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Broken

Four months ago I found out my husband had a many months-long sexting affair with a woman before, during, and after my difficult pregnancy with our twins.  Seven days later our son Hart was diagnosed with a life-long brain injury called PVL (more on that here) that will affect every aspect of his life for the rest of his life.  During this difficult time my closest family and friends rallied behind me when I told them I wanted to do everything in my power to address Hart’s diagnosis while also trying to save my marriage. Consequently, my family and friends reached out to Jim on their own accord and let him know they supported our marriage, they love him, and they hope he puts forth the effort to fix it.  Alternatively, his family and closest friends did not reach out to me—the one who was betrayed, the one who had to read on the internet that her husband paid his virtual mistress hush money in an attempt to bury the truth.  Instead, every last one of them isolated me and some went so far as to blame me for his sexting (“If you didn’t write that blog then…!”  “If you didn’t have such a following then…!” “If you were never on that show then…!”).  Moreover I didn’t even get a single message or phone call of support or concern regarding our brain-injured child.  I was in shock.  Not only was I going through the hardest time in my life but I was being blamed for it!  It was heartbreaking to realize that I did not have the love or support of Jim’s family – instead they were actively ignoring me or trying to further sabotage our marriage.  Family dynamics are complicated – ours more so than most – but I still expected more from them.  That hurt.

And the hurt continues. Anyone who has lived through infidelity knows how difficult it is to overcome and regain a strong marriage. It requires both people to be all in. It requires the betrayer to put in the time and effort to repair the trust that was broken. To be fully open and transparent. Sadly, that’s not what happened here. Out of respect for my children and my family, I find it unnecessary to go into all the gritty details. What I will say is that, in the wake of the sexting situation, my husband was drinking and partying with much younger women, including several of our babysitters, and I found this gallivanting inappropriate, immature, and downright odd. While I initially wrote it off because during several of these outings, his 22-year-old daughter was present, given his previous indiscretions, I was uncomfortable. Even more so when he started lying about where he was going or who he was going with—and deleting entire text conversations on his phone with several of these young women. (For the record, after the sexting affair he had agreed with our therapist that he would be totally transparent and never delete messages or conversations and he would also keep his location available on his phone.) And when I learned of a particular outing with a babysitter, this time, to a hockey game, that Jim repeatedly lied about, I asked him to include me on all future texts with this sitter but he said, “No.” Another major red flag.

To be clear, I don’t know if Jim slept with our babysitter or whether they were just being exceedingly inappropriate by hanging out socially without either of them telling me (and Jim expressly lying to me about it).  I’ve gone back and forth with my thoughts for a couple days but as I write this, I don’t think he did.  But I still don’t understand why he’d lie.  And why would she lie?  

Last Friday—the same day I confronted Jim and one of our babysitters—I got a call from a reporter, telling me he had a story and was releasing it.  “What?! He’s divorcing me?!”  This is the first I had heard of it.  Ten minutes later it was all over the world wide web.  Two points for me: I’ve now found out that my husband cheated on me (re: the sexting scandal) AND that he was divorcing me via the tabloids.  (Turn knife in heart a little more.)  I called my speed-dial lawyers: my dad, my best friend, and my cousin.  “Check casenet!  I read that Jimmy is divorcing me!”  They couldn’t find anything.  How did this tabloid have so much personal information?  How did it know Jim had filed for divorce?  Information that – to my knowledge – only Jim and his lawyer were privy to.  Once again, the tabloids knew more about my marriage than I did.

I have largely kept mum on this until now. I posted a selfie captioned “so raw” and I did a thumbs up emoji under a comment stating “Judging by Jim’s instagram, I’m guessing it’s Nanny Carly whom he posted NINE photos of 11 months ago.”  But I NEVER made one public statement, allegation, accusation, or otherwise.  Let’s get that REAL STRAIGHT.

I’m disgusted by what has surfaced in the media.  I love my husband and I’m devastated that our marriage is being broken up in the ugliest and messiest way. I am sad that members of Jim’s family are reveling in our demise. And I am saddest for the children.  My step kids, Landon and Sutton, have lost a stepmother whom they love and will have to endure another divorce and broken home in their short lifetime.  And my three babies who will likely never remember their parents being married. 

I haven’t said anything to the media because I believe some things need to be kept private (the irony of being an influencer and saying this is not lost on me).  But I feel as if my hand has been forced.

I am broken for my family.  I am buried in despair.  I cry at the drop of a hat.  But I am enduring.  I will set an example for my children and I will teach them to love and respect people while also knowing how to condone unethical or wrong behavior.  I will facilitate healthy, consistent, and ongoing relationships with their father and with his family despite the hurt I feel from them because my children should not reap the karma of my personal situations.

Someone sent me this:

When you’re in a dark place you sometimes tend to think you’ve been buried.  Perhaps you’ve been planted.  Bloom.

 

601 Comments
  1. Your so strong 💪🏼 you go this, one day this will be a distance memory, of hurt and pain your living right now. You did your best and that is all you can do.

  2. Sending you and your entire family prayers of peace, forgiveness and clarity. I am so sorry you’re having to live through this, let alone so publicly. You’ll get through it because you have to and one day (not anytime soon) you’ll be able to look back at this blip. Stay strong, mama.

  3. Keep your head up high no matter how hard it may feel, God has your back and won’t ever put your through anything he knows you can’t handle. Every obstacle you’re going through right now in your life is leading you to a place of peace and of happiness to come. You and your family will get through this💗🙏🏼

  4. I’m so so sorry Meghan. I know sometimes you will feel alone at times during this journey but remember you are not. Your family is with you and those babies are the amazing gift you for out of it all. I know it hurts right now but day by day you will see it get easier. You won’t have to wonder any more. Your mind will be free to only focus on those miracles. Everyone out there watching this unfold is praying for strength and healing so that you both can co-parent and move on from this chapter.

  5. You deserve better. Know your worth. You are young, beautiful and an amazing mother and have so much to offer. You deserve someone who is willing to it as much into a relationship as you. Stay strong.

    1. Truth 💯.. Meghan please know you & your 3 babies deserve better. You have fought, forgiven & should never Forget the disrespectful treatment you have in been subjected to.
      Your heart will heal for you & your babies.
      Allow yourself to be loved adored and respected as that is what you deserve.

  6. you are so strong. i’m sorry you have to go through with this torture. that man is honestly the worst. you have so many standing behind you. keep moving forward, sweetie. xoxo

  7. My heart and prayers are with you, your children and your step children. I hope Jim can be a good father and that includes respecting their mother.

  8. I’m so sorry you’re having to go through such hard times Meghan! You’re so strong and you can get through all this, even with your head held high. There’s some people out there rooting for you to fail, but remember there’s TONS more out there rooting for to succeed! You’ve got this girl! From one Mom to another!

  9. I am so very sorry for what you and your children are surviving. You are such an honest and strong woman and I am praying for you and the kids! Only love and positive thoughts for you Meghan 🙏❤❤💙💙

  10. I find you inspiring. I can’t personally relate to your current losses however we have all experienced loss in life and the way you seem to be handling the loss is inspiring. I think you will be better than fine at the end of it all. I think you must have been raised by two solid individuals who gave you the tools to cope which you will then pass along to your children. I’m glad for you that you have such a wonderful support system to lean on during your temporary difficulties. Enjoy the journey to a different perspective and even closer relationships with the people who will get you through it.

  11. You are a wonderful mother and I am so impressed with your strength. Hold your babies tight and know that this to will pass. One day you will look back at this and realize you survived gaslighting, betrayal and emotional abuse. You will find a life partner that loves and appreciates you unconditionally. You deserve better. Sending you love and white light.

  12. As a “rando” on the internet, I truly have been keeping you in my thoughts since the news first broke this weekend. When I first “met” you on RHOC you became an instant favorite. I loved your attitude, smarts & wit that you never let get you down. I grew to admire you as a mother, too. You are a capable, well spoken & determined woman who will use this experience to better your ability to love again in the future. Even though you owe us (your fans) nothing in regards to this catastrophe, I do appreciate hearing your side of things. You’ll get through this, you’ll move on from this – and through it all you may even crumble to pieces and not want to be strong, and that’s ok. ❤️

  13. I’m so sorry u are going through this and in the public eye, but u will be ok. Keep the kids your priority and make him pay. Huge. And someday, they will know the truth of what their father did. They will form their own opinions. You show them what it’s like to be in a healthy and loving, and honest, relationship. To be respected. And they will know that part came from u. They will know in time. Keep your head high. Be strong for them. Much love to u and the babies. You’ve got this. Xoxoxo

  14. Being a fellow St. Louis girl and Having been through this very thing (my ex cheated the night before our wedding. He was a professional golfer. I found out when my youngest was a few months old) my heart breaks and breaks and breaks for you. Keeping you and your children in my prayers HARD. XOXOXO

  15. My heart goes out to you!!! Bless you and your children!!! You will come out of this on the other side a better woman!! They who seek to hurt you will not win! This will all make sense one day…best of luck to you and your precious children from this day on.

  16. Besides the fact that I’m so sorry for all you and your babies are going through, it saddens me that you seem to be the only one doing everything in your power for sweet, precious Hart.
    Has he ever once helped you, or been in that chamber with your baby?
    Instead of partying and going to games, he should be a part of the therapy.
    That breaks my heart to see you always alone .
    You are beautiful, strong and the best mom ever and you will find the life you truly deserve.!!!

    1. This! I completely and utterly agree with you. While it seems as though Meghan was doing everything in her power to help her disabled son and trust these people with her two other children, they were going behind her back destroying all that trust and not even caring about Meghans feelings or the sacrifices only SHE is making here. She trusted these people with literally her life… those babies and all everyone at home was doing was backstabbing her and out galavanting and having a good ol time while she’s stuck in another state at OT with her son. It’s absolutely disgusting. I really feel for her.

      Also curious about the house they just built…

  17. Meghan, you are such a strong and beautiful lady who doesn’t deserve any of this. Once the pain starts to ease, you will know you are so much better off without him. You have given him three beautiful children and he has given you lies and disrespect. You deserve much, much better!

    1. Yes, endorsing that there was something inappropriate going on, because they (Carly and that POS) were both hiding being together…THAT’S IT!!

        1. Playing the game ? Because all this is FUN? Go comment on Jims blog since you and your friend up there are so concerned for him and his emotions over a damn emoji

        2. Playing a game? Like said, there is nothing game-like or fun about your life and family being shattered. For someone so judgmental, when you are betrayed, lied to and have your life publicly destroyed, than you handle as you choose, but to opine how another should when their life, shows us who you are, which is far more disgusting than a thumb’s up emoji every could be. That is the epitome of hypocrisy and foolish.

  18. God will put (and sounds like your family and close friends are already) people in your life to comfort you and help you stand again. Although it is hard and painful and devastating, show love to those babies, keep doing what is right and you, my beautiful dear, will come out on top. It sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do and has pulled the wool over on you and his previous wives. It’s sad that a man so many admire and look up to can’t just settle down and be comfortable in his own skin. Shine bright mama. You’re going to be ok.

  19. You are an amazing woman I’ve watched you on the show and continues to watch your life on Instagram, I’m sorry you have to go through this and that he is going to have yet another Divorce on his belt because he can’t get what he doesn’t know what commitment is, Most of all I’m sorry for your children but being the great mom that you are they will be okay and you will be okay. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts❤️

  20. I pray for your strength during this trying time💜🙏 just know everything will all work out and you deserve the world..keeworld..keep taking care of yourself and your babies💙💙💜 you are an amazing mom and woman💜

  21. You are strong woman Megan and will get thru it. You children are the power, motor, energy and force to keep going every day. I can relate to this a 100%. All of this will be just a memory in the past. The road ahead will not be easy but nothing will compares to the piece of mind you’ll have from now on. There’s no price to just focus on your life and children than wasting it in where, who and what is he doing. Some one said you are free and yes you are free to keep building your life along with your beautiful children however you want it. Future maybe be uncertain at the moment specially because you’ll have to take care of all of the legal issues but everyday when looking into your children’s beautiful faces you’ll get even stronger. I’m so proud of you and we’ll be cheering you up every step of the way

  22. Awe I am sorry and that it’s all public is even harder ive been there it’s just awful .. yet bring yourself to realize to just live your kids stay silent and your life will go forward your a stunning lady your your young and capable life will bring you happiness there’s always a light look for it and god speed 🙏🏻❤️

  23. Meghan my heart hurts for you and your children but I am confident you will bloom with the love of your family and friends. Just watching Jim I have drawn conclusions as many others have. His track record speaks for itself. I find it really alarming that he has brought his four children fro. His previous marriages in on the attack. He surely needs some major help. I have seen these athletes that have been put pedestals live in an alternate world and be damned anyone that gets in their way and why their perceived needs are.
    I will pray for you and your children. God bless you and keep your chin up and accept love and help from those that truly love you.

  24. It’s a shame he has these kids and then he moves on with these divorces. He moves on like it doesn’t effect the kids. So sorry your dealing with this. Keep your head up for your kids. My mother in law always said there are three sides to the story. His, Hers the truth!!!!!!

    1. It is obviously something wrong about HIM if he’s been divorced 3 times now. I mean goodness. He comes in and seems so nice and sweet, gets you pregnant, then doesn’t want you anymore. He’s just the type of person who shouldn’t be married or in a deep relationship, narcissistic men can’t keep relationships anyway.
      And his daughter talks like a 16 year old, “I like can’t even… like I totally predicted they would like break up like years ago because she’s like so like narcissistic and my dad, he’s like really like a good guy. It’s all Meghan because like she like yells at him just for like talking to girls and stuff”

      She needs to like mind her own business and go read a book.

      1. Ugh, that daughter, such a bitch. Does anyone expect anything different to come out of her mouth though??
        I remember thinking she was awful when she was on the RHOC and cursed her terminally ill mother out because of a dress for a dance. Like who the hell does that? All Meghan tried to do was provide love, balance, and structure for a family that clearly had none. I think most people know Jim is a dick. Whether you see it on every episode of RHOC he was present for or, around town in STL. There are not many have positives to say about him personally. Sure did he have some athletic talent, yeah but that was years and years ago. He’s the has been who just wont go away. Maybe he will now.

  25. “ I asked him to include me on all future texts with this sitter but he said, “No.” “

    That’s says it all. Been there done that. You are strong and brave.

  26. Meghan, you are I my prayer and thoughts. I have always been told God does not give you more than what you can handle. You have such a huge following and a lot of people care about you and your babies. I for one am oe of those people. I have been following you since I found out we are both from St. Louis, and us Midwestern girls stick together. You got this and everything will turn out ok. Just keep positive and doing what your doing for your family. Thank you for sharing. God bless you girl and your family.

  27. I’m so sorry. My heart is broken for you💔 But your kids come first, as you know, and they will always remember their Mommy’s strength💪♥️✌

  28. What an a-hole. You are way out of his league anyway. I never understood how you could fall in love with him physically, but maybe at some point he was a really nice guy?!?! Love is blind after all. I’m sure your eyes are wide open now. So sorry this happened. Life is really unfair. Thankfully you have a wonderful family who loves you and your kiddos. That’s where your real blessings are.

  29. I am so so sorry for the heartbreaking pain you must be enduring and for the pain you feel for your children and step-children. Honestly, his family sounds like a bunch of trash aside from the step kids. Your strength is highly admired in choosing to share something so raw and real. Your soon to be ex is a giant piece of garbage and the nanny babysitters are worthless, pathetic, insecure, money hungry – ugh I’ll stop there. You’ve learned your strength through Hart and you’ll soon look back and be wowed by how you went through this difficult time and you will come out on top and better off without him. It won’t feel like it now but someday it will lead you toward something or someone so so so much better 💗

  30. Jim sounds unwilling or incapable of having a normal, trusting relationship. Your love cannot make him an honest person. He has a demonstrated pattern of lying, cheating,selfish behavior. My father said “When someone shows you who they are, believe them.” As painful as it sounds, it’s time to move on.

  31. Meghan, I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. Stay strong for yourself and your little ones. I am a single mom and my son’s father and I do not have a good relationship AT ALL due to his anger and abuse issues. Do what is best for you and your little ones. I pray that you and Jim find a middle ground for all of your sakes.

    Much love to you!!

  32. If you feel like your losing everything, remember that trees loose their leaves every year and still they stand tall and wait for better days to come.

  33. Megan, my heart breaks for you. You are my daughters age. Please know that you are loved by so many people – people you don’t even know. God bless you and I’ll pray for your strength. Sending hugs. ❤️🙏

  34. Meghan,
    Even though I do not know you personally I think you are such a strong woman! Please know that you have a lot of people who love and support you. You seem to be very clear headed amongst all this and are still going to be civil with Jim for the sake of your children. That speaks volumes! One day you will find a man who deserves you and treats you like a queen! Keep your head up, sending love, strength and prayers your way ❤❤❤

  35. Beautiful, Meghan! Sorry to bother you with this, but there’s a small typo in this amazing essay that makes a big difference. You mean NOT condone that kind of behavior….

    You’re super strong, and I’m glad you have lots of love and support in your life. And of course, you have those three miracles to inspire you every day!!!

    XOXO

  36. Meghan, my heart is so broken for you and your babies. I’ve always loved how open, honest and real you have continued to be in your reality fame. You are everything that Jim does not deserve – an amazing woman, mother, and friend. I pray for your strength and for your babies. In time, you will be just fine. Sending you all the love and light, god bless.

  37. So well written. You are stronger than you know. Unfortunately, I’ve been there too. Take your time to grieve what is lost, but know what lies ahead will be awesome…because you are a beautiful person, and a great role model for your children. Use your support system. They will be there for you. You’ve got this!!!

  38. I’m so sorry! You don’t deserve that! My sister is literally living through the same thing. She has 5 small children. Her inlaws made her feel like it was all her fault. When in reality they just don’t want to admit that their son has a problem. Everyone is responsible for themselves. You pick yourself up by the bootstraps and make the best life for you and your kids.

  39. Praying for you Meghan. I’ve been through hurt and betrayal like yours and at the time it feels devastating. Six years later and I’m with my person. A real man who has honor and is completely transparent with me and we have the same vision for our future. I’m praying you find the man you deserve in your future when you are ready to move on. ~Kristine

  40. You will not only survive this , you will thrive. You are a strong woman, stronger than you know. I didn’t know my own strength until I walk through my own hell. You will look back on this and say darn I’m proud of myself. I made it through with my integrity in tact as I’m sure you will too

  41. Meghan, you are so strong! And you are smart and beautiful and you are deserving of more. I know that now, this might sound hard to understand and I totally get it: but pls know, better get on your own two feet now and raise your kids with respect, love and harmony, than later. I wrap you in so much LOVE sweet Meghan ❤️

  42. STAY STRONG! Even though your marriage is over, you got 3 BEAUTIFUL children out of it. F*** him, you deserve better!

  43. My heart aches for you and your family not just your kids, step kids but your mom, dad, brothers and sisters. This affects all family members. You’re a strong woman; although I don’t know you, I can feel your strength through your writing. Stay strong momma! YOU GOT THIS! Many blessings and prayers are being sent your way. Woman to woman I’m here to empower you because that’s what you need. Sincerely, Kelly E. From Prairie Village, KS. 🙏❤️

  44. You suck, you are a fake blonde that wanted that lifestyle, knew the risk, but took it anyway. STop publicly complaining and focus on yourself. People care about the public figure and athlete named Jim, not his second or third wife that did nothing in this world.

  45. I am in such shock. I can’t even imagine how you feel! I would have never thought Carly would do this to you and those babies. Jim is a chronic cheater and you deserve so much better. Prayers for you and your precious babies. Im so sorry!

  46. You’re a fabulous woman, you come from fabulous women.
    You will raise a fabulous woman and two fabulous men xxxx
    The rest is just details and you will survive, stronger wiser and knowing you did nothing wrong .

  47. Praying for you and your sweet family. My heart goes out to you. You have a voice and I love hearing it. Your children are so blessed to have such a strong, raw, and emotional mom. It’s okay to cry and feel vulnerable and in the end, things happen for a reason and God had big plans in store! Being so open is hard and I can’t imagine what you are going through. I don’t know you at all but I want you to know how truly loved you are. From fans (like me) and from your true friends and family.

    Love,
    Liz J

  48. Sending you so much love and strength to get thru these dark days. I ache for you, for anyone in this situation. You will have your children forever. They will never leave you alone.

  49. But did you file a police report saying that your husband was choking you when he was not by calling 911?

    Given that no arrest was made it seems as though that would be considered a false report to the authorities.

    Why is this not mentioned in your blog?

    You speak of his family hurting you, did your mother not turn around and call the police on Jim in his own home when he was getting his belongings?
    A man would not just go and file for divorce for no reason you’re making it sound as if there wasn’t something that preloaded this.

    Again none of this is mentioned in your above blog post. And omission is a lie so if you’re going to be so raw and so honest where are those facts?

    1. +1. Maybe you should understand that treating him like a pet and keeping tabs on him only made him feel like less of a man. And posting all the damn time and sharing and acting like you have a real career, let me help you. You don’t. You are “famous” for marrying a former pro athlete, you cheated with him on his second wife and you were on a stupid reality show based upon drama. Well life is a bitch and her stripper name is Karma. You brought this on yourself. Think back to all of the times you were more focused on being popular and famous instead of time with him. Or how about always trying to be flawless? Or bragging about this massive house that was really about showing off not for needing that space. Or the stress you put on his life? You stirred the pot and accused him of cheating without proof. You didn’t say it but you damn well know you implied with the thumbs up. So he sent some jack off to some worthless bitch. Get over it. You were part of cheating on his prior wife so you knew what you got. You don’t have him banging her. He may be a dick and should have gotten a vasectomy years ago, but in the end, this is about your insecurity and trying to keep up appearances vs being the slut in the bedroom he married.

      Oh and read up on divorce laws in Missouri. You are gonna be stuck in the show me state with the kids unless he consents otherwise. Enjoy the big house.

      1. You must have a more pathetic life than all on here. You are so full of anger about someone else’s life. That screams nor loved, 350 lbs, on a dirty couch, eating the Cheetohs that feel in your rolls. You are the comedic example of the nasty troll on the internet, so bitter who you turned out to be and what you live. I bet she will enjoy her big home, her beautiful face, her full life, and we all could bet that 1 year from now, you will be sitting there writing a bitter-filled comment on some other celebrity’s page. That behavior is transparent Darling.

