautiful on a good day…you’re right. I hope someday soon you’ll feel that again.

  566. I am so very sorry. I can relate as I’ve been there. To have married your soulmate for this to happen is cruel on every level. Again, I understand asIve been through it. Please know that it can be repaired and that it can be forgiven. Not now, but in time. I’m 3 years into my very similar situation as yours. You will get through this just stay focused on your beautiful babies as they need all of their mommy. Remember, He isn’t going anywhere so he can wait for you. Take this time to heal. Prayers to you and your beautiful children.

  567. Megan, you and your family are in my prayers. I pray that you able able to get a diagnosis for Hart and he is able to receive the medical help he needs. As a mother with child that has a medical condition I know heartache to see your child go through something that is out of our control. I hope that your marriage is able to recover and become stronger than ever.

  568. I know how you feel. My husband of 35 years did the same thing last fall. He’s not a public figure, like yours, but our children found out and made him tell me. I was devastated… our feelings of hurt, anger, and overwhelming sadness are the same. I did nothing wrong but yet I feel guilty. I know it is totally his fault, but so angry with those who targeted him. Hurt by him for not fighting for US; Giving into his own selfishness. I wish you the best of luck in finding the right thing to do for you and your family. Only you can decide. I’m sorry that your family has to experience this publicly when the focus should be on their feelings and how they will get through this horrible experience. Four of my 5 children know and we have chosen to keep it from the last one. I hope she never finds out because it will be just as devastating to her as it was to me I chose to stay with my husband. We have been seeing a therapist. It is a challenge everyday. I think about what he did all the time, just much as as he tries to not think about it. His trust will be questioned. His love for me must be proven all over again. I have forgiven him, but have not forgotten. My goal is to make new memories that will push the hurtful ones aside and eventually out of my mind. Don’t let this experience steal away your happiness. You have so much to be thankful for. Dwell on the love and support from your family. I wish you the best in your painful journey. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers as you go down this bumpy road of decisions and reparation. I am sorry for your sadness. Don’t let this define you. Don’t look at life before the betrayal. Only look forward and be hopeful. I hope your husband will understand the importance of CHOOSING YOU! And proving that to you once again. Good luck and continue to love your children like you always have.

  569. Happened to me when I was 6 months pregnant and again when my daughter was 8 months. I empathize with you. It is hard. You can find your way out of the darkness, whichever direction you chose. But most importantly you have your babies and their happiness will help you heal. This is the first time I’ve ever commented on a blog of any kind. That’s how much your candidness speaks to me because it was me. You are in my prayers.

  570. The humiliation alone is enough to eat away at you. Knowing they were lying their asses off while smiling in your face. How does one do that to their spouse? I don’t think I’ll ever understand it. My ex-husband did the exact same thing. My oldest daughter was three when we got together. And had twins. (boy/girl) one with a neuromuscular syndrome called Caudal Regression Syndrome. I was 26 and he walked away from me and his kids. I am the one that was there for my son through 15 surgeries in 13 years (five before the age of four). It was hard as hell but I let my hurt, anger, and humiliation motivate me to do the best I could do. They’re all adults now. Both girls are married and my son is still here at home with me (cognitively he is 100%) More than anything, I am sorry this happened to you. From the bottom of my heart. Hopefully, you can heal and move forward. You’re so right, it takes time. Xx

  571. I think you are amazing for writing this. You gave him the boy he always wanted n did not deserve this. I dont think fixing it is gonna work. He never was liked by anyone from the show but u loved him so u prob ignored red flags we all saw. Edited show or not he was never not a jerk! Your strong smart and beautiful u can do way better. A leopard doesn’t change their spots n he seems to not be able to stay married to anyone…THIS DRAMA HAD ZERO TO DO WITH ANYTHING YOU DID HE IS JUST A POS N IM SURE HIS EXS WERE ALL TREATED THE SAME MARRIED TO A BLOCK OF ICE. SENDING U POSITIVITY N HEALING VIBES AT THIS TIME….MUCH RESPECT TO YOU ♡

  572. The tone may come off as harsh to some, but she is speaking the truth. I feel for her and this situation; but the facts are that love shouldn’t hurt. The timing is off, but when is the timing right….. he needs help because there is clearly a pattern going on. Love to all, and blessing to M and her babies.

  573. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. No matter which decision you make, staying and working it out or leaving, is ok, and I’ll pray you make the decision that’s best for you and your family. So many people are rooting for you.

  574. I am currently going through this exact same thing in my marriage, found out a week ago yesterday. It’s hard, it sucks, and it’s the worst thing I have ever been through. In a world where everyone says leave him, divorce him, my heart is convicted, and it tells me this story isn’t over yet. God is going to heal this marriage and make it stronger than ever. Does that mean it’s going to happen tomorrow? Absolutely not, but He is saying I’ve got this, just have faith and know that I will take you two to the finish line. I’m sorry you are going through this, I know how tough it is and to have your little nugget to worry about on top of it! Good luck!

  575. I’m so sorry this happened to you Meghan. I will be praying you make it through this and find your way back to the Love you’ve shared. Also prayers that everything turns out ok for sweet little Hart

  576. You definitely do not deserve this. Nor does any woman.

    I hope you have warm and wonderful people around you to help you during this very trying time. Bad enough this happens to those of us not in the public eye, but worse for you, as it is so public.

    You are worth more than being the wife of a man who cheats. You are beautiful, young, vivacious, thoughtful and smart. You can do whatever you want and be happy. You do not need to be publicly disrespected.

    I hope you can navigate these terribly rough waters, but I know, from experience, once trust is beoken, it is almost impossible to get it back. Without trust in a relationship, you have nothing. I admire you for wanting to work through this, and for this blog post.

    I wish you and your children the very best, and hope, whatever happens, YOU put your happiness and that of your children, first. Sometimes that means starting over.

    Maria.

  577. I respect you more now for being transparent. I know what you mean. My didn’t cheat but did betray my trust and that’s gut wrenching. I didn’t do anything to deserve it. I love what you said #iamavictimbutitwillnotdefineme

  578. I’m so sorry for the pain and suffering you are going through. You are so right you do deserve better. You chose love and marriage and chose to rise above any slime coming at you. Continue to choose to rise. God Bless you and your children.

  579. Meghan
    My heart breaks for you. You don’t deserve this! You are a beautiful person with such a kind and compassionate heart. Hold your head up high. You are better than all of this, but he will do it again. So just think about that.
    I am praying for you and your family,
    Midge Elkins

  580. I’m so sorry you’re going through this 😞. You and your lovely family will be in my prayers. Thank you for sharing and I wish you the best. 🙏

  581. I am SO SO sorry. Take time to feel you’re feelings. Cry, scream, throw things. Then when you’re ready, figure out what you want to do and how to do it. You are an amazing, beautiful, strong, kind, loving and loyal wife. You will be ok and heal. It won’t always be easy but it will be worth it

    From a wife who’s husband wasn’t faithful and we stayed together.
    Kimberly

  582. Damn. This sucks. Sending love from another mama who understands that all the money, gifts, big house etc. doesn’t replace love and loyalty. I wish you all that you’re praying for, and I’m speaking from
    experience when I say prayer works. Anything is possible through God, who strengthens us.

  583. My heart goes out to you. I don’t have any words really-I just hope your broken heart can heal. I wish your baby boy the best. 💔

  584. I appreciate your honesty and I see and feel your pain. You have done nothing wrong, and you are right, no humiliation should sit with you. You appear to be a woman who lives and trusts with her whole heart and I hope this ugly experience doesn’t rob that from you. You will heal, regardless if you stay with him or choose to move on, a choice that is yours and yours only. I wish the very best for you, your beautiful children, including best wishes for Hart. Don’t doubt yourself or second guess your strength. Whatever happens you will rise above and have joy in your life. ❤️💕

  585. Keep the faith. Don’t forget to love yourself and love your beautiful children. You are a strong woman, hell you stood up to the OG Vicki on RH 🙂
    You’re right, this doesn’t define you whatsoever. And there’s something broken in Jimmy that is causing him to seek out this attention instead of be honest and communicate his needs to you. You have always been a very real celebrity and so many people appreciate that.

    Go through the motions….hurt, anger, denial, sorrow, whatever it is because you’re human. And then be your normal BADASS self and take charge of your life and the lives of your littles. ❤️❤️❤️

  586. My heart breaks for you but in the end I know everything will work out the way you want it to. You’re a beautiful soul and person you deserve better than the best.

  587. You are a strong woman. Surround yourself with friends and family that will not speak ill of your husband. You need to be with people that will help you and your husband find a way. Marriage is hard but and there are alot of ups and downs. I have been married for 32 years and even though there were hard times. I love the achievements we have made. We have happy healthy children and now grandchildren. The only way to survive a marriage is with growth and forgiveness.
    Take care.
    Margarita

  588. So many are sad with you. Cry in your mama’s arms if you need. You will survive because that’s what women and mommies do. All will be ok.

  589. I have messaged you before my dear. And this saddens me. My daughter is married to a MLB player.
    I too am afraid that she will endure what you are going through someday.
    And she will react in the same way.

    She is in the public eye everyday as well.
    My heart hurts for you in so many ways I can’t begin to tell you just how it makes me feel.

    I am sure you have your Mother with you. You need her.
    You need space and time to think and time to heal.
    I can tell you from experience that it truly never goes away.
    It doesn’t matter how badly you want it to it just doesn’t.
    I loved my husband more than anything and he cheated on me and our four daughters.

    But you were pregnant and to me that’s just unforgivable. I know you love him but you need to LOVE yourself more!
    Men don’t change my dear. They have a choice and he made it.
    He feels remorse because he got caught. And if he truly loved you he would never have done any of it in the first place. He is a grown man and knows the repercussions that will precede if he would get caught.
    You are better than this and so are your children. He disrespected not only you but he disrespected Aspen. His other children. I am glad that I am not your Mother because he would be out of that house and probably out of your lives. You have some decisions to make and you have time to make them but for the love of God make smart choices that you can live with.

    NEVER COMPROMISE YOUR INTEGRITY FOR ANY MAN! IF YOU DO HE WILL DO IT AGAIN!

    I will keep you in my prayers and I hope you really give this the thought process it deserves because he didn’t give it any. You were not even in the equation. Now that is sad.

    From the Mother of four daughters!
    Julie Neely Sellers

  590. I cried reading this. Love and hugs to you. One foot in front of the other, one breath at a time. This too shall pass.

    Saying prayers for Hart. ❤️❤️❤️

  591. Been there. The betrayal and the lies can bring you to your knees. Not knowing what happened and what went on behind your back can be utter torment. Looking at your children and wondering why your family wasn’t good enough or worth it. Been there. Still there. I forgave. Things are good. But, I will never be the same. It changes you. I’m sad. I smile. But I’m sad. It will take time to heal. When he’s gone for work, it will make you crazy with suspicion. The torment continues. I’m so sorry for you. Because I know how you feel. If he’s smart, he will stay home by your side and never leave it. He will answer all your questions and give you the truth you deserve. I will pray for you. For strength and grace.

  592. i am sorry, i’m with an addict and liar and i’m struggling with you. i’m in a really dark place right now, thinking of you. we don’t deserve this.

  593. You are strong, brave and an amazing mom. Take the time you next to be angry. To be sad. To heal. To decide what is right for you and your children. I am so sorry this happened to your family. Cheating sucks and betrayal is something that is very difficult to get over. Once you cross that bridge, it is very difficult to come back across with a clear mind and clear heart and go on as if nothing has happened. I hope with all my heart nothing but the best for you all ♥️

  594. Sending you hugs momma, I’ve been there😔 not so public obviously but there just the same. It sucks! I’ve got 9 month old triplets and my oldest is 10yrs old. My husband and I’ve been through it😣 you do what you think is best for you!❤️

  595. I’ve never responded on a blog but my heart hurts for you. First, prayers for your son. You have what it takes to deal with this. Barnes is a wonderful hospital and you will get an action plan. (I have ALS so I know what the process is like. You surround yourself with positive people you trust and be the best mama you can. I wont advise you on Jim, you can do what you need to do to support your kids. You dont owe anyone any more details so know that thousands of people wish you and your children all the happiness. 🙏

  596. Oh Meghan, I used to watch you on Housewives. You weren’t my favorite, but then you became a mother. And girl, you have come into your own! I love seeing your sweet family when you post. It’s so refreshing to hear your honest take on whatever is occurring in your life. This though. You are exactly right. You didn’t deserve this and do not have to be humiliated by your husband’s poor choices. Stay strong and stay focused on your children. They need you so much at this stage. As far as your marriage, I highly recommend counseling to work through this indiscretion. You are right in saying that anyone who would do this is broken. Something is broken within, likely a dysfunctional mother, or he wouldn’t have sought attention in this manner, especially to hurt the woman who bore him 3 beautiful babies. My faith is the only thing that gets me through the tough times. Please know you are a special person who is doing an amazing job. These were his choices so he needs to do the hard and tough work to discover and heal what drove him to make such a devastating choice. Chin up, Mama! Hug those babies and know someone is praying for you in Texas. All the best to you.