  50. So you basically admit you don’t know that Carly was having an affair with Jim in your blog but you know damn well that your thumbs up emoji to someone’s IG comment saying it has to be Carly is in fact you saying it’s true. Your hands are not clean Meghan. You’re not the innocent victim you pretend to be. You have destroyed Carly’s life and you know it. You are going to pay for that in the form of karma. You get in life what you put out Meghan, think about and pounder that. You are hurting your children just as much as Jim. My only hope is that you wise up, stop playing games and destroying innocent people in your path. It’s not fair and it makes you look really bad!

  51. I’m so sorry chica that you are going through this. I can’t imagine what you are going through. Living in OC is tough and you have been through a lot. Wishing you all the best. You find out who your true friends are in this kind of time. ❤️

  52. You endorsed the comment and confirmed the “accuracy“ of it when you gave it the ole thumbs up. As the nanny for a high-profile client in the Seattle area myself, I’d be contacting my lawyer if I were Carly. Especially if it wasn’t true, which as you have already stated-YOU HAVE YOUR DOUBTS. She should sue you for slander as she too is an influencer. I know I would. That being said, I have chosen to stay out of the public eye completely as a personal and professional choice. Shame on you for dragging Nanny Carly through this, she has given so much to your family, and this is how you repay her?! You have absolutely no proof and if the tables were turned and it were YOU and Carly out at a social event, mind you WITH OTHER PEOPLE, nobody would have batted an eyelash. That’s going to have to be a big thumbs down for me sweetheart. I’m not saying your husband isn’t a pig, I’m just saying you might also be a libeller. #bekind #thumbsdown

    1. She should sue? You don’t know how the law works, do you? Having a law degree, I can say your comment is laughable. Keep trying. Maybe one bitter novel you send a public person won’t be embarrassing and will garner a response beyond all the educated persons in the world laughing at you.

  53. His family’s behavior is speaking loud, but not how they wish it would. It is showing the world where he got his low character. Most of us with adult sons have taught them better, and if they pulled that cap on their THIRD marriage, we would call them on it because we love them. This family seems to be all of low character, and it is now understandable where he got his morals. Sadly public comments from his daughter show she is learning from dad…and someday will probably end up marrying a man of the same low moral compass. All you can do is teach your babies better…and you will.

  54. I’m so sorry you are going through this. You have so many that care about you. Stay strong, you’ll get through it. 💗

  55. Oh Meghan, my heart goes out to you.
    You’re in the midst of such difficulty and I’m sure it must be suffocating. It will get better. Time is a curious, yet incredibly effective, healer. You’re a strong woman who will set a great example for her children.
    Love to you!!

  56. My heart breaks for you and your family. You are taking the high road in a terrible situation. This fellow St Louis resident is sending good thoughts and prayers your way. You are a strong woman and your children are lucky to have you.

  57. Fuck him!! Fuck him and his piece of shit family and the fucking nanny! There is NO REASON he should be hanging out with the nanny by himself. That is what’s disgusting! You reacting to his ridiculous behavior is what IS APPROPRIATE. God sorry, I’m so angry for you. He makes these terrible decisions and blames you for reacting along with his POS family. Stay strong!

  58. I’m happy for you, just the footage the public saw of how he spoke to you on RHOC during your time on the show was enough for everyone to see Edmonds’ true colors… and those were not that of a gentleman. Make a new life for yourself and your children, they are fortunate to be so young during this dramatic time … keep telling your story and stand up to the lies and those who would choose to disparage you. Yes you made a mistake getting involved with a POS like that, but now you have beautiful babies to raise and love. Count your blessings, and whatever you do, don’t let Edmonds take advantage of you during the divorce—set an example for those who are going through this or will go through this type of life changing scenario!

  59. How dare him for calling you a Narcissist. He is the one who is playing the victim quite well. Anyone with half a brain can see that he and his family are trying to make you the bad guy using the media to do so. IT sucks now but I promise you it gets better. THERE WILL COME A DAY WHERE YOU ARE THANKFUL JIM IS IN YOUR REARVIEW MIRROR

  60. Oh Meaghan. You have every right to be raw. My husband left me when our children were young and 13 years later they are still hurting and have trust issues. Our divorce forever changed who they are and it breaks my heart to this day. I can’t imagine having all of this play out in the public, but you are one hell of a woman and I know that your children will thrive because of your love and example. ❤️

  61. You are an amazing Mom. It is heartbreaking what you are going through but with the support of your family & friends, you will get through this. Those 3 beautiful kiddos will be your anchor. Look up Kintsugi~ the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with gold. The idea that the gold adds beauty to the brokenness & makes the brokenness the most valuable part of the piece. Hang on to that & keep your head up between the tears xo

  62. Love you so much and you’re an amazing mom! I to have been married to MLB announcer almost 3o years and he’s 30 years older😬 it’s never easy and baseball makes it so hard. People have no idea
    In palm beach close to roger dean stadium if u ever need a friend
    Josée van horne
    Xoxo

  63. I love and respect you so much right now. Stay strong! I am so sorry you are going through this, but trust me, I know you are way better off and will meet Mr Right one day. He will worship you like you deserve.

  64. Thank you for being so strong and brave to share your heartbreaking story with us. All I can say is Jim is a di*k who never deserved you. I always felt you were too good for him. Here you aren’t the loser. You’re a winner for being able to pick yourself up and move ahead for your children. Divorce is hard but in the end you’ll be better than before. Jim is the loser in this story. Happiness is the best revenge girl! You go get it! ❤️

  65. I’m so sorry. His family sounds like the flying monkeys to their Narcissist son (Jim). I was married to a narc and Jim’s actions are so identical to my ex. I wish you strength for when u divorce a narcissist they will put you through hell. I hope I’m wrong about Jim being a narc and hoping he’s just a jerk. In any case run sweet lady. You have your whole life ahead of you with those sweet babies. God bless you all

  66. I hope you continue to look forward. I can’t even begin to imagine how difficult this time is for you, but I do know that even in the darkest of times there can still be joy, strength and love. Surround yourself with the people that provide that for you and your beautiful babies.

  67. Don’t let anyone make you feel like your crazy for asking questions, including your husband. He broke your trust and had to earn it back. Him not understanding the questioning, is him not understanding the severity and disrespect he imposed on you. You are not supposed to be in a marriage alone nor are you supposed to bare all the Weight of having 3 kids by yourself.

    You are a great mother – your children will feel that and will reap the benefits.

  68. I am so sorry for your loss , because it is a loss and we grieve it as if it is a loss of a love one because it is, it is hard and I totally understand what your going through. I wish you only the best.

  69. So very sorry. 2 1/2 yrs ago I found out my husband had an affair destroyed us financially to carry on this other life. We chose to
    Work on things to try and keep our family together. I / we were stalked by this women the stress made me loose 30 lbs The only thing I can say is no matter how much we love someone you can’t make them have integrity much love. Wounded momma to another

  70. I’m so incredibly sorry that you and the kiddos are going through this. I will pray for everyone involved in this situation. My heart goes out to all of you.

  71. What you had to say was brave and showed you have real poise. Even though this this difficult, you will get through this. ❤️

  72. Be strong Meghan, you are an amazing woman, mother and friend. Surround yourself with oeople who appreciate and love you 😘

  73. Meghan,
    I am so very sorry to hear about this. I want you to know that you are not alone. I am 4 years removed from an affair that broke up my marriage and while there are days it still feels raw, there are more days where I feel stronger than ever. We have two children and while I pray everyday that he will do right by my children I know in my heart we will never be friends or friendly. He has done and continues to do very damaging things to myself and our children. The woman he had the affair with befriended me only to get my life. What she doesn’t understand is she will never be me. And all those girls and nannies will never be you. It’s hard, it sucks and boy does it hurt but you keep going and keep fighting for those babies. They need a consistent, sane parent and that right now is you. You will have both good and bad days but you’re allowed, this is traumatizing. His family too abandoned me and treat me as if I did something wrong and all I say to that is good riddance. I need supportive, loving and people with good morals around me. I did nothing wrong and neither did you. My ex is also a narcissist to boot so that’s a double whammy for me. It’s a sick emotional rollercoaster ride that never seems to end. But day in and day out I thank the lord for guiding me and giving me strength to push through. There’s no easy way around this type of shit but to plow right through it and come out on the other end wiser. I wish you all the best and will pray for you and your family. Know that you are supported by a village of women who know your pain.

  74. Was there an altercation that lead in the termination of Carly?
    Did you demand to see her phone?
    Did you curse her out and try to attack her?
    Is it true that you have the grandmother blocked on social media?
    You mention your stepchildren Sutton and Landon but you make no mention of Lauren or Hayley?
    I agree they are adults, but adults have opinions, do you care about their feelings.

    I don’t think I’ve ever seen in my entire life someone who goes on and on about things that have been done to them in a marriage and doesn’t say one thing that they feel that they have done wrong.

    When you’ve been cheated on certainly you’re angry but I just think that were missing some of the pieces to the puzzle and I just wish she would address some of the things that have been mentioned in the tabloids that actually do show some salt on your part people want to understand the entire story please do not say that you are free from any guilt in the situation. When you’ve been cheated on certainly you’re angry but I just think that were missing some of the pieces to the puzzle and I just wish she would address some of the things that have been mentioned in the tabloids that actually do show some faults on your part people want to understand the entire story please do not say that you are free from any guilt in this situation, acknowledging that makes you human.
    But no man just walks in a divorces a woman. What happened the day the police were called to your home? It’s public record.

    Lastly I want to ask you given all of your detective skills when it came to a cancer scandal on real housewives of orange county are you telling me you have proof that there was an affair because if that is the case why not share that?

    So raw says that you’re open about everything not just the mistakes of others.

    1. Why attack Meghan in her pain? Why are you writing these things on a site for people who support her & her family through her blog? I think Meghan is thoughtful and intelligent enough to be soul searching her life and actions especially at this time. Don’t blame the victim of infidelity and try and imply it’s her fault he is sneaky and unfaithful. None of us know about their family dynamics and maybe she hasn’t mentioned the older kids because at this point, as their loyalty is clearly with their Dad, she knows it could blow up online or in the tabloids. I think you shouldn’t assume things about someone you don’t know who is suffering publicly. Would you be ok if all this happened to you and would you put the blame on yourself publicly to take the heat off of the man who betrayed your marriage vows? Do you want her to say her husband is justified in cheating on her or spending time with nannies outside of their paid duties?! Cheating and lying and sneaking around like a creep is never okay in a marriage or maybe you think it is….

  75. Be strong Meghan! When my oldest son was diagnosed with pediatric cancer it was my family who was there for my baby and I. My ex-husbands family was to busy blaming me for giving my nine month old son cancer. However, I too blame myself as I didn’t know anything about childhood cancer. For this reason, I too went through a situation where my ex-husband was having an affair when my baby was being treated for cancer. Overall, the best thing I ever did was leave my children’s father and create a life for myself. You are a strong woman! You will come out if this with a better sense of who you are and know you will survive this situation you are going through with Jim. Be strong and God bless.💞

  76. Baby girl! I am so sorry. They are enabling him. Sounds like a repeated pattern. He lied to you nonstop. You will be just fine. But he will do all this again. And again. Take your babies and get the best lawyer you can and fight hard for what your kids deserve.

  77. Stay strong Meghan! You are a brave and beautiful soul. It’s tough now but there is light at the end of the tunnel. Love and strength to you!

  78. Ugh, my heart goes out to you. I cannot imagine the hurt and at the same time, I just believe you’ll be better off. As a child of divorce, I find his history disturbing and lacking of any thought or feeling for anyone but himself. I pray that on the other side of all this ugliness you will find peace and blessings that you could never imagine. I will pray for all of you.

  79. Incredible. Integrity. Self Respect. Love. These are all qualities that you’re made from. We are obviously getting a snippet of what truly went on behind closed doors. However, if a married man decides to engage texting, sexting and having socially inappropriate relationships outside his marriage shows that not only does he not care about his marriage but he also doesn’t care how his poor decisions will impact his children. Instead of working on your marriage or ending it with a level of respect that you deserve, that your children and step children deserve, he decided to be a selfish coward. You will continue to raise your children with love and self love, respect and self respect, integrity, class, empathy. Most of all you will show them how to be brave and that no other person is worth having to put up with lies, deceit, mistrust, and disrespect. You are brave. You are beautiful. You will bloom. Xoxo

  80. This is NOT a blog, it’s a RANT and you are deleting people’s comments if they don’t shed you in the proper light. Stop acting perfect and if you’re so RAW why not leave up the comments that don’t make you look perfect? Why not address them. Throughout today you have removed anything that questions you, maybe that’s why Jimmy remover himself.

  81. I am so sad for you that this is all so public. Its already hard enough to go through this type of pain out of the spotlight. At the same time you have 3 small kids and one with special needs which is so hard. Hang in there. Smooth seas don’t make good sailors.

  82. You will get through this and we are all here for you, sending love and strength and hugs and support. You are doing the right thing, just keep moving forward with confidence. Your mothering is an inspiration – your dedication and deep love is obvious. Thats #1, and you’re rocking it. Nothing in the world can even dent that. You GO – you’ve GOT THIS!!
    -Anna

  83. This is crazy! He IS the narcissist thinking he can do this without thinking it is wrong. And her parents?!?! Yeah right who takes a babysitter to a game with his BFF and kid because her boyfriend dumped her? WHY does Jim even know that piece of info. This smelled fishy from the beginning. You amaze me with your strength and truthful blog, While it most definitely sheds more light, the backlash of his family is disgusting. His daughter should be ashamed of herself. No respect at all!! I hope to and the kids have much love and support from all those in your life who truly care of you all and your well-being. Jim is acting like a single horny teenager and you and the kids deserve SO much better than that. Hang in there Momma! XO

  84. My Herat breaks for you and your Precious baby’s. I have been down a similar paths when my husband got his girlfriend pregnant!! It certainly takes time to heal and focus on the path god and the universe has planned for you and your Children.
    After reading your blog the hardest thing you said was “your kids won’t remember you being married “ maybe that’s a blessing for them not to witness the fighting, tension etc. A mother’s 💕 Love is so very strong and that’s what you have always given them . Now for the Media, Jim’s family and tabloids You did nothing WRONG! 🧚🏻‍♀️🌷🧚🏻‍♀️. I have read all the former housewives comments and it make me feel sick that people are so Snarky ! Like they know what happened behind closed doors!! Take little steps each day focus on you and your sweet babies, you will love, laugh and be happy again in time Xx Lori💕

  85. Megan, you are so strong and supported by so many! You are absolutely handling this the right way, and honestly, I know we see only a sliver of what happens on TV, but he has never been good to you. You and your gorgeous babies deserve so much more love and attention, honesty and integrity. You will get through this!

  86. You did nothing. Jim is a very messed up person. He is the one with issues. He will probably never change. You and your children are better off.

    I had a similar situation happen to me four years ago that ended in divorce as well. It was hard, as I was married for 21 years. I can tell you now I am so much happier and better off.

    You got this!!!! Remember, you are the one admired For your character not him.

  87. Oh I am so terribly sorry you are going through this. I recently lost my mom , and I am finding out in this sad time my own strength and how is really my friend. I wish you all the best for you and your beautiful children. 💕❤️🙏

  88. I absolutely feel your pain because unfortunately I have been through this kind of betrayal. I also have had the experience shocking and horrible as it is of friends and relatives siding with the perpetrator of the betrayal who twists the situation to make himself a victim. I feel terrible for you and your children and oddly for your husband. He does not realize how he will further damage his children’s lives and yours and his for many, many years to come. Probably forever unless he sees how wrong he is. Everyone who is encouraging him to walk away and not do everything in his power to save his marriage and family should be ashamed of their sorry, evil interference!!
    None of those children deserve to have more upheaval in their lives. Judging from reading your older stepdaughter’s article, she is still in extreme from the death of her Mom and lashing out at you. Please don’t let her anger affect you because if you love her through this, hopefully she will regret “ going public”. You all need to step back and not do anything permanent right now but he definitely has the burden of restoring total and complete trust. Maybe he’s not capable but I hope he is, if you love him enough to give him yet another chance.
    I hope for your sake and the sake of 7 children he grows up, takes responsibility and becomes a man worthy of trust. Trust God and everyone else needs to earn your trust. God protect you.
    Sincerely,
    Christel

  89. 1. You should have left him when he cheated the first time.
    2. Don’t be in denial. Sex is involved.
    3.. In the future remember if a man has 2 kids by 2 different women and he’s looking for another woman, he has trouble starting families and not maintaining them.

  90. Meghan I am praying for you all and you specifically for strength. I look at your babies and the love you have for them. You are an amazing Mom. This just makes me sad sad sad. I also pray that either you can work it out or amicably split with your gorgeous kids in mind. I’ll add Jim to my prayers 💜 I’m from a divorced family. My mom kicked my dad to the curb when I was 5 so I so relate to this all. Stay strong sweet lady. I genuinely can’t stop thinking of your situation.

  91. Lean on your family, friends and faith! The ugliest part is yet too come with divorce, custody, child support… sadly it’s a mess and your not working with a caring husband. Your in my prayers as I’ve been in your shoes! May God give you the strength to never give up and peace that He’s in control. 🙏🏼

  92. I am so confused you say you don’t want to get into it but then you do. Perhaps saying nothing and keeping this between the two of you would serve you and your children much better. Just a suggestion

  93. Oh Meghan, I’m so very sorry you have to go through this. I am also so sorry for the pain he has caused you and now you will need to find healing to be able to ever trust again. Take time to heal and don’t let anyone rush you, he was at fault for his immature behavior. Your children will get you through and a mature stable relationship I’m sure is in your future. I enjoy your mom tips and pass them to my daughter. Remember one day at a time!

    Best to you and your babies

  94. I am so sorry for all you;ve been thru. I will pray to my Lord Jesus, to give you peace and feel the love from all of us.

  95. Sending you so much love from Wisconsin. My heart is heavy for you to have to endure so much heartache at one time. Trust the process and know there are better days in the future. There may be hoops you have to jump through, hoops with fire, hoops that move and somehow, you will find a way to get through every hoop in your path. You will overcome this Meghan. You will feel better. There will be light at the end of this tunnel once you get through all the hoops in your path. Unfortunately, no two individuals have the same path of hoops so it is hard to find someone who understands exactly how you are feeling through each obstacle that lies ahead. You will learn and grow and blossom after each hoop along the way. May you have shinier, happier days sooner rather than later. Hugs to you and your babies! Don’t forget to take time for self care and self love. Even if it’s just showering or getting out of bed. Journal every night before bed five positive things that happened or that you did that day. If you cannot get to five, write out the same one five times. You can do this. I am cheering you on. If you ever need to get away, Wisconsin is here for you!!! <3

  96. Thinking of you and your beautiful children. I’ve always admired the your dedication to your family. You deserve the very best.

  97. I felt compelled to write this comment after reading your post. Why is it that the person who has done nothing wrong, is the one being accused of doing everything wrong. Why is he the victim? The responsibility falls on the person committing the crime. Perhaps if his family didn’t condone his actions, instead of blaming you, some change can start. We all want a support team behind us, and unconditional love is necessary, however, when someone commits infidelity, or continues behavior that is not marriage like, at what point is it his fault. You will have unwanted judgement passed on you and its unfair that anyone or even his family still thinks you are responsible for this. I’m sad for your children, because they are innocent. But I’m happy for you to find truth now than later.

  98. From what you’ve posted and I’ve seen on RHOC you are smart, tenacious, feisty and strong. Not to mention the fiercest Momma bear around her kids. Get the best legal team, fight for your kids and their rights and keep taking the high road. I’ve been there with a three year old and four month old and it’s hard but you will survive. Please don’t take on the debt or emotional baggage of that new house (I’d personally like to see him sit there all alone on off-weekend access reading a book on grammar). Sending thoughts and prayers. 🙏 You got this girl!!!!!!

    PS. And how about in Meghan’s house Girly-girl gets to play in ALL the rooms. 😊

  99. Interesting how Jim can keep his promises to his nanny but not to his wife or vows …he is the narcissist covering his butt and laying blame. It is his actions that are irresponsible and disgusting and cowardly. Sociopathic and Psychologically abusive in nature. Great way to show your children how to treat their mother and women…I would say he is the wreck less party and I sure hope the judge see that and judges accordingly and the best interests of his children. It is time women take back the power from those that attempt to steal it!

  100. I’m praying for you and your children to come out of this better than ever. You deserve to be treated with respect, please don’t settle for anything less!

  101. You are an amazing person Meghan. Jim has never deserved you. I know television is heavily edited but he was very rude and distant with you at all times on the Real Housewives. I have been in your shoes, it hurts. You question everything, you think of situations so much that you start to confuse yourself. Please listen to your inner circle that has your best interest at heart. People on the outside see things much clearer and are just looking out for you and your children. I wish you nothing but the best and pray for your strength and sanity as you navigate the coming day same months ahead.

  102. Stay strong Meghan. You don’t need him nor his family. And when your kids are old enough , they can make their own decisions about their father,
    You are in my prayers

  103. I have no words .My heart is breaking for you and I send you all the love and best wishes in the world and wish for you heartache to be taken away .God bless you and your children 🙏🙏💔xx

  104. “Out of respect for my children and my family, I find it unnecessary to go into all the gritty details.“

    Except then you go into all the gritty details, While throwing anyone you can under the bus. Why do you care what strangers think so much?

    Respect your children enough to not post personal details of your marriage which they will read one day. Saying you’ll facilitate a relationship with their father and then blasting him on the internet don’t align. Who cares what the rumor mill says as long as you and your actual friends and family know the truth? You don’t Need to explain this situation, but maybe you Want to… So, Whats your true motivation for sharing these personal details here?

  105. You are speaking bc you know you made a mistake with that little thumbs up. Everyone read it as he cheated where now you say you don’t believe he did. Its your fault that the public is bashing everyone, including you. All of you just need to get off social media and deal with your problems like normal people instead of bringing the world into them. We don’t care!!!