  597. I am so sorry to hear not only about your marriage but your precious little boy. You are all in my prayers! I hope you get the ending you desire whatever that is in the end. Marriage IS tough, parenting IS tough and what you are dealing with I cannot begin to imagine. I follow your blog and love seeing you with your children! You don’t think they are getting their devoted mom but they feel the love you have for them!

  598. My heart goes out to you…so sorry..it is only you & you alone can decide what to do about it. Big hugs.

  599. Hi Meghan,

    You are young and beautiful inside and out. Easier said than done, but please cut your losses. He doesnt deserve to have you as his wife. This is who he is and nithing will change him. Wishing tou and your children all the best.

  600. Sometimes we have to get through hell to see that there’s always something greater on the other side. In my prayers and stay strong! You’re a great mom and woman.

  601. My heart and love goes out to you. That you be blessed with internal peace and abundance of love and joy. You are an amazing mom and wife.

    Time is what is needed to heal and he needs to do his part big time.

    You a wonderful human and you are strong 💪🏼.
    You will get through this. 💕

    I have been married for 23 years and together for 25. I am 46 years old and I agree marriage is something we all work At it everyday. I have two kids one now going to college and my son 9 who last year was diagnosed with ADHD.

    As moms and wives so much falls on our plates. Don’t be afraid to ask for help because you need your time too especially now to just take time for yourself.

    I totally get it.

    Tons of love for you and your family.

  602. You will get through this. You are a strong woman. It is amazing what you have done and will do when you put your mind to it. When you think you can’t go on, you will. Have faith. Have faith in you. Good things come to an end. Equally, all bad things will end too and be replaced with new and wonderful memories. Peace

  603. I am so very sorry this happened to you . I know it sounds harsh but you will come out stringer , better and healthier in the end . You know you are a good person no one can take that from you . If he walked out the door tomorrow it would be his loss . He has already lost your respect hopefully in time he can gain it back Right now you have to take care of you ,

  604. Meg’s
    I just cannot believe what I just read!!! Pls know I will be keeping you and your family in my prayers. Pray about this. God will give you the answers you need just have FAITH in him and his timing…..

    I’m Sooo sorry you and your beautiful children have got to suffer because of your husband’s unfaithful doings. It’s not like he did not have EVERYTHING @ home that any man would be proud to have. I’m sorry but being unfaithful in marriage is a NONO!!!!! My heart breaks for you. Love you, Mrs Kristy in Savannah Georgia

  605. Watched you on bravo; run, he never appreciated or “got you”. There is a great fella out there that will love you and your children…..kick that pompous ass to the curb!

  606. Heart wrenching. I’m sorry this happened to you and your family. I’m sorry your world is turned upside down. I hope you can right it in time. Why can’t two people have equal devotion towards each other and the family they created? It’s impossible to read anyone else’s mind no matter how close you are to them. Hold your head high and feel proud that you upheld your part in the relationship. We can never control someone else but we can choose what is right for ourselves. Thank you for sharing your feelings, it truly touched me. Every person that is part of a couple should read this. I hope your heart is healed soon.

  607. Out of ALL of the Real Housewives shows, I only ever watched was the OC. And stopped watching when you left. I have been a loyal follower through all of your ups & downs with pregnancy & childbirth & just plain life. You seem to be one of the most caring, genuine, honest women out there. And very “down to earth & not snobby” You remind me of a friend from college, tried & true. This whole news about Jimmy came as a huge shock to me (and all of your family, friends & followers) and OF COURSE YOU, the most important of all. I don’t have any advice, just know that there are people in this world that care about you & your family.

  608. I’m so sorry you’re going through this…I pray things get easier…follow your heart…I’m pulling for you💕

  609. Meghan,
    Very sorry you are going through this. Believe me I know the pain of finding out about an affair can be unbearable. The man you are committed to and love and have been faithful to has betrayed you in the worst way. I have been there. My husband of 10 years had a long term affair. I first kicked him out of our home and was planning on divorcing him but a few months later I decided to give our marriage another chance because we truly love each other and wanted to save our marriage. You will go through a lot of different emotions. Don’t feel shame if you decide to stay with him. Nobody should judge anyone else’s marriage and really it’s none of their business anyway. It’s not going to be easy but if you really love each other and he can be honest and faithful going forward then you will get through this. But he needs to be 100% completely honest with you! My husband initially lied at first telling me the same thing Jim told you, that he didn’t have a physical relationship with her but that was not true. In order for you to ever forgive him and work on your marriage he has to be completely honest with you. And never think for a second this was because of something you did wrong. It will be a long process for you to heal and forgive him and it is not something that can be rushed but you will get through it a stronger woman. I wish you and your family the best and hope your marriage can heal someday and come out better in the end. ❤️

  610. Hey there.. Jesus loves you and we are all broken. What he did was sin against God and you but it’s not because of you.. I have been on the other side of this scenario…. I was broken and hurt my husband I was seeking things from a human that only the Lord can satisfy.. being needed, feeling sexy, admired, loved, wanting attention, but it’s never enough until we can surrender to our creator. I hope God brings Jim to repentance and that your marriage and hearts will be restored. We all don’t deserve Grace but we have been given it through Gods sacrifice of Jesus. He is the only one who will hold you and heal you. I don’t know you, but my heart aches for you. I have a singleton 13 year old and identical twin almost 11 year olds.. I will pray for you. Thank you for sharing your deepest wounds. God heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds.. You will get through this!! Let the Lord carry you and your sweet babies..

    Ashley M.

  611. Hi. I am in the end stages of a relationship I thought would be my last. I gave him everything and yet he chose to cheat on me. I was sent pics and videos of him at “our bar” cheating on me. I have cried 1000 tears and I keep trying to figure out what I could have done differently. I am alone in my cute little Kirkwood house tonight, yet again, crying. But I opened my notepad & wrote a few things I want to share with you:
    I am deaf to what you say until your changes behavior gives me a reason to listen.

    Dont fall in love with potential. Don’t fall in love with who someone could be make you blind to who they truly are.

    When someone is showing you red flags don’t ignore them; believe them. The more you ignore red flags the more you are putting yourself in a position to get your heart destroyed.

    I keep reading these over and over again.

    I too married a St. Louis Cardinal player, a decade ago, so I understand. I am close if you need someone 314-478-6151.

  612. ❤️ girl, I have been there… literally almost the same exact position but without the horrible media. Much love to you. As women, it’s never “fair” or “equal”. I can’t speak to why men do these things, but just know you are incredibly strong and as a mother, you are a special and ever important human. It will never be easy, we can only believe that it will be worth it. Take care of yourself first, then your babies. Everything else will fall into place.

  613. You are strong and did not have to share but you did. I hope by sharing it helps to heal the pain you are going there. Praying for you during this hard time.

  614. This blog post is nothing but honest and courageous. Your son’s health has to be your number one concern. My daughter had a sudden neurological disorder that put her in a wheelchair in a few days of the onset. My husband chose then to abandon our already rocky marriage. It made it harder. Meghan I know you know this but your responsibility now is to your kids and devoting all your energy towards finding a diagnosis for your son. Neurological conditions are tricky and often misdiagnosed. Study everything you learn. If what your Dr is saying doesn’t sound right – get another opinion. This could be a long and difficult road. Prepare for it and let Jim know you hope he has time to participate. If he doesn’t keep moving forward. Early diagnosis and interventions are key. Keep breathing Mama. 💜

  615. Just take one deep breath, one step in front of the other. You need to otherwise the anxiety pain and depression will overwhelm you.
    You will get thru this. Your son will be ok, no matter the outcome. Your heart will heal. Your trust in marriage will change but it may be for the better.
    You will come out better 💗

  616. Meghan,

    Though I don’t claim to know you, going on what we have seen on the show, you are nothing more than a beautiful trophy wife for him. He doesn’t respect you. While not an excuse, men are cut from a different fabric than women. I’m 50 years old and I haven’t met a man who hasn’t cheated on their wife. Jimmy just got caught. We men struggle every day with our wish to want to be monogamous but our inability to actually achieve it. Our impulses do tame down as we get older and his intentions were honest when he married you. I know that this will mean nothing now, but in due time, you will see that this was the best thing that could have happened. Give yourself some time to heal and be the best mom to your kids. They are the reason for you being here. Stay strong. XO

  617. My heart breaks for you. We are in the same boat with one of our 22 mo old twins and I couldn’t imagine going through what you are st a time like this. You are in my thoughts and praying your heart heals.

  618. So so sad …. so so unfair.. I’m sad-mad with you. Who de hell does he think he is to do this to a family HE chose to protect and love.
    he KNEW what he was doing wasn’t right… and he would still be doing it if he wasn’t caught. That my beautiful woman is the problem. He destroyed the trust that can never be mended … ever. You will always wonder, is he really going to the store .. is he really traveling for work. You will be exhausted trying to stay sane.
    Walk away..

  619. I am so sorry you are going through this. Focus on you and your kids, the rest will come , or won’t, but you WILL be ok in the end. No matter what the end result you will always have those beautiful babies, they deserve the best and so do you. This is not a reflection of you, but him, his character, his weakness and his lack of respect for you. Never let him turn it on you. I hope and pray Hart will be ok. Let that be your focus. Demand more, you deserve it.

  620. I am sad for you. Megan. I know your herat is breaking. Do not make rash decisions. You have been betrayed. The job your husband does requires he stay away from you and your children. It is a high profile mess. There is always somrone happily luring a man from his family. It takes a super human male to resist that. They all stumble and fall. Sometimes we are none the wiser. Be grateful it is in the open. Counseling is imperative. Make certain he is aware how deeply he has wounded you. Only you can be the one to decide what is right for you and your family. Do not take crap from anyone. Their opinions do not concern you. You have my prsyers for your strength and guidance.

  621. Meghan,

    I am reading all this while watching the Cardinals game with Jim announcing the game. Now I want to throw something at the tv every time he talks. I loved watching you on the Housewives and still like to check in on you now that you’ve moved back here to STL.
    I am so heartsick for you. All you’ve wanted was a beautiful life and family with Jim and now this happened. It’s bad enough to go through this, but to do it publicly is even more devastating.
    I will pray for you, your marriage, and your 3 beautiful children. You are a strong woman, but it’s ok to “ugly cry”. You don’t have to hide it. It helps cleanse your soul and clear your mind.
    Surround yourself with those who love you and take the time you need to make the best decision for you and your kids.

  622. Good for you to get a m top it!! Your telling your story!! You are brave and truly have your stuff together. Definitely Hart needs to be your priority and even though you have it together , Jimmy needs to be with 💯 with this. You have 3 kids and they deserve the best father possible they have the amazing mother. I have been married 31 years on September and marriage is definitely not easy. We have no infidelity issues, but trust me we have problems. I think your heart will help you either forgive or not, quite possibly as you both deal with issues on Hart’s health you will know if Jimmy deserves your forgiveness. I am not defending but I know of couples who have gone through circumstances very similar to yours. You are such a strong person and amazing mother but you deserve to have the support as well, You are amazing follow your heart and pray things work out the way they should. Keep your faith you will make the right decision.
    God Bless you. 🙏💗

  623. Megan,
    You don’t know me but I went through something similar. My husband posted on Craig’s list and they exchanged text and pics. My best friend was then contacted by said woman and he made her send him everything. It’s been a 1 year 3 1/2 months. It’s been a slow process but we are still together and working on our marriage. Write things out that frustrate you, take time for yourself so that the kids can have the best mom possible. You will be in my prayers !

  624. I watched you in the housewives and I loved you. You’re so beautiful and so open and so honest. My heart is breaking for you. I’ll keep you in my prayers. I can’t imagine. My grandmother in law told me when I got married “you don’t marry someone you can live with. You marry someone you cannot live without”. I wish the best for you and your family.

    Thinking of you xoxo

    Zadien

  625. Meghan you are so beautiful inside and out. I am so sorry you are going through this, it will take time like you said.. Praying for you all 💕.

  626. Maybe this is wrong for me to say but I have always thought he wasn’t good enough for you. I watched you guys and the way he treated you and I think you were emotionally abused. Run girl run.

  627. Have never read something more raw and honest!!! You go mama! Thank you for sharing! So many women go through this and feel alone in the private struggles of marriage. I pray you can find strength, grace, and happiness in the days to come! All the love ❤️

  628. Oh I am so very sad for you. You are an amazing Mom and a beautiful woman inside and out. This has happened to me and it really hurts more than any words can explain. I will pray for you and your healing from the pain you are feeling. It’s so hard to explain to anyone who hasn’t experienced this. I ended up staying with my husband in the end but only after separating for a while and going to therapy alone and together. Things will never be the same but I still love him. You will have to go with what your heart and brain decide in the end. I will say a prayer for you and your beautiful children. I hope your little one gets a better diagnosis then what you are thinking.

  629. I’m really sorry that you’re going through this pain Meghan.. but I hope you realise that if you stay with him he will 100% do this again and you may have to go through this entire ordeal again. If you want a solid, honest and faithful marriage you need to be two solid, honest and faithful people – he has shown you that he is not that person and he never will be – that is a fact.

  630. Meghan, as hard as it is now, the quicker you move on the better. As you’ll read many of us were married to similar men: multiple previous marriages, innocent children from different marriages, ex-wives made out to be villains the one thing people seldom address or recognize is that they were married to a sociopath.
    Go a quick Google search then please make an appointment with a qualified therapist.
    Sociopaths cannot change, they are incapable. No matter how much we want to believe they can or believe them when they say they can change, they cannot. Caught is not accountable. Look back through his life and note the times he claims he’s a victim. He’s not, he leaves a trail of victims. I wish you and your children all the best.