  106. Although you never spoke,wrote, shared information you certainly insinuated Nanny Carly had an affair, sexual, with Jim.
    This girl is still a child, a family member (your words), loved by your children, and from your social media accounts it sure looks like she was a huge help to you.
    I think you at least owed it to Carly to be transparent from the get go, you have no proof, no evidence.
    Your silence has allowed the media to destroy her reputation and create lies.
    For you to not trust your husband is understandable and to be hurt his people did not reach out and support you is understandable.

    What you have done is very wrong, as far as the Carly situation is concerned.

  107. Meghan,
    Thank you for sharing this. Infidelity is incredibly upsetting, embarrassing, and maddening. My heart goes out to you and your babies, especially since you have to live this out in the media. No one should have to endure that level of distrust from a partner. Best wishes to you and your family ❤️

  108. Keep moving forward and find a great therapist. You cant navigate this alone and you shouldnt have to! Praying for you and your babies- you will all be all right!

  109. And you are right to speak out! You have nothing to hide. Jim clearly has a track record and his actions belie that of a man doing whatever is necessary to try and save his marriage. It’s sad that he sees wives and kids as basically disposable as he moves from one family to the next. Stay strong! You have the love and support of family and friends and judging from the comments a ton of fan support. Down the road you will see that you are better off without him. You deserve to be treated with love and respect as we all do. Also try to cut your step daughter some slack I am not condoning the things she has said but who knows what her dad may be filling her head with and she has endured the trauma of losing her mom. She may be desperate for his approval and was most likely jealous of you and your marriage which took his time and attention from her. Remember he is the villain here! Not to mention his manipulation of a young woman more than half his age and he is technically her employer! Blessings to you and your beautiful children.

  110. So sorry Meghan , you have not done anything to deserve this .. he simply didn’t deserve you .. you are a fantastic mummy to your 3 children . Sending love and light ❤️🙏🏽

  111. Hi Meghan,

    I think you are one of the strongest women on this planet. I am rooting for you. You will bloom.

    -Kimber

  112. Your story breaks my heart. My husband cheated while I was pregnant, gaslighted me – I was crazy, blamed me, then left me with a newborn and 1 year old. And no one in his family reached out. That was 20 years ago and it still hurts. It destroyed me. He has now been marry and divorced 5 times since our marriage and has never been faithful. I’ve learned there are men that are amazing at the beginning, but have no idea how to work through problems. My advice is to focus on your children because they need you.

  113. Rise above is the best thing you can do. Let those who are coming out trashing you stay in the gutter. Staying quiet will be the best for your kids years from now. Let those who trash you answer to them later in life. Take care of you & your babies. You got this!

  114. I’m so sorry that you and your family are going through this. I am especially sorry for the kids. You are classy, smart and pretty. Jim doesn’t appear to me to be much of a catch . You have strength love and support which will see you through it all. Keep the faith.

  115. Meghan-
    Although I don’t know you personally, you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. I will include you and your kids into my prayers. Keep your chin up, you can’t control the bad behavior of others. ❤️

  116. Stay strong. He’s a serial cheater. And your kids are better off not being around that. You are strong. You will prevail. God is good. Remember that

  117. My heart goes out to you and your family, Meghan ❤️ You’re an amazing woman and mother. This was beautifully worded – I LOVE your mindset. Don’t let this continue to disrupt your peace..this will pass, time heals all. You’re an influencer but this is real life – raw & unedited. I’m sure you’re going through a lot of internal conflict but please know you are not alone. Many people, whether you know them or not, support you and want to see you succeed. You deserve every bit of happiness – it’ll come back around in time. Leave your heart open & learn from all of this. Keep the strength you have, you’ll feel stronger & things will be better over time. Sending love & light from South FL 💛

  118. I love you Meghan for your beautiful heart, amazing mothering to your children and your strength! Keep on keeping on! You deserve the blooms! 🌸🌻❤️

  119. Girl.
    I am a toddler and twins mom (living in. STL also). I can’t even begin to know how you feel. The pregnancy with my twins was the hardest thing ive ever done. To know that he did that during that time…makes me so sick….

    It also tells me how strong you truly are. Youve got this. Its hard. It’ll always be hard. But you are worth so much more.

    Boy bye.

    💚

  120. You are so strong and a blessing for the Edmond family. The hurt that you have had to endure while having a husband who was not 100% committed to the marriage and blaming you for his poor choices. What sort of adult does that? His daughters disgusting comments make it very clear that she has not grown up at all from her teenage years and is incredibly selfish. I pray that if she ever has problems in her marriage one day that know one treats her the way she has treated you. No doubt that this will one day be a blessing and you will meet the man you truly deserve, but till than you are in my prayers.

  121. Be strong, your fans stand behind you 100%… We will always be loyal and devoted to our beautiful women, and lovely Mother, Meghan King… Good things awaits whatever decisions or paths you take in life… Always Bloom!

  122. Meghan,

    I am so sorry you are going through this. I am a reader of your blog and a big fan. You were my favourite on RHOC. You are in my thoughts and prayers. If you ever need to chat or need anything, please reach out and we can chat, I may not have all the answers but I am always here to listen. ❤️ Email: nicole15@me.com

    Praying for you!

    Nicole Anne

  123. I have unfollowed many celebrities for personal reasons. You are the only one I have kept. Not because of your marriage, not because I’m a young mom or wife, not because you’re a celebrity. It was a feeling your posts with your kids gave me when I would swipe theough the gram. It brought back the emotions I felt when I was a mom. The frantic desire to be present for all things, the time reading and researching how to help my babies through any and all tough situations, the love. Don’t lose who you are in all this. You have it all right where you are with your 3 babies. Big hugs and lots of prayers going up for all if you.

  124. I have always felt that you were so much better than Jim. Never liked how he treated you. How can he walk away from you and your children? Walk away from him… once a cheater always a cheater. He won’t leave his young babysitter’s . I know you have hope but please believe me when I say in the long run you will get over him. Someday you will find a true man that will love you and your children.
    As for Jim mark my words he will end up alone!!! He won’t be young and good looking (that’s what he thinks) for the rest of his life.
    Wish him luck don’t be bitter and don’t worry about his family. KARMA IS A BITCH. Don’t forget WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND.
    With your strength and faith YOU WILL SURVIVE!!
    Love 💕

  125. Aw, Meghan, I’m sure this all hurts like hell. I have no doubt you’re going to land on your feet and you and your kids will thrive. I’m glad you have your family to lean on. Wrap their love around you like a heavy quilt. You have so many people rooting for you. You got this. It’s hard and it’s painful, but you got this, Meghan.

  126. Megan I am praying for you and the children and even your husband this should all be handled privately for the sake of all parties involved I will continue to pray for each and everyone of you.

  127. Meghan , I love that you tell the truth and from the heart , it’s raw and emotional, your feeling of despair and vulnerability is touching . I feel your pain In your writing , and the fact you are a true women who will let no man treat her in such a way is amazing , you have self worth and integrity , your children will thrive from this . The extra lengths you have gone to for your son is inspiring and you should be so so proud . Best wishes

  128. Lean on your mom and those who love you the most. Be there for your babies and know so many of us love you from RHOC and are praying for you. I hate that you’re going through this while trying to do what is best for your son and his therapy. Hugs!

  129. Something I always remind myself of during my most broken moments is the Japanese tradition of Kintsukuroi Pottery. It’s the art of repairing broken items with silver or gold and the belief that the piece is now more cherished and beautiful for having been broken.

    Stay strong- in the time ahead your life will begin to repair with bits of silver and gold and be more beautiful then ever before.

  130. The history Jim has not just in your marriage but his other marriages speaks volumes and no matter how the in his inner circle try to spin it, this is not your fault. and honestly, it really isn’t about whether he slept with Nanny or not – it’s his lying and sneaking around AFTER previously exposed indiscretions. It is not easy to get over infidelity, and infidelity is not just the act of sex – there are many ways to betray your spouse. The picture of Jim at the hockey game was very obvious there was some face shielding going on and that caused a red flag for me when I saw it and I am not his wife. As has been reported all over, Jm has a history with women and you are part of that, people want to knock you down for getting involved with him while has was still with Allison – something I do not know whether that is true or not, but I think to myself – there is a lot out there already, imagine all the things that have been kept quiet, which if you choose to you could probably expose. But I feel more for you because you are choosing to not come after all these people, including Jim who is a father. Too bad there are other people involved who do not understand the kids are also involved in this. You are a strong woman and there will be others who will try to take you down just for that, let alone the ones sticking up for a famous professional athlete. Anyone who has seen the inside of that world knows just how entitled that is. Know there are lots of people out here who understand what you are going through and are sending lots of positive vibes for strength and healing for you and your babies. <3

  131. Megan, I’m so sorry that you and your beautiful children are dealing with this. Only you and Jim know the truth and quite frankly, it’s none of our business. Stay strong for yourself and your children. There’s clearly a pattern here, and you’re better off. You and your family deserve so much more.

  132. Dear Meghan,
    Although we don’t know each other, I’m heartbroken for you. All you wanted was a sweet family and to be loved unconditionally. Perhaps you’ve taken a wrong turn or two only wanting the best for others, but unfortunately not everyone knows the goodness of their soul and therefore, is solely connected with their ego. Keep on striving to listen to your inner goddess and protect yourself with a shield that cannot be penetrated. Easier said then done, but you will need this type of will going forward. Plus, it will help you set a great example for your children. When you feel weak or anxious, take a moment to be still and realize that this is God’s dream that we are all playing a role in. What positivity can we take away from these life lessons? The real truth is we are perfection, you are perfection and do not let the lost souls get to you!
    Wishes of love, peace and strength,,
    Donna

  133. I have always admired your desire to have a normal family life despite being on T.V., etc. You are a strong and beautiful woman who I know has much support from your family and I pray you will reach the point when you can see a rainbow at the end of this mess.

    Stay strong lean on your family and it will all work out. I hate to say the old saying but Once a cheater, always a cheater.
    It’s true.

  134. Stay strong, and know that both you and your children deserve so much better. I’m sorry, but what your soon to be ex has done just makes him a dog!! And the babysitters, I’m a nanny myself and I can’t imagine ever doing something so nasty or disgusting!! It says a lot of their character. To purposely hurt a child is just evil!! Shame on her or them. I’m so sorry his family is enjoying your despair, sounds like they are pretty selfish and again no respect for your children!! You will BLOOM, you will survive and your heart will mend. Jim however will always be a dog in the public’s eye, only low class people will side with him….hold your head high, you have more class in one finger than all his family has together!! Stay strong!!

  135. I too was with a man like Jim. Once you’re past the initial shock and awe, the heaviness will lift and you’ll realize how free you feel. No one should have to endure the daily stress of wondering whether their partner is doing this or that…I look back on my own unhealthy marriage and I’m grateful to be past it all. You will come out the other side whole and strong! You have support in droves! 💙

  136. I have suffered the same type of betrayal only my husband molested my great niece!!! I was the one who had to live out that shame and embarrassment in the public of my town and my Church. My family was torn in two. Naturally my family took me in after I suffered emotional breakdowns frozen neck that couldn’t heal. I ending up with nothing. I got his pension but I had to stay married to him. He was in prison and thank God he is dead now. I understand the betrayal of which you feel. I can say it gets better in time but I’m 11 years into this life after he left me ruined. I lost my job at 50 to disability lost my home and his family ultimately turned against me because they said I only wanted him for his money!!! That’s right people I stayed married so I would get his pension and not be left with $1600 a month from Social Security!! I think I deserved that money. I had quit a lucrative job to go retire with him!!!

    I am so sorry you have to go through this on a much bigger scale because of the Housewives but you didn’t do anything to deserve this type of betrayal!!!! I’ll support your position all the way to the bank and more. He acts like a kid that can live out his dream of being a “baseball player” without repercussions!!!! Do whatever your heart tells you and damn the rest of them. Women have to support other women especially when they have been made a fool of. Walk with your head held high Megan!!!

    Pattie Weeks

  137. You are handling this with an unbelievable amount of grace. When the news broke we all knew there was something you knew that we didn’t. Quite frankly a 40+ year old married man going to a hockey game with a 20 something nanny is horribly inappropriate and she is either “in love” or horribly naive to be seen with him. The road will be tough for awhile but you will come out way better on the other end. Hugs from KC.

    PS. Keep those insta stories of your kiddos coming we are cheering you on and love seeing Hart’s progress.

  138. I felt compelled to write you as I knew this whole situation was blowing up thanks to the media. I was wondering after reading about Jim filing for divorce: 1. Why does it seem so desperately quick, and highly over reactive to file for divorce from his wife, after a private conversation you and he had regarding your concerns about the nanny?… especially as he had just committed a sexting affair, and was caught.
    2. Where is it written that Meghan accused this girl, publicly, of having an affair with her husband? You have had to answer these questions, all due to Jim’s immature, and highly dramatic reaction by filing for divorce. Obviously he discussed you confronting him and the nanny, HE put that out there.
    I wanted you to know that your followers are bright enough to see thru his attempts to smear you. You did what any other wife would have done given the same situation – an unfaithful husband who is not worthy of trust. You’re doing a tremendous job with those kids. I admire your strength. The most important thing is them, period. He obviously doesn’t get that. Stay strong Meghan, and get the damn house!! You deserve it! Missy

  139. So sorry for your heartaches. Love you and your family. Always praying for beautiful Hart. One day at a time and you will bloom.kja

  140. So sad for your situation.. he doesn’t deserve you and those beautiful children ! I’ve been in your position with a partner who cheated for 2 years living a double life … but you will come through it and find your happy place again ! Stay strong ! You have an amazing little family that you have been blessed with because you are a good person xx

  141. I heard a wise doctor Once say “this isn’t happening to you, it’s happening for you.” There are so much better things on the other side of this waiting for you. You are such a strong Mamma, you are an inspiration to us all. All of us Moms are here to support you, you’ve got this!

  142. Stay strong and speak the truth. You got this. You have been doing everything on your own (with your tribe) and making it work and making a difference. I feel for you and the pain you are going through. I am sending positive thoughts and prayers.

  143. I know how much you hurt right now. I’m so sorry that this has become so public. Keep your family and friends close because they will be the ones to help you get through this. Stay strong.

  144. It’s also super important to remember that, on top of the affair, there’s the gaslighting. That always take such a toll on your sense of self. Every time you start to think that anything you did or aspects of yourself are a “cause,” just know that those are his words in your head. You are a strong, smart, fascinating (etc.) woman (which is why people loved you on RHOC). Sift through the superfluous noise to focus on your own words that were there before him and will be better without him.

  145. I truly admire your strength. I would want to kick his ass, and the nannies!
    From what I see you post, you are a great mummy, and your kids are lucky to have you. Good luck ❤

  146. Your strength and poise is admirable and you character is untainted!
    You are an incredible mother and you have always come across to the public as a very strong, independent, family orientated and a very devoted wife!
    You are going through the hardest thing you will ever have to go through and everyone knows you will rise above it and grow from it although that does not make it any easier!
    You have an army of support and a world of woman who admire and respect you!
    I am so so sorry this is all happening to you as you deserved so much better, draw strength from your babies and know you truly are amazing ❤️

  147. I have fallowed you since you’re first episode of RH. You are an amazing strong and independent woman!! Your strength is admirable. Keep your head up! ❤️ You have a lot of people supporting you even though at times it may not feel that way! You and your children Are in my prayers

  148. Meagan…I’m sorry for you & your kids but ultimately you ..I haven’t been so nice to you IG always but it’s a way that I do even on my own daughters to make them strong
    your in a dark place now ,?& I’ve been there , in 65 yo & married to my husband for 30 year & I found out through my husband phone , he was having a “ text affair” for 5 yrs , they went to work together I Manhattan , they took the bus together,..I think she gave him a blo job on the bus too !
    I did all the ranting & cursing , mind you my kids are grown , but still hurt them , I did stay with my husband , I’m old … you have choices this to shall pass , do not stay , he will always cheat & truthfully we move on and forward , but it’s not the same , take those kids & fly , make him pay you the support you need & deserve …you will hurt your kids more by staying , they will sense the resentment & their will be resentment…live your life & good luck ❤️

  149. As a woman, wife and mother, I can’t even imagine your pain. But I do know that you can stay strong through this for your children. You have so many supporting you during this time. Sending love and light your way.

  150. Gosh! Betrayal locked in a prison called I love you so much he has set you free you have beautiful children you are a beautiful mother you have the world at your fingertips I cannot comprehend his behavior ever

  151. I have been right where you are. It fucking hurts like nothing you have ever experienced. Yes, you will be scared but as the months go by, you will experience so many emotions but along with that there will be a rainbow later on and you will will feel strength like you have never experienced. You will begin to realize you married a narcissist and they are brilliant at making you look bad to others. You would have never been able to sooth his narcissism. Later, it will make sense to you. You will see that charm that he has that pulls everyone in. I went through this. When you read everything about NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER. it will all make sense to you! Bless you Meghan. I promise it will make you BLOOM! Michele from Taos, NM.

  152. Wow, i am so sorry this is happening to you. You sound like a very strong woman so you will be there for all of your kids and he will suffer one day for what he has done. Meanwhile, chalk it up and live YOUR life. Your kids will always know who stayed! 🤗 hugs for you!
    Melissa

  153. Megan, you have always deserved better than Jim. It was very evident while watching RHWOC that he had other priorities. I am not going to say that i felt sorry for you, but certainly thought to myself… what does she see in that guy? I am sorry that you have to go through this, but you are so strong and such a beautiful soul that you will be SO much better off. You are such a great mom and I love that you share your story with all of us. Take care and the world is here for you.

  154. I forged through a 9 year relationship, felt the blow of virtual cheating, physical cheating, “technical” cheating, all the way back to virtual cheating once again. I kept waiting for him to love me the way I loved him. To believe that the years would carry their weight despite how lightly he took my effort, I had to walk away. It took a large wake up call which came to light right in front of my family’s eyes at the very same time I was finding out AGAIN, so I cannot imagine what it must feel like for you to go through this with the world watching too. I used my situation and how much more of a conscious person I was, to move forward even with the child that I carried being his, that I’d make sure my children would grow in my example that parents CAN be evolved and set forth the greatest example of a human being. I used that inspiration to launch my future, and theirs, with a literary line for the evolving family. The way it should be. So they know themselves how to be.

    I will say just one more thing to you and you will feel the swift and blatant truth in this one day like the whole new world has been illuminated like never before: you carry more weight and strength in this than you realize, way more than you think he might. There is something much greater for you and your children. Believe it. Because it is true.

  155. Love and support to you Meghan. His sexting cheating was going to be hard to get over given his job and being away so much. A mature man would have worked extra hard to regain your trust. You deserve so much better. So sorry for all the children involved, very sad.

  156. Meghan, my heart breaks for you. You will get thru this. God Bless. I will be praying for you and your family. ❤️

  157. This too shall pass Meghan ~ you WILL be a better person, daughter, friend and mother for the hardships. Keep your head high dear lady…..his family can do whatever they choose. Never forget that EVERYONE saw him on your tv show. Wasn’t good for his case….you can ‘love’ him all you want, But that won’t take the asshole out of him! We SEE you, and we most DEFINITELY see him. Take care of you and those babies!!!

  158. Jim is a sick man! Is liar and doesn’t deserve you or your children. Take him to the cleaners.
    Hiss 22 year old daughter is trash! What grown man hangs out with 22-year-old girls and text them? Right there that tells you he is cheating on you!

  159. I am so very sorry to hear this. I know that you are devastated. You are such a good momma and a very “real” person. I will be praying for peace for you. Stay strong and know that you can get through this with the love and support from your family and friends 💗

  160. You’re a strong woman and will bloom absolutely your tears will be the water to the roots you will plant for you family… It just looks a little different than you thought. I pray you find strength & comfort & joy in your kids

  161. Meghan my heart breaks for you. I pray for your son. I was very sorry to hear this. I know you will always do the very best for him because you are s strong loving person. I have been in a situation similar to yours except I didn’t have children and my husband physically cheated. He was also married twice before so I also had step children whom I loved dearly. When we divorced I lost my step children. It was a terrible time. Thank God for the support of my family, friends, and church. His family thought I should just turn my head and live with what he was doing because he’s just a man and he loved me not the other women. To make a long story short I divorced him, put myself through college became an Rn eventually remarried to a great guy. It’s many years later and it’s now a distant memory. Honey things will get better and you will be happy again because you are a good hearted person and deserve someone to love you and treat you like a princess. I wish you the very best. Cling to your children and your loving family. You are a strong woman and you will survive. You’ve been planted and will continue to grow. ❤️

  162. I’ve been through almost the same scenario. My ex denied that there was someone else…I found out on my own just before our divorce was final. I was basically blindsided. Now looking back, there were many signs or signals that I chose, I think unconsciously to ignore. I was so hurt by this I wanted to make him hurt too! This was not the best way to handle my broken heart… I won’t go into details of my actions (no I didn’t hurt him physically) but what I did made him obtain a no contact order.
    This was the hardest, I wasn’t allowed to contact any of his family, his lover or discuss anything with anyone he knew about what really happened for a year…
    As I look back, what he did was a favor to me!
    I am happily married to my forever love…
    Keep you head held high! I promise it will get better.
    You got this!
    Lots of love, Dori

  163. I was always amazed at the grace and love you showed JIm’s ex in the face of her cancer and what an amazing lady you are. I can’t believe her daughter is acting the way she is. So sorry for you and your family. Stay strong.

  164. As always very well written and classy! You shine through the darkness as a bright light. Stay strong mama, you got this. I’m a complete stranger to you, but I’ve got your back!

  165. It’s very brave if you to share this and I hope you come out on top for your children’s sake. I have watched you on Housewives and must say you were never warm to Jim and came out as being very childish/needy/selfish, maybe this will make you grow. Enjoy your babies and focus on your mental health, you have a long hard toad ahead of you. Jim is a complete asswipe.

  166. It can sometimes be so hard to be the classier person with her head held high but my goodness you are so admired for that class and poise. Keep it up. We are all pulling for you, Meghan. Keep giving those beautiful children all the love and encouragement they need and before you know it you’ll be in a better and healthier place. Sending love.

  167. Meghan, read up on narcissist personality disorder, gaslighting, and trauma bonding. Don’t let your husband make you feel like the crazy one.