  631. Im so sorry 🤗🤗🤗🤗.. please do not listen to any I told you so’s or any rude comments only listen to the people who support you most of all you are the only one that can decide what’s best for you I don’t know you I’ve only seen you on the housewives shows and I always thought you were amazing in every way I wish I could give you a hug.. no one can heal your pain that will come in time you’re a smart lady and a beautiful beautiful woman and I’m sure a great mother I wish you nothing but the best I wish you nothing but happiness and love please take care of yourself first and foremost you and your children are what’s most important right now.🤗🤗🤗

  632. Deep pain for this event. I pray that your marriage will overcome this horrific bad decision on his part. The Babies, older kids, you…. everything hurts on this sad day; cry, meditate, breath, keep it simple and 1 day at a time. I am truly sorry, I will pray for you and him. Your family needs the both of you!! He needs to buckle up and get back to his Family. e-Hugs!

  633. So sorry to hear this. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Stay close to God and he’ll see you through. Praying for Jim that he will return to God too

  634. Thinking of you and your babies ❤️. My son had a very severe speech delay when he was a toddler – in short he didn’t have any language – other than to point to something and tell me what it was until he was about 4. When he started kindergarten at 5 he was maybe putting 3 word sentences together but could not carry on a conversation. Early intervention was the key – he went right into speech therapy at 3 and continued for years – he’s now 13 and you would never know – we are so incredibly proud of him. Stay strong and know it’s ok to sit and cry – – you’re his best advocate and voice!! Take care ❤️❤️

  635. You’re one classy lady 👏 I will have you and your beautiful family in my prayers and don’t let anyone take your blessings..

    Be blessed!

  636. Meghan, so sorry you are dealing with this. I’m a mother to a 10 month old baby boy and can’t imagine how you are feeling while trying to be the best mommy to your boys. I’m sure you’re trying to stay strong for the babies, but allow yourself some grace. Thinking of you.

  637. Meghan,
    Your feelings are clearly raw and you expressed them so well. You can feel the authenticity dripping off your words, along with the pain. I, like millions of others, watched every episode of your show and it was apparent you’re a very genuine person. Your family is your everything. Even the way you mothered his daughter while she watched her mother pass away was beautiful. You don’t deserve this and I am so sorry. Take time to think, take time to heal and take time to keep your eyes open and possibly see other things you haven’t seen. I don’t know you and this is probably not the best time to say this but as an outsider looking in, from just a TV set, I always had the feeling this was the case. I don’t know why but I said so to my husband many times. As you said, you don’t deserve this. You deserve so much better. I know you love him and you want to keep your family in tact but look more before you make any decisions. It’s your decision to make about your family and since you’re in the public eye, you will be judged on whatever decision you make but it’s your family and it will affect no one on this side of the TV. No one! It affects you, Jim and your 3 beautiful children. I just don’t want to see you get hurt again and I certainly don’t want to see you forgive him when and if you don’t know everything. I always had a gut feeling that he wasn’t faithful. Again, I am a stranger and you may have already stopped reading this but I felt the need to tell you because you need to know ALL the truth. Best of luck to you and I will certainly be praying for your inspiration, strength and peace.

  638. Man, so so sorry, Meghan. I agree with everything you said. What was he thinking? His life will be forever stained because of this. You will rise above it. I’d love to think you two could go to counseling and figure out why this happened and why he sabotaged his wonderful marriage and life with you and your three beautiful kids.

    I’m sorry about Hart and will be sending prayers out to you all. Of course, hopefully, it won’t be as bad as it sounds now.

    Much love to you.

    Robin

  639. Megan so sorry you are dealing with this! You are a strong beautiful lady and wonderful mother. Praying that everything will come out the way you want it to . Hope everything goes well for Hart, just love your beautiful children & family!❤️

  640. Hey. I generally follow no one. But I did you because I think you are the real deal. My advise, I’ve been where you are and I will say you have to do what is right for you. No one can tell you. There is no one right answer. What an ass for sure though. Freaking idiot. But you decide what is right for you. Not you and the kids. You!

  641. Praying for you and your marriage and your precious little boy. Draw close to Jesus for he can help all that is broken and he will never forsake you.

  642. Hang in there I’m so sorry but you have to stay strong for your children. There are brighter days in your horizon. Good people do win

  643. 💞My heart goes out to you. You have stated perfectly the despair of infidelity. May God hold you tight Meghan.

  644. Oh MEGHAN, I’m so sorry…. I will keep you in my
    Thoughts. Prayers for you and your family. I hope he does everything to help heal your broken heart. You are a amazing woman. ❤️

  645. Hi,
    I get your pain, been there but I wanted to share there is hope. Even Jesus was betrayed at a point. Its a hard and painful process but it’s definitly a battle that can have a positive outcome. I went through it and now we are stronger than ever. You can do it..I wanted to attach a link of articles that helped me survived this times. If u can’t open it then visit JW.org under Marriage in the front page. It gives you counsel on how to deal with betrayal, how to move forward and forgive, how to trust again( yes it is possible). You are strong, but remeber in this process u need to listen to your heart and not others opinion. The phrase ” Ones a cheater allways one” not true. Is sad but something like this uncovers many things that only gives you a chance to make better. It’s not your fault but together you can gain all you think u have lost. https://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/family/marriage-gods-view/

  646. I too am going through this, my husband and I have been together 26 yrs. I do feel hurt, sad etc. trust is everything and it is hard to trust again. Prayers for you I totally understand.

  647. Praying for you Meghan!!!! There are no answers or an easy way to navigate though this devastation, just take things one day at a time and put God before everything!
    I’m so sorry this has happened to you and your children! Prayers also for your precious Hart!

  648. MKE,
    All I can say is that I’m praying for you. This is the most beautifully written, raw, heartbreaking post I’ve ever read. As alone as you feel, please know there are other sisters out there who have walked in similar shoes, supporting you, crying with you, loving you. Leaving is the easy road. I respect you for trying to work through the bad. You are an inspiration. Stay strong ❤

  649. So sorry. Try listening to Where Should We Begin with Esther Perel, a podcast. If those people can get through it, so can you. It may give you hope. Thank you for letting us support you.

  650. Marrying an ex-athlete must be 100 x’s harder than marrying a regular 9-5pm guy! He is at fault and you are so brave to call him out and tell everyone how it has effected you!
    Good Luck! I hope you find happiness whether you stay with him or leave him! Do what your gut and heart tell you which is easier said than done. Pray before bed and see what comes to you in in dreams! There will be a sign on what you should do!

  651. Whatever you decide is best for your family, you will come out ahead. You are worth it, and deserve to be happy, loved and valued fully! Praying that your heart heals soon.

  652. I went thru this. He also introduced us and I thought I had a new best friend. I was going to get her a job working in my office. They had this phone, text, email, video sex thing going on for a year. I posted some of her porn pics and screenshots of their emails for everyone to see. My soul was hallowed out and filled with rage, pain, confusion, depression, disbelief—— why, why, WHY!? Just wanted to know why. I would rather die than live through that year. I played detective and I found more email addresses, aliases, and dating profiles. We went though couples counseling and we have remained in therapy for 3 years for what happened and for our own issues. He has narcissistic personality disorder. He was manipulative and mentally abusive back then and I had no idea, so brain washed. Is our marriage better now 3 years later? We function better, he treats me well, we feel closer to one another, I haven’t caught him doing any of those betraying things since… however, it has forever tainted our wedding and our marriage. It is always in the corner of my mind and I will always be sad that I cannot have a truly faithful marriage as that ship has sailed. But, we decided to stay together for many reasons and we have a great life. If only the affair and betrayals could be erased so I wouldn’t have it all to periodically remind me that (at least I feel) I am not good enough.
    I am sorry for anyone who goes through this, especially publicly. My advice for right now is to have him leave for now, keep crying your eyes out and talk to anyone who will listen. Call and yell at him when you need to, ask him all the questions you need to, break his favorite posession if you feel like it— he broke yours! Then, after this initial shock and devastation is over you need to go to counseling. Counseling will help you figure out what chapter is next. Keep eating and taking care of yourself and ask for help with the kids. You should also make an appointment to see your own therapist right away. I wish you peace and love with whatever path you take. xoxo

  653. Meghan, I cried and cried so hard when I read this, thinking and hoping it was a sick joke. I watched you evolve into a strong beautiful woman, step mother, mother, daughter and wife, Be sad, be angry and this will pass…no- you will never trust him again but you may forgive him for being insane. I will tell you this, tomorrow is my 51st anniversary, my husband never got caught cheating with a woman or man but he is a liar every day of his life about things that aren’t important. He can look directly in my eyes to this day and tell me something I know if not true and I consider the kind, gentle, adoring man he is to me and I don’t over look the daily lies I remember them and just know what my mom use to say “a man will never change” . Seriously I divorced him and 20 yrs later because I thought everyone was honest well we remarried using same date because he was so sentimental when we chose the date the second time, he wanted it to be June 15. Well my darling, I just want to say, if you do forgive but “not forget” it’s ok. You will never get those years back with your young beautiful babies if you divorce. It will consume you in every way. I would put it under my belt and use it. Blessings, hugs and prayers for you.

  654. So sorry to read this Meghan.I have followed you for years on Real Housewives.I admired your honesty and fairness.I was so happy when you had Aspen.I cried when you miscarried.
    I am praying for you,Jimmy and your beautiful kiddos

  655. I’m so sorry Meghan… I love your blogs but this one isn’t good. Love and prayers to you and your beautiful children💕

  656. You are right. You don’t deserve it and you will get through it stronger. Hang tough girl. We got your back.

  657. Meghan, your word truly touched me and I will be praying for you and Jim’s marriage but even more so, for precious baby Hart! I will be praying that all will be well with him and praying for the doctors that will be caring for him!

  658. Praying for you! I’m so sorry this is happening to you! Praying for your sweet, perfect babies as well! Things will get better mommy! 💜

  659. I am so very sorry you are having to go through this. My heart breaks and weeps with you. I will never understand why people have to cheat. It cuts to the bones. It is the worst feeling in the word and the cheater doesn’t get it. You lose everything that you once stood for and wonder if you will ever get it back. The betrayal, the trust and the wondering why am I not enough. I’m sorry but your husband is an ass. You might not be perfect and your marriage may not be perfect but y’all chose each other and you work at it even on the worst days. You are a smart beautiful young lady and he better realize what he has before someone else shows him. Praying for you and your family. I pray you can forgive and start over if this is what you want to do. It’s your life and your choice. May God be with you and screw everyone else and their mean comments. Do what you think is best for you and your family ❤️❤️❤️💔💔💔

  660. Meghan,

    I am praying for you and your family! Please hang in there. I have never met you but from watching the show—you seem like such a real, kind hearted person. Keep your friends and family close by during this time. Prayers for your son as well, I personally know how hard that can be.
    Keep being you:)

    Megan M.

  661. I feel you Meghan,
    My husband did exactly the same to me & my children 8 years ago, I say children because they are effected as much as I was, it was not a physical affair but and emotional affair with another woman, you can forgive but you will never forget and trust well still working on that, it’s all about their ego it’s not us at all. Good luck 💕💕

  662. Holy moly. I’m saying tons of prayers for you all. You do what’s best for you and your children. It’s so so sad but your a strong woman who will make the right decision for you and your family minus all of the social medial stuff.

  663. I literally hurt for you. I have been there. Finding out you were deceived when you were at your most vulnerable, by the one person who was supposed be there unconditionally. I am sorry and really really wanted this to not be true. I love following your journey and always wished the best for you. Hang in there and I hope you and your husband can get through this.

  664. I’m sad for you Meghan King Edmonds!! Can’t even imagine what you are going through. It’s not fair. It hurts. Yes, you need to heal but focus on your three darlings❣️Your amazing, smart and beautiful and come from good strong roots. Don’t ever forget it.

  665. Meghan I feel you ,it happened to me after 28 years of marriage I decided to take time to heal and I did you will never be 100% but you can work three it if you decide too… it’s been 2 years after and I still struggle specially with trust but that’s going to have to be up to me now !…if is worth saving the marriage do it I’d bless you and stay strong !!!

  666. I am so sorry you are going through this. I recently went through something very similar. My husband of 12 years was leading a double life. He also cheated with texts, phone calls and nude pics. It left me completely broken. I cried all day and night. I felt so bad for our 11yr old son who had to watch me try to keep it together. I didn’t do very well. It has been 8 months and I did divorce him. My marriage was a lie and the man I loved wasn’t who I thought he was. Time does heal. You can’t turn your feelings off. Just hang in there. Love your sweet babies. You are stronger than you think. Praying for you. Thank you for sharing your story.

  667. This is absolutely beautiful and raw and honest and I commend your your bravery and courage! You stand tall and know you didn’t do anything to cause this. You are worthy! You fight for you, for your children and allow Jimmy to win you back. Love takes time. Healing takes time. But determination is something you already carry so head up sister and smile through the tears. Remember that doesn’t kills us indeed makes us stronger and wiser and that sweetie is something the slimy people can’t take away!