  168. I’m going to keep this simple.
    I literally cannot WAIT till this all passes.. when your heart heals.. and when the man who deserves your love comes into your life. I literally cannot wait. You are the biggest catch MEGHAN, you truly are. Everyone knows it. So I repeat, I cannot wait till this all passes.. I cannot wait to see your happiness shine through Instagram.. where you will proudly and confidently be next to a man who you can trust, love, and respect. Because he will come Meghan, just hold on for now, focus on who loves you most.. move on from those who don’t.. in other words, like you stated, “BLOOM”. I will continue to pray for your strength during this difficult time. But I can tell you are strong, and you will have better days coming from this betrayal. Happiness is not too far away.. just wait on it.. you got this💕

  169. You are a very strong woman! Your children are so blessed to have you as their mom!! Sounds like your family and friends are there for you! Just remember those adorable kids love you and they will forever know who was there for them!!
    Sending prayers your way!❤️❤️

  170. Some day when Carly grows up she will know how wrong she was to have had a private relationship with a married man. Regardless of whether they ever were intimate together, no women should have a relationship with a married man that does not include his wife (and vice versa). This is cheating! Unfortunately you should have vetted him better as I will bet this is not the first time an issue like this has broken up one of his previous marriages. Men don’t change. You are so strong and such a wonderful mother. Stay true to yourself.

  171. I’m sorry: it doesn’t seem like there are appropriate words to say. But as the mother of a special needs little boy, and a recent widow, I can relate to the numerous emotions you must be going thorough.
    Keep on keeping on. You got this.

  172. You deserve so much better! I’m sorry you’re going through this. One day you’ll look back and realize how much better off you are.

  173. You are fierce Meghan! We’ve all gotten to know you through the show and you’re a standup person and strong independent woman. Above all you’re honest, and to be believed.
    Wishing you the best future!

  174. Meghan you are a beautiful, amazing and all around great person. I admire your strength to write this. You will be alright and god will be with you and your kids every step of the way. Your an inspiration to all women out there.

  175. You are amazing! You’re a strong woman and I admire your strength and desire to seek the best for you and your children. Keep pushing through! You got this!!!

  176. I have gone through a similar situation. My children are 9 & 11 now. My marriage dragged on for 9 additional years before getting a divorce on 10/10/19. What I can say is that you are stronger then you know. You will get through this. It’s terribly painful and so unfair. Keep focusing on those amazing babies! They will get you through this!!

  177. I never comment on this type of stuff, but I feel a strong tug to let you know what a sting and amazing woman you are. He is wrong and manipulative and disgusting. I would love to donate to a charity you care about…maybe for Hart to show my support. Any suggestions? There are a LOT of people that got your back.

  178. Keep strong for your family. Hold tight to the friends and family that love you and that want the best for you. I encourage you to give all your struggles and worries to God. I love that you’re willing to do anything for your family. Pray without seizing!

  179. The disrespect that he is showing you, your marriage and your family is inexcusable. There is no need for a married man of his age to be texting, liking posts or posting photos of a 22-year-old who works for him and his wife, especially without you knowing. He thinks that he’s doing nothing wrong unless it’s a physical relationship, so he obviously didn’t learn any lessons from the last timing, and he sadly never will. I know that you are incredibly sad and angry, but you will be better off in the long -run. Praying for you, Aspen, Hart And Hayes.

  180. In addition to what’s been said and the “obvious” – I found Jim’s quotes/statements to be so offensive (in that he is so singl-minded in defending his selfish/unaware/ridiculously juvinelle actions: He went “on and on” about the “promise and need to protect the integrity of the babysitter”……Did he completely forget or choose to ignore that HIS MARRIAGE – HIS CHILDREN – HIS WIFE is what he promised to protect first and foremost!! He was never really in this marriage….I don’t think he “gets it” at all…..and that is so sad to me for you, Meghan. So very sad that you fell in love and trusted this person whole-heartedly who never intended to reciprocate that love in return…..I wish you much healing, much insight, much delight in all your children’s experiences, and a life with some peace and clarity ahead. ❤️

  181. I think it’s a total disgrace to u and your family!!!!

    My heart feels for u!!!

    Now u show those boys how to love and how to treat a woman xxx

  182. Meghan I feel for you. Just know that time heals and it will get better. From what we saw on TV, Jim was disrespectful to you many times. Just know that it is not you who is broken, it’s him. ❤️

  183. Meghan I am so sorry you are going through this as I too dealt with a lying cheating husband. It’s awful yes, but it is a moment in time for you. One day this will all be behind you. Continue to live your life with integrity. He will continue to sink himself. He doesn’t appreciate family and one day you will meet someone who does. I’m sorry about your son as well. Stay strong, people out there are pulling and praying for you. All the best to you and your children.

  184. first, i feel and hurt for you and your beautiful children. i started following you at your last rhoc reunion, you were awesome. you are a wonderful mother!
    i guess that saying “once a cheater always a cheater” is true. 😔 shame on him. and as for carly, if this comes out to he true, lds will excommunicate her from the church!! happened to a friend of mine. shame on her!!
    i would not allow her to be around your kids when jim has them either

    take care, you have a lot of people on your side!!

  185. Speechless – I’ve been thru infidelity in our marriage but we managed to come thru the other side. We aren’t perfect by any means but had he not remained transparent, it would have been a dealbreaker. You truly do not deserve this pain, and this is TRUE pain at its core. I’m also a parent of 3… and a step-parent… one is special needs/neurological delays & constant stress , Irish Twins. If I had to go thru it all alone, I could but it’s physically & psychologically draining. Men do not understand special needs- at all. Not that this is an excuse. Did Jim check-our prior? What was his reasons? I don’t know… however knowing that he planned these pregnancies with you IVF- how he could do this too? I’m confused. What I do know is you have a lot of support & love. He is missing out 1,000 percent. It’s his loss. He will have many regrets. He will have to answer to his kids not you. God help him for his poor choices. YOU are the strong one. YOU are the one who will come out on the other side brighter & stronger. ((HUGS)) LOVE ~Chantal

  186. My Heart 💔 for you Megan. Stay Strong. Your Babies need you ❤️. Jim’s a grown man acting very childish and immature going through a mid life crisis! he’s not worth it.

  187. YOU deserve: Respect. Honesty. Love. True Love. Understanding. Support. Those that claim “to care” by taking sides and in so doing are disrespecting you – have shown their true colors. Their “truth” has been revealed to you – Your knowledge of this is now your power. Shame on them. Karma will bite them sooner rather than later. MORE shame belongs on Jim for allowing and reveling in their hateful disrespect toward you. Funny thing is, they ALL owe you an apology – because apparently they are approving of his ugly behavior with their ugly behavior. And/or all this ugly noise is always the loudest when the guilt is the most. It doesn’t make it go away or be better. Truth is truth. Apparently those people, including Jim, don’t like the fact someone was caught red-handed.

    You’ve got this, although I know it seeems like the darkest hour now. You are a prize to be cherished, and he should understand he is throwing it all away. You got this. God bless you … hang tight, hang tough, you are classy, intelligent, beautiful, gracious, a great Mom, a strong woman, a great woman. Shame on him.

  188. I tried to like Jim because I like & respect you and you’ve got the cutest kids ever. I just never trusted him and now I know why. Too many things he’s hiding from you & men do that when they are up to no good! I’m sorry you have to go through this but you will BLOOM and be better for it. I’m sorry that your dream house is no longer going to be a reality, unless of course you get it in the divorce, then more power to you! LOL You have the love & support of so many people and do not let the haters get you down. And yes…it’s odd for Jim to be hanging out with the babysitters, in baseball hats, incognito at a hockey game. And…didn’t she stop being your nanny months ago and go back to college? Another strange thing in my opinion.
    Prayers and don’t worry, we’re crying with you.
    Hugs,
    Sue

  189. You’re a strong woman! My heart hurts for you and what you’re going through but somehow you’re pushing along for the benefit of your children….Please allow yourself the time you need while going through this very painful time and rely on anyone and everyone who wants to step in to help you as long as you love and trust them unconditionally and they’re not looking for their own personal gain. I’m so happy that you have such a strong family support system and I’m sure the rally around you once this nightmare is over!
    Your post is fitting… You will bloom better than ever

  190. Girl you got this! You have already been doing everything on your own WAY before the twins were born. You are strong, smart and beautiful. You will come out of this better than ever. 🥰

  191. I only saw an article, not interested in reading some post about some private relationship between a husband and wife, but perhaps he misled you or lied about the hockey game because you’re overbearing and grill him which isn’t healthy or comfortable for a significant other. You either trust him or you don’t, trust is necessary for a healthy relationship. If YOU don’t, then you cannot have a healthy relationship with him. If HE’S not trustworthy, then what’s the point of fighting for him? He has to be worthy of your trust, and you can’t make him be that. But if you aren’t being reasonable, then that’s why he’d lie and refuse to show you his text messages. The only “red flag” about you demanding to monitor an individual (with freedom and liberty) who refuses to let you is that YOU requested to monitor him. The relationship isn’t healthy, nobody’s fault–it just doesn’t work. Another red flag: you post about your PERSONAL and PRIVATE relationship to the whole web? …

  192. Very sorry you’re dealing with this, on top of dealing with the tough diagnosis of your son. I pray that you will come out the other side of this stronger, happier and wiser. Wishing you strength, clarity and peace as you navigate this difficult time.
    ❤️🙏🏼💪🏼

  193. Was a player Is a player. Always will be a player. Very sad when children are involved. Stop talking about his family. They do not matter at all. Been there done that. Go to therapy by yourself. Heal and move on for your children. He wants out. Let him go

  194. This too shall pass!!!. L•O•V E can sometimes be a two way sword. One can be this moment you are going threw with Jim -that cuts through you’re heart. -Or the other side that will never cut you!!! “THOSE 3 AMAZING LOVELY CHILDREN”. They will show you a L•O•V•E Greater than any L•O•V•E YOU WILL EVER KNOW. Just remember, “THIS TOO SHALL PASS”…💋💖💋 #LOVE

  195. Meghan-
    Your children will one day see the response you wrote today in your blog and see how incredible of a women/mother you truly are. Please never give up and give yourself a pat on the back, as you have handled this mess as classy as possible!

  196. So sorry you are going through this. I fill for you and your children. Been there and done that also,. Stay strong and protect your babies. Keep your head high.

  197. Stay strong. It sounds like you have a loving, loyal and supportive family. Lean on them when you need to. You will ultimately come through this stronger. Hugs.

  198. I’m really feel bad your enduring this alone and with you babies , however what a woman to admire every single day you’d till get up , kiss your babies , work , like manage to take care of yourself and them.
    Your are really selfless and deserve more love and respect, but you really set the example that open things up make things heal faster. Sending you support 😌😌😌😌😌☺️☺️☺️☺️You got this !!!! Don’t give up !!!! And smile , because you will smile again.

  199. This quote is from the book “It’s not suppose to be this way”
    It’s absolutely incredible. She is a Christian author who caught her husband cheating and shares how she overcame the anger and hurt.
    I pray you’ll read it, but more importantly that you will fall at the Lords feet and allow He to comfort you in a way that only He can.

  200. Please stay strong, this is the most difficult situation any mother will be placed in. You have 3 babies that need you to set good examples and will need you for the rest of their lives. Stay strong, I know you can. You deserve better and so do your children.
    Prayers for your.strengh to get you through this.
    Your a beautiful woman and mother♥️

  201. You’re classy and amazing! You will rise above this sad and messy chapter. Stay strong. You DESERVE WAY BETTER!!!
    Sad for your unbelievable house. For sure money doesn’t buy happiness. Wishing you and your kids the best❤️

  202. No one wins in this situation, but you will be better and stronger. Jim and his family, forever stuck in lies and demise. Love on those babies and keep your chin up. You are strong ❤️

  203. ❤️ Don’t worry about the people God removes from your life…He heard conversations you didn’t, saw things you couldn’t and made moves you wouldn’t. ❤️
    Be strong sweet Momma, and on days when you can’t, I pray you are surrounded by people who will be strong for you! ❤️

  204. Prayers and love that you will be raised above this. I lost both parents by twenty years old, yet divorce was absolutely the most devastating of all. I came to realize, through much therapy, unlike parents with their unconditional love, we choose our life partners, it’s much more personal. Everyone handles stress differently, but let’s face it, not to stereotype – okay maybe a little, men are not as strong. Don’t forget to take care of yourself – keep your eyes on the planted seeds and watch them grow…

  205. Megan, I am so sorry to hear!! Jim and I share the same birthday just different year! How horrible the way he is acting!!! Besides you your kids will suffer most. He will continue to be an absentee father. I also share your pain! I just understand Jim! I am a recent widow less than a year, and my husband was a very involved dad. I truly hope your okay and take care ❤! I’m your support!🙏

  206. Meghan, I wish you true peace and fulfillment. You are a celebrity, but you are a human first. A woman who believed in someone despite his past and saw a future with him, that doesn’t make you a bad person. It shows your heart. The part that got me was reading that your children won’t remember you married. Ouch. I get that, but you will give them such s life that they won’t ever look back on what they didn’t have. You will build a life with those babies and a man who admire and supports your drive and dedication to family. I truly believe you will bloom and this awful time with be the event that truly propels you in your journey. It won’t break you. It doesn’t mean you can’t hurt, or cry, or mourn. You are going to soar and be s model of strength to many, Jim will just be the stepping stone for the next woman who will learn she deserves better. He will never get another you. You will do better for all of you. I don’t know you, but woman should support woman. I’ve followed your journey more-so since the babies than during the show. You are real and someone who holds herself to high standards. I’m going to continue to follow your journey so I can watch you rise. You deserve reciprocal love and you will build a beautiful life for you and your beautiful babies. Stay strong Meghan. This is big but not bigger than you and you will look back and be thankful this happened now, while you and the children are young. Wishing you the very best.

  207. You are in such a horrible place. I will pray for you and your beautiful children as you deserve so much better. Stay strong! You’ve got this!

  208. I am so saddened to read this. I was so hoping this is not true. I definitely understand your hurt and pain. It is indeed very difficult situation.
    I am honestly going to include you in my prayers. I pray that the PEACE of God that passes human understanding will envelope you and your family. May God crown all your efforts over your children with good success. I am sending you e-hugs from heat. This not just another reply but heartfelt feeling. God bless you Meghan.. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  209. I hope you can stay strong and keep those that are your strong pillars of support close to you. I myself have been having a very hard time with my daughter who had medical issues from birth and not getting any support from my husband’s family and be blamed and given cold shoulder for ongoing issues. It’s hard, really hard. But I can’t imagine not being my true transparent self, and not giving in to what people want you to be. Its ok to hurt and cry. I get the struggles with the kids, they are our world and we want the best for them. They are lucky to have you as their mom. Your not alone, be with your family and be surrounded with the people you love most.

  210. Breathe, Stranger Friend. Breathe.

    Also, you are an eloquent writer. Perhaps the fire will be fuel for a memoir in years to come.

  211. Megan: firstly, as a woman, a wife and a mom – I am so sorry for what you are going through. It’s just not fair. None of it. I also know you WILL get through this. One of my favorite quotes: “The gift nobody wants but everybody gets us pain.” This seemingly unbearable “gift” is a season that WILL pass… and it WILL make you stronger. One day you will look back and this will sting, but it won’t crush you. Take one step at a time. Baby steps. One foot in front of the other: wake up, pray, eat, love your babies, love yourself, forgive everyone, pray some more, let people love you through this. Repeat. I am praying for you and for all involved. This too shall pass… xo

  212. I’m so sorry you have experienced this “broken” feeling in your marriage. It’s extremely hard when your partner is not as invested in your family & vows but more so in his ongoing immaturity and selfish behaviors.
    Try your best to not focus on the lack of support on his side. That group of people obviously do not have the equivalent values in FAMILY as you would expect.
    Please stay focused on your therapy so you may continue to be the super mom that you are. Continue to lean on all those caring individuals who love & emotionally support you and your children. God bless 🙏🏽

  213. I feel for you 😞you must stay strong.. Iv been there and so glad I didn’t waste anytime getting out.. I knew I could never trust him and didn’t want to live with a man I couldn’t trust… I think Jim couldn’t keep it in his pants if his life depended on it.. And he doesn’t give his children a second thought about what this is doing to them 😒truly selfish man…

  214. One sure way of making sure you protect your kids and show your kids how to be strong is to trash their father in the media and on social media and to use your following like a swarm of angry bees. I am sure your just trying to live your most “authentic” life, or whatever bs buzzword you want to label it with but you seem more concerned with posting “raw” pictures and wallowing in your downtrodden wife persona without a care as to what you did to a 22 yr old girl that doesn’t have your social media following. Not everyone is buying the act.

  215. Meghan, you are a strong, beautiful, and amazing woman. I knew this all the way back in second grade at St. Joe, you were always so kind and inclusive. You will get through this, as you said, it’s time to bloom and show the world the beautiful flower you are!

  216. Meghan,
    Although you do not know me and I do not know you, my heart breaks for you and your beautiful family. I went to high school with Jim and have always rooted him in as he began his MLB career. It wasn’t until you were featured on RHOC, that I began following the two of you through social media. Your wisdom is so much greater than your age, and I love your passion to see things through until you are satisfied with the results. You never gave up or backed down from something you believed in. I admire that in you. I believe you are the best thing that will ever happen to Jim, but he wasn’t able to recognize or perhaps appreciate your worth. I rooted for you two to persevere through the challenges that marriage will sometimes present, however, it appears to have come to an end. If I could offer you any advice to comfort you through this extremely tough time it would be to just believe in who you know to be truly there for you and let them in. Let them help you through the days, weeks, and perhaps months ahead that will be hard. You are so strong for your children, but sometimes you need to lean on others too.
    Take care,
    Brenda

  217. I don’t know if you’ll see this or if it will matter.. when I found out mine cheated & got his GF pregnant (our daughter was turning 5), I moved home to my parents. You feel the devastation I felt. I did cry sobs but as I prayed, what hit me the most was this was y opportunity to be an example to my daughter of a strong woman. I was sad & that’s ok because we were going to be ok. A few years later when dealing with someone who’s hurt her feelings, she said, “it’s ok mom, I’ll be strong like you.” I thanked God for the strength we both found out of the mess. 22 years later, you’ll not find many woman stronger than she and I. I will keep you all in my prayers. I am so very sorry..

  218. With holding truth, telling lies , and him not taking responsibility that he had abused your trust already is not ok. Kick him to the curb!! If He wanted to gain your trust back and work on your marriage you wouldn’t be finding out he’s lying and keeping secrets. Your better off

  219. It ain’t over till it’s over Meghan and I really hope this is the last time you feel the need to defend yourself so publicly.

    While I love the juicy gossip and appreciate your openness….I don’t want that to make things that much worse if and when you and Jim work things out.

    Personally, I always thought you were too good for Jim and I’m so sorry that you have to go through this.

    You should have hired ME to be your nanny! I’m certainly not Jimmy’s cup of tea and I am amazing with kids if I do say so myself 😂

    You take care of yourself FIRST….because you are no good for those babies unless you are ok with your soul 🙏🏻

  220. It’s very sad to hear that you’ve gone through a very difficult time in your life, and with children involved it makes it 100x harder. My heart, love and light go out to you, Jim, and both of your families to be able to find peace and light after all of the dark. Stay strong, you’re beautiful, loved and a great Mum. 💞💫

  221. Meghan, you don’t know me. But as a young first time Mom I truly appreciate everything you write, you inspire me to be a better advocate for my daughter every day. You are such a strong woman, you admit you’re not perfect often, but I find perfection in that statement. Thank you for sharing so much with us. It’s more than ok to cry, and you deserve all the love and support the world can offer. My hearts breaks for you and this part of your story. But it is just “a part” of your story, your story is beautiful and I wish all good things for you and your family. Thank you & yes, Bloom.

  222. As someone who has been through this my heart goes out to you. My mind was going crazy trying to figure out how to get my family back together. Remembering the good times. Trying to figure out what I did to make it happen. Worse thing I have ever been through. Try to just go with the waves and deal with things as they come. Your kids need a stable mother right now.

    Jim got caught, he is embarrassed. His pride is crushed. He lied to family and friends so they would take his side. It would take a very strong man to swallow his pride and admit what he has done. Most would think just to have his kids back he would own up. Sometimes the pride won’t let them. Tough place to be. Basically this will be his journey.

  223. This is definitely not easy to go through but the only way to move after this is forward. Keep being a great example for your kids and I’ll be praying for you and your family!

  224. Meghan I watched you on RHOOC and thought you were very together with the exception of pushing Jim into having kids. It was painfully obvious that he just wasn’t into it.

  225. I don’t think you did anything wrong and any normal person would have the same reaction to what your husband has been doing, he seems to view himself as single and I don’t want to judge him but he should at least be honest with you and especially himself.
    It’s hard to trust someone with his track record and you will always wonder about what he’s doing, so maybe it’s best to let it go. Some people are not cut out for marriage.
    I wish you all the best🙏

  226. Jimmy doesn’t appreciate what he has. He just tosses people aside , and doesn’t seem to care. I’m sorry you are going through this .

  227. Thoughts and prayers for you and your children as you navigate this very bewildering and downright turbulent time. I believe he is going through a very serious midlife crisis! Shame shame on him! You are a strong independent woman and you will come through this stronger than ever before! God Bless you and your family! ♥️🙏🏼

  228. My prayers will be with you as you travel thru this season of your life . Your journey won’t be easy but stay true to yourself. Love your kids and keep on rolling!!

    Teresa

  229. You are an amazing woman! I have been in an emotionally abusive and cheating relationship where I was torn down and am still torn down by his family. I wish you so much peace. This brings back so much for me and I feel so bad for you. Hang in there!

  230. Sending you many prayers – God has His hand around you and your children. He is protecting you from a man who is dishonest, a serial philanderer and absolutely untrustworthy. Hold your head up high, surround yourself with a loving community and continue to press into God who will never leave you.

  231. You will be just fine without him!!! One day you will look back at this situation and be grateful because it will only make you STRONGER!! Keep your big girl pants on! You got this! 🙏🙌💪

  232. I hear you 100%. I would have done the EXACT same things. Asking/needing/demanding full transparency and that your ADULT husband not go out with young girls period, especially young ladies you all employ is perfectly reasonable. Broken trust must be rebuilt and that does not happen over night. I respect your choices as a mother, and as a wife/partner with self worth. Wishing you, the kiddos (step and biological), and your soul healing, love and light. Thank you for your vulnerability. You ARE SUPPORTED Meghan!