  668. Please walk away. Leave him. You deserve better. Your children deserve better.

    Your future self will THANK YOU for leaving.

  669. Im sorry you had to deal with this. I always thought you were a arm piece for an old man. Leave him now.

  670. Men in sports are constantly bombarded by these women with no morals. Your husband suffered a few weak moments. Please forgive him, he loves you. Don’t let this ruin your marriage.

  671. There are no words that can make this horrific pain go away. Just know that at the end of the day, it’s his lost. It is a lost because although you may forgive him; you will never forget and the trust you had in him is gone forever

  672. I’m so sorry for the pain you’re enduring.

    Trust your gut instincts on how to move forward. It will guide you if you listen. It is your truest self.

    Positive vibes and energies to you and your children.

  673. You are stronger then you know !! Follow your heart , no one can judge you for whichever way you choose to go. Praying for you ❤️

  674. I’m so sorry. It happened to me I never told anyone, I wanted to protect my kids. Was cheated on when my baby was 6 weeks old. I’m sorry you have to publicly go through the pain, if there was a way around it I know I would have found it. Go through it is better than avoiding it. Let the stress out, crying, raging, whatever, don’t keep it in it will make you sick. Self care first, so you can be the parent you need for your kids. Just like oxygen on the plane, you have to help you, so you can help others. Hugs, it isn’t easy, but you aren’t alone, even if it feels like it. So many many women have been where you are. Xoxo

  675. Hi. Marriage is about 2 imperfect people, that refuse to give up on each other.

    Praying for you.

  676. Keep your head up. Only you can decide if you want to forgive. It’s not your fault so don’t ever think it is. I hope the baby is okay. In my prayers

  677. I also have twins and a toddler-Amelia & Oliver are 16 months and Emerson is 3 1/2. He had just turned 2 when they were born. Even though they are my greatest joy, I know the strain it causes on a marriage. You’ll find our way through this. You’ll come out the other side. It won’t feel like the end forever because so often what seems to be the end is actually the beginning. Maybe the beginning of something different than you thought, but a beginning none the less. Lean into what feels solid even that’s only yourself because that is enough. You are enough.

  678. I wish you all the strength to get through this. I was actually diagnosed with PISD (post infidelity stress disorder). It’s hard. It’s really fucking hard. I applaud you for putting the responsibility on him and not make excuses or blame “her”. That’s not easy. Continue to write, it helped me so much. I would just vomit words into a journal whenever I felt them start to cloud my head. I had to get them out otherwise the tornado of what if’s and why’s would cause so much damage. Wishing you strength and closure however you may need it.

  679. My heart feels your pain Meghan, found out my spouse has been doing the same. Be careful, trust your instincts and most of all hold your head high.🤗🤗

  680. I am so sorry you have to go through this. Praying for you and your children. You deserve happiness.

  681. Meghan I’ve followed since RHOC and I truly saw how you LOVED your husband. You showed how the materialistic bs didn’t matter to you and for that I saw you as one of the few real ones on that show. If you do choose to stay in your marriage, ITS YOUR DECISION. I feel sad for you also because of this big mistake he did, he should fix everyday from here on out. I hope you find some sort of peace eventually to get out of your sadness. And be the best woman and mom to your beautiful little ones. Stay strong. You have many rooting for you always. ♥️

  682. I fear for the day this happens. But it happens more
    Often or not. Marriage is hard, and the fantasy of the pure love and your life being destroyed takes ultimately just time to heal. Whether you decide to work or not one day, there is a big world and life out there. Do not ever fear. Stay strong, you are a woman, a mother, and will be ok. Sending love and compassion to you. XXXXOXOOO

  683. I’m so sorry Meghan ! This is terrible news and I can’t even imagine what you have been feeling. No one deserves this. Obviously, I do not know you, but You seem to be so strong so you will get through this. I pray that everything is ok with your son. You and your family will be in my prayers. Stay strong 💪🏼.

  684. So sorry to hear you are dealing with this! Hang in there and only time will tell what will become of your marriage. Praying you find some comfort and praying your son is alright!

  685. Meghan, my heart breaks for you. I so admire you for saying you will not be humiliated by this. You are a devoted mother and you will always put your children first. Concentrate on Hart and getting him the best help possible. Also never forget to be kind to others (excluding Jimmy). You deserve your own pity party but you get right back up and charge forward. God gives his toughest battles to his strongest warriors.

  686. Good for you, Meghan, it takes a strong woman to be so vulnerable about this. Do what’s best for you!

  687. Bad enough when no one knows you.. really difficult when it happens so publicly. No one has any right to say anything because this has happened to all of us at one time or another. Do what will be best for you . Hold you head up and keep moving..

  688. Meg, let me just say I am so sad to hear this very horrible news especially regarding Hart. I will keep him in. My prayers. I personally thought you were too good for that cold hearted Jim. He is cold maybe becasue he is somewhere sneaky taking nasty azz photos. He is. A creep and a old creep. U are too good for him most of your fans always thought that. Peace be with you sister. Take care of yourself and your kids and let that leach go. He is so disrespectful and will do it again. And again.

    Praying for you and the kids.
    Bernie Daniel

  689. I feel every word of this so very deeply except for the fact that my husband took his affair to a physical level. It was at a time when I was struggling with our oldest son leaving for college and I was a mess but what he did caused me to spiral even further down then where I was already. I tried to commit suicide because I thought there was no other way out. It takes a lot of time to heal yourself then even longer to repair your marriage if that’s the route you decide to take. We did I was not willing to let 19 years of marriage go without a fight. We packed up and moved far away and essentially started over. It was one of the best decisions we’ve ever made. We still have tough moments and really bad days but we are fighting for us. Now we are in our 23rd year of marriage and our youngest baby just graduated high school so we are entering a whole new chapter. I will pray for you for peace for guidance and healing.

  690. You are SO brave. And an inspiration. Your honesty, candor, and intelligence shine brightly and will continue to shine no matter what. I am so sorry for the road you might have to travel with your son. I am so sorry for the road you are traveling now with your husband. But there will be blue skies and sunny days head. I just know it!! Thoughts and prayers with you, Meghan.

  691. Keep your head up and thank you for being the strength for so many women who are probably too afraid to share their truth. So often ppl look at those on TV, esp reality TV, and think about how perfect your life must be bc happiness is equated with money and “things.” What we fail to forget that ppl are all just ppl in their core and this type of betrayal doesn’t skip you just because of the balance on your checking account. Good luck to you and keep being an amazing mom!

  692. Meghan. I’ve been through it and I’m sure you’ll get plenty of people who have as well. I’m also pretty sure you won’t ever read this reply. However i felt compelled to write to you because every feeling and thought you’ve written is almost verbatim what i wrote about when it happened to me. No matter what happens, your healing belongs to you and you alone. Others will be quick to tell you what to do and what they would do if it happened to them. Here’s the thing, it’s not happening to them. It’s happening to you. Even if the same exact thing did, in fact, happen to them. This belongs to you and you heal at your own pace. I will say , no matter what should happen in your relationship with Jim, forgiveness will be a gift for you and your children. It’s not easy and it’s not simple. It doesn’t mean you forget and it doesn’t mean things will return to the way you thought things were before this situation. It’s now new. You are in mourning. Let yourself mourn. I don’t know you and you don’t know me. But i do know the pain and the anger and the disappointment. I know the mourning and i am sending you a hug. I watched you on that show and I could see your strength. Hugs and love from a person who’s living through it too.

  693. Meghan

    My heart breaks for you. All you wanted was to be a wife and mother. However, it was a big rd flag when Jim wasn’t there when you had the embryo transplant. You had your mother tgere and that’s wonderful but your HUSBAND should have been there with you. It wasn’t as important to him as it was to you. He had already had two marriages and several children. Did you see or feel that was wrong at the time?

    I think you deserve You deserve so much better. You’re beautiful, talented and have a tender heart. I wish you nothing but happiness. You will forever be connected to Jim for the rest of your life because of your children.

    I wish you peace and comfort and strength. I don’t think you could ever trust Jim again. This is the one time he got caught. Think about how many other times there may be that you don’t know about. He will never tell you the truth. He paid this woman off so you wouldn’t find out.

    If you forgive him, you will wonder every second he is gone. It’s not worth it.

  694. This makes me so sad! I hate this for you! I’ve been through this. I had a 1 and 2 year old. My mind was so cloudy and focused on his actions that I wasn’t at my best as a mother. I truly hate this for you! I literally have a pit in my stomach thinking about what you must be feeling!

  695. Meghan, This may seem weird and invasive, because your followers aren’t your family or your friends…BUT you have been sharing every aspect of your life for quite some time now. We’ve watched those women bash you for the way you spoke about your love for Jim’s children. We’ve watched your heartbreaking story about losing Aspen’s twin. And lastly, we have watched you through everything that went into bringing those beautiful boys into the world. All that to say…I will put you on my prayer list. This is certainly one heck of a ride you’re on now. As you said, the timing really sucks. You must be united in your diligent search for answers regarding Hart, not-to-mention shoulders for each other to lean on. I don’t have advice regarding your marriage(not that you want 1000s of people’s advice anyway). I can only offer prayer. I wish you weren’t going through this.

  696. I’m so sorry for what you are going through. It is very difficult and painful when you find out your best friend has betrayed you. I have gone through it and I completely understand what you are feeling. You are right… You didn’t do anything wrong. He did. You are in my prayers. May the Lord comfort you and heal your broken heart.
    Just so you know we went to therapy and he changed and I was able to forgive him. This happened 15 years ago. This year we will celebrate 23 years of marriage. Blessing to you.😘

  697. Oh sister. How honest and true… I’m so incredibly sorry you have to face this obstacle. You’re right, every. Damn . Day… it’s work. I wish you the best going forward. Your openness will help others, and I hate that it’s under bad circumstances. Lots of love to you.

  698. I am so sorry you have to go through this. It is God awful that the media had to make this story public. I pray for you and your family. Hang in there.

  699. Oh how my heart breaks for you. If you do anything, please get some counseling for your self. Your children need you and you need to feel whole. I will be praying for you and your family 😍

  700. Meghan,
    I am so very sorry because I know how you feel. Infidelity is traumatic, it’s a betrayal like no other. And hurts so deep. But if I can give you any advice it would be to feel it, push through it, work through it but don’t live there. It feels like a rollercoaster ride that you can’t get off of. Some days will be good and some will not but you are stronger than you think. Your children will help you through this, sounds strange but true. Thank the lord they are too young to understand. My ex and I were married for 15 years together 17. He cheated with a woman who befriended me and it was emotional and physical between them. My family was blown apart. Now in hindsight it was for the best. This is your story and yours alone. Only you can decide where to go from here, no one else. Take all the time you need to make this very important decision. This is your life and only you can live it. Don’t stay for the children, stay and work it out because it’s what you want or don’t stay, but again your choice. I wish you all the best and know that I am praying for you.

  701. My heart breaks for you! You will do what is right for you and your beautiful children. No matter how tough things get you are stronger than you think. Trust is a hard thing to get back but you can with a lot work and tears. Those sweet smiles and hugs from your babies make things better and give you the strength you need to get through this. Prayers for your sweet Hart. Love on your babies, laugh at the things they do and be who you are! The press and the people who try to hurt you with their words are miserable and want to make others that way. You are a wonderful person and mom.

  702. Seriously. Can I relate. What a well penned raw emotive blog you wrote. Btw. No one deserves this. And frankly. You’re gorgeous. And probably know this. I applaud you penning this … I commune with the honesty. I had a story similar to this. Of course no one so famous. But minor league… be you. Love you. Choose you. If you can heal and trustful. Do it. If you can’t. Move the f*^% on! Strong women support strong women.

  703. BIG HUG! I’m so sorry this has happened. No, it’s not your fault, it was your husband’s choice. The pain is breathtaking. One day at a time. Trust has to be earned. It is difficult to trust someone so close to you when they have broken that trust. My prayers are with you.

  704. Stay strong love. You have an incredible transparency that has touched my heart. Only you know what is best for you and your family. My prayers are with you, your family and extra ones for your baby.

  705. Hey listen. I don’t know you. But I know you because this is life today. In life we have to sleep with one open ,, with our partners our friends and of course our enemies.

    That stupid chick ( who he sent pictures to – and she to him ) she owes you nothing. May karma play out her destiny- but him – he owes you ,, he owes you loyalty – he made a commitment to you – she did not.

    Take a real good look at his lack of integrity, his lack of character, his moral make up – this is who he is. It’s black and white.

    You can stay ,, and try to forgive ( like Kathy lee Gifford ) move forward for your kids ,, try to forget
    But in your gut you must understand,, this may happen again because it simply is who he is.

    I never write people on social media. I’m writing because I’ve been where you are. I left. I raised my boys as a single mother. They turned out great. He had no place in our life. I’ve never seen him again. Sadly either did they. I’m not saying it was the right move for everyone but it’s what I had to do for me. I could no longer sleep with who I knew was not my best friend. I was no going to allow him to hold my hand at my last breath. I deserved more. I was better and I couldn’t fake that it was going to be ok. I’m not capable of “ getting over it “
    My guy did far worse by the way. He had sex.