  233. This too shall pass! Your strength and your raw honesty will help you get through this difficult time. Divorce is a death, a death of a marriage so please don’t forget to grief a little bit each day and give it to god (or whomever or whatever higher power you believe in) . Just remember to love your kids more than you hate him! Given enough ripe people hang themselves and the best thing you could do is to NEVER speak poorly of Jim to your kids nor NEVER make excuses for his behavior. Simple state “that’s a good question! Ask your dad honey” if they should ever ask why he doesn’t show up or why he does the things he does.
    Your focus is your children who need you in so many ways. You are showing them that you are a constant stable force in their little lives and for that they will love you unconditionally.

    I wish you and your children much love & good health. You have set yourself on an extremely healthy and positive course to move forward to live your best life. You seem to be an excellent mom so don’t let anyone take away your shine.

    PS I’ve never written to anyone like this before but I felt compelled to when reading your post.
    Best
    Karen

  234. He’s a d-bag. That was evident by the treatment you rec’d during IVF and while pregnant both times. What a pathetic man.

  235. you are SO better off divorced from him than married to him . run, and don’t look back! leopards don’t change their spots.

  236. My ex cheated on me also while pregnant with our son. I do was blamed for the affair. “If you didn’t accuse us, nothing would have happened”. Remember that this is not your fault. Your story is yours and yours only. You are allow to grieve because that’s exactly what it is, a loss of a loved one. They get the chance to disconnect and distance themselves but we don’t! We have no notice to turn off years of love and devotion. My best advice is to remember that children didn’t ask for any of this, so don’t ever make them feel like they did. We love you! Please stay strong! Use those precious babies to find the strength you need to get past this! And take all his money! Lol!

  237. You are such a strong and amazing woman. And even more importantly, you are an amazing mother. I have watched you help your baby Hart at every turn while at the same time being sure to give love to your 2 other children.
    He never deserved you. He was incapable of being loyal and faithful to you. Men like him NEVER change.
    Continue to hold your head up high. Don’t pay any attention to the haters. You received 3 precious gifts from your broken marriage. Some day you will find a love that is real and honest. Until then, be the best you can be and love your babies Momma❤️😘🙏

  238. The best advice I can possibly give you as wife and a mother myself is to stop talking about this publicly. I understand that Jim and his older children are trying to dump all of this at your doorstep and make this about you. I understand that you want to come back swinging, I understand believe me I understand. But addressing this publicly will not make your private pain less. Jimmy can say what he wants but he’s the one with his dirty laundry out, not you. As far as I can see your just a Momma doing everything she can for her little baby boy. Let that be what you talk about. Don’t waste another minute talking a out a man who didn’t respect you enough to be faithful and honest.

  239. Megan, I don’t like you before when you were in RHOC, but I’ve began to like you when I started reading your blogs and following your stories. I am so sorry for what you’re going through. Heart broken to me is the most horrible pain a body can endure, but it can. I am sure better things are coming your way. I never liked Jim for you. I never felt he truly loved you. I felt for what I saw on the show and his social media, that the only person he really cares is himself. I want to tel you this, why don’t you try to write, I mean, for real, write books. I think you should be a writer. I love your vocabulary. How you keep me hooked with the way you describe a situation. You have beautiful babies and family that loves you. I’ve been for some broken heart times before, and the good news, in a month, you will feel so renew and strong, you won’t even recognize yourself. Take some Tylenol when your crying feels like non stop, it will help. I read somewhere that the hurt from heart broken has to be treated like a headache and that helped me a lot. Sending you all the positive energy your way. ✨

  240. I read all the nasty posting from your soon to be X husband and I looked for any posting that you have done and was soo CONFUSED when I couldn’t find Anything of accusing anyone so I knew that he was Lying to make you look bad with that being send. I pray for you and your children that the Lord can cover you with love and peace. You are such a strong women may you never change this to will pass.

  241. You inspire me with your strength and ability to share yourself and your thoughts so openly. You are a great mom and your kids are blessed with your presence. You are young! One day you will be in a better place and I wish you all the peace and self care you deserve <3 You Rock.

  242. This is the most honest thing I have ever read. I love how you take all your hurt but try to focus on what is right without going off. Your a class act and from one mother to another with a disabled child, you are appreciated by me for not only how you are handling the trials and tribulations of your sons diagnosis but the trials and tribulations of this divorce. Stay strong, hold your head high, and put your effort and focus on what is most important, the people you love and the people that love you.

  243. You may not believe it now, but your children will be your strength. And, you are going to eventually be okay again.

  244. Sending you only love from New Jersey and prayers for you and your beautiful children. You are strong. You can do this. God bless and keep you.

  245. Praying for you! I have once been married and a year and half in boom he had a girlfriend and I was kicked to curb. No problem no warning just like that. I went thru many stages of grief and then came out In the end with an new amazing man who gave me two beautiful children. You will rise above this. Takes time but you will. Stay strong

  246. Gosh I am so sorry. I think you are so positive in your stories and all I can say is this too shall pass. You’ll look back on this and eventually the pain will all make sense and in a weird way will be worth it because it will have brought you to something greater. My heart is with you and I know you’ll come out the other side stronger than ever.

  247. My heart hurts for you. I’m so sorry you are going through this. Deep breaths and take one day at a time. It takes horrible situations to find out who truly has your back in life. I hope this makes you stronger in the end and you find the silver lining 💙

  248. My heart goes out to you.

    I’m writing this as I sleep next to my 9 month old baby girl in a hotel room because I’ve been displaced by my cheating, abusive fiancé.

    Please know that even though it may feel like it, you are not alone. You are a beautiful human being with beautiful babies. And I need to keep reminding myself of this as well. They need us mamas. They are innocent in all of this so we need to be strong for them.

    Even though I’m still looking for it, I know there’s light for us at the end of the tunnel.

    I hope you feel better soon.

    1. I am sending you so much strength and prayers. I left after my last hospital visit lying about how I was injured. The lady in the next room came in to talk to me like an angel and said “if you stay with him, your daughters will look for abusers since that is what they have seen and your sons will abuse women”. I knew then I was done. I know it is so hard financially but you can do it. I had no family locally so it was so hard. My kids are grown today and all professionals and beautiful and kind humans in long term relationships. Fight the urge to return. Fight for yourself and your baby. Take all the power back you gave him and heal your heart. May God bless and keep you and your daughter safe.

  249. Many prayers for you and the kids…I always believe whatever happens God has a plan and just remember if you hadn’t of had the time with Jimmy you wouldn’t have the wonderful kids you have…it’s always easy for people to tell you “things will get better” but until you’ve been in your shoes no one really will understands…just hold your head high because it’s not you that’s made the mistakes and bad choices…and just remember THIS TO SHALL PASS and cry like hell whenever you like.

  250. Know that you are not alone. I was married to a cheater. I thought my kids deserved a home with 2 parents. What I learned was staying would have made my own 2 young sons think cheating is okay. That was 25 years ago. Both sons are professionals and in stable and faithful relationships. Your life feels like it is in a million pieces right now and you can’t catch your breath. When your children are grown and amazing, you will see the master plan that the children are better than great because you didn’t let them see and live in a home where deceit and cheating were normal. Before long, the children would have been lying to us if Dad did. Stay strong mama. You can do this.

  251. I never comment on random Instagram accounts of those I am not personally acquainted, but this story struck a cord with me. My parents went through a hard divorce when I was pretty young, and took it upon themselves to beat up on each other at every turn. It was hard. It’s still hard, and I hate the thought that if I host a party at my home it will have a tinge of awkwardness if they are both there. Of course- it is the desired outcome to be amicable and friends with your ex- husband and children’s father. But, sometimes that is not reality because even mothers and fathers are human and carry hurt. So, the best example you can set for your children is one of strength; and mostly not leading your life with anger because of these unfortunate circumstances. Because of our parents break- up, my sister and I are particularly resilient, independent, and self sufficient. AND I WOULD NOT TRADE THAT FOR ANYTHING. It’s part of your journey, and now theirs, and when they are older, they will understand.

  252. Why would you even say that “out of respect for my family I won’t go into the gritty details”…but then spend the next paragraph airing your dirty laundry and going into details? It’s obvious you love playing the victim. Sad, narcissistic behavior.

  253. His actions are not a reflection of who you are as a wife, a mother, a woman. His actions are exactly that. His. He owns this behavior and the negative consequences on his family. Keep your strength, focus on your children and teach them what love and respect are supposed to look like. My heart breaks for you. But remember, this is a chapter. This is not your whole book!

  254. You’re amazing!! Take time to focus on healing your heart so you can be the best mama to those little cuties!! Surround yourself with loving family and friends. Prayers for peace, love and happiness!! You’ve got this!!

  255. Betrayal is hard! It’s a death. Mourn it, learn to forgive yourself – don’t second guess anything you’ve done, you are doing as best you can in each moment. Write off Jim’s adult family members, they don’t deserve one iota of your energy. Take care of yourself minute by minute, day by day. Your children are your strength, they are YOU. Bloom! Indeed! BLOOM.

  256. He’s disgusting. Always so dismissive of you. I found many of his characteristics to be quite feminine. I know he’s an athlete but yes, there are gay ones among them. Obviously, he remains on a constant quest to prove his manhood. Wonder why. He’s an immature pig. You’re just as immature airing your dirty laundry. Poor children.

  257. Sending all the love I can to you and the kids. Stay strong. Focus on you and your children. You will get through this and bloom.

  258. Meghan no words can describe your pain, years of pain for your children but after you recovery emotionally stay strong and in front of kids be positive regarding their father.
    🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️😘

  259. I am so sorry. I am in a similar situation, but the public nature must be so difficult. Broken sucks. This just sucks. Just know there are people behind you that have your back. You do what you have to for you and the kids. Everyone else can suck it! 🥰

  260. So sorry for this terrible upset in your beautiful family Meghan. I truly hope you can work things out. The media has really played a huge part of this breakup and I hope you both have learned from it. Being from STL I know there are a lot of people here pulling for you guys. You’re in my prayers!❤️

  261. Well spoken and quite eloquent. You will get through this and shine brighter than you ever have. Your children have the best in one parent and that just might be enough for them. Take pride in that and keep moving forward.

  262. Your children will be the love you need to get through this ugly situation. Use your friends & use your family for the support that you’re going to need. They love you, they respect you & they’re good for you right now. As bad as it hurts, it will get better. It was to be a stepping stone in your beautiful stream of life. You’ll grow from this & you’ll be a better person in your next relationship (that I’m sure you can’t even fathom, at this point) but know that time DOES heal all wounds!!! It truly does. These bad times pass just like the good ones do. You will be okay!!! If you need to let go & be weak & cry sometimes, do it! You’re entitled. You’ve earn your right to feel the hurt. You need to do it to heal but you will come out on the other side & the sun will shine again. Keep those precious babies close & shower them with love & attention but also take time for you. Meanwhile, do not let him walk all over you!!!!

  263. My heart goes out 2 you & your precious babies…Youll get through this and come out on the other side….WAY BETTER GODS PROMISE

  264. Are you seriously deleting comments from people who are calling you out on your BS? Do you truly think you’re “in the right”? According to numerous sources, you attempted to attack the nanny. In what world is that okay? I don’t blame your husband for not telling you the truth if this is how you behave. (Seems like he’s more a victim than you are!) Then you passive aggressively “liked” some random comment blaming said nanny. So yes – you are engaging when it suits you. And you’re teaching your kids it’s okay to manipulate situations for your benefit. I feel sorry for your kids. I hope you get into therapy for yourself. You need it.

  265. I’m sorry this is happening to you in such a public manner. Cry when you want to cry, scream when you want to scream but always remember you will overcome this hurdle. Kiss those 3 babies and get thru this not only yourself but for then as well.

  266. You are amazing! Know that for every ugly comment there are hundreds of us out there supporting you. I have loved watching your motherhood journey. I’m so impressed with everything you have been doing. You got this and will be stronger than ever sooner than you think.

  267. Meghan you are a beautiful woman inside and out maybe the red flags were there before the marriage but you didn’t see them? It happened to me. It’s so sad and devastating even more so because of the media and your celebrity..I can’t even imagine that. You are brave…you are strong…you have three beautiful children who love you and need you and I know from watching you on RHOC and following you on Instagram you WILL BLOOM and this will be a distant memory one day. Peace and God bless you

  268. I am so sorry for you and all of the kids that you are being forced to not only endure this, but to have to endure the media while going through it all. Thank you for allowing the world to see what a broken but strong woman looks like. Your beauty and transparency through everything…good and bad…is remarkable.

  269. Meghan,
    He is gross. He is the lowest of the low. To be sexting ( and let’s be real, probably more) while you were pregnant and delivering his babies? There are no words, other than this: you will get through this. The pain that seems impossible to overcome? You will. The heartache for what was? Will pass. I promise you, it will. You will get through this. I’m just sorry you have to,

    Lauren

  270. Great attitude. I can tell you’ve been to therapy. You know your worth, know your boundaries and know the example to set for your children. He, on the other hand, seems to have not learned these lessons (even with all the opportunities to that he’s been given!). If he did, he wouldn’t have gone behind your back, lied and been selfish on so many levels. Just keep walking. Also, you’re a GREAT writer.

  271. Meghan when you have to start watching your husbands every move and tracking him and his phone, it’s just not worth it. Men will do as they please if they really want to. Try to move on while you are still young and pretty. Dont wear yourself out with the why’s. It will show on your face first and then on your health. He probably wont lose a minute of sleep. Sounds like he is going through manopause. Prayers

  272. He is mishandling every step of this situation when what he should be doing, as a decent human being and loving father, is focusing on his family and specifically his brain damaged toddler’s medical journey!! I am appalled by his instagram posts and the comments under it defending him, (I commented that he was a scumbag, which was inappropriate but is what I truly believe him to be).

    I am so glad your children have you as a mom, you will obviously have to be the bigger person in all of this, as you are clearly already doing. Much love going forward, I hope you have so much support from family and friends to see you through this shit show Jim has almost single handedly created. WTF is wrong with this man!?!? 🤦‍♀️

  273. U r a strong woman, u will get through this. You and your kids deserve someone better whi is honest and trust worth and who puts you and your children first. Be strong Meghan.

  274. You have more support than you know. The kind words of strangers trumps the outreach of support you are lacking from Jim’s family. Hold your head up high…. YOU are the one who can walk away from this and say, I Gave it my all. We’re following your journey. The ups and downs. Keep reaching out Meghan, we’re listening and supporting you.

  275. Sadly Meghan I feel your pain all to well. I am so sorry that you are going through this – I too am going through a very similar situation only my children are grown and I have been with this man for 36 years. I too am broken – we do have the love and support of our families and friends and I am confident we will bloom. Thankfully we are not alone .stay strong for you and your babies. 💗

  276. Keep the faith. Stay brave and strong. Your loving and supportive friends and family will always be there to help you regain your strength and your positive spirit. Their love is your strongest life preserver and you will cling to it and ultimately thrive!

  277. You are honestly the best mother. So nurturing, absolutely present for all of your babies, and especially amazing with Hart. I envy the strength you have for your kids and I hope I can be as strong as you. This is a huge bump in the road, he doesn’t deserve such an incredible person and I hope you can find peace in knowing that. I pray for your family and I hope you stay strong!!!

  278. My husband as well was a high profile person with a need for infidelity and inappropriate conduct. I helped get full custody of my three stepchildren and raised them. Only to 20 years into marriage have them help him cheat on me and lie. Total betrayal! I have two sons with special needs with this man only to have him abandon us because we are getting divorced. Four years almost in to the divorce process in St. Louis co a.k.a. Because my husband has a lot of money to play games in the court system I realize though I’m saddened by the failed marriage I’m glad I don’t have the burden of a morally incorrect person to always not trust. I too recovered in 2010 after his cheating to only live through it again. The problem is the cheating is inappropriate behavior is part of there personality and they will never change. In the end what ends up happening is your so distracted by there cheating and worrying it takes way with being fully committed to helping your kids that need you. So many years lost…. Your story I can relate to in so many ways and I wish you all positive thoughts and prayers!

  279. This too shall pass…
    Like a fucking kidney stone but it will pass.
    I too found out my significant other has been sexing with too many girls and it’s been going on through out my pregnancy and after.
    What is wrong with men?
    Love seeing you and your family and I pray things work out for the best for you all.

  280. When you wrote that your children will probably never remember their parents being married, that absolutely made me so sad. That one sentence…..
    Your children are blessed to have a mother like you. Sadly this is a blessing heavily disguised. One day your children will look up to a real and honorable father figure; they lack that right now. Try to think of that and look to keeping them as happy and loved as possible.

  281. No matter the circumstances, something was bound to happen. I knew after the prior incident it would take time
    to go through the process and realize it wasn’t going to work. As sad as it is, especially with young babies, in the long term you will be better off. You will get through it and be the stronger person ❤️. Excited to see the bloom!!

  282. You are a sweet beautiful lady. But in order to heal, you must confess……that you chose the asshole. Just sayin….once you accept the responsibility you will be ready for the man who deserves you. Blessings to you.

  283. Truly beautiful post. I admire your bravery, courage, and your utmost ability to put your babies first. What a selfless thing. I am rooting and praying for you today and always. God bless!

  284. I am so very sorry! I’ve been through this and the pain sadly never goes away! Yes you will go on because of your beautiful and amazing children but you’ll hurt forever over this! As I sit here 15 years later I still feel the pain of the man I loved, trusted and respected turned and walked away! The deep hurt is beyond painful and I wish it on no one! I’m praying for you Meghan! You’ll survive and thrive! I’m still praying for a miracle that Jim repents and makes his way back to you and those sweet ones!

  285. All the support to you and your beautiful babies! You will overcome. Thank you for posting this. You have always been so real.

  286. Meghan,

    I’ve been through deception. Too many times. You’re absolutely right. Transparency is MANDATORY to repair trust. And even with full transparency it may never be rebuilt. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. It’s probably best that things happened, God will send someone who values your marriage as much as you. I’m praying for you because I know firsthand how much betrayal hurts. All shall pass.

  287. As they say it’s always darkest before the dawn-and it’s true! You WILL heal from this in time and you’ll be stronger and wiser because of it. I’ve had to come through some very tough times and I thank God every day for the life I have today-if it weren’t for some of those dark days I wouldn’t be who I am today and I love my life right now. Good luck to you and your family!

  288. My heart goes out to you. Please keep your head up, you deserve so much better. Don’t let him bring you down, he needs to look at his past record. He is a fool. I’m keeping you and your family in my prayers!

  289. I am so sorry. Take time in the midst of all this to take care of you. Go talk to a counselor to work out the hurt and anger etc. You have your fans support

  290. I truly understand… I have been there. I am not surprised by Jim’s family, the can’t handle the truth so they blame you. I am so sorry, but not surprised because I don’t trust ANY man anymore which is sad. God bless you and your babies. You will prevail.

  291. I’ve gone through infidelity and it awful. My heart breaks for you. I just lost a sales job I had for over 32 years. The owner died and the family shut the business down. I would love to work with you. We have a lot in common. I love,love,kids and I can do anything.
    You will be fine. Not right away. But it will come.
    Take care my sweet Meghan.

    Thank you , Ronda Lane

  292. I’m sorry but you will bloom and be better off. Jim has the personality of a shoe, and you’ll find a dude way cooler, taller, and one that doesn’t need his ego stroked by 22 year olds. This is a blessing 😉

  293. I’m so sorry you’re going through this now. You suffered through so much to have your beautiful children. I also have a son who was born with neurological developmental delays as well. I’m sorry your husband is such a callous pig who can’t respect his vows. What comes to mind is a saying though, when people show you who they are, believe them. I think you turned a blind eye to his negligent behavior very early on in your relationship. I’ve done it. We’ve all done it. We’ve all made excuses for people who abuse us and treat us poorly because we love them. Jim is clearly a broken, selfish man who needs constant attention. It doesn’t excuse his behavior by any means. Kids need their fathers and that’s a bridge that’s important to build for them, but they don’t need to see you being openly disrespected by him ever again. Take. No. More. I hope you are able to stand strong for your son and daughters and show them other examples of healthy marriages and dignified men who lead their households. Men who prioritize God, value their wives, and protect their family. May God hold your heart in his hands during this time of loss and rebuilding.

  294. I admire you so much And everything you are doing for Hart in addition to trying to be the best mom you can be to Aspen & Hayes. I know you really loved him but Jim Edmonds is really a horrible person with no moral compass. You are so intelligent & beautiful. You deserve so much more & you will find the man of your dreams.

  295. Meghan: First off, I’m so sorry for you and your children. You all deserve better. Secondly, I’m concerned over your consulting psychics, tarot card readings, etc. These are things forbidden in the Bible by God because of the doors you are opening to the demonic into you and your children’s lives. The source of their work is not God, but utter and complete darkness. Please seek out a real and healthy spiritual relationship with Jesus. He is the true living Savior and will be with you during these most difficult of times. Talk to Him. Ask Him to reveal Himself to you. God bless — sent with a true, caring heart…

  296. Hi Megan.
    I am not sure if you will read this, but I wanted to write to you anyway; my name is Dawn and I live in Phoenix/
    Paradise Valley, Arizona during the school year and (Laguna Beach in the Summers for the past 20+ years)
    I turned 50 in August😩No, it is not that bad…I just tell myself that “50 is the new 30”😛 and have a 15 year old daughter named Leah, who has High Functioning Aspergers.
    I hope you don’t mind if I share some of the experiences I have had in my life. I promise not to bore you and hopefully you will be able to relate with me and understand why I wanted to write to you. I apologize in advance for this Very, long comment…
    When I was 26, I was a Girls High School Teacher and Varsity Volleyball and Boys Track Coach. I had a small mole on the back of my calf and after going to the dermatologist(who by the way, the dermatologist was terrible…he didn’t even check my whole body..when I showed him the mole, he talked really fast and the next thing I know he sticks a needle in my calf; he didn’t even wait for it to numb up when the scalpel entered my leg to remove the mole…I felt the whole thing🤬Ouch! He then said..“Okay. We are all done”. I asked “if I had to worry about anything?” and he said, “we will take it to the lab, but I am sure it will be fine”) 2 days later, I got home from work, when I had 2 messages on my answering machine( this was pre cell phone days) the first message was my step mom, telling my dad was in the ICU because he had another heart attack and the second message was from the dermatologist office saying..” Yes, this is Dr. Lebsion’s office and the lab came back from your mole as Melanoma…you need to find a surgeon and have that taken care of”😳
    At the time, I was told “it was only a stage 1-2 and after surgery, I would be fine with no chance of reoccurrence”. After surgery, I ended up with MRSA. They wanted to put me on I.v antibiotics, but my Dad was not doing well and was in another hospital. My Dad and I were extremely close…especially after the Divorce from my Mom…my Mom left us and it was just him and I. When I got there, the doctors told me my Dad’s heart had too much damage and he was too old to be a candidate for a heart transplant. They would give him pain meds so he wouldn’t suffer, but the meds would probably cause his heart to stop. In other words, they were telling me, after they administer the drugs, my dad was going to die in a matter of minutes. After the shock wore off, I went over to my dad’s hospital bed and laid next to him. I held his hand and whispered in his ear how much I Loved him and Thanked him for being the Best Dad a Daughter could have. As the doctors put the meds in his i.v, I kept telling him how much I Loved him…I continued to hold his hand as my father took his last’s breath… and I continued to hold it as his life on this earth ended and his new life was about to begin in Heaven.
    I got pretty Depressed after my Dad’s death. I ran Track in college at The University of Arizona. In college I did sprints and long jump because I was Pretty fast and was a state champion in those events…not bad for a short, white girl😜 but I ended up stopping track after my Junior year in college because I needed to get serious about getting my teaching degree and it wasn’t like I was going to go to the Olympics…like I used to dream about when I was a kid. My dad always thought if I moved up to the middle distance events, I would have a real shot of going Pro. So instead of wallowing around in my Depression, I decided to start training for 5 and 10k’s. My first 5k race I did, I won and got the attention from some coaches that train Professional runners. I still had my job as a P.E teacher and Coach. Growing up, I always Loved P.E…but I despised those P.E teachers that yelled at their students to run, while they sat on their Fat Asses…so when I became a teacher, I made sure if I made my students run, then I would run with each and every one of my classes…as well as everything else I had them do in class. I felt this helped with the Respect factor between student to teacher. I taught at my old high school alma matter and taught 6 p.e classes every day, as well as coaching 2 varsity sports. I coached the Girls varsity volleyball and the Boys Track. I loved coaching both…but I have to say I preferred coaching the boys. As I am sure your aware(especially since your time as a RHOC, girls can be overly dramatic and extremely sensitive. I was the youngest of 3 girls. My dad always wanted a boy and before the days when people went and found out the sex of the baby, my parents thought I was going to be a boy. August 18, 1969…Surprise! I am a girl!
    I felt bad for My dad☹️ So I kind of became the son he never had…I was a total tomboy. I played every sport, climbed trees, I could walk a mile without falling on the brick fences that separated the suburban neighborhood homes, etc. I didn’t have a problem with offensive language, if someone would play pranks on me or jokingly cut me down, like guys tend to do to each other a lot of times. When the girls would get mad or cry about it, I laughed. When I realized most girls act nice and sweet to your face, but then talked shit💩 behind your back…and when you called them on it, would lie to your face…or would get mad or jealous if you were pretty or really good at something and instead of being happy for you, would be pissed and go to the other girls in school to make up rumors about you and told them to hate you too..and they actually would do it…especially the girls in high school…I decided I would keep my distance from that kind of drama and aside from a few close girl friends, I mainly hung out with guys.
    Anyway, I got a racing coach to help me train for my competitions in the 5K. I was also doing this at the same time I was teaching and coaching. After a year or so of competing, I got offered a pro sponsorship from a ASICS..I would wear their shoes & clothes and run professionally for their team. All that exercise I got started to take a toll on my body. I lost a lot of weight…at one point, only weighing 92 pounds and having only 4% body fat. One day, my p.e classes were doing a swimming unit, so I was wearing a bathing suit. One of my students came up to me and asked me what those two lumps were in my groin ? I had no idea what she was talking about so I went to a full length mirror and looked down to my left groin. Sure enough, there were two golf ball sized lumps. The next day I saw the oncologist that told me “I didn’t have to worry about a reoccurrence“…in fact, he said “he was 99.9% sure my I would not have to worry about my cancer coming back” Well, hello 1%. I was diagnosed with metastatic melanoma with spreading to the lymph system. I was given a 30% chance of living…70% I would die within 6 months. I had to stop teaching, coaching and competing and start fighting for my life. After a six hour surgery the doctors removed all the lymph nodes from my left groin, back of the knee and calf. They put me on a experimental treatment at the John Wayne Cancer Center in Santa Monica. The treatment would consist of me getting nine injections into my body every two weeks for 5 years. Since I lived in Arizona, I had to fly back and forth for treatment. Since I have no lymph nodes, I have what’s called Lymphedema. Unfortunately, Lymphedema is a permanent condition. The heat makes it worse and since Arizona is Hot…(aka: HELLIZONA) I started to rent in California for the summer months. A friend of mine lives in Laguna Beach and after one of my surgeries, I recovered at their beach house. I Loved Listening to the waves and the experience was so peaceful and relaxing, I decided to rent in Laguna Beach. The only Sucky part is the insane amount of money I have to pay every summer on rent..because I don’t have the money to buy. After the 5 years and my treatment was over, but I still live in Laguna Beach for the summer months.
    I was 34 when I finished my treatment. My doctors told me to wait 10 years to have a child. I didn’t want to be 44 when I first started trying to get pregnant, so I ended up getting pregnant not long after…but at 4 months along, I went for a check-up and they couldn’t find the heartbeat.. I miscarried. I was devastated. We told the doctor I didn’t want to wait until the next day and if they could please do the procedure to remove the fetus. When I got home After the procedure, I went to the bathroom and I noticed something came out of me. My husband is a doctor…a Pediatrician and I called him in to the bathroom to access the situation. My husband got some gloves and reached into the toilet…it was then we realized that the bloody lump was a body part of the fetus. I almost lost it completely. My husband called the doctor that performed the DNC and he didn’t believe my husband. My usually quiet and reserved husband got pissed and said “I am looking at it right now…in fact, I will bring it to you right now” We then called a different doctor to go back in and do another dnc to make sure nothing else was still inside of me. A few months later I got pregnant with Leah. I started bleeding at around the same time as my previous pregnancy. When I got to the hospital, doctors said she wasn’t growing at the rate she should. They hospitalized me and I tried to Will her to not come early…unfortunately, My health started declining rapidly and they said if I didn’t have a c section soon, I would die.
    Not long after that my tiny, but beautiful baby was born into this World. We named her Leah, after my Father, Lloyd. Even though the odds were against her, I knew it would all work out. Her Mom was a Warrior and fought through Cancer..Twice. And I know my Dad would be with her…giving her the Strength to overcome the odds that were stocked up against her…I am Happy to say that Leah is now a Healthy, Happy 15 year old. At the age of 2, doctors tried to tell me Leah was autistic…but I knew enough to know that wasn’t true. I worked with her and Knew what it was…not long after, doctors told me what I already know..High Functioning Aspergers. Leah is Extremely Bright and is Blessed with a Photographic Memory. Anything she reads, sees, hears..is in a vault in her memory bank. It is really Incredible. Very Similar to the movie Rainman with Dustin Hoffman. Except in the movie he could not function in the outside world. Fortunately, Leah can. Although Leah does struggle Socially. She is extremely literal and doesn’t understand sarcasm… Which can be difficult when her mom is 99.9% sarcastic. Kids these days can be cruel and vicious…so Leah has a hard time making friends. But as her Mom, I will Love, support, Guide and assist her with Life’s struggles. I will help her realize how Awesome she is and not to worry about insignificant worries that arise in her life. There will be struggles and life will not be perfect…but if she can continue to believe in herself and have self confidence, it will make life a lot easier and more enjoyable to live. She has to continue to always be respectful to everyone she comes in contact with. Learn to not judge…ever…do not judge people on the color of their skin, the religion they believe, the political party they support, their choices they make for themselves…and ALWAYS remember…we never know what is going on in other people’s life. Even if we seem them on t.v and we think we know everything they are dealing with…we don’t. Because of this, Always show Compassion and Respect….and if they are struggling…be Compassionate and Empathetic…Regardless if we know them or not.
    This year, Leah started her freshman year of high school. As her mother, I can’t help but worry about Leah. Leah struggles with Social situations and high school is hard enough for the socially gifted kids….and as a former high school teacher, I know all too well how nasty Kids can be to each other. cruel and vicious…especially the girls.
    Girls are Bitches😜 Like I mentioned before, I mostly hung around the guys.
    In college one of my guy friends convinced me to go through Rush…which by the way, I hated…but I did pledge Chi Omega. Other than play intramural Sports like football, I didn’t do a lot with the house. and because I ran track…I was hardly around. I can say, that being a chi omega, I got lucky having some cool and trustworthy “Sisters”…and I made a few Lifelong Friends…and for that, I will be Forever Grateful. Because I was a Exercise Sports Science Major, most of my classes were with guys. Not just guys, but athletes. Believe it or not, some of my Best Friends were and still are, Baseball players…and after college, went on to play in the major leagues. Guys like J.T Snow, who I dated for awhile, but knew his first love would always be Baseball, so decided to be friends…in which I became very close friends with. I adored his mom, dad and sister. I Loved his parents like they were my own…sadly his Dad, Jack Snow, who played Football for Norte Dame and went on to play wide receiver for the L.A Rams and when they relocated to St. Louis, became one of their commentators.( I just realized that your family is from St. Louis, so you probably knew that) I was also close with Trevor Hoffman…who was a closing pitcher for the San Diego Padres. Trevor just got inducted to the Hall of Fame. Trevor is a First Class guy. The same with J.T…but I know all too well that there are a lot of “Baseball Douche Bags” as well. Being good friends with a lot of them, I would hear all the story’s of their “Groupies”. There was those kinds in college too, but as you also know…The “Groupie Sluts” for the MLB players, is on a whole other level…a level where they don’t care if these guys are married, have a family, etc…they will go to any lengths to get what they want…and I am truly Sorry. Sorry that you not only had to experience that…but experience it in the most intense and hurtful way anyone should ever have to…especially a wife. It makes me SICK and truly Pisses me off when I see these Bitches and Assholes hiding behind their keyboards on the internet. Posting these F#cked up comments…. Not only are they Hurtful and Damaging…but they comment about things they know NOTHING about. And just when you think it can’t get any worse…can’t get any crueler…they take it up a notch to the Highest Level of Pure Evil, by involving the children. I usually don’t believe in giving my opinion to someone I never met, but I just want to say that I am truly sorry for what you have been put through by your husband. I know I haven’t met either of you, but I know enough to know that he definitely is not “wired“ right in the head. He seems to be missing the Most important parts of his brain…the part that shows Respect, Empathy, Sensitivity and Compassion to others. Thank God your children have You as their Mother. You are Loving, Caring, Giving and Empathetic Mother and Human Being. You have been through more in the past couple years, than most people should have to deal with in a Lifetime.
    Sorry about skipping around…Going back to my daughter.
    Leah almost didn’t survive after she was born…along with being born severely premature, Leah’s biggest issue was her lungs. The doctors had a hard time finding the proper treatment and therapy for her premature lungs. I will never forget spent the first 3 months of her life in the NICU and I got a call at 2:00a.m that I needed to get to the hospital ASAP. The doctors we’re having trouble getting Leah’s lungs to respond to the ventilator. Luckily, she finally started to improve.
    My due date for Leah was May 31st. Exactly 3 months after that, on August 31st, we got to bring Leah home. That first year, I never took Leah out of the house..except for Doctor appointments. I also didn’t let people come over. I couldn’t risk her getting a infection from others germs. Her tiny body Wouldn’t be able to handle it. I had a lot of people bothered by it, but that’s tough shit. My daughters health was more important than anything. Especially other people getting mad they couldn’t come visit her after she was born.
    I know I have no idea what you have been put through and are dealing with, these past several years…but I do have Empathy for You and your Children…
    I don’t know you personally..but I Respect You..
    I especially Respect You as a Mother and what you have done and are continuing to do for your children…
    Lastly, I want You to Know that I Support You…we may not know each other…but if You ever want to talk, I would Love to Listen…and maybe one day, meet you…
    I am sure it can’t be easy for You to Trust others…especially people you don’t know…
    But if you ever decide to try, I Promise to be a Woman you can Trust…and a Loyal and Supportive Friend For Life…
    Take Care.
    Dawn Smith Serbin cell phone: (602) 290-5533 e-mail: d.serbin@yahoo.com

  297. I’m so sorry this is happening. Stay strong and focus on yourself & the kids. I’m 90 days out from my husband’s affair admission/narcissistic discard. There is an empathy chip missing with cheaters. They don’t consider how their actions will effect their spouse & kids. Narcs will always have their fan club to believe their twisted version of events. I have learned all kinds of new buzzwords recently: gaslighting, triangulation, blameshifting to name a few. Rely on your family and your friends & a great individual therapist during this time (sounds like you already have a good legal team). I also highly recommend the book Leave a Cheater Gain a Life. Remember to take some time for yourself each day. This too shall pass.

  298. I’m so sorry Meghan, you don’t deserve any of this. You are so strong and will get through this. You are an amazing person and Mom and an inspiration to us all.

  299. You are a beautiful woman and mother… He doesn’t deserve you he has never been good to you and he’s done it before so he will move on to someone that loves and cares for you and your children you’re young and beautiful and have plenty of time for that… Stay strong Megan… You deserve so much better best Linda Powell

  300. Yes, and the support of your spouses family will never change. My ex and I split. His family never fully accepted me. His mother in particular was never supportive. It was only after I walked away 16 years into the marriage they tried to be supportive. A little or a lot too late? 2 years after I left our 15 year old daughter was diagnosed with a terminal illness. When she passed I made sure they were all there the night she passed. To this day 2 years after her passing, I rarely if ever hear from any of them. Doesn’t the death of a child trump your jealous, dislike for me? I guess not. My point is, as much as it hurts, it’s further vindication I was 100% right when I left the marriage. Everything I had been feeling was true and he could never “man up” and tell his mother to respect me. His sister and I raised our babies together, she was there the night our daughter passed, I think she’s reached out to me 3 times since she passed. Why would anyone ever want that to be considered family? No thanks. I can report I am happily remarried and have the most supportive husband. He is my rock and I could never have gotten through the loss of a child without him. God puts you right where you need to be. You are exactly where you need to be right now, even though it may seem a mess. Always remember you write your story. Hugs.

  301. Give it a year, after that you will start seeing sense in everything. All happends for a reason and nobody needs a man like that in their life, kids will recover and you will be happy againg even though now you dont feel like it.

  302. Meaghan I am so sorry for all you are going through. I loved you on RHOC. Jim never deserved a woman as awesome as you are. Get away from him. Take the kids back to where you grew up, close to family etc. I am thinking of you and your beautiful babies, praying that things get better for you 4. Much love from Norfolk NE

  303. I feel fore you and your children. You are in my thought and you are a strong woman. I know that you will feel bettet, but it takes time. Sending my love from Sweden

  304. July 8th 2019. The day my world crumbled. I walked in on my fiancé and Another married woman in my home. 3.5 months before my wedding. I went no contact. There is no repairing.. nothing to be said.
    I cried my head off for 3 months, awoke in the middle of the night, lost 40 pounds, missed him and my 4yr old step-daughter. He paraded his (12yrs older than me) new prize at my gym, salon, etc..
    I sunk deeper. After 4 months I started to feel better. I started to gain strength. You are not alone in your grief, there are many of us laying on the floor with you.. the PTSD, the shock, the days of shaking and going without food. Allll the questions, and answers and truths that will never come. I forgave after sexting…. I forgave text, asking a friend ‘how to attract a good woman’ while we were doing infertility treatments and planning a wedding. Just know what you deserve. I am a mother of twins and my son has mild CP.
    remember: ‘God heard the conversations when you were not in the room.’ Trust who he removes.

  305. You married a child, unfortunately. A bad guy. You can’t really love him because he’s a POS. You might love your idealized version of your relationship. You’re better than that, move on, love your kids and if you get married again, marry an actual man.

  306. You are obviously an incredibly strong and smart woman and a very ancient soul, to go through so much, with such grace and decorum and then share it so eloquently. God never gives us what we can’t handle.

    Blessings to you Meghan. ♥️♥️♥️

  307. Meghan,

    Please stay strong and know that many people are praying for you. I’ve only met you briefly on a few occasions. My wife and I enjoyed your company at James and Ryan wedding renewal in Punta minta. James told us the news this past Saturday. The first time I met you was at Sushi Roku in Newport Beach and I told you my mom was a fan of yours from the show and you were so kind to take a pic. She has since passed away, but I will always have that memory to share. Please know that God has a plan for you. He didn’t bring you this far to let you go in your darkest moments. You’re right a seed has been planted and you will bloom. Your new growth will help and touch many. I will keep you in my prayers for strength. God bless you Meghan and know that many have your back and many are watering your seeds so you can BLOOM!!!!

  308. 1) He sent dic pics…..(divorce material right there) 2) He tried to cover it up (shows deceitful nature) 3) a string of previous divorces (the man is just fool’s gold when it comes to relationships) 4) Still hiding his phone activity (there is that deceitful nature popping back up) 5) Hides his divorce filing from you ( cowardice)….Honestly, there isn’t anything redeeming about this man-child…

    He is just a fancy version of a Jerry Springer guest

    In baseball you only get 3 strikes…

  309. I have been where you are minus the influencer and TV personality part. For months, it was all I could do to breathe and take my kids to school. I thought he got the best of me, I would never trust anyone again and that I must be an idiot for not knowing what had been going on. Ten years later I am five years into a marriage with a wonderful man, my daughters have flourished and have seen an example of a loving, respectful relationship. You will get through this and learn to trust your gut more than you ever have before when you are no longer told you’re being irrational, crazy… My ex and I have maintained a very amicable relationship because I kept what’s best for my daughters, a positive relationship with their mother AND father as a top priority. Looking back I’m amazed at where I found the strength to do it when what I really wanted to do was say “scratch that” and hop a flight to Paris for a do over. Be gentle with yourself, surround yourself with people who love and support you, take a weekend off, get massages and know you will come out of this more humble and confident than ever. As I write this I am in my apartment in Paris with my wonderful husband and a life I couldn’t have dreamed was possible. You’ve got this.

  310. I´m sorry for your pain but you kind of brought all of this over yourself, you want only your way and preach about morals but then, why do you marry a guy who already had a cheater reputation? Because he could give the fame and status you did no have? What a high price your are paying now. You are also extremelly bossy and controlling, yours was a recipe for disaster from the get go.

  311. Meghan
    You are a strong young lady , I have followed you over the years , my heart goes out to you ( happened to me after 23 years of marriage ) trust me you will bounce back from this with the help from “your family”
    You will always have your kids 😘

  312. Megan, I know the pain you are feeling from the actions of your husband and his family. Keep your head held high and know that standing up for what’s morally right is always correct. These dark roads will lead you and your children to a bright and beautiful feature. I am praying for you and your family during these trying times.

  313. Meghan, I was also betrayed. We had no children. I was 29 years old. It was life changing. It was mind boggling. It pushed me down. I slooowlllyyy pushed back. It was very, very hard. I will pray for you and your sweet children. I will pray for Jim, because: an unfaithful man is a lost, unhappy soul.

  314. I too know what it’s like to be cheated on
    My husband left when my son was three
    It was the hardest thing to go through especially coming from a wonderful family with parents who loved each other
    Fast forward to the present my son is now 36!and has a family of his own
    I raised such a great guy and tried to never bad mouth his Dad
    He figured things out on his own
    Stay strong at the darkest of times when you see the smiles on your babies faces you know you can do it
    My heart aches for you but I promise it gets easier

  315. Hang in there Meghan! He’s the one losing out.. Not you! And get everything thing you can from that cheater! KIm , from KY

  316. I’m so sorry for your hurt and all your going through. Reading this sounds so familiar … I’ve been through the same thing and while reading your blog it brought back a lot of raw emotions. You don’t realize it now while you’re in the depths of it but in time you’ll be just fine. The pain will ease over time (you don’t think so now but it will) and you’ll forgive and when you do that pain will start to ease up. You’ll come out of this stronger and a much wiser woman. Hold your head high girl because you don’t realize how many people support you and have your back that you don’t even know! I’m saying a prayer for you and your babies …hang in there…people care! ❤️

  317. God Bless you always!!! You shall grow and bloom into an even more amazing American Rose!! Stay strong! Take time to care for yourself along with your family!

    From someone whose been there – my husband was a politician who had an affair with another politician (and of course it hit all the papers – but these horrible days will pass and one day you will find peace again. One day you will have a full day where Jim and what he is doing will not be constantly on your heart. One day you will laugh and love again. One day you will trust again. But today – stay strong and surround yourself with all those who love and support you! 😘❤️

  318. I am so sorry for your pain. I have been there and no one can ever truly understand all of the emptiness, loneliness, sadness, the constant rehashing things in your head and the blame we always tend to give ourselves. But if I knew then what I know now, I would not have wasted so much time in my devastation and I would have rallied to clear my head and put myself first. When the trust is lost, it forever changes things and you will never feel safe. Sad to say he may be doing you a favor, use what you know to be angry. The real problem is his and you have to remember your worth. When he does reflects it will be too late and your scars will be with you to protect you from falling back into his arms. Stay strong and I promise you, he will regret it but not for a while. It’s important to take time for you, some alone time, without the babies to reset! Dwelling in sadness empowers them and to think we loved them so and how could they have done this? It will become clear. Jim is no longer the man you fell in love with. There is life after love and you will love again!