    Let me tell you. I found the guy 25 years later that I deserve. I want to feel his love when I leave this earth ,, knowing he’s been my true partner.

    Think long and hard. I hope you are capable of getting over this and moving on. But know. This is in him. He is capable. Always keep one eye open girl. Love and peace to you
    Lisa

  706. I’m sad for you too. But you have those precious babies who will make your face hurting from tears, hurt from smiling with them soon. And you’ll recover, you’ll move forward, even if it’s not “moving on” from this betrayal. Praying for you and your kids tonight (never thought I would be praying for a celebrity, but you’ve always seemed different, your priorities were never fame and it showed)

  707. No reason to put this out there other than to shame him or give everyone advance knowledge of your impending divorce action. Social media is the bane of current times

  708. O Meghan, my heart breaks for you. It’s truly heartbreaking. Reading this makes me lose my faith in humanity & marriage. I hope you can rise above this. I was a loyal fan of yours on Housewives. From the moment I read this story this morning, I have literally been checking my phone all day to see an update. As much as you want to not do this, you put him on the back burner. You are a Good Mother. And as hard as it may be to be present for your babies, you do the best you can til you can get over the worst part of this. Succeeding is the absolute best revenge. Hold your head up, and try your best to stay sane & go on with your life. Marriage is hard, but Jim showing you the respect you deserve is what hopefully is going to happen. My heart goes out to you. And I wish you the absolute best! XXOO

  709. Wow. Powerful. Raw… real. Praying for you, for your son, and for your heart to heal. 🙏🏻❤️

  710. Meghan, I’m just so sorry. I know there’s not words for me to say that will bring comfort to you. I’ve been your fan since day one and I feel betrayed for you. My heart hurts for you.

  711. I’m sorry.
    I commented on your instagram as well. I’m not sure if you will see this as you have so many comments. This exact thing happened to me while pregnant with our twins. It “wasn’t physical” but what does that mean? To me it was physical, it was emotional, it was mental. It was everything it should not have been and even more. During the time of my life where it should have been full of happiness and joy and love and trust and solid foundations. I also found out after they were born and it was like a punch to my uterus. It took away every joyful memory I had of my pregnancy. It took away all the memories of “he was SO good to me while I was pregnant. So patient and he took such good care of me” but no he didn’t. So much hurt now around my most beautiful time of my life. I will NEVER forgive him for marring my memories of my beautiful twin pregnancy.
    I tried for three years to get over it but I couldn’t. We are now going through a divorce. I found out there were others. No that wasn’t the first time. He seemed sorry, regretful, all of that good stuff. It was for nothing. There were others over the course of 17 years that I finally found out about. Our marriage is done and my four beautiful children have to live through it. But they need to see their momma as a worthy proud woman, deserving of respect. And they need respect. I took it as the biggest disrespect to my children and especially those two babies I was growing.
    You are not alone. I can relate and I’m sure there are others as well who can. And So many people support you. I’m sorry this happened to you. It is a sad crying shame. Keep your beautiful head up. Your babies love you more than anything.

  712. Dearest Meghan,

    January 25, 2018 was the date of my discovery that my perfect husband and my perfect life was a sham. He had been messaging with women and exchanging photos. It took weeks to get the truth out of him, but ultimately, we discovered he was a sex addict. I lost my father when I was young and that pain still didn’t compare to the trauma of discovering my husband’s indiscretions. I will not tell you I know your situation, but I will tell you that you sound EXACTLY like I did early last year. The things you describe sound EXACTLY like what I went through. If you feel any sense of similarity, I urge you to seek a therapist with specialized experience with partners of sex addicts. I urge you to discuss with your husband that he seek out a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. I urge you both to seek a couples therapist with experience in sex addiction treatment for addicts, partners, and couples. I didn’t think I could get through the year. My husband dedicated himself to his recovery and discovered trauma of ongoing abuse he endured throughout his childhood. He has grown tremendously in the past year and I’ve decided to stay. I’d be happy to offer insight if you ever need a kindred spirit. All the love and light. Jen

  713. I’m SO sorry to hear this…. I wish I could say that I can’t imagine what you are going through…. but you are not alone. We are probably about the same age & when my youngest was 1 I found out the same- lewd texts & pictures between my husband & several girls during my pregnancy & after. I am so sorry and sad for you. I remember feeling my my whole world imploded. I called friends & family & saw a psychologist several times per week & went back & forth between divorce & staying together many times. He went to counseling & promised to be completely open & honest with all of my questions. I asked a lot of difficult & uncomfortable questions. The best metaphor I heard is that it’s like a heart attack- it can kill some relationships or make others stronger. He went to counseling. We went together. It’s been 2 years, we are together & slowly getting trust back but last night I had s nightmare that it happened again. One day at a time. Take care of yourself. You have a lot of women here to support you. ::hugs::

  714. It was just a matter of time. I used to watch how condescending he spoke to you while on television. I knew then he was a person with problems. His pattern has probably been the same with every wife. Every woman he has been involved with because he is a male chauvinist. He sees women as vessels for his pleasure, he doesn’t value them as human beings. It is obvious just in how he speaks and treats you. Too bad you didn’t see it coming..But maybe you did. Three kids later here he is. But for how long? and how many? Why did he have kids and ruin their lives too. It seems this is not his first rodeo as his adult daughter seems self entitled and very angry. Just like him. What did he expose her to as she was growing up? Why have more children to do this to? Why was he so motivated to create another family at his age? only to do this again. He knows who he is….Now you do too. don’t expect change Maghan. He will just hide it better. A man like him will never, never, never change. You either live with it or walk away. You are not the first, and if you leave, you won’t be the last. How could he resent you so much that he could expose you and his children in such a public way? You are beautiful. Its not you. He is who he is and it has absolutely nothing to do with you. Best of luck to you and your family. But don’t live with your head in the sand as the signs have been there since I saw how he treated you on Real Housewives…

  715. It’s. So hard.
    I always hate hearing other women who have to experience this.
    My only advice – listen to yourself. Everyone will have an opinion and I wasn’t even an influencer such as yourself.
    I mean literally everyone and years later those who had such strong opinions made such different decisions than they preached when life threw them similar curve balls.
    I remember thinking I would never feel real joy or have an honest smile again … but you will. .. eventually.

  716. I am so sorry for you. You are right, a relationship takes two, but it doesn’t take two to chest. Don’t ever question that. This is about him, not you.

    Stay strong. Those kids need you and they will make you smile everyday.

    Whatever happens, do not settle.

  717. I’m very sorry for the humiliation this has put you through. Forgive me for being candid but Jim seems like a complete jerk and cares only about his wants and needs. Maybe it’s the pro athlete thing. Obviously he wasn’t getting th attention he felt he needed but he should know better. He’s a grown man with six (or is it 7) kids that he is responsible for -but acting like a 20 something with his reckless behavior. He is going have a rude awakening if you decide to move on . He has three toddlers now-wake up Jim!!!
    He was always talking down to you on the RHOC and I found it very disrespectful. You deserve more than that!!!!!
    He needs to change his controlling ways and treat you with honor, love, honesty and respect as his wife and the mother of those three babies . I wish you all the best …….

  718. You’re a wonderful person. Please don’t lose your self esteem . So sad he chose that route. Hopefully you can forgive, but will never forget. So sorry for the pain your feeling now. You have a lot of thinking to do . God bless you and give you the strength to get through this.

  719. You are a beautiful person and a wonderful mom. Healing prayers and warm wishes to you and your beautiful family. Remember self care always.

  720. Thank you for being real and honest during the hardest time. You are strong, stay strong, you will get through this. Its now time for your husband to gain the trust he lost, but I honestly believe that you will always feel just a little bit cautious bc thats the side effect of cheating XO

  721. So proud of you. Period. From one woman to another trying to choose to live every damn day with dignity. I salute you. 👏🏻

  722. You are incredibly strong and only you know how much forgiveness you have inside, if any at all. I pray for your continued strength and for your children. God bless.

  723. Beautifully said. I’m sorry you are going through this. Sending you love and strength, from one stranger (wife, Mom) to another. May you find healing and peace.

  724. Choose you, and choose your kids. You are worth more, even if you love him, Meghan. Your kids deserve a happy mom, and you cannot thrive without trust. You deserve someone now who chooses you every day despite temptation. Not one who chooses you out of guilt or wanting forgiveness. Choose you. xo

  725. Sending you so much love… there are so many women out there that totally understand.. I am one of them.. your feelings are normal… you WILL get through this.. the important thing is to hold your head high and know you didnt do anything wrong.. YOU ARE AMAZING AND DOING A GREAT JOB ! cry in the shower… let the tears flow out with the water and be gone ! <3. sending strength from Australia Victoria xx

  726. Yikes. Praying for you. You are strong you will be fine. I follow you bc I’m a ole miss girl too and enjoy your mom posts. I hate that this happened to you.

  727. Marriage is hard. I’ve been working on mine for 28 years. Five kids are the proof we have we love each other ( that’s what Grandma called them) . When he worked retail, it would boil my blood to watch these women hit on him. When they would ask him to fit their shoes….and they are not wearing underwear with their skirt, I hated them. I was lucky. He only had eyes for me. I’m so sorry Jimmy did this. Stay strong. Do cry. Get mad. But find a way to forgive. If not for your heart, for the kids. Marriage is hard. But not near as hard as divorce.

  728. Meghan, I am sad for you 😢. Stay strong as you always do, you are an amazing person, mother, wife, friend and instagram friend 🙂
    My close friend’s husband did something dishonest and disrespectful to her also. With 3 young children she decided she wanted to keep her family together so she insisted on counceling, it took a couple of years but they reconciled and remained married. It is now 10 years later, they are still married. Since the incident he takes the family on the most expensive elaborate vacations around the world twice a year and also bought a multi million $ home and vacation home (guilt). The people who knew what happened want nothing to do with him, including her family. But she has stuck it out. We are still close friends but I will always know what he did and will never forget. She is happy as are the grown children (they never knew). They grew up with lots of $ and a dad giving them everything so they were pretty happy lol.
    For you it is more difficult as it is not private. But your friends and family will be there for you and help you navigate through this. But only you can decide what is good for you, don’t make decisions because of the children, they are young and so are you! I hope this is helpful. 😘. I typed on my iPhone so this is probably not well written.

  729. Aw, honey, I’m so sorry. But if you both love each other and want to stay together, the trust CAN be earned back. It takes a loooong tome. But he has to lay aside any pride and work on it with you. Marriage counseling weekly for at least a year. Probably more. I hope that you will be able to stay together. May I also suggest finding faith, Meghan. I know you’re not crazy about the topic of God. But faith in God has helped me through SO much. I’m going to put you and your family in my daily prayers. I also pray that little Hart’s suspected neurological issue is minor and can be overcome. I think he will be fine. God bless and keep you, dear one, and give you peace and strength.

  730. Wishing you all the best. Stay strong and cry when you need too. Crying equal strength to purge the sorrow in this situation. Get rest and be kind to yourself. You’ll figure it all out. Peace to you. Maddie

  731. Beautiful. I’ve been here. I’ve been the mom at home serving, and trying, and working so hard to be completely betrayed by the man who you have built this life with. Piece by piece. Moment by moment. Memory by memory. I have to say that you will experience a gauntlet of emotions. You will feel broken and sad- to completely magnetized and desperate for his physical love. You will be fired up, and you will be depleted. It’s all a part of the process. My husband and I are on the other side, and are happier than we’ve ever been. It forged a peculiar bond between us. I chose to hold on, and to truly love him at his worst. He had done the same for me- only I had never cheated. I had offered up my brokenness in other ways. We both hurt each other in various ways. I didn’t choose to stay because of our three children. I truly wanted him and needed him. I felt ALL of the emotions you expressed. It doesn’t take some special talent to cheat. It’s readily available for any willing to go there. To truly chose your partner faithfully is true strength. I realized my husbands broken childhood played a massive part in his decisions, which of course is no excuse. —something broke in both of us the day that I decided to love him full throttle. It healed us both in ways we couldn’t understand. I’m so praying for you and your beautiful family. Give yourself tons of grace. And this may sound crazy, but I’m so confident that your husband adores you and your babies. He just doesn’t feel worthy and so that’s where that self sabotage comes in. It’s a real thing. ❤️

  732. Dear Meghan, I’m so sorry you are going through this. No one deserves that pain. And what worse way to be repaid for recently giving him the best gifts of his life – your children. I’ve been in your situation before. You are going to go through a rollercoaster of emotions. And part of you is going to want to lean back on him. And he will victimize himself.
    Meghan, fuck this guy. I watched him be dismissive of you through the entire show. He’s a narcissist and the world revolves around him and it always will. He’s not capable of loving you – or anyone – in the way that you deserve. You can’t save him. And frankly, he doesn’t want to be saved. If you choose to stay with him it will be an unfair, painful, uphill road for you and your kids. People will say “save your family” – but again, Meghan, fuck this guy. Save yourself and run while you have the chance. He gave you full reason. Don’t go back and have him do this again and lose time, energy, youth, and the best years and memories of your motherhood. Quietly step back, take care of yourself and your kids, and live a luxurious, comfortable, peaceful life far away from his selfish ass. Someone else can and will love you better. Trust me.
    Dodge the Bullet.

  733. The worst betrayal ever, I’m so sorry this has happened to you, it has also happened to me and ended in divorce. I told husband #2 that should he not want to be with me to let me be the first to know, not the last. Marriage is hard, life is hard but cheating is the lowest thing one person can do to another. I pray you find clarity and happiness.

  734. Sending you prayers for peace in your heart — whatever that looks like and means for you. I have newborn twins, and 2 toddlers, it’s hard as hell. The good days are amazing, the bad days take strength you didn’t know you had. But I cannot imagine this in addition — so I simply say prayers for peace in your heart.

  735. Meghan is this the first time he has betrayed you? A sick child of an unknown diagnosis can put pressure on any marriage. Oh no I do not condone a cheater, it’s the lowest form of a human being. What I do stand for is open, honest communication, with a marriage counselor. If you both want to save your marriage, it has to be 100% or nothing. I truly know that a decision will be made on what you both believe is the right thing for your family. My prayers, hugs to you Meghan, right now it stings, but you dear are stronger than you think. Go through all the emotions, it can only make things clearer!!

  736. Meghan,
    Hundreds of messages will be posted on here so I hope this one does not get lost. Your life is open to the public and having to go through such betrayal with an audience must be beyond hurtful, I’m sorry . We do not know the pain you are enduring and never will because we are not in your shoes. However, please know you are alone many of us have gone through similar situations but we didn’t have millions watching our next move. You do not owe anyone any explanations on how you will heal or what you will do next. Cry and when you need to, let the emotions run through you but not consume your soul. Find a good therapist to help you heal. Take care of yourself. Love yourself and know that this is not for you to own. Let your husband own his mistakes but if you can find forgiveness in your heart it will be more for you than him. I speak to you from the bottom of my heart. I wish you the best and know you will overcome this ugliness despite it all. Toss the tabloids because they will only poison your heart as they live off of other people’s mistakes. Be well and peace be with you.

    Best,
    Mimi

  737. What I know and you need to know is..You are Strong, you are a wonderful women,mother,wife,person. I’m not here to tell you what to do, you are the one that is living it. I was cheated on for many years, he promised to never do it again and was good for awhile, and then I went thru the whole thing again, as much as i wanted him to change, he didn’t. Every time he left the house or his phone rang, I thought the worse, you never will be able to trust him again, and you may forgive but you will never forget. You are not me, you will do what is best for you, only you can make that choice. You are very brave for telling your story, I wish you and your family everything you deserve.

  738. You got this 👊 you are a strong woman and what I have perceived have always been. You will rise above! I pray for you and your son that you will receive the answers you are looking for. God is close to the broken hearted I’m rooting for you.

  739. A married woman of 44+ years now… Feels your pain! Marriage is hard especially in the public eye! My heart goes out to you and I wish I could talk to you privately because I have so much to say about my own marriage and challenges!
    I will be praying for you tonight and Your beautiful children and especially Jimmy to help him see what a hurtful situation this has become on all levels!

  740. I’m so very sorry you are going through this. My prayers are with you and hoping all will be ok with Hart. 💝

  741. I’m so sorry you are going through this horrible mess… I just need you to do just one thing.. BE STRONG for your beautiful children… Don’t let this break you. I’m praying for you and your family.

    Wanda M.
    Holmdel, NJ

  742. My heart breaks for you. 💔 You are so right. You don’t deserve this. Stay strong. 💚

  743. Sending love from a twin mom that’s been “ there”. Feel all the feels and grieve at your own pace. I wouldn’t wish this pain on my worst enemy but I can tell you it’s not forever, not in the “ how is it possible to be alive when my heart is so broken” way. I found healing through survinginfidelity.com if you want support from an anonymous community of people who wish they never had to come together this way. You are braver than you know.

  744. Prayers for you and your family. I have been through something similar. We worked through it and stayed together. I am glad we did. We did not have nor do we now have children. It’s just the two of us. It took time to be able to trust him again. I hope you can do the same. You have a beautiful family. God Bless you all!

  745. Meghan Sweet girl I’m sorry this is happening to you. You don’t deserve this , I have read so many comments on Facebook that say he was also married when he met you, so they say you deserve this. I don’t want you to pay any attention to those nasty people. They aren’t happy unless they can hurt others . The truth is it doesn’t matter how you and Jimmy got together. He chose to marry you and to have children with you. You are a wonderful mama and wife. He has lost the besst thing to ever happen to him. Even if you choose to forgive him and stay married to him. You will never look at him with the same love or the same trust ever again. I pray that whatever choice you make , that you won’t let others opinions influence you. They don’t have to live your life. I pray that your sweet baby boy Hart is well and that you are able to get him seen by the right doctors. Remember doctors aren’t God they make mistakes all the time. Make sure you get a second and even a third opinion if you feel the need to.
    I hope that everything works out for you sweetheart. You deserve better. Don’t let him forget it.💛

  746. Megan, I’m so sorry you’re hurting,,, God WLL heal you,,, HE IS close to the Broken hearted.

  747. I have been where you are. Your words were my words. You will heal. Take it day by day, hour by hour. If you need a shoulder to lean on reach out. You can even reach out to me. Love and many prayers sent your way.

  748. I hurt for you!! You will get through this if you want to. Dont allow the “slime” of someone else & your husbands weakness define you. xoxo

  749. Prayers for you sweetheart. You are a lovely woman with s beautiful heart God is with you and your precious babies. Stay strong in the confidence of this and who you are!!! May you be blessed double for your trouble. Better days ahead with a fabulous future. You deserve so much better.

  750. Sending you love. This happened to me when I was 8 months pregnant with our son. Those little kiddos will be the ones to give you the smiles and hugs that you need right now. Their little personalities made things better while I worked to put the pieces back together

  751. Wow I was so happy he was making house for kids and you😓.. shocked but not… sex is so important to men to be lured to do the luring game .. the high of getting caught.. being wanted.. whatever the excuse. I am truly sorry you are going through this… doesn’t matter when.. it never does… your heart will be broken forever. I pray he can fix this storm…. if not your so strong Megan you have family 100%….. prays for you from the Universe to mend😱❤️❤️❤️🙄💥💥💥💥

  752. Ditto, happened to me. You have my support and I can tell you what I learned. I learned I was stronger than I ever thought. I learned I became a better person after what I went through, more understanding in general. I learned this most valuable thing. I am me. Just me. With or without a man, I stand alone as me and I like me. Whether you stay or leave, you are the you that you choose to be. And that has NOTHING to do with if you have a man at your side or not. Everyday, you will continue to be you and I bet that you don’t let yourself down, regardless of any decision, because you choose to be the person that you want to be. Probably the same person that you have always been. I will think good thoughts for you.

  753. This is real life shit. I didn’t think I could relate , love, and understand you this much. Thank you for being so honest , raw and real. I read this is in your voice and in my heart. Whatever you decide to you, it will make you a stronger person. Good luck with this little bump in your journey.

  754. My heart hurts for you and your family. Meghan, do what you feel is best for you. It will take time to heal and feel trust again. Hold your head high. God will be with you . You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

    With much respect,

    Linda

  755. Meghan, I can’t say that I know exactly what you are going thru because you and he are different than my ex and I. However, he deployed and came back with another woman. I was being the dutiful wife, loyal, hardworking, and he was betraying our marriage. I tried to make it work because I believed in one marriage. After going thru all of it in my mind, body, and soul i knew after a few months i just could never trust him again. I chose to leave. We didnt have children so that made things easier. Anyway, it is like a grieving process and you must go thru that process and most likely multiple times before you can make a firm decision. For now surround yourself with the love of your children, the love of your mom, friends, and anything that makes you happy. You are a brave and positive woman and no matter what you decide you will rise above and be a conqueror. I wish you ma y blessings.

  756. Meghan, do what you feel is best for you. It will take time to heal and feel trust again. Hold your head high. Always remember God is with you through good and bad times. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

    With much respect,

    Linda

  757. I’ve been there. Reading your raw emotion brought me to tears. I remember. I remember like it was yesterday, despite it being almost 12 years ago, just weeks before we were to marry. I married him, terrified as I was, despite what had happened. I will never forget, standing on the beach before the pastor, closing my eyes for the prayer. I’m not
    Even sure what the pastor said, but I know what
    I was praying… please God, don’t let him ever hurt me like this again. I hate the pictures the photographer captured of that fear-filled prayer.

    I’m happy to say, he has not repeated his mistake. It took a long time for me to stop punishing him, but I did. It was hard to fight the urge to retaliate, but I’m better than that. But I can’t forget. Even though it was never physical, I can’t forget.

    Thankfully, I recognized, as you do, the incident was created by a flaw in him, not me.

    Thank you for your honesty and sharing like this, in YOUR words, not through a slimy invasive “news” source. You can get through this. We St Louis girls have to stick together. Wish I could offer you a glass of wine and a hug!

  758. If you wanna go for a drink this weekend to talk, email me. I know you probably have a lot of support and love around you, I’ve been in the same boat as you. Just thought I would reach out. Don’t forget his actions don’t reflect who you are.

  759. I am sad with you, but you have two choices, one way you can put your chin up and show your kids that this will not defeat you or you can shrivel up and hide. What kind of woman do you want to be? This is not your fault but this happens to millions of women and they have supported each other so from me to you is a hug and a promise that you are stronger than you think ❤️

  760. You will get past this. But first you have to go thru it. Let yourself get to a place where you can make a true decision about keeping him as your husband or letting him go. Either way your a fighter. I saw it the first season on the show. This is on Jim not you. You are still the loyal , loving, compassionate MOTHER you were before he screwed up. Cry , shout, scream or just be silent if you need to. Take your time and feel your way thru this. God bless you and your children.

  761. Not fair. Not easy. Never simple. Do what’s best and what you feel in your heart, put your family first.

  762. I am so sorry to hear this. I wish there was some magical words to make you feel better. I can only say that you are a beautiful woman inside and out and you deserve so much more. Sending you lots of prayers and hugs.

  763. Perfectly written, marriage is very hard and you are handling this with grace and honesty. You will be ok, whatever happens and whatever you chose to do. You do have a choice and whatever YOU decide is the best, will be the best. I am rooting for you! You are an amazing woman and should be treated like a queen with the utmost respect and honor. My heart is with you, sending love 💗

  764. Meghan. I have been married for almost 15 years and if I didn’t have my husband, Alex, I’d be lost!

    A few years ago, I found questionable texts on his phone. He was flirting with someone he works with.

    I can’t tell you why, I suddenly felt the need to search his phone but i did. I’ve always trusted him but something drew me to his phone that day. What I found, made me physically sick!

    Over a year has passed and I can tell you, you can can heal together and you can move forward. You should take time to figure out what YOU want!

    Just know, that NO marriage is perfect. We all have flaws.

    Please take care of yourself and know your not alone!!

  765. I’m so sorry this happened. My husband kissed a co worker in the back of a cab. Once. And he was wasted drunk then told me the next night. I was devastated. We had two kids. A new house. His business. WHY did he have to do that? But we pushed through. Sure – I’m not celebrity with my life in Page6 – but just because you are doesn’t mean it has to define your path. Work on it, if you both want to. And see where it goes. Then, if it doesn’t work you know you’ll have done everything you could have. And if it does – you’ll be sooooo much stronger for it. And you’ll be hero’s to those who WANT to try again but fear they’ll be laughed at for trying.

    Be strong. Us twin mummas are unlike other people. We’re built for more, chosen for special things. Much love and peace to you x

  766. Stay strong in your Faith, and in prayer! Pray and God will take care of you, love you, and keep you.

  767. Meghan, thanks for being honest in the public eye and not being fake about what is happening to you. For those of us who have also had to bear the betrayal of our best friend and the partner we hoped to spend our forever with, we respect and support you and empathize and we relate.

  768. Megan, I am truly sorry you are going through this horrific time. You have a beautiful family and I have followed your struggles with pregnancy, marriage and step parenting. You are loved!

  769. You Meghan are a strong mom who will get through this! Your children will so admire your loyalty, devotion and strength to stay and fight for your family! You are all in my prayers! ❤️

  770. Take a deep breath, Meghan.

    Your children come first, so focus and concentrate on that. Your happiness comes second. When you married Jimmy, you knew he was removed, he wasn’t a truly hands-on parent like children deserve. So you made that choice, based on love, a huge, swelling of your heart that wanted to do the best for your relationship and the family you have now made with him. There is no solution to this problem, it’s the heartache of the ages. I’ve lived it, as countless other women have as well.

    He got caught. And now he is weighing his options, and the consequences of his actions. That is going to sway him to your side and the family that you have made for him. Because he is getting older, and his options are narrowing. You’re a strong, confident and very smart woman. Keep your eyes open. This wound will never, ever heal. It is as if someone punched you in the stomach and laughed in your face at the same time, right? Someone you trusted and loved. Marital strife has nothing on betrayal. Betrayal is the ultimate force that can suck the life out of you in 10 seconds.

    You can stay, or you can go. If you stay, you will be in therapy and counseling sessions and watching his every move, but you will never trust him again. Men are just built that way unfortunately. Some are different than others, more loyal and some not as much. They show their true colors… when they get caught.

    You think it could never happen to you because you’re so beautiful, intelligent, sparkling and make him happy. Yet it does, and Meghan, it is not your fault. NOT your fault. This is all him.