  319. Meghan, I too have endured this but sadly I stayed . My husband has cheated on me for over 13 years . I know that pain when it hurts to breath . I am now 53 my body from the stress is so broken down . I have been diagnosed with so many illnesses mostly autoimmune from stress . I have watched you on the housewives and when this all happened I cried for you . You will be ok . Your kids will be ok cause you are a a great mom. You have a great family . You have a chance . ❤️❤️❤️ Erin

  320. Aww Meghan my heart breaks for you . Makes you wonder when someone has been married so many times before . Maybe he’s the type that needs to stay single . You on the other hand deserve the best . And while yes it takes two to have a marriage dissolve , it does take two to repair it . Clearly he wasn’t in it for the long haul. You will grow through this and I’m certain with time your will bloom! Hang in there !

  321. You are an incredible and strong woman. Having been through a situation not nearly as bad as yours, but infidelity, it’s so hard to overcome. You have 3 beautiful babies to live for and show them what a loving & honest relationship can be. Stand tall & Bloom through all of the dark days ahead. You’ve got this! xoxo

  322. You will come through this stronger than u ever knew you were ‘ and in the end you will have the most wonderful man ‘ he will appear when u least expect ‘ I believe he will be a man of strong integrity ‘ something unfortunately Jim is not ‘. Something is broken in him that you can’t fix ‘

    Simply put -good things happen to good people ‘ and you will have a man who puts you high on a pedestal with the love and respect you deserve ‘ you are a stunning woman and an amazing mother ‘ I believe that’s just to much for Jim ‘ some men are intimidated by a woman who has all those qualities!
    Take many baths and grieve this ‘ remember everything in life ‘ every moment is temporary!
    Push your self even in the darkest day to go have fun with your kids ‘ those who do not support you will have there Karma ‘ but you my friend will rise and grow even stronger 💜💜💜 sending love yo you

  323. Tears rolling down my face. Although some of your circumstances are different than mine, I relate from my past situation and issues of much of the same.
    I hear how you are hurting, how you are surviving, how you are moving forward, and how you love your family and keeping them number 1.
    Thanks for sharing Meghan.
    You Sharing your truths, your rawness, your story also is helping others. Praying for you!

  324. Thoughts and prayers are with you and your babies. Stay strong what is meant to happen will happen.

    Go Hart!!! Amazing to see his progress.

  325. We all love and support you and your family 🥰
    Jim’s behavior is appalling to say the least , he is the worst example of a father and husband ………If all you want to do is party and fuck around then don’t get married and have children and ruin peoples lives

  326. I’m in a similar situation, though I found out my husband was drinking, no infidelity, but his family abandoned me to deal with this and decided it was totally my problem. I felt so alone and depressed, I wanted to die sometimes. I really feel for you.

  327. Oh Meghan there aren’t words…I am so sorry for what you are going through….I have more in common with you that I care to admit….you are inspiring and such a good example of taking the high road… sending good thoughts on this next phase of your journey…I know you will come out the other side better and stronger than ever!

  328. God will continue to bless you and KEEP you. You are such an unbelievably strong woman and an awesome mother.

    Your poem says it all…and you WILL bloom!

  329. Hang in there girl the best you can for your children. That’s what kept me going during my darkest days of my divorce to my ex during his affair. I thought, who would want me? 4 kids and I don’t have a high paying career and I am 43? You learn who your real friends and family are. The ones that support him through this have another agenda (financial support) or emotional issues or insecurities that will mask itself as your fault and they won’t like you for it. It’s not your fault, it’s their problem. I don’t know if what was portrayed on social media and tv are true but it seems to me that you have always deserved more. Change your pattern of the men you like. Heal yourself first. I wanted to find someone to fix and was terrified of repeating my past which my own parents divorced because of an affair in my late teens. I repeated the cycle. Both 20 years into our marriages. The signs were there all along. I choose to ignore them until it was evident I could prove it actually happened.
    Now, I’ve found a good guy. I’m never worried about where he is or better yet, where his head is. I changed me and decided this time around I deserve and want more. We are blended family with my 4 and his 3 kids. They are all 19 yrs and up now. We got together 6 yrs ago. Married for 2. We have known each other in the community but not in a romantic way. He had been married prior, 10 yrs ago to a women that had an affair with another women and eventually married her. How messed up is that? The ex wife has been difficult to deal with and has tried to set her position between me and my husband. She is very insecure and looks at me as a threat to their relationship. She has a lot of mental problems and takes meds for it, which has pretty much ended all contact with her because of her destructive behavior and comments towards me. My husband finally put a stop to communicating with her because of this. I am grateful he took my side, which was hard for him to cut off ties to her at first. We all still live in the same community because our kids all just graduated but we will selling our house soon and move further away and start new. His daughter is very insecure as well and requires a lot of one on one attention from her father. She needs to know where her place is and that her father still loves her constantly. She can be challenging to say the least. The dynamic with a father and step daughter and new wife is very complicated. They will take the side of their father, regardless of his wrong doing. Case in point for you.
    Bless you dear! You have your Beautiful babies to raise And a full life ahead of you. You are beautiful, smart and carry yourself very respectfully. Hold your head high above all those that would prefer to see you not happy. It’s their problem, not yours anymore. Learn from your relationship what you liked and didn’t and vow to yourself not to compromise on the things you didn’t like. Now is your turn to find someone that makes you feel loved, secure, happy and fulfilled…like YOU ARE ENOUGH. I don’t know you that well but feel like I do and only want the best for you. Women should always support women. I never understood why some don’t feel this way. You will one day make it out of this despair. You learn how strong you are and what you are willing to put up with from anyone, including your next relationship. Do not compromise. Your focus will be on your babies for now, which will keep you strong and focused. I support you sista! ❤️

  330. You are hurt, angry and blindsided (rightfully so). This is now starting to play out in the court of public opinion. Sop posting, blogging, commenting, responding, etc. One day you will find happiness and this hurt will be a distant memory but you need to remember that you have three beautiful children with this man and he will forever be in their lives and your life… birthdays, holidays, graduations, weddings, etc. How you handle this going forward will determine how these events in their lives will unfold. Take the high road and do as you have always done and put them first. You don’t want them googling things, reading all these ugly comments about their father, or hearing the whispers of their friends because at the end of the day he is their father. We all know nothing ever disappears off the internet. Trust your family, close friends, attorney or anyone else in your inner circle but please stop allowing all this hate about their dad to continue. Trust me I have been there and know it first hand, wishing now that I had handled things differently. It will be the hardest thing you have ever done, but one day you will look back and have no regrets on how you handled all of this knowing you put their happiness and relationship with their father first.

  331. Meghan – you are stronger than you know. It is devastating what is happening to you & your family but please keep faith. You’re an amazing mother, friend, blogger, daughter, etc…. and your transparency will help others as well. I will keep you in my thoughts & prayers. Just please know, there are people who cherish you – even if we do not know each other.

  332. I know you feel destroyed and discarded, but keep moving, growing and loving. You don’t deserve this. Your kids don’t deserve this. You just keep loving those babies and loving yourself. Jim has major issues and he needs to deal with them, but don’t let that bring you down. You are meant for much greater things!!!! ❤️

  333. You are a wonderful mother and those babies are so lucky to have you. Continue to be the classy, lovely, brave and strong woman you have time and time again proven to be.

  334. I creeps me out that you’re calling your child your “brain-injured child.” Just call him your child. I know you love him and this is hard, but what you write about him on the internet will last forever. He will likely read it one day.

    Regarding your marriage, I want to empathize with you because I’ve been in a similar situation. But you should know that some of the things you say you expected of Jim were unreasonable. Tracking his location? Reading or being included on all his texts? If you get to that level of distrust (and I’m not saying that he didn’t deserve it), the marriage is over. Also, don’t marry someone you know has cheated and divorced multiple other wives and expect it to work.

    Focus on your kids, and protecting them and making them feel loved. Try to avoid writing negative things about them or their dad on the internet.

  335. Stay strong and Lean on God. He will get you through this. Stay faithful and you are promised double for your trouble. You will be blessed and will continue to be a blessing to others. Also- it’s okay to get incredulous and furious! What is happening is not fair to you or your kids. Don’t get gaslit. You are strong. You are loved. You are a child of God with all of the promises that come with that! Keep fighting Meghan!

  336. You know the old saying, “blood thicker than water”. This is what is being served to you regardless of him being an unfaithful, unloyal man. He has no regards to his children being raised in a broken home, splitting time with parents, family. Those babies didnt ask to be brought into this world, they are the innocent ones. He has no respect for his marriage or you as his wife. How sad and heartbreaking and gut wrenching this is for you. But, 1 person cannot make a marriage work, you cannot love enough for the both of you. Its obvious you love him, your marriage, your family and his. This is what happens to the person in the relationship that is being betrayed. Human rejection is one of the hardest things to except. We as human beings question everything about ourselves. This is about him and his lack of character. It’s easy for people tell you all of this, but at the end of the day you still will do this to yourself. It takes time to just deal with the infidelity and loss of your marriage, much less than what it will do to your children going forward. Your also dealing with your baby with the brain damage. How selfish can one be to carry on in this mannerism. He is acting like a 20 year old. As time goes on so does his age and his looks. There will come a time when he will suffer from all of this. You may not know it but it will happen.
    Pray and ask for God’s guidance and help with your heart and mind. No it doesn’t happen in an instant, but having faith and continuing to pray and believe, you will overcome this nasty situation.

  337. I am absolutely heart broken for you and your babies. My sister experienced the mirror image of this situation minus the tabloids. It is beyond devastating the amount of mistrust that will follow you around for years. I have watched my sister have peaks and valleys of trust for the last four years and my heart hurts for her every time. I wonder…will she ever completely trust again? Will she ever know what it’s like to have a healthy normal relationship.
    I remain positive for both of you and sending prayers, strength and always Gods grace.

  338. When you posted the thumbs up emoji you did publicly agree with the comment implying that Carly cheated with Jim… you can’t lie your way out of that. I have gone to sporting events with my boss outside of work and I didn’t cheat… nothing wrong with that… as for him and her needing your knowledge of that is not necessary because it would have been attacked just like you are doing now… one thing I noticed about you is you are backhanded in your words even to Aspen.. you eye roll and you are negative … look at the story when hart is in the chamber with you .. you look like it’s almost painful for you to be with him with out something to do like reading .. please stop talking … you need to focus on your life and children privately … period … Jim needs to stop talking as well.. you owe Carley an apology for the implication with the thumbs up emoji. Good luck to you Meghan.

  339. Keep moving forward. That’s all you can do. Ignore the crap that will be said, rise above. Keep focused on your kids and nothing else. Everyone, EVERYONE reaps what they sow……and we never understand the “why” until much much later. One day you’ll understand. Sending love and blessings and strength♥️

  340. Hi Meghan! Not sure if you’ll even read this, but I wanted to let you know that I have also gone through a very similar situation. Obviously not in the limelight like you are, which would make it a lot tougher. My ex-husband of three years was also Sexting/cheating and also asked for a divorce out of the blue. I know it’s really hard to see now, but it really is the best thing that ever happened to me. You don’t want to spend your life wondering who he is texting and if he is telling the truth or not. You want to be with someone who you just know that they are telling the truth. I’m now happily remarried with a little baby girl. I promise there is light at the end of the tunnel. Just trust in God and trust in yourself. Surround yourself with family and your loved ones and you will come out of it such a stronger person in the end! Much love! -Natalie

  341. Stay strong Meghan. You have more than enough bad things happening to you that anyone could bear. Your son is your main concern now!!!! He needs you NOW!!!
    Karma will get Jim in the end. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

  342. This is going to feel like a death. A major loss. And you will ask and scream and beg WHY you? And you will cry…..a lot (like Oscar award winning cries) Especially because this is not what you want and it wasn’t what you planned.

    And please do Ask why! Cry and cry some more. Truly mourn the death of your relationship. And then you WILL be able to move on at some point.
    Yes, you’ll have to coparent and see him because of the kids. But be sure to mourn the man you had (really mourn the man you believed him to be because that man is gone, never really existed)

    In the media you may seem strong and have to put on a strong face but please behind closed doors, or wherever you need to, be sure to let yourself be sad about this and get that out of your heart and your head so you can truly move forward at some point.

    xo xo xo -A Woman’s who’s been there…..💜

  343. You are amazing momma. The media and life can be so cruel, but know you have people you have never even met cheering you and your beautiful babies on!!!

  344. I have largely kept mum on this until now. I posted a selfie captioned “so raw” and I did a thumbs up emoji under a comment stating “Judging by Jim’s instagram, I’m guessing it’s Nanny Carly whom he posted NINE photos of 11 months ago.” But I NEVER made one public statement, allegation, accusation, or otherwise. Let’s get that REAL STRAIGHT.

    Come on Meghan…. giving up a Thumbs up to a comment, is absolutely agreeing to it. Just because you didn’t come right and speak those words, your thumbs up, was loud enough. If you didn’t want to get public with it, why comment or “like” or “thumbs up” on something… I know you’re not a stupid girl… but in the above paragraph… you sound like a narcissist who has been caught with her hand in the cookie jar… it happened on RHOC, and it’s happening here… OWN your mistakes, and move on from the childish petty social media drama…

  345. Megan,
    In the beginning I was not really sure how I thought of you. Felt you might have married for money, but as time went on I felt differently. Because I do believe you love Jim, love your kids and your step kids. But, always felt you spread yourself to thin. Forget all the ads, speaking events, trips to wherever.
    Instead, stay home with those beautiful babies (because they grow up so fast), learn to cook a meal, then maybe you won’t need all those people in your house. It should be you, Jim and your kids, instead of a house full of help. I get it, everyone needs a little help, but not to the point that your kids and husband look to them instead of you!
    What ever happens, I pray for you to stay strong. Those beautiful babies need you, nobody else.

  346. I’m so sorry you and your children are going through this. My daughters husband has continued to have over a three year affair with a woman at work. Unfortunately, my daughter also works there and has to see her every day. I wish my daughter would leave, but she keeps trying for the sake of my granddaughter. There comes a point when it is time to leave and show your children what a strong person you are.

  347. O my Meghan, my beautiful bombshell, I’ve always admired you. From the time you were on RHOC, just seeing you after you had your 1st born, wearing Ugg slip on’s, your sense of self & your style, you are very put together. I thought I’d give anything to be you. Anything at all to have a life like yours. You always seemed so confident and even all the pictures I see now of you & Jim, if only I had the confidence you exert thru your pics, you are like a dream Barbie doll. There’s a lot of people out there, on Real Housewives, and in general, women, that long to not just look up to you, but to be who you are. You don’t have to do anything to be beautiful, just wake up in the morning and you’ve got it girl. Fyi: there are a lot of jealous mean people in this world that are not near as secure as you are so keep the brave face. I know it cannot be easy. With Jimmy or without Jimmy, obviously he can’t handle the deck he was dealt. And in laws, honey, they are brutal. That’s a fact. I’ve been married a couple of times and my mother in law just passed away at 90. She was an excellent mother & I loved listening to her stories. She gave the best advice & was always positive. So not all in laws are like that, but my stepchildren, that’s a different story, have been awful at times. So I can’t say the same for them. You want to be just as dirty to them as they are to you. But don’t take that road. I have at times, I just wanted to shut down, games are for kids, and I am not a kid, neither are you. You’re in the public eye, & the stepchildren are not, so if you stay mum & zip it, stay quiet & keep your grace, it will be more mysterious to them why your being that way and quiet. I promise you’ll come out smelling like a rose. I know at this point you don’t care and probably want to scream to the hilltops, but Jimmy has to live with how he left you and his 3 babies. He has to lay his head down at night, and live with himself. That can’t be easy. Just stay as strong & Graceful as you can, and everything will come your way. Surely he cannot feel good leaving his family in the dust. If you need to talk, I live in Mississippi, you have my email and just know, there are many hearts that go out to you. I’ll say a prayer for you …
    God, Our Heavenly Father,
    keep Meghan strong as a wife & mother, and not let any demons in her world. She is your child & I know you want the best for her & her babies. We all know Satan is the king of confusion & he wants to drag her down but Keep Meghan in your arms & lead her your way. Make her always feel loved & save her from this fight she’s in. Keep your hands on her and the babies so she can get through this fight & stand up for what she believes in.
    Thank you Jesus,
    In God’s Holy Name,
    Amen.
    Btw, you keep this blog, don’t let these mean step kids & media make you feel less than. And don’t change your life. Do what you want to do, keep your routine & Stay strong Meagan! I’m praying for you. Btw, every time I slip my foot into my Uggs, I think of you. Keep your chin up! Your a great person, and you deserve more than this. XXOO

  348. Be the best person you can be! Don’t fight fire with fire. Keep your head held high and treat Jim through this divorce as you would want someone to treat your child who has done wrong. Taking the higher road will benefit you long run, maybe not now but you will feel better in the end if everything you do or say comes from a place of love.
    And it’s ok to cry. Take care of your babies but take care of yourself along the way because if you’re not in a good place, your children will sense it! Hugs

  349. SO SORRY! And he’s a shitty person and who cares if we don’t know him. MONEY DOESN’T MAKE YOU A MAN. MIDLIFE CRISIS! Don’t do not fall prey to supposed BULLSHIT & COMMENTS. NOT YOUR FAULT THAT HIS SELFISH OLD MAN TRAITS AND LACK OF SELF CONTROL. HE C H O S E THIS , HE MADE A CHOICE. YOUR GOING TO HEAR “YOU WERE A B**** , but from other REAL NASTY BITCHES. Love yourself love your babies & Hes not a man!! He’s a boy stuck in a old mans body and a asshole. YOU DON’T TREAT YOUR WIFE!! THIS WAY AND IF YOU HAVE TO BE REMINDED UMM THATS CALLED A “BOY”. Not your fault! Raise those babies 😊

  350. Now you know how his wife felt when you were screwing him. You lose them how you get them. Stop trying to play the victim b.s.

  351. My heart goes out to you and your family. I work as a CBT therapist and coach and work in total privacy with well known clients in the UK. If you every need a confidential, non judgmental, inclusive person to off load to please get in touch. This is the first time I’ve ever reached out as my clients come word of mouth but my heart ached for you. Sending spiritual strength.

  352. Trust your instincts. Women have very good instincts. There is something mentally wrong with your husband that you cannot fix. Take him to the cleaners and focus on you and your kids. Get sole physical custody and legal if possible. They need a responsible adult making decisions on their behalf.

  353. You are so very strong and have so many people praying for you! I am so sorry you and your family have to deal with this. You are a beautiful person! You’ve got this…even if you have to take it 1 minute at a time…🙏🙏❤️

  354. You are handling this with so much grace and class- someday your kids will truly understand that. I think most normal people see “him” for what he really is. Keep your head held high and don’t stoop to their level. You seem to have amazing family/friends….lean on them and keep going, mama. You’ve got this. Sending love…

  355. YOU are Strong!!! I am a huge fan of the RHOC and you were/are one of my favs❤️ My heart breaks for you and your sweet kiddos. I think it’s so so important for you to stand up & let YOUR voice be heard regardless of what his family or anyone thinks you need to have a say in this situation more than they do even if you do it on a blog, I think your blog is a way better outlet then the tabloids or media! I’ve been dealing with a non supportive family from my mans side of the family, it hurts. But.. You truly are going to BLOOM from this & hell maybe you should go back on the show have some fun with it, make some $$$$ and try and move on❤️ You deserve the world & so does your kids!!! Keep your pretty head HIGH because you will get through this and all the pain, betrayals, lies, etc will be so worth it in the end!! And don’t ever ever be afraid to have a voice and to stand up for yourself & your kids! I think he has lost the respect of having a choice on how you decide to share your story and your pain so don’t let him take that away from you!

  356. I follow you on IG and love all your posts about the kids and their progress, as well as your sense of style and fashion, and I feel so badly about your situation. I will keep you in prayer Sweetie. But pray for strength for yourself and your fam also. Be blessed.

  357. Stay strong. You know deep down that you can do it on your own. A lot of women have gone through the exact same story. The best thing for you in my opinion would just get a divorce. There is no way he won’t do it again, especially if he did this when you were pregnant which to me is so disgusting. This man is not good enough for you. Divorce him asap, take time to heal and when the time is right you will find someone who actually deserves you and cares about you.

  358. Your are such a strong woman, an excellent mother and this must be such a hard place you are in. The love of your children will help pick you up from the ground and continue to be that strong role model you are . This is not your fault. There is someone better out there for you that will appreciate the wonderful human being you are. He doesn’t deserve you. I know that these words probably don’t mean much right now because the pain is so bad. You hurt so bad because you loved so hard. God bless you and your precious children. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, focus on coming out. Much love and prayers ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏼🙏🏼

  359. Meghan, I feel for every situation that you have been put through… My heart aches for you, please stay strong and please remember, there are all of us that are fully supporting you. We might be a strangers to you, but we want you to know you have us and you are not alone

  360. I am so deeply sorry for you and the baby’s. I was so afraid this would happen. He needs to grow up be a man,father and husband. He hasn’t changed at all. It sadness me to think all you done for his ex during her fight with cancer. I pray your children do not remember any of the pain he has put there mother threw. You walk with god he will carry you all the way. Jim is an old man with nothing going for him but $ that being said god will see that he is punishing for all his infidelity. You are a strong beautiful young woman. You got this girl. We all stand with you.

  361. I’m in the process of trying to fix my relationship having gone through something not too disimilar to you. But that’s just it, it feels like I’m trying alone, there’s little effort to reinstate trust and love, and he’s constantly saying he’s unsure if he wants this anymore. We’re the same people, but stresses of life have gotten in top of us and he just isn’t the same person. I don’t know if he ever will be. It’s like mourning someone who hasn’t died, as you don’t know you’ll get that special relationship back. We’ve been like this for over a year now and has issues 2 years before, all relating to other girls he seemed to think would be better than what he had. I think a decisive yes or no is best for all, and am happy that you have that, though sadly it’s been forced upon you. I don’t feel strong enough to make that decision myself, but as each day passes I feel like I’m getting closer.

    Please stay strong, you’re a wonderful, positive person. We can’t allow these negative, self-centred men to destroy our confidence and happiness.

  362. What a hot mess! Didnt really like you on “housewives”, but I’ve grown to really adore you!…as a mom, and woman!! Stay strong. This too shall pass, but never be forgotten. Breathe in, breathe out…move on!!!

    We got your back Meghan!!!

    Love from TX!!