    You fortunately have the option of living a wonderful life with enough money to take care of your lovely children and be a parent to them that actually cares and sacrifices for their well-being. If that is what you need to do, then do it. If you want to be in a relationship without trust for the sake of your children, then do it. This is not about you, it is about them.

    Think about the rule of 10, 10, 10.
    In a very decisive time of your life, what is going to happen with the decision you make in 10 minutes? 10 months? Or 10 years… You can look this up in previous articles such as Oprah Magazine which brought it to my attention years ago and it has been a very grounding rule to follow when making huge decisions.

    Meghan, you may feel that Jimmy is in control of what goes forward and what it will mean to both of you, but that is wrong. YOU are. And if you have the wherewithal to make their lives comfortable, and you are the most loving mother ever, you can make it work. Your children are very, very young. If you need to take a break, so be it. I believe that you come from a good family and you are a very grounded person. Sometimes people make the wrong choices, but they live through them and they rise above, to even greater heights.

    Take a breath.

    Kindest regards,
    Valerie King Cash

  771. Your honesty is so refreshing. It will get better with or without him. The sun will shine again at some point. It’s just hard to imagine right now.

  772. Thinking about you – time will heal. Time heals everything and sometimes answers questions – sometimes not. It just is. Sucks but true.
    Can’t imagine what you’re going through but love and support are out there – even if you don’t see it xoxo
    Adrienne mealy ❤️

  773. I feel sad you are going this horrific betrayal. You and only you can make the decision to heal or move on. I pray you find the strength to prioritize what’s important now, Hart. I’m a fan if yours and only wish you the best. Hang in there and listen to your thoughts because your love for him will confuse you. Take your time and things will fall into place and it will be your decision how things will end. Hugs to you and the babies.

  774. Wow! I have never responded to any social media post EVER. But this is so powerful. I will be honest, I watch RH of OC abs never really formed an opinion about you on the show but this raw statements makes me see how honesty and sincere you are and that is true class. Your husband made a mistake ( a gross and horrible one) but I hope you two can find your way back to each other. Just know that you deserve a man who wakes up every damn day thanking God you are his wife. I wish you the best as you navigate this storm in your life. Your kids will only be better for having you as their mother. Stay strong. You have a lot of support behind you.

  775. Dear Megan,

    Find a great Attorney ASAP!!!
    Leave him… as You t so beautiful & kind!
    You will find a wonderful man…
    He will betray u again!
    I always sensed how lonely & sad u were on the OC Housewives… he was leading a Secret Life then ..& I felt u wanted to get pregnant to hold onto him…

    Please don’t waste any time!

    So sorry ur so sad!
    Go away on vacation to heal… May God Bless ur family & heal u…

    Love , ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
    Debra

  776. So sorry you have to go through this! Keep your head up, your children are the most important thing in life that one can ever have, they are your strength and your purpose. Shame on him for doing this to you and your children, he will never be able to look at himself in the mirror the same way. You are an amazing woman and no one can ever take that away from you. Focus of the most important things in life, your kids and everything else will fall into place. You are a strong woman and a force to be reckoned with. This will make you even stronger not just for yourself but for your family!

  777. Your heartache is real. You are allowed the ugly cries, the anger, the fits of rage and yes, the feeling of defeat The one person you trusted most betrayed you. Talk about it to who ever ever you want, say nothing to who ever you want. There is no cookie cutter way to deal with the grief. In time you will find the answer within. The answer for your sanity, your mind, your heart, your soul and no less your babies. When there seems to be no answers watch your babies sleep. Their peaceful, innocent smirks and smiles while sleeping will warm even the the coldest hearts. You are a strong woman Meghan, I have no doubt you will persevere.

  778. My heart goes out to you. I’ve walked in your shoes, but unfortunately my marriage didn’t last. I’m sending prayers your way. You’re a beautiful soul and you shall rise above it. Prayers for your little boy!

  779. Self care and pulling your village close is your lifeline. Days will be lived an hour at a time until this pain lessens.

  780. If you have the same feelings post affair that I experienced, the words people throw at you for the next year will feel impenetrable.. you’ll want to find a way to let it go, to be all understanding and loving of your man even though he betrayed you and your trust- you’ll wish it just never existed.. was it worth it? There’s no way he thinks it was worth it. But it happened. People make mistakes, but sometimes mistakes aren’t excusable, and ultimately, there’s some pain that you just deserve to excuse yourself from. You shouldn’t allow his decisions to make you miserable- and yet, if you leave, it could be years before all of this is truly in your rear view.. and you have children to think about. I don’t have the answer, but I genuinely hope you are able to take some time for yourself to reflect on what’s next- not in a reactionary way but to really understand that after the dust settles, will you be able to fully forgive and forget.. will the man you thought would never betray you, do it again? Is it worth the risk? How can you live again and make your own joy… I know you will!

  781. I am so sorry Meghan. You finally got the children you always wanted and now this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your kiddos.

  782. Been there done that with my first husband.. He cheated I was 21 years old in this country with no family..I left my family to moved here with him..he betrayed me..I’m married now , and for the last twenty years with the love of my life..seems like you never saw it But i did and I’m sure a lot of viewers saw it too..he did not looked like he was in love with you at all.. sorry but just the true..we learned and move on and I’m sure you will find real love.. it is though now but it will get better I promise you..you are great!! Mom and woman hanging in there with your loving mom and your kids better days to come..❤️

  783. I’m so sorry for you. It’s the worst feeling in the world to be betrayed by the person you love the most but you will be alright and I pray God will heal your heart ❤️

  784. Find out the “why”
    Find out what’s broke. can it be fixed? Is it worth fixing?
    Then you process…. and process…. and you figure out if you can or if you can’t forgive…. and you make decisions on what is going to make YOU happy, and allow YOUto be the best Mom you can be…..
    And SADLY this won’t be easy….. and you don’t deserve this.
    The ball is in your glove now, and yes their is a storm delay…

  785. I know your pain. I’m still with the man who cheated on me. It took a lot of soul searching, knowing who he was and my vows to him. For better or WORSE. Can’t get any worse than that. I prayed on it and here I am. It took a while, but I trust him again. I also trust God to take care of me. He wanted me to stay with my husband. I do love him. He did not get off easy for hurting me like he did. He had paid dearly for what he did to me. He had to work very hard to get me to trust him again. He wanted it to work with us too. I will pray for you and what is best for your marriage. I will also pray for Hart for his healing. I’m so sorry for this deep deep pain. It hurts badly. I vomited when I found out. It’s that deep and sickening. Trust in your vows and faith. You have to be able to learn to trust again. Can you do that? Of course it’s his job to help you with that. It took 3 years before I could trust again. I’m so sorry. No one deserves this. 🤗

  786. I’m sorry you are going through this it’s ugly and it’s painful.. and you can only heal at your own pace.. but you can move on and you can forgive and grow by your self or with him but that’s a decision you and you only came come to. Don’t let anyone tell you how to feel or mourn because it is a loss of trust and honesty between the two of you!! If you decided to stay and fight it can be done by two people who are willing to put the work in everyday.. but you have to and some point forgive.. when you reach that put and are ready to leave it in the past.. forgiveness is hard but you can also become stronger and better from it.. my heart is sad for your pain I’ve also felt that heart break from true love that cheated.. but I stayed and I fought to get it back and it’s better then ever 24 years and going strong… Girl power you can get through it! Believe.

  787. How strong and courageous you are! Some people only share the good stuff, you share the good and the bad, that makes you so human and relatable! Life will be tough for a while bit you will rise from this and you will be even stronger and determined. Ride the waves for now!

  788. Wow! So amazingly honest and real. Not that you needed to explain anything to anybody but this was very sad to read. I hope your son is given answers and begins a road to being healed. I suppose if you want your marriage to recover then people should allow you to explore that. I wish you happiness for your future in any shape that comes. Because no one should feel this sadness.

  789. This is very raw and heartfelt. You are brave. You will make it through this even stronger than you are now, with or without your husband, whichever you decide. I wish you peace

  790. I am sorry you had to go through this. IF BOTH of you are comitted to getting your marriage to work it can be done. Keep your lines of communication open and work on rebuilding the trust in your relationship. Keep your faith close and work on letting go of your pain and anger.

  791. Love you. Married 25yrs ago and I caught my husband txting another woman and it was crushing to the soul. So I know what you’re going thru and I pray you stay strong and work on your self and be the best possible mom and person you can be. And marriage is hard and has to be worked every damn day. Just like you said. If you love him and he loves you, you will be able to work on it. As long as there is love. It’s worth fighting for People will always try to tear a good marriage apart. Not sure why, jealousy. Idk. I’ve had women flirt with my husband right in front of me And sometimes men love the attention. Idk. It’s still no excuse. I pray you find peace and patience. I pray your babies are fine and know nothing but love ❤️ R

  792. wow I’m sorry this has happened and hope the healing will come and you both can work towards a end . This happened to me after 28 years but couldn’t be repaired….huggggssss and prayers for you both

  793. I never write but I feel so bad for you hearing this…cuz no women deserves this. I’m just your normal wife and mom of 4 grown kids now. You will overcome all this and eventually if you decide to stay you will forgive but this will always be on your mind, you just have to be there for the babies. I have now been married for 34 yrs and I still think about it but it in the past. Prayers for Hart he will be fine. Nothing is ever perfect even though you want it to be. We are all human. Good luck to you and your family Meghan.

  794. Meghan hang in there girl. I’ve had to deal with slimey people my whole life. Take care of your kids and yourself. Please don’t drive around at night by yourself. Take care

  795. I’m so very sorry for your heartache. Somehow you will find the strength to make the right choice for your family. Don’t rush. He can stay wherever you tell him, spare room or away. For now I pray for the pain to stop, so you can be the mum your children deserve. The little faces that will make you laugh on your toughest days. But I pray hard for your son. If he has special needs in the future, he was gifted to you, because you will be the mummy who will see him live his best life. Be joyful for what you have, rather than a person who perhaps doesn’t appreciate all that he has .🤗🤗❤️

  796. I’m sorry you are going through this!! I will pray for you and your family that God gives you strength to take care of your kids. I will pray for God to give you clarity on how to go forward!! Good luck 🙏🏻❤️

  797. Dear sweet Meghan. I’m so sorry you are having to deal with this… and in the public eye. You will weather this storm with dignity and grace. Prayers for your heart as I’m sure it is broken in a million pieces. Prayers also for sweet boy.

  798. I feel broken hearted for you. I’ve followed you with your children and see how hard you work and his much you give. I don’t know if he deserves you. I pray for you xo

  799. Oh little one, I’m so sorry but the fact that you’ve said all this makes me soooo proud of you.

  800. Beautifully written! Props to you If you are willing to make it work… But I must agree with everyone else did he did it once and most likely he’ll do it again. Life is too short Megan Believe me when I tell you I Lost my daughter 3 years ago she was 24 years old . Now that is pain and life changing.. we never know what tomorrow brings if there is another tomorrow.
    You are young and beautiful So I ask why stay in this marriage ? A marriage that no longer has trust and will never be the same again unfortunately.

  801. It is obvious that a man who is on his 4th(?) wife is not a keeper. You wanted the love, the kids, the picket fence, the commitment. He could not give that to you. It is not in his DNA. He has played this role many times before. For you it is New and wonderful. For him, it’s been there, done that. He’ll never be the man you need or deserve. Take time to heal and move on. Respect yourself enough to know you deserve so much better! He can’t change.

  802. I’m so sorry for your sadness right now. I know Jana Kramer has been through this with her husband and they talk a lot about it on their podcast. Maybe listening to them can help you see the light at the end. I hope you heal from this and things look up from here.

  803. I’m sorry. I know your pain. I’ve been married twice but have had no husband. Cheaters both. It’s been 15 years and there is no recovery. I’m 70 and sad. We Co exist
    My grandchildren are everything to me

    My friends mean so much.

    You deserve better. So do I

  804. My heart breaks for your family. Please know I will be praying for your entire family. Forgiveness and healing can come with repentance and time; I truly believe that.
    When I read this, my thoughts immediately went to Kathy and Frank Gifford. His betrayal was also displayed publicly for all to see, and Kathie handled it with grace and dignity. You can do the same, sweet lady🙏💙
    God bless you and yours.

  805. Meghan,
    I am sad for you. I was always under the impression that you two had the perfect marriage. Alas, I would be unsure it existed if I hadn’t seen my parents living it. I am confident Jimmy will do what he needs to to regain your trust as he loves you so. You can do it. It’s not always perfect and it’s not always pretty, but in time the perfect and the pretty outweigh the others.
    Prayers to you. Best wishes on this journey.
    Thank you so much for your honesty and sharing.
    Liz

  806. I’m so sorry for you. I’m dealing with 1/2 my marriage of 22 yrs my husband lived a secret life. I just found out by accident. Now I dealing w the truths as my 20, 18year old daughters know what he did and we are protecting my 15 yr daughter from the ugly truth. Your confidence in yourself and what WE deserve has helped me tonight .

  807. Please research vaccines. Neurological disorders are the single most common adverse effect, but its rarely discussed. Especially in boys. Please read the inserts. The peer reviewed, fraudulent and inadequate studies. Wii th brief safety studies, and periods of time they measure for adverse reactions, or the lack of inert placebo control groups. BEest of luck to you in this difficult time.