  363. It really struck me when the first allegations came out and you wondered why Jim had such self destructive behaviour when he had so much to lose and he was so careless. I commend you for still trying to make it work but please don’t blame yourself. He didn’t seem to want to work towards happiness and that’s what marriage is, working everyday towards happiness together. I think as a mother you have to always strive to look after yourself and children first regardless of marriage status, which you have clearly been doing. You’re doing a great job and your intuition regarding his behaviour is probably (definitely) right. Don’t second guess yourself. Sending you all the positive vibes and strength! Just keep going and things can only get better, right?! ❤️

  364. My heart breaks for you, Meghan.
    If he has cheated in prior relationships, as has been alleged, he should be prepared to answer for his actions even from the start of yours. The sexting as well, if you set boundaries for that, he should’ve followed them to the damn T to prove that he wanted his family. The fact that he is cutting and running is really sickening. I mean, cowardly much?
    My heart goes out to you. I know you feel abandoned, but you do have your ride or die family and hopefully some good girlfriends to lean on and those that turned their backs on you … try to push that behind you. Their actions speak for themselves.
    Big love to you and your babies. You are so tough. You do not need this kind of bullshit in your life. You will make it through. Just take it one day at a time. You deserve so much better and you know that. XOXO from TN

  365. Honestly, this is a cautionary tale to any woman that wants to force her husband to do something that he never wanted to do. It was CLEAR that Jim never wanted to have more kids – he could not have been less interested.
    Then having a special needs kid on top of it was too much to handle, and I’m sure he was looking for a way out. #sabotage

  366. I’m so sorry. You’ve been initiated into a club that no woman wants to be in. I know you feel isolated and in shock. In March, my husband confessed to me, in front of his sex therapist, he has cheated on me during our entire 33 years of our marriage, while I was pregnant, in the hospital recovering from surgery, when he traveled with work, during his lunch break, after work, etc. He had five disposable phones! I didn’t even know what a disposable phone was! I immediately left the office, ran into the bathroom and threw up. I was married to a stranger, an overt narcissist, pathological liar and sex addict! He is a very accomplished man, VP of aerospace company. I’m 58 and my marriage has been a complete lie. I felt like dying in my bed, but I chose to get on my knees and pray. I read scripture and developed a stronger relationship with God than I ever had. God saved me and gave me the peace and comfort I so desperately needed. I truly believe HE is walking beside you in your pain. Call on God to give you strength, HE will help you. I wish you the best. I will certainly pray for you. Jim is clearly a narcissist, and most likely a sex addict. Read about narcissistIc abuse and read about sex addiction and betrayal trauma. You’re not alone and you’re worthy of much more than Jim will be able to give you! 🙏🏻❤️

  367. Here’s a data point that I think I can relate to. I don’t tell my wife much other than the essential information. She has a history of weaponizing information and if I give her some detail that is misaligned with her views on the truth or what she perceives to be reality, then she starts to pry, dig into me and things get awkward quickly. She’s done it for years. I don’t cheat on my wife. I don’t have inappropriate conversations with women, but I also don’t give my wife all of the details because she’s always trying to find something. After the issue with the sexting, I am sure that opened up pandora’s box, even if he wasn’t really doing anything after. I can see going to the hockey game with the nanny and not offering up that data point if I had an extra ticket and others couldn’t go, especially if she’s the live in nanny and I’ve vowed to her parents to take care of her. Just because he went to the hockey game doesn’t mean he’s sleeping with her. That’s a leap that public opinion wants to make to sell more trash mags and is probably a bit unfair. He’s getting dinged for the sexting thing, which is fair, but I can definitely relate to saving myself the discomfort of getting the third degree when details materialize that my wife can latch onto. It’s painful.

  368. I was a single mom too The one thing still is talking about my “family” breaking up for my children! I was not supported by his family except my sister in law! Today my life is better than I could imagine and so is life for my children ! Their stepfather is a great man. And I am better than I would have been if I had staied with their dad! You have your beautiful kids who need YOU most and always will . Anyway your not alone in your sadness or heartbreak I grew so much from the lessons from life It all ok

  369. I love you Meghan I am sad for you and the children – but I am proud of how you handle yourself. You are powerful and inspiring.
    All my love,
    Patti

  370. Oh honey😭😭😭😭😭
    So do sorry, keep praying. Don’t give up ever🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

  371. I’m so sorry. You have displayed much grace throughout this situation. I’ve been thru the same so I know. As hard as it is, his toxic nature will not be as much of an influence on your babies.

  372. It’s very brave of you to share this. You didn’t have to and I’m glad you did. Not just for others but for yourself. Perhaps it can be cathartic maybe even begin the closing of a chapter. You’re not to blame and you were always enough just remember that even though it’s hard.

  373. Meghan,
    I am a mother of 3 beautiful boys, an amazing husband and a wonderful life with the exception of my severe depression and anxiety. I don’t know what goes on behind the scenes and there are two or three sides to every story but I always go by what Dr. Phil says, ” When you have nothing to hide, you hide nothing.” After what has already happened in the past with Jim you would think that he would be completely transparent. If he lied and the nanny lied than there you go in my opinion. If he wanted to make it work he’d get over himself and be transparent and be going out of his way to check in and tell you who he is with etc. Even let you track him on his phone and car. He either doesn’t care enough to make this work or can’t get over himself to give you that much access to his life which you rightfully should have after what transpired a year ago.

  374. 🥺🥺🥺💔 my heart breaks for you Meghan, stay strong momma!! You are doing such a great job with your babies I love you and all your beautiful babies . Praying for you all 🙏🙌🏼❤️

  375. I know all to well the pain and hurt you are going through. My prayers go up to you and yours. Just know that you will finally hit a day that the tears won’t flow and your heart won’t feel broken to shreds. The mourning period is hard and you will experience a range of emotions so let yourself mourn and then you pick yourself up and you keep being the beautiful soul that you are.

  376. Gag me! You did implicate an innocent 22 year-old woman. And you knew he was a serial cheater when you married him but you thought he was your “soul mate.” You are nothing more than an attention-seeking, mentally unstable woman.

  377. Hang strong Megan your a good person and probably
    An awesome mommy. You will get through this.🙏 for you and the kids.

  378. I am so sorry for what you are going through. Divorce is never and the kids do suffer but you are strong and can get them throught it. My ex had affairs and I was devastated but my kids and I came throught it. My current husband (of 27 years) adopted my kids at the age of 2 and 4. They have had a goid up bring and both graduated college. So I guess I can say maybe there is someone better for you and your children out there. Prayers for you and your family.

  379. Dear Meghan,
    My heart breaks for you and your children. Moreover, I’m disappointed, to say the least, that the human you are married to, would behave in this manner. Though you love him, the position that you have been put in is despicable.
    He is a liar, a cheat, and incredibly insensitive to the aftermath of his indiscretions and vile behavior. He is void of empathetic thinking and feelings in relation to where he has left HIS wife and HIS three very young children.. His choices have left you to deal with all of the feels of heartbreak, anger, sorrow, resentment, and at times, helplessness of the thoughts of “what did I do,, what didn’t I do, how could I have been a better wife, prettier, thinner, heavier.” We will think all of these things, taking on the persona of the “wrong doer,” when in reality, it remains that HE is the guilty party. What is of utmost importance is your mental health regarding this matter, and your three beautiful children, one Baby Hart that is challenged and may need extensive services for an amount of time. Nonetheless, you need to take care of YOU first, that isn’t being selfish, it is survival. Survival to be the best mommy that you can be. It is the beginning of your new life.
    I went through all of the grieving stages, and they didn’t come in the order that I learned in college. That would have been too easy. They also didn’t have a time frame for each one of the five either. I forgot to also say, for me, they repeated themselves for some time. But, those too, shall pass.
    I too, had three very young children, was going to college full time and working at the hospital at the same time. I had no help or support from family, as I lived away from family.
    The good news is, I made it through all on my own. My saving grace were my children and my newly found career. All of this provided me without much time to rehash my pending divorce and all of the thoughts and actions that come with the “D” word. I didn’t allow myself to worry about what his family felt. Co-parenting was less than none, so I didn’t have to see him much, thank God.
    The successes outweighed the devastation, by far. My children went to college, graduated and my two oldest have gotten married, one just last July. She is 30, my son is 34, married with two children and my youngest is 28 and is a successful entrepreneur. All of this, and I’m only 55! I remarried just 8 years ago after dating for ten years prior to marriage. I literally married the man of my dreams and I am blessed to live a privileged life without wants or needs for anything, He loves my children and they love him.
    This will be a journey, but you are successful in your own rights, your children will adapt and you can write this ending to this previous life any way that you want to. You can and will begin a new life in the way that YOU choose to.
    You are a beautiful woman with so much to give. Sometimes it is one minute at a time, but I can promise you that it will become years of barely thinking about it.
    Sending thoughts and prayers to you and your babies.
    With Love and Prayer’s,
    KDM

  380. Jim blamed your marriage troubles on- kids, work, house, sleep, repeat.
    You have a nanny!
    And have time for a hockey game!
    What a big baby, good riddance, take the money and run Meghan.
    P.S. A 2012 twitter post by Jim referred to something as “retarted” (his spelling) take your kids and run too!

  381. I went through something similar. While in the midst of it your heart has not caught up to your head. Your head knows he doesn’t deserve you and your precious children but your heart still loves him and is this broken. Think about how long it takes to heal a broken bone now let yourself take the time it needs for your heart to heal. I promise you that he will regret this. He will pay for this. Karma is real but it is not up to you it is up to God to deal with Jim. What a shame that his family didn’t support you, neither did my ex’s but they have been good to my child and have, I believe, come to terms that I was treated poorly. You have so much on your plate right now, allow
    People to help you, to hold you while you cry. If writing helps you heal, write. You will probably help more women than you can imagine. Please don’t let Jim not his family influence you any more. They have all proven who they are. You have too and I would take you over them any day. Hang tough, be kind to yourself and lastly know that this isn’t about you it is about him! Hugs young lady!🥰

  382. You got to stop blabbing all your business. You’re way insecure and your imagination is getting out of control. Shut up and work on yourself and take care of your kids. You can’t be a good mother or person in this crazed state of mind you are in.

  383. I think you either meant “not condone” or condemn.

    I had to re-read that line because it seemed out of place in an otherwise extremely elegant and straightforward blog. You are a gifted writer, and dear person. I’m so sorry for your struggles.

  384. Oh, Meghan. My heart breaks for you. Obviously I don’t know you personally, but from what I see on social media + the show I know you are a WONDERFUL mother and have a BEAUTIFUL soul. Your babies are so lucky you have you as their mamma.
    You deserve so much more than what he ever gave you. He will never change & he will never ever be happy. You deserve someone who will give you the WORLD and will treat you with respect. I’m so disgusted with what he did to your family.
    Time will heal. You’re going to be okay & your babies too.
    It will all work out in the end. Stay strong.
    Xoxo

  385. You are one strong woman. Know your worth. You are way beyond Jim Edmonds. You have SO much more going for you Meghan. I love watching you with your babies. I admire your strength and perseverance. As well as the moments, times when you feel weak and vulnerable.
    You need to write a book and be a voice for other mommy’s out there!
    ❤️

  386. I am so sorry that you are going through this terrible time. It’s okay to grieve and cry. You have been lied to and betrayed by the one person who was supposed to stand by your side and protect you. My best wishes will always be for you and your beautiful children.

  387. You are so incredibly strong. You’re strong because that is the only option available to you as a mom to 3 beautiful babies, a daughter to unwavering supportive parents, a sister and friend to someone you will always need to pull close. My ex cheated on me the night of my c-section. When I thought he had changed he nearly took my life. I wish I could sing from the rooftops like you are doing here. Humiliate him like he humiliated you. I envy your courage and only wished I had made similar decisions when it happened. 13 years later abc I just got my 2nd intrathecal morphine pump that delivers medication directly to the spine he crushed with his own hands. 12 surgeries and a massive infection, he said he would have finished me off had i not called 911. Today I feel empowered, over empowered and all because of you. You’ll never stop fighting for your children but it’s so important that you fight for YOU. You did nothing here. Nothing. You’ll never learn the answers to the questions you ask and even if you do, you’ll never believe them. You will walk away from this even stronger if you can imagine. Pull all of those people closer and closer, you’ll need more time to cry this out. You amaze me. Thank you for putting your personal life tragedy here, and for calling that POS and his enablers out as they are. You don’t need to change a thing.

  388. You are an extremely strong woman and will get through this and become even stronger! You are an inspiration to others and I’m certain that sharing your story has already helped others. Praying for you and your family. 💗

  389. We all feel your pain. Betrayal is the hardest thing for a woman to face and overcome. It’s at that moment we realize how much we love someone and don’t want to let go. We as women tend to blame ourselves and doubt ourselves and think we could have done something to fix this . Just close your eyes and always tell yourself— this is his flaw and not your fault. Hang in there. We are all strangers and have never officially met but we are very much there for you! Big hug!

  390. Meghan – None of us will ever truly understand what you are going through, but what is very clear is that you are a fighter for your family which is inspiring and very selfless. I hope that whatever your future becomes is what you feel is best for you. Trust that there are no wrong or right ways to deal with this other than the way you pray for. It’s extremely difficult to be at odds with your in-laws. I am going through it now and it makes me sad everyday. You are inspiring me to rethink my stubbornness to make things better and to think of my son first. Thank you for that. Know that there are people in the world that truly do not judge you, your husband, your marriage or your family. I would imagine that It is hard to believe people like this exist being that you are a public figure. But we do and wish for the best outcome for you and all of your loved ones. ❤️

  391. This is beautifully and heartbreakingly written. My thought and prayers are with you and your family, Meghan. You keep your head up for those beautiful children. Lastly, I’m gonna leave you with the simplest and truest quote from Kathryn Stockett, and the book & movie, The Help.

    “You is kind. You is smart. You is important.” ALWAYS remember that. ♥️

    XOXOXO

  392. First, Momma Bear Hugs to you Meghan. As a Louisiana native, I’ve been following your Hart’s medical journey in NOLA and beyond via news articles and your blog. Every time I read about him and your dedication to finding him the best treatment options, I think, “I really like Meghan. She is not some far off Housewife on a reality show, but is instead a momma bear, just like me.” Years down the road when the chaos of this difficult time of your life is over, that is what will matter most….. through the tough times, you always prioritized your kids. No matter what life throws at you, keep doing just that, and everything else will be just fine. From these ashes, will come diamonds for your kids. Even though it may be hard to see it now, you will ensure that happens, because that’s just what we momma bears do. Peace.

  393. You are a very strong and wonderful person❤️Thank you for having a blog and being so honest about what is going on. This will help People going through the same situation . Praying for you and tour family! Bloom!!!!

  394. I am so terribly sorry to hear about your son! I wish you well during this very trying and devastating period of your life. Having it played out in the media is unimaginable.

  395. No one would choose to be in this position with their husband and especially when kids are involved. Your kids are so young and it’s not fair that they have to grow up everyday and not have access to both their Mommy and Daddy in their household everyday. The love my little man shows every time his Daddy comes home from work is extraordinarily beautiful. He lights up with so much excitement and love while telling DAddy about his day at home and school. I’m a stay at home mom very similar to you and I pray for you and your family to be able to heal in a peaceful, healthy manner

  396. I am so sorry. Having small children myself, my heart weeps for you. Can you get your husband into therapy specifically for sex addicts? His behavior is love and sex addict similar—- that compulsivity. Him courting the nanny is wrong, regardless of what happened or her knowledge of intentions. NEVER HIRE AN ATTRACTIVE NANNY. That’s my best marriage advice, sad and unfair as it is.

  397. you are a beautiful strong women!!! rise above him and this and take him to the cleaners, you so deserve BETTER! hugs

  398. I admire and respect you for being so frank. I pray that you will find peace of mind. You were a great step-mom and you come across as a very decent human being. Brighter days will come!

  399. Meghan you don’t deserve any of this bs. You obviously are a solid person whom seems to be authentic and have tremendous authenticity in a social media circus world where that is hard to do. Jim appears to have major maturity issues, creating problems for you surrounding his own egoic needs that should have been dealt with at a younger age. We never know how other human beings will react to situations as we encounter them through time. Even though this is a very painful time in your life I’m confident you will have the support you need from your friends and family and things will get better as time goes by because you are a wonderful and strong person. Your IG community cares about you and just realize that We are sending you lots of love and virtual hugs!!!🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗💯

  400. As much as it hurts, cut your losses and find someone that loves YOU. You’re a bright, beautiful, awesome mother that deserves SO much better than that. I know in time that you will find someone that loves you and your children more than anything! Just make sure your financially secure from Mr Edmonds so that you can take care of your son and other children without all of the heartache.
    Many prayers for you and your children! There are better days ahead!!

  401. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ in the end your still blessed! Your children are beautiful, you have roof over your head, you and s loving family and mostly you ha e god so you will move and by the readings of this blog it seems as if you are such a STRONG role model even for people who are going through times like myself! Thank you for sharing!

  402. Thank you so much for sharing this with us. I am very proud of the way you are handling everything. Keeping your children a priority and with dignity! Keep your head up. You have not failed. You’re winning! Here’s the other thing. If you decide that you want to save your family and your husband wants to do the same, you need to do just that! You cannot hold back from that for what others may say or think or because you’ve already made a statement and have gone too far. Everything is possible. On the other hand if you are absolutely done, then be done and move forward. Ok sending you prayers and positive vibes. May god bless you, protect you and give you peace and wisdom through this journey. You got this mama!

  403. Hi Meghan. I’m sorry for what you’re going through. You, however, have handled yourself with a level of class and dignity I’m not sure I’d be able to display if I were in that position. I guess I’m crazy because I hope you and Jim work out. I hope he can give you the respect you deserve as a human and wife and mother and can implore his family to do the same. Hayley’s interview and subsequent IG posts about you were horrific and I had second hand embarrassment for her because her jealousy and spoiled brat behavior were on full display. Jim needs to open his eyes to her and the things she’s done. Please be careful having someone around your children that despises you so much especially when they are so vocal about it to others. Jim’s exwifes comments were also disturbing. She has a whole other husband and son and still seems obsessed with you. It is obvious your stepkids love you. Good luck. You have people rooting for you. Also, prenups can be thrown out. Just an FYI.

  404. I’m so sorry for you, Meghan. Breathe, take one day at a time and find strength in your beautiful children. Love and hugs from Norway.❤️

  405. It maybe dark now but even light can be found in the darkest of hours….thanks Harry Potter! It’s true. You are the light, as are your children. I know you are strong and you will bloom into an even better and bigger person than you ever were before. It
    Sucks now but it will get better- day by day, week by week, month by month and eventually year by year. I’ve done it and come out on the other side and so can you.

  406. Meg you’re a class act all the way .. sending you love and light… I know in circumstances like these you’ll continue on an emotional roller coaster for days to come..it’s often messy and illogical but I pray you have the strength to do whatever it is that will make you and your children happiest

  407. Meghan,
    I am so sorry for what you are going through, I feel your pain truly…just like you I never thought I would be the victim of a liar and cheater, married and divorced all before turning 30….Seven years into a committed relationship followed by two years of marriage, I discovered my husband was taking full advantage of his passport account on tinder. How I found out is kind of ironic, because I was the maid of honor at my best friend’s wedding back in August. Following my heartfelt maid of honor speech, I sat down to an unusual message waiting for me on my cell phone. It was a name I did not recognize and it was a message through social media. The message begin with “You don’t know me, but I know your husband”, classic I know. Right then my heart stopped and I wanted to cry and yell, because at that moment I realized I wasn’t as important to someone as I had thought. The life I thought I was going to have had been taken away from me, just like that and I didn’t even get a say. When I later confronted my spouse it was nothing but lies followed by more lies and it was at that point I realized the man I thought I had married was someone completely different. So, I did one of the hardest things I think I have ever done, filed for divorce and said goodbye. I still struggle everyday with trust but hope for something better is what keeps me going. I want someone honest, who can change my life for the better and you deserve that too….Somewhere out there, there is our Prince Charming waiting to return our glass slipper.

  408. You will be ok, I promise. You are a strong, smart, stunning women. It hurts now, but each minute of each day you will heal a little. Lover your children harder. Do not take blame for any of this. Not your fault and not your issue. Keep your head up and remain strong.

  409. Shortly before you gave birth to the twins, my friends and I saw Jim out in Clayton with a gaggle of young ladies on his arm. We all thought it seemed inappropriate and commented on him being a dick then.
    You deserve so much better! I was married to a very similar man and can relate so much, without the aspect of the very public nature of your situation. I feel certain that as tough as things seem right now, you will eventually be so much happier without him! Wishing you and your children all the best! 💕

  410. I as a wife , mother , but most importantly as a WOMAN STAND WITH YOU ✨
    You will OVERCOME and you will BLOOM.
    Blessings.

  411. Dear Meghan, Im overwhelmed of all your going through. My hope for you and your darling kids is much love over flows.
    Knowing how hard this is,the pain you feel will lesson. Day by day. Your smart articulate and beautiful. With a big heart. Remember this…. you deserve better. Some one with a whole soul. Someone who will cherish you.
    Love you and your family.
    You inspire me to try harder. Love better and to never forget how the most important thing is Love.
    I’ve been married since 1992❤️my Husband.
    It hasn’t been easy at times ups and downs. The love endures.
    Many blessings💕God bless
    Enjoying your blogging.

  412. Hi Meghan,
    I hope you are okay, as it seems through Jim’s “private” instalife, he has the kids this weekend. Splitting up is a bitch & there’s nothing, I mean NOTHING, harder to deal with than what you will deal with now and in the unforeseen future. There is/are constantly paybacks for every little thing ( UnderLining that). You will go thru a grueling life that you never seen coming, as you can already attest to. No matter if Jim’s trying to humiliate you by there ‘not’ being an incident happen, by calling the law, or whatever, he’s grasping at straws. Me & my husband have broke ground on building our new house, and that itself, sends us to bed without speaking to one another, decisions, dreams, & headache/heartaches that come from arguments & tension. Just want to say, stay your humble self through this, stay strong. Easier said than done. Being quiet, staying submissive to yourself & God, will put mystery in what others think of you. It will give you some Peace, and peace you need right now. Just wanted to send a sister words of encouragement. Take care of yourself. Don’t get lost in the chaos. You are Winning!!

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