  808. Oh Shit, Megan, I truly have a story to share with you, I’d love the opportunity to do so. I’m SAD for you and have a righteous anger towards J. In the midst of pain, destruction and deceit God will be there for the kids and you!!!!!! I love you, always, Karen in Napa from Ladera.

  809. So sorry you’re sad. You are 100% marriage is hard. However, there is life after cheating. If your marriage can survive it can be stronger than ever.

  810. This brings tears to my eyes. I am so sorry that you are going through this. I wish you strength and the ability to make it through this stronger.

  811. mom of three here, left an amazing career in engineering to care for my three kids (now all neurologically non-typical and yet still kickin’ ass in life!)… i read on People one of your twins might be neurologically non-typical as well… I just want you to know you are never alone on this journey. If you need to real life support, there’s a lot of us out here to support you who have had deep success and joy with babies and youth who might have what most consider challenges… ASD, SPD, epilepsy here! kick butt mama

  812. You prob won’t read this but in the off chance someone else finds it encouraging I’m writing it anyway. I don’t know you, I’ve never watched the show you were on but reading an article from people.com brought me here bc I want to tell you, you’re not alone. Unfortunately or fortunately this has happened to others. It happened to me and it was devastating. We decided to stay together and made a commitment to work through all the hurt and pain. He had to be willing to listen to me and answer my ?’s. But he wanted “us” to work just as much as I did. Every story is different but you’re right, physical or not sharing w/ someone who isn’t your partner is an affair. You decide what’s best for you and your children and go from there. Love and strength to you.

  813. So sorry you are dealing with a such an intimate, devastating experience in such a public forum. You’ve always come across as an authentic, loyal woman and completely committed to your husband. Even this post shows your loyalty and venerability. You are an outstanding woman and a super mom! Hug your babies and heal your heart. Your husband should know better. Shame on him. He’s lucky if you keep him.

  814. Meghan. Much love to you. My son has what we think is sleep apnea and hyperactivity and I hope your sons is a simple diagnosis-pls reach out if I can help you with this. My heart breaks for you reading this, so raw and truthful. I’m sending such a big hug and much love to you. Devastating, you will be ok. I know it, but process the pain in a healthy way which it sounds like you’re doing. Much love, Julie

  815. Meghan,
    I admire your strength and honesty. I am so very sorry that you are not only baring the weight of your sons neurological concerns but your “person” in life isn’t someone you can even recognize. I pray and hope your husband has the fight and love for you and your family you have built together. I pray for your family and again my apologies that you are going through this.

  816. My ex had an affair. Best advice, listen to your gut. Whatever is screaming in your head to do, do it it’s the right thing to do. My ex left me and it was the best decision ever. Very sorry for your pain. Think of your kids but you also need to be happy. Best of luck to you. You got this!!

  817. Meghan this sucks so bad. My heart goes out to you. Four months ago I had the same betrayal after a two year relationship with a person I had given my everything too. It is a process and all I can say is take care of yourself first. The little I know of you from briefly meeting you in an airport in IA once and seeing you on TV.. is you seem like the kind of person that is naturally a giver. Right now you need to give to yourself only and the sweet kiddos. Space and processing the grief will give you clarity. The pain of having your reality ripped from under your feet, is something that takes time to process and absorb. Let your friends and family be there for you. Be selective who you lean on but make sure you put yourself first. As givers, it’s not our comfort zone I know. You having time, space and solid support will get you where you can breathe again. I’m finally starting to. It’s really like having PTSD for a bit, the shock, the why’s, the how could they, what should I do… it’s all so much to process.
    I will keep you uplifted in my prayers. ❤❤❤

  818. You are such a strong and brave woman, and a wonderful mother.
    I can not imagine the immense pain you are feeling. I am praying for you and your family, and I hope you find peace and healing. May you be feel loved, cared for, and valued.

  819. I’m sad for you. This was so heartfelt…I feel your pain. Beautifully written. You. Are. Amazing. May you heal and make the best decision for your family. Prayers.

  820. I agree with you, I’m sorry for all this pain but it will be hard to trust and be in this marriage I’m married to a man in baseball for 18 years and it’s been tough and horrible I don’t know if it’s their ego or narcism or both. I have all the material wealth a girl can ask for but I don’t have the love or the faith and I remind him of it all the time I haven’t healed but I stay yes for the kids yes because I can’t financially support myself and children and finally my belief to stay married. Good luck I say if your family supports you and u have friend leave I have no family that would support divorce and I don’t have any friends just neighbors that don’t know what’s going on in my mansion

  821. I’m really sorry that you’re going through all of this. You were always one of my favorites on RHOC. Remember the acronym for TIME–Things I Must Earn. Your husband made mistakes and it’s up to him to prove that he can be trusted. I hope for your family’s sake that you guys are able to work through this if that is what you truly want.

  822. Oh Meghan.. I feel your pain so deeply. I to unfortunately gone thru this. Not in the public eye of course but it still hurt the same. Weve been married 15yrs and i tell you the first 8 were pure hell. My husband and I knew we were meant to be and loved each other so much and without listening to others opinions on what we should do we decided to stay together and worked it out and its been the best choice of my life to not give up. We have a wonderful marriage today. All that garbage is in the past and we learned to trust eachother with our whole hearts again. If theres one piece of advice i can give you is if you choose to stay… Go thru your pain feel it cry about it tell him everything in your heart and then let it go.. I know thats hard to think about right now but our biggest problem was every time we got into an argument we would throw our mistakes back up to eachother and then we would be back at square one. We both had to learn to forgive and trust and honestly we had to fall back in love again. It was ROUGH. But i dont regret it. We have a beautiful life and 3 beautiful girls and a love now that will last a lifetime. Your such a beatiful woman inside in the time you was on tv and interactions on IG i see how wonderful you are.. You deserve a strong healthy marriage and i hope you guys can get thru this pain.

  823. Your a strong woman….go cry…go kick something….but stay strong!!!! Men….they don’t get it…an I’m sorry fixes it all to them…..Strong women are what kids of today need …Storong women are what this country needs……I am on a rant…..take care of your son….takencare of you!!!! Let “Jimmy” figure out his own crap!!!!

  824. Hi Meghan,
    Might I be able to help? Despite how destroyed your life may feel, this can potentially become something that absolutely transforms you. Irrespective of what happens in your marriage. You can come out better, stronger, more loving, more whole, more confident, more trusting. Rather than less. This can (for women willing to dig deep) eventually, over time, become a true gift. Despite the fact that it feels like death right now. I have some things on my website that might help you to wrap your brain about why it hurts so bad, what to do next, what not to do and where you can find the light in this dark tunnel. http://Www.terilynnwilkins.com.

    You may never even see this message. But,..I’m compelled to send it anyway. Miracles happen every day. I see them.

  825. Breathe my dear girl – as a parent of a child with challenges, you will figure this out and handle it one day at a time – breathing is the first step- as far as hubby- it’s tough to say if redemption is the answer or extinction- focus on the kids right now and as you do this the other piece of hubby will start to become clear one way or the other. As someone who has hit the wall of challenge this year you can’t look too far ahead and – sometimes God puts really weird issues in your path to bring unbelievable gifts – focus on finding the gifts and they will appear.😘😘😘 wish I could come over for coffee to convince you of this but I live in Jersey;)

  826. Thank you for being so transparent. I hope you find true, deep heart healing and that however you both choose to move forward from this isnt judged. This is hard but see how strong you are? See how amazingly resilient you are?
    Regardless of the outcome, you and those sweet babies will persevere. Its who you are.
    Hold your head high Meghan. Know YOU are worth it. YOU matter and YOU will survive.
    Hug those babies. Have your ugly cries. You do you, boo.
    Much love to you and your sweet children.

  827. I was cheated in and pregnant by my one and only, high school sweethearts, the only love I knew. He also started the affair ON MY BIRTHDAY. I was in so much emotional pain it became physical pain. I wanted to hurt myself, but with a baby inside of me I of course couldn’t.
    Mine also sent d*ck pics…
    This was over 7 years ago (it’s easy to count since my son is now 7) and our marriage is better than ever. I want you to know THERE IS HOPE. These darkest days will seem hopeless… pour yourself a glass of wine and take a long hot bath. I went to a therapist because I felt trapped, helpless, self destructive. She reminded me that I have a CHOICE. I CAN LEAVE. And also she made me realize that anytime I’d ask for details and he didn’t want to tell me, that’s still a part of him being deceitful. I needed to know EVERYTHING. When he was hesitant to tell me, I realized we cannot move on until he keeps it real with me. 100%. I learned how to LET GO. Gave it to God. I stopped trying to control him and focused on ME. MY NEEDS. I pulled back from him. I stopped basing my happiness off HIM. It really helped me recover from the trauma of discovering your soulmate isn’t who you thought they were. Hang in there. You’ll be ok.

  828. My heart goes out to you Meghan. Heartbreaking times. Physically and mentally. Prayer, rest, breathe, surround yourself with your family. Get very, very professional help so YOU can drive this ship in any direction YOU wish. Praying for you and Hayes. Infact praying for youe husband to wake the hell up and be a husband and a father that he should be. Take care of yourself.

  829. Oh Meghan..how brave of you to share your pain and what you are going through. Ive been where you are..lied to and cheated on. Stay strong..its not going to be an easy road. You are beautiful and worthy..dont lose sight of that! Prayers..

  830. Love you. Love your truth. Love that you are open. Love that you are a fabulous mother & person. Just love.

  831. I am so sad for you. I’ve been there; and felt all you said/wrote down to my core. Especially about not being the Mommy my kids are used to. I’ve been where you are. It sucks plain and simple. I don’t know the magic words to say other than; life is tough hun; but so are you.❤️ Nina

    -Prayers for you & your precious babies tonight

  832. Meghan, of course I don’t actually know you personally but I will tell you that IF both of you decide your marriage and family are worth fighting for, FIGHT HARD. We all make mistakes, we all disregard and disrespect those we love most at times. We sometimes don’t realize what we truly have until we’re in a position to lose it. Sometimes it isn’t until that time that we realize we’re in the ring and must fight for what we love, want, and deserve. Indiscretions change everyone involved, and sometimes in the best ways. Decide if this is worth fighting for. If it is, and you both come out committed to each other, I promise you will be stronger and more bonded to each other than you can even imagine. Love and respect yourself and make the choice that is best for you and leaves the best legacy for your sweet babies. Love and prayers to you.

  833. Meghan, I am so sorry you are going through this! You are an amazing and strong woman, even when you feel weak. Lean on Christ for his ever loving comfort. Each day will get a little better. You don’t have to decide now what the future holds. Give yourself time to grieve and process your thoughts and talking through it with a counselor for awhile may help tremendously.

    Remember, you did not do this, he did. It was a choice he made, for no other reason than attention seeking and boost of confidence, all in all, selfishness! You said it couldn’t be worse, how about what Lamar and Tristan did or what Hank Baskett did to Kendra. Khloe and Kendra came out stronger and have the best gifts yet, their beautiful children! Same with your old Housewives, Shannon and Camille. If anyone should be humiliated, it should not be you!

    Praying for you for strength, comfort, discernment, and positive outcomes for your son and your family. Ask, believe and receive! Lean on your friends and family when you need to and take all the time you need! Enjoy the summer with your kiddos and they will always instill smiles and laughter, from the eyes of babes! May God bless you and keep you! Cela

  834. I feel your anguish, I’ve been there too. My best advice is to not make any major decisions when this situation is so new. Give yourself time to begin the steps to wellness for you and your little ones. There will be a long and arduous grieving process which includes loss of trust, etc., so painful… You deserve the tears you shed, you earned them. Don’t ever justify his actions because he wasn’t physical, the emotional betrayal is far worse to bear…

  835. I’m sorry this happened to you. My husband did the exact same thing. I forgave him and chose to work in my marriage. In the end he did it again. 34 years of marriage and a family unit destroyed. I met him when I was 17 years old and have never been on my own before. In truth I tried to forgive him for the sake of our children and because I was terrified of being left on my own. Since then, the last 3 years have been incredibly difficult. I was chronically obsessed with suicide for over a year but how can one do that to your children. It has taken years of therapy and medication to try and heal. I’m still that sad and no end in sight. I’m hoping i will be able to overcome eventually but I’m not holding my breath. You have a very long road ahead of you and I wish I could tell you that it will get better. I’m old now and my youth was wasted. At least you still have that going for you but I’m sure you feel just as broken. I know I’m not being much help but I hope you can heal much quicker. Just keep getting up and putting one foot in front of the other. Take all the support you can get from friends and family. It’s so hard and once again, I’m so very sorry you are going through this.

  836. Meghan – we are rooting for you.

    This is so raw, heartbreaking and brave.

    Wishing you much peace and love.

  837. This is truly devastating. I really thought that Jimmy had learned from his past mistakes and was going to cherish this marriage. It is really unfortunate that this man has these deep insecurities and has continued to carry them throughout his life, self destructing this marriage, all to feed his insecure ego. All my sympathies during this absolute horrendous period of time, you are a truly magnificent woman Meghan and never doubt yourself for a moment. HE IS THE ONE WHO HAS SOMETHING WRONG.